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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My scenario:

I'm a single guy. And I'm interested in clubs. Living in southeast I think eurekas or abfabs is closest to me.

Now, I don't preach to people I know that I'm on this site. So how do I find a partner to go with?

Do I meet someone out the scene and slowly try to introduce them in too,

Do I meet some online

or

Do I go to the clubs myself on the off chance there's someone in the same boat as me.

Any stories or advice will help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it you would like to couple up when going to the club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it you would like to couple up when going to the club? "

It's cheaper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it you would like to couple up when going to the club?

It's cheaper "

Same reason any guy wants to couple up. To use the woman as bait to get meets with other people.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I think your best bet would be to attend any socials in the clubs (there is one at eurekas on the 25th jan) and attend no pressure on your own meet lots of fabbers there and have a good night. (It's not that scary I promise)

People will assume (rightly or wrongly) that you only want a fem to attend with to bring down the entry fee, and I can fully understand that going on your own especially the first time will be terrifying, but a social will be a good starting point and you can get chatting (and maybe play) with people, get verified and that will be a good starting point to finding what you are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it you would like to couple up when going to the club?

It's cheaper "

If that is the case then I would ask someone you are already friends with and have that relationship. If you don't have those friends, then you should go initially om your own and make some then in the future look at coupling up.

There is a reason clubs charge more for single men, coupling up is defeating their objective.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The Money side of things didnt even cross my mind.

It's more the fact turning up to a place an standing by yourself looking awkward. And not really knowing how it all works.

Cos lets face you look at a guys wife in any normal club. Chances of 'playing' ate slim to none.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I find 'coupling up' can be beneficial for the female too. Men seem to be more up for playing with a woman if she has already got a man with her, or at least in my experience. A few times I've been at a club on my own I think the men were too scared to approach me, in case I complained or something.

Maybe I need a sign.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Also, it's good experience to be in the swinging scene with someone instead of on your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The Money side of things didnt even cross my mind.

It's more the fact turning up to a place an standing by yourself looking awkward. And not really knowing how it all works.

Cos lets face you look at a guys wife in any normal club. Chances of 'playing' ate slim to none. "

Completely understand how you feel. I feel shy/awkward at first and im with mat! Must be daunting if on your own. See if anyone in your local area attends the club and explain how you feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to parties where the single males have conducted themselves well, I reckon 10 minutes in the place and all will be good, a smile goes a long way.

Nette

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have been to parties where the single males have conducted themselves well, I reckon 10 minutes in the place and all will be good, a smile goes a long way.

Nette"

Smiling is something I'm very good at!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it you would like to couple up when going to the club?

It's cheaper

Same reason any guy wants to couple up. To use the woman as bait to get meets with other people. "

I go solo...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And how do you get on.

I may be wrong big I assume some couples prefer to have a guy involved who's with a woman as after all that is swinging. If its a single guy, I'm thinking.... It's a cuckold experience.

Or does the fact your in the club wipe that rule?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest your making assumptions some single men do well in clubs some don't some couples do well in clubs some don't some single women do well in clubs some don't, I think it's got more to do with how you interact with people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest your making assumptions some single men do well in clubs some don't some couples do well in clubs some don't some single women do well in clubs some don't, I think it's got more to do with how you interact with people "

That's a fair point.

So all couples that attend the clubs are open to single males no less then they are other couples?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it you would like to couple up when going to the club?

It's cheaper

Same reason any guy wants to couple up. To use the woman as bait to get meets with other people. "

Thats a bit harsh and not true. Couples get plenty of wasters and idiots bothering them I know but in general do get an easier time. So whats wrong with a guy who seeks a regular fb etc to couple up with?

The other couples get the benefit in the long run....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No a lot of couples won't play with single males but equally a lot of couples won't play with fuck buddy couples so why not just stick with couples that will play with single males instead if trying to get in the back door

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No a lot of couples won't play with single males but equally a lot of couples won't play with fuck buddy couples so why not just stick with couples that will play with single males instead if trying to get in the back door "

I didn't realise there was a back door.

All due respect. You have "don't meet single males ever period' written in capitals across your profile. It's kind of a put off for people like me as if I ever went to the cljb on Night your there, singley, thought you look friendly so strolled over. How would it be till you told me where to go and stop trying to get though a back door?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think your best bet would be to attend any socials in the clubs (there is one at eurekas on the 25th jan) and attend no pressure on your own meet lots of fabbers there and have a good night. (It's not that scary I promise)

People will assume (rightly or wrongly) that you only want a fem to attend with to bring down the entry fee, and I can fully understand that going on your own especially the first time will be terrifying, but a social will be a good starting point and you can get chatting (and maybe play) with people, get verified and that will be a good starting point to finding what you are looking for "

Was hoping to attend this one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got on as I was polite, respectful and most of all non pushy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it you would like to couple up when going to the club?

It's cheaper

Same reason any guy wants to couple up. To use the woman as bait to get meets with other people.

Thats a bit harsh and not true. Couples get plenty of wasters and idiots bothering them I know but in general do get an easier time. So whats wrong with a guy who seeks a regular fb etc to couple up with?

The other couples get the benefit in the long run...."

Looking for a regular FB is different.

"The other couples get the benefit in the long run..." What does that mean??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And how do you get on.

I may be wrong big I assume some couples prefer to have a guy involved who's with a woman as after all that is swinging. If its a single guy, I'm thinking.... It's a cuckold experience.

Or does the fact your in the club wipe that rule? "

Some couples will play with single guys, some won't. Be polite, chat to them and hopefully they will be polite back. If it's a 'no thank you' just chat to someone else. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No a lot of couples won't play with single males but equally a lot of couples won't play with fuck buddy couples so why not just stick with couples that will play with single males instead if trying to get in the back door

I didn't realise there was a back door.

All due respect. You have "don't meet single males ever period' written in capitals across your profile. It's kind of a put off for people like me as if I ever went to the cljb on Night your there, singley, thought you look friendly so strolled over. How would it be till you told me where to go and stop trying to get though a back door? "

But we just politely so no thanks, swinging is about free choice and I think we are allowed to out what we like in our profile, I think the best thing you can do is go to a club and judge for yourself good luck

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"The Money side of things didnt even cross my mind.

It's more the fact turning up to a place an standing by yourself looking awkward. And not really knowing how it all works.

Cos lets face you look at a guys wife in any normal club. Chances of 'playing' ate slim to none. "

Like I said... Kent social. Lots of newbies and some regulars all in the same boat. That's what it's all about. Breaking the Ice having a few drinks and a dance. Maybe you'll get to play, maybe not but you can get your face known and make some friends!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it you would like to couple up when going to the club?

It's cheaper

Same reason any guy wants to couple up. To use the woman as bait to get meets with other people. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The Money side of things didnt even cross my mind.

It's more the fact turning up to a place an standing by yourself looking awkward. And not really knowing how it all works.

Cos lets face you look at a guys wife in any normal club. Chances of 'playing' ate slim to none. "

Your looking at the wrong wives in the wrong places then

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