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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it us or us manners out the window a simple no thanks.your not my type would be good we make the effort to message first.... Is there anything wring.with pics or profile btw

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is**

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you asked the same question 5 weeks ago, and every thread you start seems to be about people negative opinions of yourselves.

_abio always says negativity breeds negativity, so maybe you are just purely giving off the wrong signals when you are messaging people.

you look fine, maybe its what people cant see thats turning them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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_abio always says negativity breeds negativity, so maybe you are just purely giving off the wrong signals when you are messaging people."

Like attracts like

But not replying is nothing to do with manners.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

No reply = no thanks.

Check the site FAQ it's even in there!!

I don't see how an inbox full of no thanks will make anyone happier!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

_abio always says negativity breeds negativity, so maybe you are just purely giving off the wrong signals when you are messaging people.

Like attracts like

But not replying is nothing to do with manners."

this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well yeah it is a simple no thanks is that not manners??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No there is nothing wrong with pics but i agree some people on here have no manners i was on here for 5 years and left becouse i met someone it diddnt work out so i came back for my sins and how some apeople talk to people on here its unreal i treat people how i like to be treated myself just not everyone is not the same

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Taken from site FAQ

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If people message me i always say thanks for intrest but sorry your not our type good luck tho xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well yeah it is a simple no thanks is that not manners??"

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well yeah it is a simple no thanks is that not manners??"

OK

i have a few messages aday i mean under 100

if they dont read my profile they dont get a reply

if they have a one line message they dont get a reply

or do u expect me to answer all these when they could think they have a chance or get abuse when i say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it mgiht not be the pics or the profile but the messages your sending.

are they generic copy paste ones, or are they tailored to the profile? more than one line long?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"If people message me i always say thanks for intrest but sorry your not our type good luck tho xx"

Good for you.

Not everyone does though. As the site FAQs state, no reply is a no. Send your message, then delete your sent message box so you're not checking it every 5 mins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have had to have a 10 message conversation with someone we said no thank you to on the first reply.

we always try and say thanks, but no thanks, but some just need to keep asking, so it really is much easier to delete and move on.

maybe you are messaging the wrong people.

are you certain you ft the criteria of those you message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If people message me i always say thanks for intrest but sorry your not our type good luck tho xx"

Good for you.

And we reply to some messages from people that we aren't interested in if they have clearly taken some time. But I have better things to do with my time than reply to some of the crap we receive from people who if they bothered to read our profile would realise that we are never going to be compatible or from people that send shit messages that took zero effort.

But what I really hate is people questioning my manners and telling me how I should act just because their neediness and/or sense of entitlement means that they feel that they automatically deserve a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The key is to maintain one's own manners, and not worry too much about others(lack) of them

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Well yeah it is a simple no thanks is that not manners??"

since my name has been brought up... here, have another "_abio-ism".....

"until they answer back... treat every mail as a no thanks..... "

people dont have to answer back... do you answer back to every cold call or piece on junk mail.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well yeah it is a simple no thanks is that not manners??

OK

i have a few messages aday i mean under 100

if they dont read my profile they dont get a reply

if they have a one line message they dont get a reply

or do u expect me to answer all these when they could think they have a chance or get abuse when i say no thanks

"

I agree with this. If you reply to all those messages you'd never have time for the people you really want to message back!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well yeah it is a simple no thanks is that not manners??

since my name has been brought up... here, have another "_abio-ism".....

"until they answer back... treat every mail as a no thanks..... "

people dont have to answer back... do you answer back to every cold call or piece on junk mail......."

love you man! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The key is to maintain one's own manners, and not worry too much about others(lack) of them "

you say a lack of manners, but lets be realistic.

ok, someone doesnt reply. no manners?

someone replies, but tells you to fuck off! is this more mannerly then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it us or us manners out the window a simple no thanks.your not my type would be good we make the effort to message first.... Is there anything wring.with pics or profile btw"

I agree manners cost nothing , they seem to not exist here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are lacking in "manners", are they really the people you wish to meet?

Guess the answer would be a no - so why are you getting so upset?

Its looks very needy and sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FAQ on here......

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im not upset needy or sad at all lol on top of the world actually but just asking thats all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not upset needy or sad at all lol on top of the world actually but just asking thats all x"

so do you thanks but no thanks every message you get?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not the ones intrested in xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

profile pics wise, yes...really only because the male half isnt really trying to impress.not sounding horrible or anything but delete the female pics and I would see the struggle for any interest..that is NOT me saying there IS anything wrong with the male half...just the pics have no allure.Perhaps you both need to try getting some together...dirty ones lol

or have a wee skinny brown scotsman to come down n take some pics while shagging him....thats the best part of my whole advice rant

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By *ach3Man
over a year ago

Watford

Agree with general thread, pics / profile are good and you've got good feedback. However you look as if your searching mainly for the almost mythical bi single female, which presumably needs to be of similar size build as yourselves - your turn will come but there may be dry spells in between.

As for lack of manners, whilst I am happy to reply a no thanks when required - having experienced a couples profile I can only imagine the sheer volume that single females get.

Swinging is supposed to be fun, enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you x

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By *cejasMan
over a year ago

CANNOCK


"No there is nothing wrong with pics but i agree some people on here have no manners i was on here for 5 years and left becouse i met someone it diddnt work out so i came back for my sins and how some apeople talk to people on here its unreal i treat people how i like to be treated myself just not everyone is not the same"

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By *cejasMan
over a year ago

CANNOCK


"No there is nothing wrong with pics but i agree some people on here have no manners i was on here for 5 years and left becouse i met someone it diddnt work out so i came back for my sins and how some apeople talk to people on here its unreal i treat people how i like to be treated myself just not everyone is not the same"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its peoples choice if they reply or not we don't promise to reply to all and defiantly don't expect it sometimes no reply is better in our opinion as a no thanks just wasted time in opening and deleting.

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By *anglefootedMan
over a year ago

northampton


"The key is to maintain one's own manners, and not worry too much about others(lack) of them "

What a sensible reply! You hit the nail on the head!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Its peoples choice if they reply or not we don't promise to reply to all and defiantly don't expect it sometimes no reply is better in our opinion as a no thanks just wasted time in opening and deleting. "

This

I would prefer to get no reply than log on, see new messages in my inbox, think 'yay' only to find they are rejections!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i Message a Couple then the least i Expect is a Sympathy Shag and anything less means they are Bad Mannered Chavs

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