FabSwingers.com forum: Talking the Talk but not Walking the Walk !!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have met a fair few people who talk a good meet and tell me that their style of play is what I'm looking for .... BUT when you actually get down to it they are not actually what they say they are and even though I have never really had a bad meet, I have only ever met one man that could have delivered.... But unfortunately he left the site before I got the chance to have more than a small taste of that ..... Just wondered how many of you are finding it hard to get exactly what you long for ?

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By *issmekate xxxWoman
over a year ago

Non Vanilla Land

Exactly ... this goes back to my previous thread about feeling the need to spell everything out in black and white ... possibly in triplicate ... at the end of the day although you can place a fair degree of confidence on the detailed verifs of others and of course our impeccable feminine intuition you never really know what you are getting until the cookie crumbles ... as it were !!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

we discussed this very subject today and we came to the conclusion that people are quite often less than honest with themselves and probably actually believe that what they say is the truth at the time. That and they rarely read profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up looking for meets on my profile. Fed up with disappointment. Doing something else instead.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Come on men this was not just directed at the ladies !!!!! Do you get what you want from your meets ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I gave up looking for meets on my profile. Fed up with disappointment. Doing something else instead. "

Now I'm curious !

And that something else ! Is it working ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe show him some porn you like so he gets the idea. I always find it better to say I'm open to new things and see what pops up. They have to have a good imagination though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time i was here about 2 talked a load of crap and i was left disappointed. So this time i'm taking my time and listening to my instincts.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have had some disappointing meets. The ones that annoy me are the ones who state how much they enjoy giving oral yet, when we meet, decide otherwise. Its not difficult to not meet again when that happens.

I have also had some fantastic meets but sods law decrees they are the ones who live furthest away, or are when I am in another city. Its enough to keep me on here but it is getting difficult to find a guy who matches my likes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I gave up looking for meets on my profile. Fed up with disappointment. Doing something else instead. "

Ooooo whatcha' doin'? I'm learning to sail! I've even grown a beard so i look the part!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"maybe show him some porn you like so he gets the idea. I always find it better to say I'm open to new things and see what pops up. They have to have a good imagination though

I'm talking more about attitude than the sex !! I like my men to be passionate and dominant .. I think that comes naturally and for it to be good it has to be real !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aaah so many state they are dom. but crumble within minutes to become rather the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell me bout it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I must have been really lucky. However, I don't rush into a meet, and we communicate a lot beforehand. In fact, pretty much all of my meets have exceeded my expectations.....I just wish I had more time so I could meet them all again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone wants a lazy, snugly lover, I'm your man! And if we have a good session I might even suck my thumb and have a little snooze.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too meny guys get off on the idea but then bottle out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If anyone wants a lazy, snugly lover, I'm your man! And if we have a good session I might even suck my thumb and have a little snooze."

Oooh call me you big tease

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe show him some porn you like so he gets the idea. I always find it better to say I'm open to new things and see what pops up. They have to have a good imagination though

I'm talking more about attitude than the sex !! I like my men to be passionate and dominant .. I think that comes naturally and for it to be good it has to be real ! "

Sounds like you've never met a man who can get the better of you. You a headmistress?

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I found a lot like you say, talk a good meet have similar interests, then when it comes to it it's more like sitting there waiting for me to suck them, then a quick lick and finger then quick fuck and oh they're so pleased with themselves. Yawn.

Sorry in a bit of a bitchy mood!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"The ones that annoy me are the ones who state how much they enjoy giving oral yet, when we meet, decide otherwise. Its not difficult to not meet again when that happens."

Had this twice myself. Never again! Lol

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"I found a lot like you say, talk a good meet have similar interests, then when it comes to it it's more like sitting there waiting for me to suck them, then a quick lick and finger then quick fuck and oh they're so pleased with themselves. Yawn.

Sorry in a bit of a bitchy mood! "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"maybe show him some porn you like so he gets the idea. I always find it better to say I'm open to new things and see what pops up. They have to have a good imagination though

I'm talking more about attitude than the sex !! I like my men to be passionate and dominant .. I think that comes naturally and for it to be good it has to be real !

Sounds like you've never met a man who can get the better of you. You a headmistress?

Haha I'm a pussycat !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a variety of meets. To me its all about chemistry. The mechanics of the sex should take care of themselves. A lot of guys will let you hear what you want to hear. I do my my shopping with a list but my sexlife is more a go with the flow type motif.....i dont go into meets with over raised hopes and as a result am more than often pleasantly surprised.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have so far, the odd few have been idiots, walk away with my head held high, never suffer fools gladly it is needy

Nette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah,,, I think we have all had that, I get the impression men say it because they think they should,,, I would love to find a guy that loves to lick and suck pussy as much as I love to lick and suck cock!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have met a fair few people who talk a good meet and tell me that their style of play is what I'm looking for .... BUT when you actually get down to it they are not actually what they say they are and even though I have never really had a bad meet, I have only ever met one man that could have delivered.... But unfortunately he left the site before I got the chance to have more than a small taste of that ..... Just wondered how many of you are finding it hard to get exactly what you long for ? "

Hmmm just read your profile, looking for a Dominant man who jumps to your attention when you snap your fingers is about as opposing a requirement as you can possibly get! surprised you came close to finding one in the universe

It's very difficult to obtain a fantasy partner who fully understands and meets your needs. You can spell out an aspect you wish to play on a particular meet and the recipients interpretation will not be the specifiers intention.

Close enough is about all you can aim at, sometimes it will exceed expectations others fall short, but most will be a very satisfactory tangent that falls somewhere between both of your needs. touching the right points often enough to give satisfaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a lot of people on here talk the talk and big themselves up but then stop replying to your messages, delete their profile or block you so clearly don't want to meet or can't as they've lied so much they fear they'll be found out for being the liar they actually are! I've found the best meets I've had are with guys that have never really felt the need to talk themselves up or even talk about sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah,,, I think we have all had that, I get the impression men say it because they think they should,,, I would love to find a guy that loves to lick and suck pussy as much as I love to lick and suck cock!!!

I'm here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been very lucky with my meets. The three lovely men I met and played with last time I was on here certainly exceeded my expectations. Two of them I met several times as they were local. The other I hope to meet again in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men and quite a few women are only on this site for their own sexual gratification. Do you think it's pure coincidence that the one man that could deliver has left the site ?

Personally I've no time for clingy types and I feel many people are on this site for more than no strings sex.

I would avoid at all costs ladies who are seeking something special,it just puts far too much pressure on a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men and quite a few women are only on this site for their own sexual gratification. Do you think it's pure coincidence that the one man that could deliver has left the site ?

Personally I've no time for clingy types and I feel many people are on this site for more than no strings sex.

I would avoid at all costs ladies who are seeking something special,it just puts far too much pressure on a meet."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I've been really lucky as all of my meets have been as I expected and in some cases have exceeded my expectations. I like to think that I deliver that which has been expected of me, it's certainly seemed that way as I've had no complaints (well not to my face anyway) lol

Maybe sometimes we are all guilty of expecting too much instead of going with the flow and just doing what feels good at the time rather than some regimented play scenario.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only managed to get meets by being quite specific but not adding too much pressure - and they've worked out well.

Once or twice the meets have been so far ahead of the curve I was literally dizzy they were mind blowing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most men and quite a few women are only on this site for their own sexual gratification. Do you think it's pure coincidence that the one man that could deliver has left the site ?

Personally I've no time for clingy types and I feel many people are on this site for more than no strings sex.

I would avoid at all costs ladies who are seeking something special,it just puts far too much pressure on a meet."

Its a sex site !!!! I would think We are all surely here for our own sexual gratification !!!

Not sure where the " clingy types" bit came from !!?

But anyway .... What I'm saying is I would rather people don't try to be something they are not and were honest !!!

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"Most men and quite a few women are only on this site for their own sexual gratification. Do you think it's pure coincidence that the one man that could deliver has left the site ?

Personally I've no time for clingy types and I feel many people are on this site for more than no strings sex.

I would avoid at all costs ladies who are seeking something special,it just puts far too much pressure on a meet.

Its a sex site !!!! I would think We are all surely here for our own sexual gratification !!!

Not sure where the " clingy types" bit came from !!?

But anyway .... What I'm saying is I would rather people don't try to be something they are not and were honest !!! "

How is it clingy to expect someone to deliver the mind blowing sex they promised?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never see the point in lying to people at all. You will get found out and it is very bad manners as well. Think about bit would you really have sex with you that lied to you?

As for talking the talk but not the walk, I now I will do everything I say I will. It is say that some people are very selfish in bed. Yes there are something I will not do. But I do not say i will do them then will not. I find it a big turn on to get her to climax.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most men and quite a few women are only on this site for their own sexual gratification. Do you think it's pure coincidence that the one man that could deliver has left the site ?

Personally I've no time for clingy types and I feel many people are on this site for more than no strings sex.

I would avoid at all costs ladies who are seeking something special,it just puts far too much pressure on a meet.

Its a sex site !!!! I would think We are all surely here for our own sexual gratification !!!

Not sure where the " clingy types" bit came from !!?

But anyway .... What I'm saying is I would rather people don't try to be something they are not and were honest !!!

How is it clingy to expect someone to deliver the mind blowing sex they promised?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if it's honesty you're looking for then this site will disappoint you often,that's the same for all of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly lies and selfishness leaves you at the bottom off the pile, I personally think if you cannot come to a decent understanding, no point with the situa

tion.

Nette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men and quite a few women are only on this site for their own sexual gratification. Do you think it's pure coincidence that the one man that could deliver has left the site ?

Personally I've no time for clingy types and I feel many people are on this site for more than no strings sex.

I would avoid at all costs ladies who are seeking something special,it just puts far too much pressure on a meet.

Its a sex site !!!! I would think We are all surely here for our own sexual gratification !!!

Not sure where the " clingy types" bit came from !!?

But anyway .... What I'm saying is I would rather people don't try to be something they are not and were honest !!!

How is it clingy to expect someone to deliver the mind blowing sex they promised?"

Don't think anyone can promise something to someone they've never met. You can look for similarities based on the information you provide, then see where it takes you. Anticipation & exploration are the only guaranteed things.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I think its very hard to have great sex on meet one. I know how my body responds. Unless a guy spends lots of times with me exploring he is going to find it hard to know what hits my spot. Yes I can show him but if I spend my time questioning his actions in my head I won't orgasm. I just want to go with the flow and relax.

The best sex I have had is with talented men who look at me to see the changes in my face and adjust positons to increase the pleasure coming out on my face. They get to know me and what I like and vice versa. I can then completely relax in their company and that means my body will respond more.

I rarely meet a man twice. Alot of it is I enjoy the meeting of new people. I do have a small handful of people I have had repeat meets with and have amazing sex with.

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

why cant folk be honest tho why do they have to talk the talk and not deliver or block you cos their lies will be found out

surely as human beings we deserve honesty x

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I gave up looking for meets on my profile. Fed up with disappointment. Doing something else instead.

Ooooo whatcha' doin'? I'm learning to sail! I've even grown a beard so i look the part!"

Beard? Where? Don't toy with me, my love of beards is legendary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I gave up looking for meets on my profile. Fed up with disappointment. Doing something else instead.

Ooooo whatcha' doin'? I'm learning to sail! I've even grown a beard so i look the part!

Beard? Where? Don't toy with me, my love of beards is legendary. "

I might have to grow mine back then, I post a photo of it if you ask me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must be one of the lucky ones as only play with 3 guys and all 3 do exactly as they say on the tin. Had repeat meets with all 3 (not all at the same time) and things just get better.

Just went with the flow and see how things progress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Beard? Where? Don't toy with me, my love of beards is legendary. "

On his dingy of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its very hard to have great sex on meet one. I know how my body responds. Unless a guy spends lots of times with me exploring he is going to find it hard to know what hits my spot. Yes I can show him but if I spend my time questioning his actions in my head I won't orgasm. I just want to go with the flow and relax.

I rarely meet a man twice. Alot of it is I enjoy the meeting of new people. I do have a small handful of people I have had repeat meets with and have amazing sex with."

Perhaps it's me, but there seems to be a contradiction here. Your first sentence set off against 'I rarely meet a man twice'. But yes - you're right. Observing and experimenting give the best results, for both.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Beard? Where? Don't toy with me, my love of beards is legendary.

On his dingy of course

Aye aye capt'n!

Anchors away!!!

(I apologise, I'm a little skittish tonight, but I simply couldn't resist)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Beard? Where? Don't toy with me, my love of beards is legendary.

On his dingy of course

Of course in his head its not a dingy its a huge rig ! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" But yes - you're right. Observing and experimenting give the best results, for both.

I thought the non verbal communication even if framed by a role play was the key to anything sexual between two or more people. no point doing what worked last time if it clearly isn't working this time makes no difference if it's a first meet or a life partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One bad meet with someone that stimulated me in ways not many can, through email, phone, and text, but when we met he acted as though it was his first time...has made me change my screening process entirely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Beard? Where? Don't toy with me, my love of beards is legendary.

On his dingy of course

Of course in his head its not a dingy its a huge rig ! Lol

the boat in my bathtub is a clipper in my imagination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One bad meet with someone that stimulated me in ways not many can, through email, phone, and text, but when we met he acted as though it was his first time...has made me change my screening process entirely.

On a similar note I've found i can write good 'stories' or dialogues with women but have to be careful so I can live up to it if we meet.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"we discussed this very subject today and we came to the conclusion that people are quite often less than honest with themselves and probably actually believe that what they say is the truth at the time. That and they rarely read profiles

Bingo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a similar note I've found i can write good 'stories' or dialogues with women but have to be careful so I can live up to it if we meet."

Exactly! I don't write or say anything that I wouldn't do if we meet! And I always aim to please! That being said I've been told by some guys that they got carried away while texting or talking lol which can be a bit of a let down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found some women just like to do this without meeting, fingers can take a battering though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been here for about a month or so now and I talked to a woman who talked a good game but when it came time for us to meet she bottled it and now ignores me completely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This thread has made me think lots ..... I do think that some people want to be what they say they are but just in the cold light of day just can't ..... I also think I have come across as some one who is very hard to please ... And I'm really not at all ... Like I said at the top I've never had a really bad meet just get disappointed that that extra bit we talk about before hand hardly ever materialises !!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Any form of mind games is a huge no no for me. I really only want NSA sex, that is respectful, honest and mutually acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My biggest gripe is the best sexy banterers that I've encountered on here aren't from my side of the pond!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

try me ... thats all im saying ...

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Honest opinion (& i may get ridiculed & demonised for this) - i think the site is littered with fake promises and misleading people.

Some Guys - will promise to be the best fuck ever & be what someone's looking for in accordance to the profile to get their crotch wet

Some Girls - will say they are confident & looking for this that & the other but turn out to be insecure and leading you up the garden path cause of their own insecurities

Having fallen for a few lies & been led up the garden path on several occaisions i'd say this site is full of empty promises but.....

...the simple fact is the people on this site have one thing in common they are open(ish) about sex. Apart from that there is no difference to the vanilla world & you have to carefully sift through the BS to find someone who is what they say. It's a bit blunt but from my point of _iew it is true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe we "settle" too quickly for the meets we know we can get, and in doing so, sometimes makes the more suitable meet more elusive.

It's all about trial, error and adaption to your search criteria.

I've definately become more ruthless in my search, if I know from the start I'm not attracted to someone, I say so, if someone's too pushy, if there's any issue, I deal with it there and then, I never "hope for the best", expect nothing, be surprised by all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I gave up looking for meets on my profile. Fed up with disappointment. Doing something else instead.

Now I'm curious !

And that something else ! Is it working ?

It's working very well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bigsoftie, we really need to chat

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston

"I guess I must have been really lucky. However, I don't rush into a meet, and we communicate a lot beforehand. In fact, pretty much all of my meets have exceeded my expectations.....I just wish I had more time so I could meet them all again!"

I feel the same about my meets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honest opinion (& i may get ridiculed & demonised for this) - i think the site is littered with fake promises and misleading people.

Some Guys - will promise to be the best fuck ever & be what someone's looking for in accordance to the profile to get their crotch wet

Some Girls - will say they are confident & looking for this that & the other but turn out to be insecure and leading you up the garden path cause of their own insecurities

Having fallen for a few lies & been led up the garden path on several occaisions i'd say this site is full of empty promises but.....

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honest opinion (& i may get ridiculed & demonised for this) - i think the site is littered with fake promises and misleading people.

Some Guys - will promise to be the best fuck ever & be what someone's looking for in accordance to the profile to get their crotch wet

Some Girls - will say they are confident & looking for this that & the other but turn out to be insecure and leading you up the garden path cause of their own insecurities

Having fallen for a few lies & been led up the garden path on several occaisions i'd say this site is full of empty promises but.....

you hit the nail on the ehead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honest opinion (& i may get ridiculed & demonised for this) - i think the site is littered with fake promises and misleading people.

Some Guys - will promise to be the best fuck ever & be what someone's looking for in accordance to the profile to get their crotch wet

Some Girls - will say they are confident & looking for this that & the other but turn out to be insecure and leading you up the garden path cause of their own insecurities

Having fallen for a few lies & been led up the garden path on several occaisions i'd say this site is full of empty promises but.....

Bang on my man. There are plenty of folk who would be "intrigued" at best at this site and the people on it. Are they "vanilla" no they are every bit as dirty and adventurous they just dont put themselves through the meat market selection process that FAB members do.

In the kingdom.of the blind the one eyed man is king. Some make out they have binoculars though. Ten inch binoculars that repeat !!

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

We have met some lovely people here on fab for fun, we have also done about a dozen couples, singles profiles pics & even though we might have not played with them we have made some good friends.

Treat it lightly & don't take it too serious & its fun...if it takes over your life then it becomes a choir.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Honest opinion (& i may get ridiculed & demonised for this) - i think the site is littered with fake promises and misleading people.

Some Guys - will promise to be the best fuck ever & be what someone's looking for in accordance to the profile to get their crotch wet

Some Girls - will say they are confident & looking for this that & the other but turn out to be insecure and leading you up the garden path cause of their own insecurities

Having fallen for a few lies & been led up the garden path on several occaisions i'd say this site is full of empty promises but.....

Yep! That's about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We talk the talk and walk the walk ask anyone we have met

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

"Most men and quite a few women are only on this site for their own sexual gratification. Do you think it's pure coincidence that the one man that could deliver has left the site ?

Personally I've no time for clingy types and I feel many people are on this site for more than no strings sex.

I would avoid at all costs ladies who are seeking something special,it just puts far too much pressure on a meet.

I actually prefer it if they are looking for something special. We are all different and I like to give a sensual experience rather than instant gratification. If I just wanted to get off I could have a wank. Offering a bit more than just sex whether that is conversation or dinner or a shared interest in something can actually take the pressure off and make the whole experience a special one.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

A disappointing meet can be the fault of both parties.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A disappointing meet can be the fault of both parties..... "

Ohh no ones ever been disappointed after a meet with me I'm perfect !

hehe

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

In terms of finding someone local who fits the bill on an ongoing basis yes, still looking, but I haven't had a really disappointing meet from here, and a couple have surprised and totally delighted me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met a few people on here.. who claim their own way and when to meet .happens its like another person walked into the room. personalities completely opposite than what I expected and even some pictures being falsified. for me to complete turnoff. for me it's all about the personality and honesty of the person. if I cannot trust him to be who they claim they are how can I trust to get naked with them. I've learned to lower my expectations and be extremely cautious. it's a shame really. because the encounter is so much better if my play partner is honest. hello to all my swing friends across the pond

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I rarely meet a man twice. Alot of it is I enjoy the meeting of new people. I do have a small handful of people I have had repeat meets with and have amazing sex with.

I have met many many men. If I count how many of those I have met with more than once is is only a few. A very low percentage.

Hope that clarified that for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have met many women like that . Chat chat on here full of confidence but when you meet they are so so shy and quiet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry in a bit of a bitchy mood! "

lol! We must have met some of the same guys! ROFL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What meets? And no guys don't read profiles, I had two messages today from guys, one sent a pic one didn't but both expected me to just do what they asked. I've now added something to my profile that I didn't want to regarding skin colour

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Was just thinking back to people messaging and chatting with me. I find people also assume I want to meet them again and are offended when I say no thanks. Assuming I am leading them on a merry dance. In fact I have never said I would meet them again. I guess as they have met with a single bi fem once they hope it will be a regular thing and then disappointed when the lady may say no thanks. For them to start then grumbling on their profile about "does anyone actually meet on here or just talk...." seems sad.

Just because anyone meets someone once does not mean they wish to meet again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What meets? And no guys don't read profiles, I had two messages today from guys, one sent a pic one didn't but both expected me to just do what they asked. I've now added something to my profile that I didn't want to regarding skin colour "

do you hate men this morning ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, how about you just sit on my face for an hour or two? Then we can really get started...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men and quite a few women are only on this site for their own sexual gratification. Do you think it's pure coincidence that the one man that could deliver has left the site ?

Personally I've no time for clingy types and I feel many people are on this site for more than no strings sex.

I would avoid at all costs ladies who are seeking something special,it just puts far too much pressure on a meet.

Totally agree. If I want an orgasm then I'll use my rabbit. I use this site for more than that (and I bring my rabbit

). I want the whole seduction: getting horny over dinner, and chatting about the spanking he'll deliver later on because I'm so bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I was just having my say in response to the thread. Sorry if it gave the wrong impression

do you hate men this morning ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh and men: the cervix battering we get is NOT stimulation of the g spot. Curve those damn fingers!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A disappointing meet can be the fault of both parties..... "

Can be but not often

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

How does your last comment relate to the rest of your post?

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

the hardest part about all this for me has been finding someone who thinks its not all about a quick shag ,i just want someone to spend a few hours with me then fun after and i guy i thought was all this has blocked me now so was everything he said all just a lie ,thats what hurts was it all just lies to get me into bed x

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

It's tricky to get a proper idea of what you're looking for if profile is hidden

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think you have to assume that people will tell you what they think you want to hear. If you are having your feelings hurt this might not be the place for you.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you do seem to have more upset and disappointment on here than happy times and enjoyment.

why do you think that is ? what could you do to change that ?

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

I will repeat what i originally said - this site is no different then the vanilla world & some people will say what they think is right to get what they want & thats guy & girls

Reading your post it seems like you are looking for FWB's which on this site, from my experience, is extremely difficult cause it's associated with emotional attachment too & not many want that

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

How does your last comment relate to the rest of your post?

My thoughts exactly

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

haven't been meeting anyone from this site

for a while ,this guy was my last shot at meeting guys . but i wont now , just on here to see whats been said in the forums , and joining in with the banter xx

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"haven't been meeting anyone from this site

for a while ,this guy was my last shot at meeting guys . but i wont now , just on here to see whats been said in the forums , and joining in with the banter xx"

enjoy the banter and good luck for the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had some great meets and they all stem from not being 'rushed into' meets

I like to take my time to get to know a lady - sounds very cliche but it's the best advice I could ever give

I'd hate to be responsible for a bad meet, or a bad experience so 2 way communication is important, finding out what a lady likes/ dislikes, finding out which buttons are the right one to press

Thankfully fingers crossed I've been very very lucky and hope it continues in 2014

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

I will repeat what i originally said - this site is no different then the vanilla world & some people will say what they think is right to get what they want & thats guy & girls

Reading your post it seems like you are looking for FWB's which on this site, from my experience, is extremely difficult cause it's associated with emotional attachment too & not many want that

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sometime ago some one posted about feeling empty after meets and lots said that you can have meets that are a bit more than a quick shag nsa just means you not want a relationship x

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

I will repeat what i originally said - this site is no different then the vanilla world & some people will say what they think is right to get what they want & thats guy & girls

Reading your post it seems like you are looking for FWB's which on this site, from my experience, is extremely difficult cause it's associated with emotional attachment too & not many want that

sometime ago some one posted about feeling empty after meets and lots said that you can have meets that are a bit more than a quick shag nsa just means you not want a relationship x"

I'd be in that camp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think too many on here place demands and requirements on a meet so when it comes to the act it's more of a script to follow than something organic that develops as you kiss and touch, and see what the reactions are. If guys start to give me a list of 'to do's' on a meet I rapidly lose interest because when it comes to it, I may now want to do those acts in that order.

I don't think I've ever been left disappointed by a meet, although some haven't been quite as expected. More often than not though that has added to the experience rather than taken away from it. I meet for fun, not to tick boxes...if I can have good banter with someone and an idea of likes/dislikes then I can be pretty sure we'll both leave with a smile on our faces.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

I will repeat what i originally said - this site is no different then the vanilla world & some people will say what they think is right to get what they want & thats guy & girls

Reading your post it seems like you are looking for FWB's which on this site, from my experience, is extremely difficult cause it's associated with emotional attachment too & not many want that

sometime ago some one posted about feeling empty after meets and lots said that you can have meets that are a bit more than a quick shag nsa just means you not want a relationship x"

Yes you can and that is what i refer to as FWB's. I have been very fortunate lately in the people i have contacted and have contacted me in that they have shown compassion to me & my personal life rather than just think of me as a cock to use for their fulfillment & that may be what you are looking for.

But i digress from the OP's original topic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a shame when people have expectations and a script, as someone mentioned.

Learn to go with the flow

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

well sadly as nobody has shown me that not looking for anything anymore, on this site or anywhere else , time to stand up now , and say no more, no way , go forth, hold my head up high and say i not need a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no matter if sexual, what looking for,likes,personality, very few people match up to things they say. many big themselfs up on a profile and most verifactions many people say same thing about every one.amazing how many guys have the best cocks ever

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"well sadly as nobody has shown me that not looking for anything anymore, on this site or anywhere else , time to stand up now , and say no more, no way , go forth, hold my head up high and say i not need a man

it's the right attitude to have, but i will add a caveat - don't restrict yourself because of bad experiences on here or the nilla world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ones that annoy me are the ones who state how much they enjoy giving oral yet, when we meet, decide otherwise. Its not difficult to not meet again when that happens.

Had this twice myself. Never again! Lol"

Me too. Alot of men talk the talk but when it comes to meeting they r a let down. Half of them wont or dont know how to go down on a woman. Or they come too quickly. Im yet to meet an ultimate match. Im still hoping though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ones that annoy me are the ones who state how much they enjoy giving oral yet, when we meet, decide otherwise. Its not difficult to not meet again when that happens.

Had this twice myself. Never again! Lol

Why do you see that as a bad thing? A guy cums, then all his attention should be on you until he gets hard again, by this time you're ready for a good fuck that should last longer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people clearly come to this site/lifestyle with unrealistic expectations,this is where their problems start. Everyone should consider what they have to offer before becoming too picky.

If you stick to your own kind you can't go far wrong in my experience. Let's be brutally honest here the superior people in this scene have the pick of the crop.

Despite what many will admit to looks and a great body are still the number one pulling tools and always will be. If said person(s) also have brains well they can afford to be very picky.

All this of course is only relevant if you're only seeking no strings sex. If you're seeking just a few regular meets then you should be prepared for a very bumpy ride.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the hardest part about all this for me has been finding someone who thinks its not all about a quick shag ,i just want someone to spend a few hours with me then fun after and i guy i thought was all this has blocked me now so was everything he said all just a lie ,thats what hurts was it all just lies to get me into bed x"
yes some will lie do whatever to get there sex high , Good sex is mind blowing you're on a sex high for days after and good sex takes time and a lot don't have the time here as it about them not you . should be a two way thing but not always as some don't care .. Why its nice to click with a person and then you feel you're a bit more then next one on there list . People are different and that go s for sex too .. some think a 10 min shag little foreplay is out of this world , lol some are better at sex than others here. And when you find good sex it like you hit the jackpot , lol

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

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that what is hard for me as this person was saying its not just about sex there has to be a connection making me think i had found a genuine person that wasnt like the rest of the guys on here . but hey ho you live and even the 60yr olds are liars x

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

should say you live and learn !!1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"that what is hard for me as this person was saying its not just about sex there has to be a connection making me think i had found a genuine person that wasnt like the rest of the guys on here . but hey ho you live and even the 60yr olds are liars x

I guess it's all about expectancy - what's a true 'connection' for one is a nice cuppa beforehand for the other.

As for your ageist remark - there's grandstanding and make-belief everywhere, among all age groups.

After the first kid-in-sweetshop encounters, I have learned to sit back a bit more and observe. Read folks' contributions here, and from there read their profiles. If both appeal, I'll send a message, even if that damned distance makes a meet highly improbable. I am pleasantly surprised how many great reactions and correspondences have sprung from there. And yes, more often than not there never will BE a meet, but there are also promises that maybe...

I promised/told myself to get out more, start travelling, going places, and thus perhaps meet otherwise unreachable friends, be they male or female - interhuman contact doesn't always have to be sexual, despite the emphasis on here. I have made friends here, and a few on a level I find astounding.

Yes, I am disappointed at times, but more often am heartened and pleased.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get offered a lot of what I don't want but have no problems finding it when I search myself.

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

I guess it's all about expectancy - what's a true 'connection' for one is a nice cuppa beforehand for the other.

As for your ageist remark - there's grandstanding and make-belief everywhere, among all age groups.

Yes, I am disappointed at times, but more often am heartened and pleased.

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

wasnt been ageist, i think more fool me i expected better from a 60 yr old but like you say i have to start going places and doing things,i have 2 pals to keep me company not need anyone from here,i can manage quite well without sex, thats one thing to be proud of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wasnt been ageist, i think more fool me i expected better from a 60 yr old but like you say i have to start going places and doing things,i have 2 pals to keep me company not need anyone from here,i can manage quite well without sex, thats one thing to be proud of

Well, that's your prerogative.

I DON'T fare well without sex, find it hard to find it here and am not shamed to admit that. You're still within the popular age range, so with a bit of positiveness and a different mindset, you could enjoy yourself bit time on here. Carpe diem, woman

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By *i015Man
over a year ago

Millbrook, Southampton

"Come on men this was not just directed at the ladies !!!!! Do you get what you want from your meets ? "

Ms Hx, I'll tell you once I have met someone to play with, as I've not met anyone yet except in a club, I can't comment on this yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly say that of all the meets I have had I can not say any of them was bad . Maybe ive been lucky xx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I can honestly say that of all the meets I have had I can not say any of them was bad . Maybe ive been lucky xx"

Not met me yet!

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over a year ago

"I can honestly say that of all the meets I have had I can not say any of them was bad . Maybe ive been lucky xx

Not met me yet!

So your saying your a bad meet then!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I can honestly say that of all the meets I have had I can not say any of them was bad . Maybe ive been lucky xx

Not met me yet!

So your saying your a bad meet then!

I prefer to think I am more of an acquired taste.

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

I had a couple of not so good when I first joined the site my own fault rather than theirs. They really weren't what I was looking for, not on my wavelength at all. Live and learn though it made me rethink a lot of stuff and I'm now far more selective. It makes all the difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we/I go to meet someone I like to know right up front what is or isnt OK (ie kissing allowed, dont touch me there etc) so when I get there I know the score and dont drop a clanger by being pushy or doing something I shouldnt.

When people come to play with me and Dee, Dee is on the bed naked and blindfolded (we have a codeword) we want you to turn up on time, walk in strip off and go for your life. If you can't or don't want to to do that then I wish you all the best as thats what we want and our time is precious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can honestly say that of all the meets I have had I can not say any of them was bad . Maybe ive been lucky xx

Not met me yet!

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No but im sure it would be up there with thr best

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I can honestly say that of all the meets I have had I can not say any of them was bad . Maybe ive been lucky xx

Not met me yet!

No but im sure it would be up there with thr best

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over a year ago

"I can honestly say that of all the meets I have had I can not say any of them was bad . Maybe ive been lucky xx

Not met me yet!

No but im sure it would be up there with thr best

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Are you blushing ? Surely not

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