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Supporting FB through break up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So my long term FB has announced that he's going to break up with his GF. Never been in this situation before.

How will it affect the dynamics of the FB relationship? How can I help him through it? I was happy with the situation as it was before and certainly have no intention of stepping into her shoes.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"So my long term FB has announced that he's going to break up with his GF. Never been in this situation before.

How will it affect the dynamics of the FB relationship? How can I help him through it? I was happy with the situation as it was before and certainly have no intention of stepping into her shoes."

sympathise with you my fb wants to leave his gf but cant

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By *andyblokeMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"So my long term FB has announced that he's going to break up with his GF. Never been in this situation before.

How will it affect the dynamics of the FB relationship? How can I help him through it? I was happy with the situation as it was before and certainly have no intention of stepping into her shoes."

be careful you know him well.. so deep down you know what hes up to....he may be looking to move in!!!

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

will he be looking around now hes a single guy? how would you feel? you need to get rules in place now

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

He will be fine, his choice to split up and if he has been shagging you whilst pretending to her, I doubt he will crumble with a broken heart.

Can't imagine it is anything for you to worry about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So my long term FB has announced that he's going to break up with his GF. Never been in this situation before.

How will it affect the dynamics of the FB relationship? How can I help him through it? I was happy with the situation as it was before and certainly have no intention of stepping into her shoes.

be careful you know him well.. so deep down you know what hes up to....he may be looking to move in!!! "

Ha no chance! Want to just keep it fun but be supportive. Do I give him space? Shoulder to cry on? All feels a bit strange. Yes he will be looking for someone else. We've always been open about what we want. Setting rules sounds like good advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't anymore than the current FB situation I would make it clear now. Or you could be in for grief later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*Want

Does the soon to be ex know you are comforting him?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

He's a man. Tell him straight. You're sorry and all but you're fuck buddies and he ain't moving in and you're not a girlfriend. But come round for some sex. He needs to be told. Don't assume he will know what's what at this stage.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"*Want

Does the soon to be ex know you are comforting him?"

Definitely not. I was on the scene before her and I have always been clear its just fun for me. When they first got together I said we should stop our arrangement so they could grow as a couple. He didn't want to. Good to get a male and female perspective on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He will be fine, his choice to split up and if he has been shagging you whilst pretending to her, I doubt he will crumble with a broken heart.

Can't imagine it is anything for you to worry about.

"

This. If he's been cheating on her the whole time I doubt he cares much anyway.

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow


" If he's been cheating on her the whole time I doubt he cares much anyway."

Totally agree.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Possible dumb question but....

....does his gf know about you? I haven't read the thread but it's the first question that came into my head.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He will be fine, his choice to split up and if he has been shagging you whilst pretending to her, I doubt he will crumble with a broken heart.

Can't imagine it is anything for you to worry about.

This. If he's been cheating on her the whole time I doubt he cares much anyway."

Yeh I thought that and have said as much (don't know whether its my place to tho)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Possible dumb question but....

....does his gf know about you? I haven't read the thread but it's the first question that came into my head. "

No she doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op...sort of understand your situation. ..my only advice, and I hope this helps you is.....be supportive if you want to....but choose your words very very carefully. .. .especially if you communicate through text......dont give him the chance to read too much into what you have together and where you want it to go.....

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Possible dumb question but....

....does his gf know about you? I haven't read the thread but it's the first question that came into my head.

No she doesn't. "

In that case i think he'll be fine and not need any support

He may miss the emotional part of a relationship but it is him who's breaking up with her so his own choice. I don't see why it should affect your dynamics as you aren't 'stepping in to her shoes' unless your fb has fallen for you and wants more. Then you will have issues especially if you aren't in the same position!!

Good luck with that tricky one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everybody. You all have your wise heads on tonight! Doubt he wants more from me so hopefully things won't change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" If he's been cheating on her the whole time I doubt he cares much anyway.

Totally agree."

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" If he's been cheating on her the whole time I doubt he cares much anyway.

Totally agree.

+1"

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By *obroyman17Man
over a year ago

Now that he has more free time will he be looking for more frequent meets with you, you need to think if you want to see him more and if not make him aware that your happy with the current frequency of your meets

Let him look to you for the support rather than you supporting him, that way you will see what he needs from you and then you can decide how to deal with it.

She will most likely need more support than him!!

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