FabSwingers.com forum: Falling in ??LOVE??

By *ig and daft OP Man
over a year ago

Love with life

The general object of the swingers exercise is harmless fun between consenting adults.

Yet when we are in a position where we have met mutually consenting adults on several occasions is it acceptable to kick the L word into the mix.

Then possessive tendencies and jealousy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never appropriate in a swinging setting, unless its you love what you are doing, rather than the person you are doing it to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"never appropriate in a swinging setting, unless its you love what you are doing, rather than the person you are doing it to lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some guys fall inlove at the slightest whiff of a fanny

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By *FlackoxCouple
over a year ago

London

True sorry for the private reply mistake..x

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By *ig and daft OP Man
over a year ago

Love with life

I've not fallen in love. Must just be a fantastic shag that's all.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"I've not fallen in love. Must just be a fantastic shag that's all. "

ya think they'll verify ya?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"The general object of the swingers exercise is harmless fun between consenting adults.

Yet when we are in a position where we have met mutually consenting adults on several occasions is it acceptable to kick the L word into the mix.

Then possessive tendencies and jealousy "

Possessiveness and jealousy do not necessarily go hand in hand with love.

There is no place for possessiveness and jealousy in swinging.

As for love, sometimes it happens but it's risking huge complications.

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By *my-blackTV/TS
over a year ago

Poole

Frequently the word love gets mixed up with the emotion lust. well thats what i learned some while ago. Good luck with differentiating between the two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The general object of the swingers exercise is harmless fun between consenting adults.

Yet when we are in a position where we have met mutually consenting adults on several occasions is it acceptable to kick the L word into the mix.

Then possessive tendencies and jealousy

Possessiveness and jealousy do not necessarily go hand in hand with love.

There is no place for possessiveness and jealousy in swinging.

As for love, sometimes it happens but it's risking huge complications. "

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Love can happen on here ans it doesn't have to be accompanied with posessiveness or jealousy providing there is God communication and trust between the two parties.

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By *antoplay1976Couple
over a year ago

Chico

I'm in the midst of this right now. We met another couple and the 4 of us have this amazing energy. Other wife and I have fallen in love. There are all kinds of issues involved yet none of us want to end it. Be sure your marriage is strong because polyamory is hard fucking work!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

" hard fucking work!"

But the chaps have to be hard for the fucking to work

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

some men confuse being intimate as having feelings I know of someone who falls in love at the drop of a hat is engaged to a woman after being together 2 months was engaged to another only last year

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By *antoplay1976Couple
over a year ago

Chico

^ vey true Tina! And they are up to the challenge. Just having issues sharing Sometimes!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Love can happen on here ans it doesn't have to be accompanied with posessiveness or jealousy providing there is God communication and trust between the two parties. "

I met someone special on here. He likes group sex (I don't), I like submissive men, he's not, we will both meet others to fulfil our individual needs.

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I'm in the midst of this right now. We met another couple and the 4 of us have this amazing energy. Other wife and I have fallen in love. There are all kinds of issues involved yet none of us want to end it. Be sure your marriage is strong because polyamory is hard fucking work!"

Does your wife fancy the pants off the other Guy? Just wondering if the love feeling was mutual

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

love makes it complicated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non-attached love is possible between people in any situation. For me, love has many levels. However I think the feelings of being in love or lust can result in jealousy and possessiveness when coupled with an individuals feelings of lack of self worth.

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By *antoplay1976Couple
over a year ago

Chico

Does your wife fancy the pants off the other Guy? Just wondering if the love feeling was mutual"

We both have great sex with our others husbands. It's the wives that have fallen for eachother and what's more is it's both of our first girl on girl relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" hard fucking work!

But the chaps have to be hard for the fucking to work

there you go again

pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does your wife fancy the pants off the other Guy? Just wondering if the love feeling was mutual

We both have great sex with our others husbands. It's the wives that have fallen for eachother and what's more is it's both of our first girl on girl relationship.

That's a heady mix of emotions 'first love' comes to mind and how strong that can be. I still remember my first love as if it was yesterday, not 36 years ago!

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By *antoplay1976Couple
over a year ago

Chico

It is indeed. And the first love comment is accurate. While I have always been interested in other women, I had only been with one other women. I never expected to feel that way about another women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is indeed. And the first love comment is accurate. While I have always been interested in other women, I had only been with one other women. I never expected to feel that way about another women."

I know these things can be worked through if everyone stays connected and willing to learn and share. That first love is a beautiful feeling and should rightly be nurtured, However it requires letting go of ego attachments. And that is hardest part of it for all involved.

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By *antoplay1976Couple
over a year ago

Chico

I agree. My hubby is working on the jealousy thing. My live for him has increases through all this and so has our sex life. It's hard on him at times but we are working hard to work through it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree. My hubby is working on the jealousy thing. My live for him has increases through all this and so has our sex life. It's hard on him at times but we are working hard to work through it. "

That's great. Love is infinite so it has the capacity to hold you while you work things through. I wish you the very best and would love to hear how things work out.

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By *antoplay1976Couple
over a year ago

Chico

Thank you so much for your advice and kind words. I will check back in and let you know. Is it okay if I add you tiny friends list?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you so much for your advice and kind words. I will check back in and let you know. Is it okay if I add you tiny friends list?"

Please do.

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex

how does the other couple feel, what about the other fems husband?

Do you now look for an exclusive F/F relationship or is it that you have now found you are bisexual but still fancy the pants off your husband and also enjoy having sex with him and other guys if you swap?

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By *antoplay1976Couple
over a year ago

Chico

"how does the other couple feel, what about the other fems husband?

The other couple are feeling the same. We all talk openly as a foursome and jokingly call ourselves "the quad" . basically she isy girlfriend and her hubby is my fuckbuddy and vice versa. We have spent time alone with eachothers hubbies because we think it's important to get to know eachother on a more personal level. Hubbies are having a bit of a hard time with how very attracted her and I are to eachother. But there is a lot of communication. We even go out on dates with eachothers hubbies. It's not easy but we all want to make it work.

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By *antoplay1976Couple
over a year ago

Chico

Also I think I'm even more attracted to my hubby now. I love watching him with her so hot to me. And hubby lives watching her and I and her hubby and I. I'm not sure about what I would look for if looking for other meets as this relationship takes a lit if time. I'm not sure if she has spoiled me for other women as the attraction is so high for her.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

my long term fwb always tells me he loves me but its more about sex than love then he gets silly by saying stuff like you are mine etc even asked me to divorce my hubby and marry him yesterday jeez

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my long term fwb always tells me he loves me but its more about sex than love then he gets silly by saying stuff like you are mine etc even asked me to divorce my hubby and marry him yesterday jeez

That's is potentially a more difficult one to deal with in my opinion, because the 'hubby, wife and fwb (lover) might be a covert triangle. As such they cannot enter into the same level of mutual inquiry that the 'Quad' can. This may be the case if the same level of openness is not possible. If the triangle were overt it would be possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was introduced to swinging by a guy i thought i loved dearly, and i think in a certain way swinging actually ruined what we had between us. But wrong or right i went on to fall head over heels with someone that i was introduced to by the person above and it was totally unexpected regardless of what was said and done and we are very happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was introduced to swinging by a guy i thought i loved dearly, and i think in a certain way swinging actually ruined what we had between us. But wrong or right i went on to fall head over heels with someone that i was introduced to by the person above and it was totally unexpected regardless of what was said and done and we are very happy.

When i mean above, not the guy in the above message, but the person i used to be with.

Sorry didn't make myself clear !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure people fall in love as a result of casual sex all the time, they say it happens in the most unexpected ways xx

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By *leepyangelCouple
over a year ago

over the hill and far away

I am in love with my FB. He knows it but hasn't told me back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had two swing guys tell me they love me, one before he'd physically met me and I've fallen for it for a while, it's flattering and dreamy, then I've wised up and moved on! I believe it can happen but beware the quick fallers!!! XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i fell in love with my fb..he didnt feel the same..i fucked it up..what a dickhead i am !

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton

I once fell in love with a crab

When I worked in a crustacean lab

It's handjobs were poor

Made my dick rather sore

I forgave her, we did meet though fab....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frequently the word love gets mixed up with the emotion lust. well thats what i learned some while ago. Good luck with differentiating between the two.

Im emotionally in lust with you...has a certain ring to it don't you think lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a swinger

Im in love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my fb

He loves me too but we're not in any position to be together

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By *rencherMan
over a year ago

Derby

"The general object of the swingers exercise is harmless fun between consenting adults.

Yet when we are in a position where we have met mutually consenting adults on several occasions is it acceptable to kick the L word into the mix."

No.

There is no place for the L word in the swinging environment, regardless of how many times you've met someone

IMO of course

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By *ig and daft OP Man
over a year ago

Love with life

If you throw in the love word does it become and affair or relationship rather than swinging?

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