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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you.

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By *unwithus2.Couple
over a year ago

south kent

i would tell him to sling his hook lol

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you. "

It's not what others find acceptable, it's what you're willing to accept.

People will only treat you how you allow them to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i would tell him to sling his hook lol "

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Confronted him and his answer was i know i can meet you anytime. I dont think so im nobodys fool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Knob!!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Wow! I think you know the asnwer to this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you.

It's not what others find acceptable, it's what you're willing to accept.

People will only treat you how you allow them to. "

This

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By *LCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

That's awful. I'd definetly tell him "he used to be able to meet you".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's awful. I'd definetly tell him "he used to be able to meet you". "

Some friend! What's worse than the pig ignorant complacency, is the lie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you.

It's not what others find acceptable, it's what you're willing to accept.

People will only treat you how you allow them to. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he sounds a complete ass, you're better off without him ~ go find someone else to have fun with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confronted him and his answer was i know i can meet you anytime. I dont think so im nobodys fool "

He's an absolute fool. Sorry, on behalf of my species!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you.

It's not what others find acceptable, it's what you're willing to accept.

People will only treat you how you allow them to. "

This is so true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame on him! The arrogance is astonishing.

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By *ector BrocklebankMan
over a year ago

a wee place south of Glasgow


" It's not what others find acceptable, it's what you're willing to accept.

People will only treat you how you allow them to. "

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By *oung-dreamCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

Same kind of thing happened with our male fuck buddy we had always invited him first when we was looking for a meet and thought he would do the same but no he told us he was busy with his partner and then we found out he had met another couple instead!

Needless to say he is no longer our fuck buddy! It's never nice to be put second best when you make someone your first choice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confronted him and his answer was i know i can meet you anytime. I dont think so im nobodys fool "

I think you have answered your own question. He believes you are there as and when he wants you. I'd not meet him anymore. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is quite commonplace for members of this site to let people down. It is very different to how it once was! Integrity is not prevailant now from my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Super glue and a cork u know the rest x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Superglue and a cork u know the rest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick to not meeting him because if he does it once he,ll do it again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's taking you for granted. You know what to do xx

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Very inconsiderate and disrespectful. No doubt after this he would be gone as has been advised already. No one needs people like this in their lives.

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton

The cheek of the man! What a snake.

Some large bricks and the depths of a lake....

Or a slap round the head

(Or the bollocks instead)

With a haddock, or maybe a hake.....

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"i would tell him to sling his hook lol "

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meetings a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you.

It's not what others find acceptable, it's what

you're willing to accept. Agreed

People will only treat you how you allow them to. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same kind of thing happened with our male fuck buddy we had always invited him first when we was looking for a meet and thought he would do the same but no he told us he was busy with his partner and then we found out he had met another couple instead!

Needless to say he is no longer our fuck buddy! It's never nice to be put second best when you make someone your first choice x"

Errr from.the sounds of that he'd already arranged the meet before you asked him, an just told you he was doing something other than meeting.

Even of he'd told you it sounds like you were expecting him to cancel his meet to see you instead :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

trouble is on here its rare that people are honest. regular fun with someone is hard to find..many say they want it yet when they can have it they dont.doesnt matter what someone says as is easy for them just move on and meet someone else. how they leave a person feeling doesnt matter to them.

I cancelled a meet with someone i see regular but that was due to work. i know id let them down bigtime as they go out there way and buy drink etc in. i sorted it out though and made it up to them asap and we still good friends today. 2 years later. we have reg fun but meet new people inbetween.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you.

It's not what others find acceptable, it's what you're willing to accept.

People will only treat you how you allow them to. "
well said xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you. "
And next time he ask you to meet what you say to him ??????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you. And next time he ask you to meet what you say to him ??????????"

Say yes, then cancel at the last minute for someone else

Then tell him to do one.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Well I think that definately puts him in the Not Meeting Again file

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By *latharerMan
over a year ago

Glasgow CC


"Confronted him and his answer was i know i can meet you anytime. I dont think so im nobodys fool

He's an absolute fool. Sorry, on behalf of my species!"

I totally agree !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you. And next time he ask you to meet what you say to him ??????????

Say yes, then cancel at the last minute for someone else

Then tell him to do one. "
wow I did not think of that xx yes she could do that .. let him feel how she was made to feel let down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confronted him and his answer was i know i can meet you anytime. I dont think so im nobodys fool "

Hope you corrected him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Say yes, then cancel at the last minute for someone else

Then tell him to do one. "

oh i like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Say yes, then cancel at the last minute for someone else

Then tell him to do one.

oh i like that "

Its a bit immature but some people need to learn how it feels x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty more fish in the sea, move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you. "

Id just say two words to them.The second of which is 'Off!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Say yes, then cancel at the last minute for someone else

Then tell him to do one.

oh i like that

Its a bit immature but some people need to learn how it feels x"

That could backfire as he could do it again. Or simply not give a shit.

The safest bet is to tell him to go fly a kite.

If she really wants to play him then she should get him to apologise by way of lunch/dinner. Then when he goes to touch her, tell him it's been fun but all access is now denied. Kiss him sweetly on the cheek and go home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you guys are talking as if he's cheated on her, he's only a fb. Maybe he was too much of a coward to say he wanted to fuck more than just you or as someone else said had something prearranged on your regular time slot. Yes he should of been honest about it but not many on this site are.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you.

It's not what others find acceptable, it's what you're willing to accept.

People will only treat you how you allow them to. "

Simply: this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confronted him and his answer was i know i can meet you anytime. I dont think so im nobodys fool "

Well form here it looks like you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you guys are talking as if he's cheated on her, he's only a fb. Maybe he was too much of a coward to say he wanted to fuck more than just you or as someone else said had something prearranged on your regular time slot. Yes he should of been honest about it but not many on this site are."

That makes it ok then?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you. And next time he ask you to meet what you say to him ??????????

Say yes, then cancel at the last minute for someone else

Then tell him to do one. "

Childish and pointless: just don't meet and be realistic in your expectations of the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you guys are talking as if he's cheated on her, he's only a fb. Maybe he was too much of a coward to say he wanted to fuck more than just you or as someone else said had something prearranged on your regular time slot. Yes he should of been honest about it but not many on this site are."

We both play with other peple nut this meet had been arranged for a couple of weeks and the couple are very new to the site. I just dont like liars would sooner him say sorry got another meet rather than be deceitful

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Confronted him and his answer was i know i can meet you anytime. I dont think so im nobodys fool

Well form here it looks like you are "

And whys that then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I think that definately puts him in the Not Meeting Again file"

It sure does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

end of the day he wont care..hes had his fun. hes not worth it and can guarentee hes feeling fine and dandy but thats how most guys are!!

(NOT ALL before anyone has a go! as know some are respectful towards others)

If a guy lets someone down intentional or not..they will not even think about you or how u feeling or anything...cause there priority is back on fab to find the next person, if a guy means what they say and does respect you etc they would put it right.

Most who have regular fun/friendship or say they want it will drop u like a ton of bricks at any time even if get on with you. End of day fun or not people do feel let down and have feelings, but just remember guys who act certain ways towards people dont think twice about you...just rise above it as shows what they are like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know this only too well. I'd been chatting, swapping pics and flirting like mad for about 3 weeks. Possible meet one evening but heard nothing - which was ok. Then about midnight read her veri of the meet she had that evening. She passed it off as it was one of her regulars. Then we got to the weekend and arranged to meet. Then she started being mysteriously ill and might not make it. No surprise then 2 days later her status says 'what an amazing horny weekend' and two more veris. I feel a proper mug.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats a well out of order ans I wouldnt stand for it, it shouldnt matter if regular or not if have meet arranged stick to it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people think being friends on here means more than it actually does end of day you both free to meet and screw anyone you wish.

If you ask should he have been upfront yes.

Move on its not real life

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I was let down by my fb before too for another girl. I forgave him though as he was honest about it and I respect that in a person. He did make up for it but I assured him if it ever happened again then I would no longer see him again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Say yes, then cancel at the last minute for someone else

Then tell him to do one.

oh i like that

Its a bit immature but some people need to learn how it feels x"

yeah agree and not worth the effort at the end of the day

but still think it sounds funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people think being friends on here means more than it actually does end of day you both free to meet and screw anyone you wish.

If you ask should he have been upfront yes.

Move on its not real life "

how is it not real life??? so all this meeting people,socialising,sex is imaginary then??

and some people do actualy make friendships even if do have sex...it happens and if people get let down which happens in many different ways it does make someone feel like shit! so to me i do belive its quite real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hit the block button! Simple

Always put your established friends first and plan other meets when you have nothing planned.... It's not rocket science... One key word! Loyalty... goes a long way within the lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confronted him and his answer was i know i can meet you anytime. I dont think so im nobodys fool "

wot a nob.tell him to sling it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people think being friends on here means more than it actually does end of day you both free to meet and screw anyone you wish.

If you ask should he have been upfront yes.

Move on its not real life

how is it not real life??? so all this meeting people,socialising,sex is imaginary then??

and some people do actualy make friendships even if do have sex...it happens and if people get let down which happens in many different ways it does make someone feel like shit! so to me i do belive its quite real."

By real life i mean my day to day normal life family etc is real. Swinging is not part of it as such therefore to me not real life

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you. "

What did you say to the person who messaged you? Did you give him a reference?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you.

What did you say to the person who messaged you? Did you give him a reference? "

No i didnt give him a reference not that silly when someone dies dirty on me like that. Just said i was suprised as he was supposed to have meet with me . It wasnt their fault was it i coulldnt sound off to them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hit the block button! Simple

Always put your established friends first and plan other meets when you have nothing planned.... It's not rocket science... One key word! Loyalty... goes a long way within the lifestyle "

I agree with this loyalty does go a long way and thought thats what we had. But yes i hit the block button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will always have me hun. What a fool to let you down. His loss. His great, great loss xxx

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"Do you it acceptable that you go to the trouble of rearranging your day to meet a regular play friend, only to get a message to say sorry cant meet due to work commitments which is fair enough. Then get a message from a random person asking what this person like as they have a meet with them the same day they have cancelled with you. "

id have said they were rubbish lol hes a knob

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