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By *ohoho OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up North

So. I have now been on this site for just over a year. To me the sex is getting better and better. But I think that's down to me getting to know what I like and now not being worried about asking for it. Prior to fab I would rarely orgasm, only with one or two partners. Now they just seem to be multiple every time.

A friend and I were discussing this. She thinks it is because swingers are better in bed.

Would you agree?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Some are, some aren't. The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who didn't swing.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Well they do say practice makes perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they aren't. Some swingers become stagnant in their methods and don't put any variety into it which then makes it boring when you keep meeting them then they wonder why you go off them!

I need a lot of variety and a lot of different sensations and for him or her to have a dirty and creative imagination or I get very bored very quickly!

crystal

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By *ohoho OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up North


"Some are, some aren't. The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who didn't swing."

But was he the exception to the rule?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Some are, some aren't. The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who didn't swing.

But was he the exception to the rule? "

Might have been. But in my experience, swingers are not always better at sex than non-swingers.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

not necessarily but i guess swingers "enjoy" sex so hence it likely to be "good" sex lol

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By *ohoho OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up North

I have just found 'swingers' (yes I understand we all have different definitions as to what a swinger is) is more open to try new things. Tends to respond better to my direction, subtle or not. Also take pride in actually really satisfying you. The more experienced a swinger is, in general, the better.

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

No. Defiantly not. Had great times with swingers but equally had some real bad ones too. Being a,swinger does not make you a good duck.

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By *arlock69Man
over a year ago

Batley... (near Leeds)

i'd say we're better at sex than vanilla folk coz we're more open minded and experienced

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

That should say fuck ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I am.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'd go so far as to say that sex with swingers can be MORE disappointing, due to expectations from reading verifications and the thought that they should be more open to sexy ideas.

I have to say there has been some instances of very pedestrian sex off here when something much more was expected. Probably my fault for that but its thought.

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By *ohoho OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up North


"No. Defiantly not. Had great times with swingers but equally had some real bad ones too. Being a,swinger does not make you a good duck."

Obviously not all swingers are a good duck lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say a lot of the male half. Of this site are not true swingers and are here purely to get there leg over. So probs do not put a lot of effort into the sex..

For me I like to talk and get to no the person rather than a quickie.

But everyone is different I guess.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I am."

Apologies.

Forgot to append the little winky face thing denoting that the comment was meant in a tongue-in-cheek kind of way so that those who are so intellectually challenged that they couldn't take the inference from simply reading the text as a standalone statement have it made for them.

Which seems to be the way of things these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The answer will be different for many people but for me the answer is definitely no. The best sex I've had in my lifetime is with a few females I've shared both a physical and mental connection with.

Also many do believe sex is much better with a partner you're in love with ? I can relate to that and swinger sex is great but it's just that,sex !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i'd say we're better at sex than vanilla folk coz we're more open minded and experienced"

Isn't that down to preference and not technique ?

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Some are, some aren't. The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who didn't swing."

I'm glad you've said this, Julia. I read in these forums how some say they've had the best sex ever on a meet and to be honest I've felt sorry for them.

The best sex I've ever had is with women I've been in love with, or at the very least, cared about deeply. The emotional connection helps to elevate the experience above the mechanics of a skilled tongue, fingers, whatever.

This emotional connection cannot be achieved by having a few socials "to see if we get on". The reason I say I feel sorry for those who say their best sex has been on a meet is because they've never been with in love with someone who knows what they're doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope "

I second that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr Mahogany said it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are ugandans better at the hokey y?

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

Clearly not in all cases.

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By *ohoho OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up North


"Some are, some aren't. The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who didn't swing.

I'm glad you've said this, Julia. I read in these forums how some say they've had the best sex ever on a meet and to be honest I've felt sorry for them.

The best sex I've ever had is with women I've been in love with, or at the very least, cared about deeply. The emotional connection helps to elevate the experience above the mechanics of a skilled tongue, fingers, whatever.

This emotional connection cannot be achieved by having a few socials "to see if we get on". The reason I say I feel sorry for those who say their best sex has been on a meet is because they've never been with in love with someone who knows what they're doing. "

But that's not sex. No need to feel sorry for me at all.

Love making is a completely different matter. I was not asking about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't think were better , but swinging has enhanced our sexlife no end ,

we do and try more things than we ever did before,

maybe its beacause we chat to others about sex more on here than we would in vanilla lifestyle so we get more info and advice,

mostly we feel more comfy with sex and being adventurous now we know its more common and not a seedy lifestyle every one imagines in vanilla world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No they aren't. Some swingers become stagnant in their methods and don't put any variety into it which then makes it boring when you keep meeting them then they wonder why you go off them!

I need a lot of variety and a lot of different sensations and for him or her to have a dirty and creative imagination or I get very bored very quickly!

crystal"

Spot on! Some of the guys we meet are really great but we tend to meet just the once as we're here for variety - not repeat meetings.

Swingers are just ordinary people without the socio-sexual restraints of conventional relationships so the question doesnt really make sense as "swingers" are made up of individuals.

You may be able to decide how much you enjoy a certain experience with a given person(s), but you cannot define how good a whole group of individuals are at"sex" as the OP put it.

We find new is exciting which brings us back to Variety

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i'd say we're better at sex than vanilla folk coz we're more open minded and experienced"

Isn't that a bit closed minded for an 'open minded' person? Simply because a person doesn't partake in swinging activities doesn't mean they are not open minded or experienced. I think you'd be surprised at the goings on outside of swinging, it's not the be all and end all and just because someone swings is no certainty they will be anything other than average in terms of skill in the bedroom.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I am.

Apologies.

Forgot to append the little winky face thing denoting that the comment was meant in a tongue-in-cheek kind of way so that those who are so intellectually challenged that they couldn't take the inference from simply reading the text as a standalone statement have it made for them.

Which seems to be the way of things these days."

LOL you really have it in for the forums these days. Seeing as no-one questioned your post I can only assume you were anticipating such, which shows a level of clairvoyance that should stand you in good stead if you ever need spare cash.

Anyway, maybe you are better at sex than anyone else.

*smileyface smileyface wink*

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Some are, some aren't. The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who didn't swing.

I'm glad you've said this, Julia. I read in these forums how some say they've had the best sex ever on a meet and to be honest I've felt sorry for them.

The best sex I've ever had is with women I've been in love with, or at the very least, cared about deeply. The emotional connection helps to elevate the experience above the mechanics of a skilled tongue, fingers, whatever.

This emotional connection cannot be achieved by having a few socials "to see if we get on". The reason I say I feel sorry for those who say their best sex has been on a meet is because they've never been with in love with someone who knows what they're doing. "

I am glad you agree with me, but I was never in love with the guy. Although we had got to the point that we were familiar with each others wants and likes, which may be almost the same. Not an emotional connection, but definitely a physical one!

However that is not compulsory for me to have a great shag. Some men I've met once, never to be seen again, have been awesome. Some people seem to know what gets me going better than others. Or maybe I am better at communicating my wants to them. Who knows?

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Some are, some aren't. The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who didn't swing.

I'm glad you've said this, Julia. I read in these forums how some say they've had the best sex ever on a meet and to be honest I've felt sorry for them.

The best sex I've ever had is with women I've been in love with, or at the very least, cared about deeply. The emotional connection helps to elevate the experience above the mechanics of a skilled tongue, fingers, whatever.

This emotional connection cannot be achieved by having a few socials "to see if we get on". The reason I say I feel sorry for those who say their best sex has been on a meet is because they've never been with in love with someone who knows what they're doing.

But that's not sex. No need to feel sorry for me at all.

Love making is a completely different matter. I was not asking about that. "

My apologies, if I wasn't having sex all those times I wonder what was actually occurring?

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By *ohoho OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up North


"don't think were better , but swinging has enhanced our sexlife no end ,

we do and try more things than we ever did before,

maybe its beacause we chat to others about sex more on here than we would in vanilla lifestyle so we get more info and advice,

mostly we feel more comfy with sex and being adventurous now we know its more common and not a seedy lifestyle every one imagines in vanilla world"

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Some are, some aren't. The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who didn't swing.

I'm glad you've said this, Julia. I read in these forums how some say they've had the best sex ever on a meet and to be honest I've felt sorry for them.

The best sex I've ever had is with women I've been in love with, or at the very least, cared about deeply. The emotional connection helps to elevate the experience above the mechanics of a skilled tongue, fingers, whatever.

This emotional connection cannot be achieved by having a few socials "to see if we get on". The reason I say I feel sorry for those who say their best sex has been on a meet is because they've never been with in love with someone who knows what they're doing.

I am glad you agree with me, but I was never in love with the guy. Although we had got to the point that we were familiar with each others wants and likes, which may be almost the same. Not an emotional connection, but definitely a physical one!

However that is not compulsory for me to have a great shag. Some men I've met once, never to be seen again, have been awesome. Some people seem to know what gets me going better than others. Or maybe I am better at communicating my wants to them. Who knows? "

Then I would venture your best, hopefully, is yet to come

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose we have more experience than the average Joe

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Some are, some aren't. The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who didn't swing.

I'm glad you've said this, Julia. I read in these forums how some say they've had the best sex ever on a meet and to be honest I've felt sorry for them.

The best sex I've ever had is with women I've been in love with, or at the very least, cared about deeply. The emotional connection helps to elevate the experience above the mechanics of a skilled tongue, fingers, whatever.

This emotional connection cannot be achieved by having a few socials "to see if we get on". The reason I say I feel sorry for those who say their best sex has been on a meet is because they've never been with in love with someone who knows what they're doing.

I am glad you agree with me, but I was never in love with the guy. Although we had got to the point that we were familiar with each others wants and likes, which may be almost the same. Not an emotional connection, but definitely a physical one!

However that is not compulsory for me to have a great shag. Some men I've met once, never to be seen again, have been awesome. Some people seem to know what gets me going better than others. Or maybe I am better at communicating my wants to them. Who knows?

Then I would venture your best, hopefully, is yet to come "

Always striving hun, always striving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some are, some aren't. The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who didn't swing.

I'm glad you've said this, Julia. I read in these forums how some say they've had the best sex ever on a meet and to be honest I've felt sorry for them.

The best sex I've ever had is with women I've been in love with, or at the very least, cared about deeply. The emotional connection helps to elevate the experience above the mechanics of a skilled tongue, fingers, whatever.

This emotional connection cannot be achieved by having a few socials "to see if we get on". The reason I say I feel sorry for those who say their best sex has been on a meet is because they've never been with in love with someone who knows what they're doing. "

Mr Mahogany, that is just so spot on

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No swingers are not better at sex. Swinging is just one aspect of a whole spectrum of possible sexual activity and just because a person isn't excited by multiple partners doesn't make them any worse in bed than people who are. Why on earth would it?

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By *ohoho OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up North

Well very mixed views here.

It's nice to see the different opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So. I have now been on this site for just over a year. To me the sex is getting better and better. But I think that's down to me getting to know what I like and now not being worried about asking for it. Prior to fab I would rarely orgasm, only with one or two partners. Now they just seem to be multiple every time.

A friend and I were discussing this. She thinks it is because swingers are better in bed.

Would you agree? "

I would disagree as there are some pretty shit guys who are swingers as well as good ones. Experience makes someone good at giving pleasure not if they wear the swinger logo or not.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

No, I've had some crap shags lol, but maybe it was me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No swingers are not better at sex. Swinging is just one aspect of a whole spectrum of possible sexual activity and just because a person isn't excited by multiple partners doesn't make them any worse in bed than people who are. Why on earth would it?

"

Totally agree. Theres a bit of a " we are sooo more exciting than you vanilla "snobbery in this world. I have started seeing someone " real" world recently. One of the dirtiest minxes I have met but she would run a mile from multiple couplings. Just not for most....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I've had some crap shags lol, but maybe it was me "

Lol I had this when I started swinging, though got fed up and started being more vocal in what I wanted so as a result the sex got better for me, which led to more confidence in asking for what I like. So experience and confidence in asking for what you like leads to better sex rather than whether they are a swinger or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wouldnt have thought, as a rule, swingers are better.

some are just happy with what they like and do it over and over.

have been with a couple of ladies that are sexually free and experimental and are happy to try new things, without being swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there's a massive misconception among some that the 'vanilla' world is basically crap at sex. It's like everything in life, some good, some bad. Some people swing because they want more or to try more but I've been in exclusive relationships where we were happy to try everything with each other. Similarly not every lady on a swingers site wants to try every kind of sex. The one principle I hold is if you're willing to communicate with whoever you're with then sooner rather than later you'll be enjoying great sex whether they swing or don't.

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By *ohoho OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up North


"So. I have now been on this site for just over a year. To me the sex is getting better and better. But I think that's down to me getting to know what I like and now not being worried about asking for it.

"

I do believe the key is yourself. As I state in my opening statement. Self awareness and not being frightened to ask for what you want has made a difference. Being on the site just showed me that I was normal and my desires weren't too kinky. I perhaps should have been more honest with past lovers. Not to say that the lovemaking wasn't incredible.

I did not say that non swingers were rubbish in bed. Because that would be a ridiculous thing to state. You can have great sex with anyone. Just those I have met on here have encouraged me to explore my fantasies more. I now feel confident that I can be open about my preferences with any man. Not just a swinger.

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By *ohoho OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up North


"No, I've had some crap shags lol, but maybe it was me

Lol I had this when I started swinging, though got fed up and started being more vocal in what I wanted so as a result the sex got better for me, which led to more confidence in asking for what I like. So experience and confidence in asking for what you like leads to better sex rather than whether they are a swinger or not"

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Not sure. The best orgasms I have ever had have been with a regular partner. Being able to get to know my body and try different positions has been great. They got to know what worked for me.

I don't often have big orgasms but when I have its been amazing.

I also get off watching the man orgasm and how he feels inside me when that happens.

Also sex/making love without a condom intensified all those feelings and increased pleasure and orgasm for me.

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

im not a swinger .,.but im not the only one..maybe some day you will join us and the word ..will be as one. x x X .

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don't think swingers are any better or any worse, I was pretty good before

You have different sex with different people and I don't think it is something you can have a certain formula for as not everyone likes the same thing.

Isn`t that one of the advantages of swinging that you don't have to have the same sex in the same way

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Well they do say practice makes perfect "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suppose we have more experience than the average Joe"

Based on nine verifications ??

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

Don't you know all the men on here are sex Gods ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't you know all the men on here are sex Gods ?

"

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not necessarily better , but more liberated and willing to experience sex for what it can be .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suppose we have more experience than the average Joe

Based on nine verifications ?? "

We have one (I think or maybe two!). Does that mean we've only fucked two people?!

I haven't seen anything eye opening like some sort of swinging sex gods, but it is interesting to see different techniques and they're not all good - especially those that copy their techniques straight from porn.

The best sex remains the sex we have alone - albeit peppered with lots of naughty memories. I don't think we've become any better at sex since we started swinging, but we're probably a lot more confident at it than most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know but since I have been on here I have improved my skill set

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"No. Defiantly not. Had great times with swingers but equally had some real bad ones too. Being a,swinger does not make you a good duck."
totally agree, weird one,not sure how you make the judgement...

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

No difference at all....

We've been doing this for over 2.5 years and we're just as useless in bed now as we've ever been!

D&K

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol


" Not necessarily better , but more liberated and willing to experience sex for what it can be .

"
and from this ludicrous comparism,far more spare time on our hands!!!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

No....just because someone swings it doesn't make them good or any better in bed.

Infact the ones that claim to be great, often aren't!

But they say practise makes perfect so I will happily keep trying.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if its a swinging thing more of a sexual confidence that you get and understanding your own body and yes swinging is an education for me anyway some good, some not so and then get the eureka moments that will stay with me forever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good sex is what you put in, if you love good sex, you will get good sex

Nette

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