FabSwingers.com forum: partys dont go if you dont know any one

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi we went to our first party and if you dont know any one ie {newbies} dont listen to the reports ppl are fickle they put the good things any one else had a bad party or club visit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went to a party not knowing anyone at all other than the emails exchanged with the host. Had a great time, got invited back for another and subsequently got an invite to yet another venue.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained and faint heart never won fair lady!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really depends upon your own attitude to others ... if you join in you will be accepted, but if you sit back and expect everyone to come running to you - it won't happen.

An example - we went to a social, a few years ago now when we were just branching into this lifestyle. We didn't know anyone except for a banter on the forums, a few messages etc etc. We got to the venue, had a mooch around, joined in with the banter and we had no problems being accepted.

Now on the other hand, another couple who attended the same social sat on a seperate table, never spoke to anyone, never joined in with anything then after everyone went home, slagged the whole thing off in the forums claiming that they had been left out and it was cliquey, and all the rest of it ..

You get out as much as you put in ..

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By *teve_SoleilCouple
over a year ago

Malaysia

That depends actually...we went to a newbies party...where most are newbies and you can couples only talking to each other...we tried talking to them but well...didn't get too much...maybe everyone is still nervous..:D...but when the playroom starts filling up...no talking...just actions..:D...

I agree you should be putting something out for people...but sometimes experienced members should make the newbies feel welcomed...:D

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"It really depends upon your own attitude to others ... if you join in you will be accepted, but if you sit back and expect everyone to come running to you - it won't happen.

You get out as much as you put in .."

Couldnt agree more, i went to a bbq three years ago (you know who you are) i had spoken to people that where going via forums but only actually knew one person there. Well if it wasnt for that bbq i wouldnt be here todayxxkaren

I have alot to thank my dear friend forxxkarenx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That depends actually...we went to a newbies party...where most are newbies and you can couples only talking to each other...we tried talking to them but well...didn't get too much...maybe everyone is still nervous..:D...but when the playroom starts filling up...no talking...just actions..:D...

I agree you should be putting something out for people...but sometimes experienced members should make the newbies feel welcomed...:D"

As we've said - it depends on your attitude towards other people ... experienced members will always make newbies feel welcome, but the newbie also has to make a contribution ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first party i went to was something of a suprise.

I went with my at the time girlfriend and another girl we both knew.

It was a great party, hosted by a once prominent swinging couple (for anyone who knew them) and they made us all very welcome, as did most of the people we met.

However, another female friend of mine acted like a total stranger, and had her own little clique of friends who all seemed to try to make us feel unwelcome. She later apologised and said it was just because we were unknown.

Seemed weird that the only person i knew was the only one that made me feel unwelcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never been to a party despite being a swinger for about 5 years, have to admit being somewhat nervous about a party but still keen, but can remember being nervous on first swinging meet!

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"never been to a party despite being a swinger for about 5 years, have to admit being somewhat nervous about a party but still keen, but can remember being nervous on first swinging meet!"

We had only been to clubs, untill lastnigt, we went to a great party, (though we dd know a few of guests already from chams) Was great night wiggles is still smiling, even after a 4hr trip home..

We even met some new friends and are looking forward to more now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a combination of a great host and newbies making the effort also.

A team effort if you like.

No way would i have had anyone sat on their own or in a corner at my parties.

Just wasnt allowed.

party games are a good way of breaking the ice etc.

And we sure had a few of them .lmao

I do miss them actually and maybe ...just maybe may have another.?

who knows ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to a couple of parties, mostly knowing just one or no couples at all.. As anyone who knows us knows were the shy retiring types but seem to always have a good time when were there... Just a few games etc its usually been fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've been to loads of parties, some where i hav'nt know anyone, some where i have, always had a good time, not always played but thats how it goes, but i don't class no sex as a bad night

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

"hi we went to our first party and if you dont know any one ie {newbies} dont listen to the reports ppl are fickle they put the good things any one else had a bad party or club visit?

I was invited to my first party and did not know any one who was there,

but was met at the door by the hostes

with a kiss and then introdused to every one after chating for a while we all went in the hot tub next thing i had two ladies playing with me and the night just got better

I have been invited back a few times now with different couples there and every one is made welcome

so get your self there and enjoy your self i certanly do

I know the hosts read these posts so thanks for a great time

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

"hi we went to our first party and if you dont know any one ie {newbies} dont listen to the reports ppl are fickle they put the good things any one else had a bad party or club visit?

I was invited to my first party and did not know any one who was there,

but was met at the door by the hostes

with a kiss and then introdused to every one after chating for a while we all went in the hot tub next thing i had two ladies playing with me and the night just got better

I have been invited back a few times now with different couples there and every one is made welcome

so get your self there and enjoy your self i certanly do

I know the hosts read these posts so thanks for a great time

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Well yes we think it is down to how you organise the party (if you are hosts) one rule we have is that anyone coming does *not* know everyone else already.... we like to make it a mixture picked from old friends and new faces - that way it can't ever be cliquey (is that how to speell it? lol) plus it always keeps it fresh and exciting

xxxxx

J&R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi paulsam dont be put off if youre new to swinging its verry hard to relax with strangers the first time but keep going and you will becom more relaxed in the company of strangers .try just getting horny and putting a show on as the saying goes the squeeky wheel gets the grees

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By *aughtyNurse999Woman
over a year ago

Fabville !!!

The parties we have been to have been great, but as said previously you need to make the effort speak to people, socialise, or as we say at work "network" lol. Find out if you have anything in common that can break the ice. Have to say though we have been to a couple of socials and left early, having made a great effort, but only for it to be "them and us" so that's why we avoid socials. We felt out of place and it was embarassing.

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