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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it just for bedroom or is it for 24/7 and if it is for bedroom can any one tell when bedroom start or end .

And if it for 24/7 why is it so good or so bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

24/7 for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not 24/7 but bedroom play is not restricted to the confines of the bedroom allowing BDSM play to cover the whole house

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Just on the bedroom for us.

Full respect to those who go in for it 24/7, that is some serious commitment!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I'm fairly Dom most of the time, I think being cognitively aware of this I do balance this where needed.

OH told me she sensed me in the room before she actually knew who I was, whatever that means.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love it to be 24/7 but real life makes it impossible, besides, if it was, how does one get ones kink?

Xx

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

24/7 but you'd be hard pressed to notice it from outside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am totally ignorant of this subject so no laughing at my question,

I get the dom/sub in the bedroom but what does 24/7 involves, is it a case of one half of the couple just running around all day doing as they are told while the other sits on his/her arse doing sod all, do you have to ask permission to do every day things like eat, go to the loo, do you have to work? are you allowed to work? if you do do you hand over your wages to your dom? are you allowed to do every day things away from your dom or are you expected to be their for them 24/7. how far does being domed 24/7 go? I've often wondered this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope no one does laugh. Personally I'd find it hard to explain in a few words on here (I'm sure someone will though) sorry that don't help but it's quite varied in the degree of power exchange.some are totally submissive but they are more slaves than subs.all I can say is its wonderful and I love it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had that kind of relationship I would have to be the dom, i'm no good at being told what to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just on the bedroom for us.

Full respect to those who go in for it 24/7, that is some serious commitment!"

Agree

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"I am totally ignorant of this subject so no laughing at my question,

I get the dom/sub in the bedroom but what does 24/7 involves, is it a case of one half of the couple just running around all day doing as they are told while the other sits on his/her arse doing sod all, do you have to ask permission to do every day things like eat, go to the loo, do you have to work? are you allowed to work? if you do do you hand over your wages to your dom? are you allowed to do every day things away from your dom or are you expected to be their for them 24/7. how far does being domed 24/7 go? I've often wondered this"

There's a lot of falsehoods in D/S. Some guys use it to enact their macho fantasies of 'dominating a woman' physically. Others use it simply as a way to chistise, and make a fiction for their dislike of women. In both of these cases, the woman is essentially fodder for the guy. In some of the above cases too - the women like this kind of debasement - they enjoy the aspect that they are there for the mans pleasuse in whatever regard it comes (which in my opinion isn't healthy)

The second kind is where the Sub knows what they like, and the Dom both understands this, as well as has their own kinks. Take exhibitionism.. the Dom would know te Sub likes this, but wouldn't have the Sub strip everytime the go out - but play on it. Same with say whipping (or whatver play) .. the sub may enjoy the release of endorphins and the further lack or reminder when sitting the next day. This doesnt mean everytime the sub it tied that they are going to be flogged.

D/S is a sharing of roles - though is quickly open to abuse such is the physicality of the play. Though if each enjoys that dynamic, essentially the Sub goes about their day as does the Dom, just with 24/7 or ownership, the Dom can call the Sub up on anything they may have in mind - or anything they may believe would entice the sub.

There are obviously different tastes - and things I, you, we, would think - WTF, sometimes this is misplaced loyalties as I have said, other times it is exactly the kink in that relationship. ..

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By *ayandess1Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

24/7 for us but the dynamic is not like people think. My wife is a sub and I am dom. We don't do the typical bdsm stuff that most people think.

For us its about power transferance, she gets flustered and upset when it comes to decision making. So I make the decisions on a day to day basis. This is not me being forceful or having my own way. Its about me making us both happy. She is happy that I take control and always think of her.

In the bedroom its different, she is very daring and loves to be tied up and used.

A 24/7 d/s relationship is about sharing and fully understanding each others needs compleatly.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Just in the bedroom for me. I've turned down meeting men that want it 24/7....it would be too much for me.

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By *ayandess1Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

24/7 takes more trust than everything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"24/7 for us but the dynamic is not like people think. My wife is a sub and I am dom. We don't do the typical bdsm stuff that most people think.

For us its about power transferance, she gets flustered and upset when it comes to decision making. So I make the decisions on a day to day basis. This is not me being forceful or having my own way. Its about me making us both happy. She is happy that I take control and always think of her.

In the bedroom its different, she is very daring and loves to be tied up and used.

A 24/7 d/s relationship is about sharing and fully understanding each others needs compleatly. "

Very well put x

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

naughty, all the things you question are part of some peoples D/s relationships. But very very rarely.

There have been a couple of sane and thoughtful answers already but to add our version.

We have very few rules, but there are principles that she adheres to that are mine. If in doubt her decisions should always be in accordance with what she knows or feels would be my choice.

In return she gets me, 24/7, my focus is always her, my primary concern her health and happiness. And of course she can always blame me for anything that goes wrong as it was ultimately my decision.

D

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

24/7 here.

Its our relationship, it works extremely well, we are both happy with dynamics, it has nothing to do with anyone else what we do and what we don't do.

Its not something that can be pigeonholed, I don't want it to be.

We have 100% trust and honesty on all levels.

Pretty much the same as any other loving relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I had that kind of relationship I would have to be the dom, i'm no good at being told what to do "

Neither am I except in a D/S relationship. A lot of it is to do with the mind as well as body

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"If I had that kind of relationship I would have to be the dom, i'm no good at being told what to do

Neither am I except in a D/S relationship. A lot of it is to do with the mind as well as body "

The best Dom/Sub relationships have been with very intelligent girls, there has to be intelligent play from all parties (gosh there is a massive presupposition I know what intelligence is - ho hum) - well in my world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I had that kind of relationship I would have to be the dom, i'm no good at being told what to do

Neither am I except in a D/S relationship. A lot of it is to do with the mind as well as body

The best Dom/Sub relationships have been with very intelligent girls, there has to be intelligent play from all parties (gosh there is a massive presupposition I know what intelligence is - ho hum) - well in my world.

"

All mine have been terrible because I'm blonde

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"If I had that kind of relationship I would have to be the dom, i'm no good at being told what to do

Neither am I except in a D/S relationship. A lot of it is to do with the mind as well as body

The best Dom/Sub relationships have been with very intelligent girls, there has to be intelligent play from all parties (gosh there is a massive presupposition I know what intelligence is - ho hum) - well in my world.

All mine have been terrible because I'm blonde "

Yes I could imagine

NOT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I had that kind of relationship I would have to be the dom, i'm no good at being told what to do

Neither am I except in a D/S relationship. A lot of it is to do with the mind as well as body

The best Dom/Sub relationships have been with very intelligent girls, there has to be intelligent play from all parties (gosh there is a massive presupposition I know what intelligence is - ho hum) - well in my world.

All mine have been terrible because I'm blonde

Yes I could imagine

NOT "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Purely clubs and bed. ..

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

Were 24/7. It stopped for a little while when we had our baby but been back on it. I am a very submissive person so for me it gives me control and structure in everyday life as well as in the bedroom. I don't think I could live without it now. I would feel incomplete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the moment just in the bedroom. We're both dominant people so it's a challenge for us but we're working on it.

MissD is very domme with women and has been dominant in previous relationships. Can't see myself being a sub as I'm hard wired to be dominant.

Silk

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