FabSwingers.com forum: advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you had to give one piece of advice to a single male on this site, what would it be?

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Don't have a cock pic as your avatar x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't waste time messaging endless people that clearly state on their profiles that you don't have what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a strong back bone and take nothing personally coz women can be bitches..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get used to the knockbacks and respect everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read profiles in full!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't expect a reply to any message

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

dont ask for advice, you will always get contradicting messages. do what is right for you in terms of your profile and pics etc

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"dont ask for advice, you will always get contradicting messages. do what is right for you in terms of your profile and pics etc"

beat me to it!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"dont ask for advice, you will always get contradicting messages. do what is right for you in terms of your profile and pics etc

beat me to it!"

call me quick draw McGraw

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"dont ask for advice, you will always get contradicting messages. do what is right for you in terms of your profile and pics etc

beat me to it!

call me quick draw McGraw

Only if you ask nicely

. Do you remember Quick Draw McGraw...well obviously you do...I'll get me coat

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Don't waste your time that could be spent on Fabbing pics by bothering to message any Females or Couples... If they want you they will get in touch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't write whiny status' or forum posts about not getting meets when you have made no effort on your profile to sell yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont message me !!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't waste time messaging endless people that clearly state on their profiles that you don't have what they want

Simply this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you message a couple, remember there are two people in their relationship.

Having the decency to at least acknowledge the male half goes a long way. After all .... he may share his wife with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read profile before sending messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have learnt to smile when get rejected and i feel the more negatives i get the more i am close to meeting someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't worry, there are plenty of other 'straight' men who can't get any action and made do with each other lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol wear suncreen .... Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get used to the knockbacks and respect everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't write whiny status' or forum posts about not getting meets when you have made no effort on your profile to sell yourself"

Don't even if you have put an effort into your profile

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Be yourself, if you try and create a fake persona it will show in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the profile, read it again and when you choose to ignore the part about being uninterested in single men and decide to message anyway, heed the big red warning that flashes up on the screen reminding you that they're not interested in you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read profiles fully and if they are not interested leave them alone .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a fucking partner.....this is a swingers (with an s on the end) site not a "looking for sex" site!

Rant over!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Sex on here is an add on to your existing sex life.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

if u get to say 4 or 5 months without getting verified delete account and make another folks will think your never going to actually meet

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Read the profile fully and properly. Most single guys seem to think that just looking at the pics is reading the profile. It's not.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Be articulate and polite and don't use txt speak.

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By *ector BrocklebankMan
over a year ago

a wee place south of Glasgow

The three "P's.

Patience, patience, patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't wink or message straight guys to suck their cocks!!!!!

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton

Advice for the poor single guy.....

Don't smoke crack, and don't lie

Read the profile

Take rejection, and smile

And don't give a bareback creampie.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Concentrate on the chatrooms / socials / parties - treat the messaging system as an add-on and don't EVER look at your "sent items".

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By *ickomxxxMan
over a year ago

Cornwall

ABC---

Assume nothing

Believe nobody

Check everything!

Good luck....

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"If you had to give one piece of advice to a single male on this site, what would it be?"

leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't kid yourself that a profile on here makes you a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't shy away from your preferences, be honest in your likes and dislikes and what you are looking for. You'll eliminate the majority but be far more appealing to the minority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you had to give one piece of advice to a single male on this site, what would it be?"

Be honest with people and don't make assumptions rather than asking for clarification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't tell me I'm beautiful when you have only seen my tits and stocking tops !!!!!!

be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't shy away from your preferences, be honest in your likes and dislikes and what you are looking for. You'll eliminate the majority but be far more appealing to the minority. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

treat every profile as individual.

copy n paste rarely gets anyone far

and, as has been said, ensure you are at least at the outer limits of what people are looking for.

if someone is looking for BBC, dont message saying you have a small white willy, you wont like the knockback

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By *spot50Man
over a year ago

rochester

Wear a vest in winter, and be polite& patient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"don't tell me I'm beautiful when you have only seen my tits and stocking tops !!!!!!

be honest

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Put enough information (written and pictoral) in your profile so I can actually get some sense of you when deciding whether or not to reply, and write at least a couple of lines, just for me.

Be honest - the first petty lie turns me off like a light.

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

Avoid white metal investment for the next couple of years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wear a vest in winter, and be polite& patient"

Don't forget always wear clean undies and have a cotton handkerchief

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Avoid white metal investment for the next couple of years.

Hahaha!

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Get a fucking partner.....this is a swingers (with an s on the end) site not a "looking for sex" site!

Rant over!

Just wondering, would you give the same advice to single girls?

The only advice I have for single guys is let your profile & pics reflect your personality, most girls & couples want to meet a person, not just a cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

start by visiting clubs

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

don't think by just being on here you are owed anything in the way of sex, meets, or replies!

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

"If you had to give one piece of advice to a single male on this site, what would it be?"

too many answers to read through them all so if its already been said, I apologise, but my advice is... dont appear to be desparate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When messaging a couple make sure you address both of them and not just the female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get a fucking partner.....this is a swingers (with an s on the end) site not a "looking for sex" site!

Rant over!

Swinging can be whatever you make of it, not JUST exclusively for couples or else how do MMF happen

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

"Get a fucking partner.....this is a swingers (with an s on the end) site not a "looking for sex" site!

Rant over!

A quick 'browse' shows that there are many couples seeking single males. This swingers site caters for this.

The OP as a single person wants to meet those Fab couples, as do I ... erm with the exception of one couple now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you had to give one piece of advice to a single male on this site, what would it be?"

Lots of patience and understanding.I think the perception of swinging and swingers is that its all casual fun. The reality is that most people really aren't as casual as they may think they are. This isn't a personal dig, or a criticism of anyone. We are as guilty as most. Try to be very realistic in your expectations. We are all human and therefore we all disappoint at times. I think some people set their sights too high also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get a fucking partner.....this is a swingers (with an s on the end) site not a "looking for sex" site!

Rant over!

May I respectfully ask why a single guy shouldn't offer his services on a swingers site ? There are couples and ladies who are looking to be joined by guys. Not many, I grant you, but when we were active, we sought guys. If the site had been for couples only, we wouldn't be here. I understand that's no loss to anyone. Just my honest opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go fuck yourself!

Oh wait. If we could do that we wouldn't need to be on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get a fucking partner.....this is a swingers (with an s on the end) site not a "looking for sex" site!

Rant over!

Swinging can be whatever you make of it, not JUST exclusively for couples or else how do MMF happen

Our _iew entirely

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Don't lie on your profile. If I read that you love giving oral, are in fact the NE UK Champion two years running at giving oral, then we meet and you tell me you don't enjoy giving oral, I will be a tad upset.

Read the profile. Then read it again. In fact do 'ctrl f' and check whether your likes come up. If they don't, don't send a message.

Do not assume sending a wink means someone will message you.

Do not get huffy if you have messaged someone even though you don't match their desirables, and they don't reply.

Above all, keep a sense of perspective. It's sex, not oxygen or food. You don't *need* it.

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Perseverance pays.

You will only get out of here what you are prepared to put in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont message me !!!!!!!"

Hehehehehe!!!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Dinosaur cock shots. It's the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get a fucking partner.....this is a swingers (with an s on the end) site not a "looking for sex" site!

Rant over!

very narrow minded _iew!

Id say the majority of profiles are looking for singles, whether that be male or female. Just because you aren't doesn't mean singles should be banned. I assume that your statement includes women too.

I do agree that just because a single person (male or female) is on a swinging site that it doesn't make them a 'swinger'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get a fucking partner.....this is a swingers (with an s on the end) site not a "looking for sex" site!

Rant over!

The S is plural as in more than one swinger not the number of people in the profile that are looking. And since when has swinging been a couples only pass time ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get used to be treated like shit lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Be yourself at all times

2. Never lower your standards just for a fuck, any hole isn't a goal

3. Be polite

4. Accept rejection gracefully

5. Enjoy

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Don't let other members treat you like shit. You've as much right to be here as they do.

Don't drive 100s of miles for a meet in a carpark at 2.30am. It's either a bloke or a wind-up.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Don't let other members treat you like shit. You've as much right to be here as they do.

Don't drive 100s of miles for a meet in a carpark at 2.30am. It's either a bloke or a wind-up."

Unless you don't mind meeting blokes at 2.30am in a carpark of course!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Read profiles properly and don't send a one line message.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Get a fucking partner.....this is a swingers (with an s on the end) site not a "looking for sex" site!

Rant over!

Would you say the same to single females?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Be yourself at all times

2. Never lower your standards just for a fuck, any hole isn't a goal

3. Be polite

4. Accept rejection gracefully

5. Enjoy"

6. Don't send an unsolicited picture of your cock to anyone, ever.

7. If it seems too good to be true, it will be.

8. There are very few 19 year old blonde Russian gymnastic twins on here....so treat what people tell you with a pinch of salt.

9. Give clubs and socials a try....great way to meet people & a lot more interesting then looking at a computer screen day in day out.

10. When you get a meet, be freshly showered and smelling nice, it can be the difference between a one off or regular fun.

Good luck & enjoy the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get firsties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a strong back bone and take nothing personally coz women can be bitches..lol

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont post threads like

"Why wont anyone meet me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get a fucking partner.....this is a swingers (with an s on the end) site not a "looking for sex" site!

Rant over!

Oh ok then. So you as a couple aren't looking for sex? Sadly you're so typical of too many holier than thou couples. Must be nice up on your cloud.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself, look for what you want, have your profile and pics how you want them and don't bow down to anyone else.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"Get a fucking partner.....this is a swingers (with an s on the end) site not a "looking for sex" site!

Rant over!

Oh well anyone looking for a mmf is going to struggle now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look up what all the acronyms mean lol

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