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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i just really wondered about this guys, does it really matter to you what a girl looks like? or you just happy to get a meet?

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"i just really wondered about this guys, does it really matter to you what a girl looks like? or you just happy to get a meet? "

Does it matter to you what your meets look like too then??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

not really tbh as long as there is a spark! dont get me wrong i dont mean to offend, i just know how ladys think! but love to hear more from the male side on what they think! am always para before a meet, thinking omg what if they dont like me! i just would like to chill out abit i think lol

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"not really tbh as long as there is a spark! dont get me wrong i dont mean to offend, i just know how ladys think! but love to hear more from the male side on what they think! am always para before a meet, thinking omg what if they dont like me! i just would like to chill out abit i think lol "

Not everyone thinks the same, not every meet is the same, everyone will do what they want to do and I presume whoever you have arranged to meet will have thought there was some sort of spark or attraction to you to want to meet you in the first place.

Your opening post didn't offend me it just sounded like one of the usual sweeping statements about single males i.e. that all will just go with anyone for a meet. Some will, some wont, just the same as when males/females are out at a pub/club and the beer goggles come into play

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex


"i just really wondered about this guys, does it really matter to you what a girl looks like? or you just happy to get a meet? "

That is the misconception people on here have, 1000s of single men, they will shag anyone that happens to send them a wink or message.

Ofcourse it matters what the girl looks like.We are single not desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".

Ofcourse it matters what the girl looks like.We are single not desperate. "

I dont think all men think like that tho, not saying because some men will shag anything they are desparate. just some arnt fussy and see sex as sex, i met a guy once, got a hotel and after he told me i wasnt really his type but he had paid for the room and didnt want to waste the money lol so to me men like that dont care what you look like

I think everyone on here has standards its just some people standards are a lot lower than others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its each to their own.

I certainly wouldn't meet a minger just because she has a pussy. Am not that desperate. I have standards.

Attraction is a must.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks are not top of my list, there has to be mental stimulation. I have dated drop dead gorgeous ladies, very nice, but struggled to hold a conversation.

I like to be able to converse, and in my opinion the sex is better if both parties are on the same wave length.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Generalised comment about men with high sex drives: With options come standards. Reduce the options and the standards follow.

Married guys will likely disagree with this generalised comment, as they have pussy on tap.

Some single guys will disagree with this generalised comment as they are either:

a - an exception to the rule

b - still in a position of having options (or think they have)

c - not that high a sex-drive

d - liars

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"Generalised comment about men with high sex drives: With options come standards. Reduce the options and the standards follow.

Married guys will likely disagree with this generalised comment, as they have pussy on tap.

Some single guys will disagree with this generalised comment as they are either:

a - an exception to the rule

b - still in a position of having options (or think they have)

c - not that high a sex-drive

d - liars

"

I must be an 'a' then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be insulted if I were a single guy if there was an assumption I'd shag anything!!

That's the kind of logic that assumes fat birds will sleep with anyone too as we're desperate for the attention!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well for me it definitely matters,and i never just meet to get a shag,for me its about a lot more than that.

I prefer to meet in a pub first to make sure there is some sort of spark and that we at least get on and can have a laugh together.

Then hopefully we can become friends and have more than just a one off.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I would be insulted if I were a single guy if there was an assumption I'd shag anything!!

That's the kind of logic that assumes fat birds will sleep with anyone too as we're desperate for the attention!! "

I'd point out the tongue in cheek element... but actually...

If you watch the behaviour of single guys (not all,but enough) in some of the chatrooms on swinging sites .... you soon see where the generalisation comes from

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"I'd point out the tongue in cheek element... but actually...

If you watch the behaviour of single guys (not all,but enough) in some of the chatrooms on swinging sites .... you soon see where the generalisation comes from "

I took it the way it was meant (as tongue in cheek) but still say I must be an 'a'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men will conceder any pussy game. They class it as a warm wank. Others will be much more selective in what they will fuck. Desperation has a part to play in it as well.

There are singles of both sexes on here who crave attention of any type and so will drop standards at times to get what they want.

What you will find is that many men will say they won’t shag anything but in reality they are far less fussy. They don’t want to have the desperate and unfussy badge attached to them because it may affect their future chances of sex on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women need a reason

Men just need a place

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"i just really wondered about this guys, does it really matter to you what a girl looks like? or you just happy to get a meet?

That is the misconception people on here have, 1000s of single men, they will shag anyone that happens to send them a wink or message.

Ofcourse it matters what the girl looks like.We are single not desperate. "

I think if you read the OP second post she is more worried that people won't like her.

Sorry if I am reading it wron OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me they have got to have looks,coz thats what part of the attraction is,the spark comes when you both fancy abit of eachother.first thing i go for is looks,so guys which has already been said will shag anything but they are the ones without standerds,they prob no they aint hi in the goodlooking league so they cant be fussy.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"I think if you read the OP second post she is more worried that people won't like her.

Sorry if I am reading it wron OP."

That's the way i took the second post too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"for me they have got to have looks,coz thats what part of the attraction is,the spark comes when you both fancy abit of eachother.first thing i go for is looks,so guys which has already been said will shag anything but they are the ones without standerds,they prob no they aint hi in the goodlooking league so they cant be fussy."

bit of a shallow comment to make

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I remember a guy once saying "I came here to have sex with sexy hot women. I now realise I need to have more realistic expectations and have adjusted my criteria"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hi guys, am not worried about my looks at all, am more asking really, are men saying your a looker if your not, just for a shag, or do you guys say to anyone , sorry miss your not my type? ive never had a knock back yet so i guess thats why i wonder about this! because plan and simple i cant be everyones cup off tea

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By *hirefunguyMan
over a year ago

Moray/ Inverness

I think that if you have made contact, chatted etc, or had a social meet first both parties will have a good idea if they want to play. It is bound to happen that people dont always click - but thats just the way it goes sometimes.

It is not all about the physical attraction for me, I look for a fun personality, someone who does not take the whole thing to seriously, but thats just me!! LOL

(Hear from you soon - LOL)

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"hi guys, am not worried about my looks at all, am more asking really, are men saying your a looker if your not, just for a shag, or do you guys say to anyone , sorry miss your not my type? ive never had a knock back yet so i guess thats why i wonder about this! because plan and simple i cant be everyones cup off tea "

Yeah I have said 'you're not my type' to a few and wouldn't just go with anyone for a shag, as you put it. lol

Again, there are some that will say what they think you want to hear and others that will be more honest. It happens here and in pubs/clubs/etc all the time so it's nothing new really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think its both its a good question people judge profiles by pics then think are she hot or his hot then when they meet there totally the opposite

im new to this had two meets already but its not a competition its a pleasure to meet new people and have good sexy fun thats it and make friends along the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would be insulted if I were a single guy if there was an assumption I'd shag anything!!

That's the kind of logic that assumes fat birds will sleep with anyone too as we're desperate for the attention!! "

..so fat, single blokes are the most desperate of the desperate ?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I would be insulted if I were a single guy if there was an assumption I'd shag anything!!

That's the kind of logic that assumes fat birds will sleep with anyone too as we're desperate for the attention!!

..so fat, single blokes are the most desperate of the desperate ? "

Nope.... ugly fat blokes are

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By *yber pimpMan
over a year ago

durham area

initially its the profile that sells you. if i read something interesting i will look at pic but not essential when making up my mind to contact someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would imagine most men would be happy to lower there standards, some more than others, that doesn’t necessarily mean, all men would shag anything, but think that a lot of men and women for that matter will swing with people they wouldn’t have a relationship with outside swinging, alternatively you just might just come under polo’s option d

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"hi guys, am not worried about my looks at all, am more asking really, are men saying your a looker if your not, just for a shag, or do you guys say to anyone , sorry miss your not my type? ive never had a knock back yet so i guess thats why i wonder about this! because plan and simple i cant be everyones cup off tea "

Ah, sorry then I read your post wrong.

I am guessing you were their cup of tea for them to mail you asking for a meet in the first place.

I know the other half wouldn't go with just anyone if we were into swopping, he would have to fancy them , but I am also guessing there are a few men about who would think as long as they had a pussy and a mouth, who cares

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I’ve known plenty of women say that on sites like this the shortage of women gives them the advantage to ‘punch above their weight’… in other words , fuck guys they feel they wouldn’t normally be able to attract in a pub or wherever. This being the case, it must also mean the guys are ‘punching below their weight’. However, the ladies are not always happy to have the flip side of the coin shown to them. But really… who cares as long as everyone gets what they want and respects the people they get it from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my own personal opinion.. whilst spending a full night with a woman is not always an option.. i wouldn't lower my standards to someone i wouldn't be happy waking up next to next morning.. so there has to be a physical attraction.. and that certain spark too.. sex is fun.. for enjoyment.. got to be able to enjoy each others company.. and have a laugh. soooo can't do serious sex..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course they do, some want Miss World with the body to match, some want a personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we go for quality not quantity x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer a mental spark or attraction over a physical attraction and as a result, I don't have a particular type. Having said that, I have gone on meets where there was little attraction on my part, but the anticipation and lust/sexual tension have led to a physical encounter. And yes I have been on meets where it has purely been for a shag! (Or a warm wank, as it was put)! Needless to say, these particular meets would rarely feature if I had to compile a list of my best ever. Whereas the meetings where there has been a mental connection would certainly up at the top!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not that shallow when it comes to a girls physicality. Usually I do like a girl to be passably attrative but then there are those woman who stimulate your mind so much that their looks aren't so important and invaribly end up stimulating your loins.

I had a casual fling with just such a woman. She was slightly older than my self and with the deepest respect she wasn't very pretty. But she did have a wonderful personality and was pretty intelligent. Strangely enough she kind of had a nice smile as well which i wouldn't have expected.

The great thing was we could have passionate sex together and talk afterwards. There was nothing truly romantic in it all obviously but it was nice to be able to have sex with someone and then not feel like you wanted to role over and go to sleep. It made the experience all the m ore anjoyable. We eventually parted company and have lost touch since but i did have a wonderful time with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i just really wondered about this guys, does it really matter to you what a girl looks like? or you just happy to get a meet?

That is the misconception people on here have, 1000s of single men, they will shag anyone that happens to send them a wink or message.

Ofcourse it matters what the girl looks like.We are single not desperate. "

Excellent post... single does not equate desperate any more than couple would equate being in the power-up position.

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