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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do guys feel the need to abuse you when you say no thanks at least I have the curtesy to reply then single guys wonder why use single girls just delete the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because how dare a woman on a site like this say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respond, block and delete, this way, there is no come back.

Harsh, however, it works.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh yes Cali I forgot we got no self respect being on a site like this xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

If someone sends you an abusive message, report it and let Admin deal with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some blokes are just plain bellends who cant cope with rejection....after all we are all gods gift to women

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Oh yes Cali I forgot we got no self respect being on a site like this xxxx "

No you do have self respect to be on here and all more balls (or confidence) then some men.

Personally i think it's the Spurs scarf that gets a bad reaction

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh yes Cali I forgot we got no self respect being on a site like this xxxx

No you do have self respect to be on here and all more balls (or confidence) then some men.

Personally i think it's the Spurs scarf that gets a bad reaction "

Whatever I dint put him off messaging me in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a polite brush off, I will always send one more message to thank them for coming back to me and wish them happy hunting. it is rare for ladies to take the trouble, and speaking to my female fbs I really do appreciate the volume of messages that come through and the tendency of some men to treat ANY message as a 'crack in the door' to try and wedge their feet in.

Gentlemen, the truth is that the odds are stacked against us. We do the running for the most part. A gracious response to a thanks but no thanks message will encourage their use and reduce the numbers of messages that just get deleted into the ether!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After a polite brush off, I will always send one more message to thank them for coming back to me and wish them happy hunting. it is rare for ladies to take the trouble, and speaking to my female fbs I really do appreciate the volume of messages that come through and the tendency of some men to treat ANY message as a 'crack in the door' to try and wedge their feet in.

Gentlemen, the truth is that the odds are stacked against us. We do the running for the most part. A gracious response to a thanks but no thanks message will encourage their use and reduce the numbers of messages that just get deleted into the ether!

Well said and when the first message is I would fuck u all over goes as far as my bin lol

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand many people on this site. Whatever you say or suggest is wrong. I personally read the profile to make sure we match, then I tailor an erudite and witty message and get nothing but a delete. I've commented before that I may as well send a cock pic and 'fancy a fuck' for very all the good it fits like does me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A absolutely love your taste in football teams and now we get to knock arsenal out of the cup, kind of hope this doesn't backfire!

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

It's about time you all realised you are all just on here to fuck absolutley any and every guy who messages you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's about time you all realised you are all just on here to fuck absolutley any and every guy who messages you "

+1

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"It's about time you all realised you are all just on here to fuck absolutley any and every guy who messages you "

Woohoo!!! I have a chance

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Oh yes Cali I forgot we got no self respect being on a site like this xxxx

No you do have self respect to be on here and all more balls (or confidence) then some men.

Personally i think it's the Spurs scarf that gets a bad reaction

Whatever I dint put him off messaging me in the first place"

It was a poor attempt at lightening the mood of the thread

Epic Comedy Fail

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh yes Cali I forgot we got no self respect being on a site like this xxxx

No you do have self respect to be on here and all more balls (or confidence) then some men.

Personally i think it's the Spurs scarf that gets a bad reaction

Whatever I dint put him off messaging me in the first place

It was a poor attempt at lightening the mood of the thread

Epic Comedy Fail "
epic fail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So true some guys need to realize that this is an adult site, not a school playground! Respect is a two way street, unfortunately some men think they are special when they are not, no one is attracted to every single person, the words no thanks get used, deal with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So true some guys need to realize that this is an adult site, not a school playground! Respect is a two way street, unfortunately some men think they are special when they are not, no one is attracted to every single person, the words no thanks get used, deal with it "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So true some guys need to realize that this is an adult site, not a school playground! Respect is a two way street, unfortunately some men think they are special when they are not, no one is attracted to every single person, the words no thanks get used, deal with it "
I agree some do think there all it don't they lol xx x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all guys are idiots, but yes a lot of guys can't take rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone sends you an abusive message, report it and let Admin deal with it"

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Oh yes Cali I forgot we got no self respect being on a site like this xxxx

No you do have self respect to be on here and all more balls (or confidence) then some men.

Personally i think it's the Spurs scarf that gets a bad reaction

Whatever I dint put him off messaging me in the first place

It was a poor attempt at lightening the mood of the thread

Epic Comedy Fail

epic fail "

Ah sod it - come on arsenal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So true some guys need to realize that this is an adult site, not a school playground! Respect is a two way street, unfortunately some men think they are special when they are not, no one is attracted to every single person, the words no thanks get used, deal with it I agree some do think there all it don't they lol xx x"

Didn't hear any complaints Friday xxx

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Abusive messages are actually not just the domain of single men - women and couples have their moments too...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh yes Cali I forgot we got no self respect being on a site like this xxxx

No you do have self respect to be on here and all more balls (or confidence) then some men.

Personally i think it's the Spurs scarf that gets a bad reaction

Whatever I dint put him off messaging me in the first place

It was a poor attempt at lightening the mood of the thread

Epic Comedy Fail

epic fail

Ah sod it - come on arsenal "
the playground opens tomorrow morning

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So true some guys need to realize that this is an adult site, not a school playground! Respect is a two way street, unfortunately some men think they are special when they are not, no one is attracted to every single person, the words no thanks get used, deal with it I agree some do think there all it don't they lol xx x

Didn't hear any complaints Friday xxx"
i was moaning all the time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So true some guys need to realize that this is an adult site, not a school playground! Respect is a two way street, unfortunately some men think they are special when they are not, no one is attracted to every single person, the words no thanks get used, deal with it I agree some do think there all it don't they lol xx x

Didn't hear any complaints Friday xxxi was moaning all the time lol "

That is very true I'll bring my snorkel and flippers next time xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say no thanks all the time,never had abuse just message deleted or polite message saying thanks for reply

Not all men are abusive,ive found men to be very polite on this site

I've seen more keyboard warriors in the forums,that can be males,female or couples

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So true some guys need to realize that this is an adult site, not a school playground! Respect is a two way street, unfortunately some men think they are special when they are not, no one is attracted to every single person, the words no thanks get used, deal with it I agree some do think there all it don't they lol xx x

Didn't hear any complaints Friday xxxi was moaning all the time lol

That is very true I'll bring my snorkel and flippers next time xx "

Who says there's a next time well the abuse you give me hey xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And why I'm on a rant why just add as a friend without a message get a grip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And why I'm on a rant why just add as a friend without a message get a grip "

I don't get this, no one can just add you as a friend. You have to physically accept the request first. If you mean send a request without messaging then they are easy to ignore and as long as you don't delete they can't send another.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And why I'm on a rant why just add as a friend without a message get a grip

I don't get this, no one can just add you as a friend. You have to physically accept the request first. If you mean send a request without messaging then they are easy to ignore and as long as you don't delete they can't send another. "
thats what I do just saying why send the request in the first place without saying hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

although i appreciate the fact that some men are this way it also needs to be understood some WOMEN are also. If they are rude just block, it seems to me that when a guy posts a topic like this he is rounded on and told to grow up as a general rule, but when a woman posts it men are rounded on and told to grow up...PEOPLE need to grow up, perhaps in the same way that understanding women are not here to fuck any man that messages them (and i agree they are not) some people need to see the other side of the fence and understand that MEN are not abusive, individuals are, wether they were male or female the same people would be abusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And why I'm on a rant why just add as a friend without a message get a grip

I don't get this, no one can just add you as a friend. You have to physically accept the request first. If you mean send a request without messaging then they are easy to ignore and as long as you don't delete they can't send another. thats what I do just saying why send the request in the first place without saying hi "

Cos they can

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"although i appreciate the fact that some men are this way it also needs to be understood some WOMEN are also. If they are rude just block, it seems to me that when a guy posts a topic like this he is rounded on and told to grow up as a general rule, but when a woman posts it men are rounded on and told to grow up...PEOPLE need to grow up, perhaps in the same way that understanding women are not here to fuck any man that messages them (and i agree they are not) some people need to see the other side of the fence and understand that MEN are not abusive, individuals are, wether they were male or female the same people would be abusive."

I agree not everyone is but it's mainly men that message me so hence why I put men sorry if you think I'm taring every guy with the same brush I'm not as I have had some positive thank yous after a rejection

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"Why do guys feel the need to abuse you when you say no thanks at least I have the curtesy to reply then single guys wonder why use single girls just delete the message "

Because plenty of the guys on here are positive Adonis'. And a woman, being a mere mortal and below said Adonis, have no right to decline the offer of a sex God. Doing this will incur their wrath and harsh words will be issued forth highlighting their displeasure at your completer lack of respect toward them.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"I say no thanks all the time,never had abuse just message deleted or polite message saying thanks for reply

Not all men are abusive,ive found men to be very polite "

Positivity attracts positivity. I also rarely receive any negative messages.

OP don't let one message out of many be the focus of your attention. Focus on the majority of really nice men on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably best not to reply, there are some decent guys who can accept a kickback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Respond, block and delete, this way, there is no come back.

Harsh, however, it works.

"

my pc so slow they get to respond before i get to the block button

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Respond, block and delete, this way, there is no come back.

Harsh, however, it works.

"

This.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"Respond, block and delete, this way, there is no come back.

Harsh, however, it works.

This. "

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Respond, block and delete, this way, there is no come back.

Harsh, however, it works.

"

Thats all they deserve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A polite "no thank you" response from the lady should receive, at most, a "thank you for letting me know" reply and the guy should move on and leave her alone. There is no excuse for rudeness but sadly these forums show that the trolls exist even here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And why I'm on a rant why just add as a friend without a message get a grip "

Mass delete takes seconds, or just block people that send you a random friend invite.

As for replying thanks but no thanks we don't reply to messages that peeps clearly havnt read our profile and never had an abusive message back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I say no thanks all the time,never had abuse just message deleted or polite message saying thanks for reply

Not all men are abusive,ive found men to be very polite on this site

I've seen more keyboard warriors in the forums,that can be males,female or couples"

me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A polite "no thank you" response from the lady should receive, at most, a "thank you for letting me know" reply and the guy should move on and leave her alone. There is no excuse for rudeness but sadly these forums show that the trolls exist even here. "

Ive had polite responses back when ive declined. also a couple of messages asking why - now that's awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one the other day and it was a 'fancy a fuck message. Now normally I would just pass them by with the delete button but I replied with a curt no thanks

He replied and if I'm honest I was waiting for the fat slag comments! I'm happy to say he said thank you for answering but can I ask why? So I told him fancy a fuck in my opinion is rude so he apologized and wished me well.

Then on the other side I've said no and been called all the names under the sun.

The nice guys are few and far between when I reply saying no thanks so it's easier to just delete

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By *errynjuneCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

We normally use the notes facility, but had our worst ever message the other day.

"I hope you get ffing aids and die" by user no longer on site. Needless to say we do not intend following his advice.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Some people simply cannot accept rejection. Particularly if, on a site like this, they get a lot of it. It makes them bitter and want to lash out.

I usually send them a well-crafted put down, avoiding profanity, and telling them PRECISELY why I would not meet them.

Then I block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do guys feel the need to abuse you when you say no thanks at least I have the curtesy to reply then single guys wonder why use single girls just delete the message "

Because they are Neanderthals who drag their knuckles on the ground?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a shame that it does happen. If I message and its deleted, then I take it as a no. If I get a 'no thanks', which doesn't happen very often, (a reply, I mean), then I always say thanks for letting me know. There is no need to be abusive. Life is too short, why waste time? Being abusive isn't going to make people change their minds. Just proves them right!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Why do guys feel the need to abuse you when you say no thanks at least I have the curtesy to reply then single guys wonder why use single girls just delete the message "

maybe they're sad, pathetic, needy, lack security and 'success' with women..

a sense of entitlement and an ego which is giving out a false perspective..

its certainly a lack of maturity sadly too prevalent with some..

if rejection is an issue for anyone they should walk away from this aspect..

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By *y93Man
over a year ago

London


"I don't understand many people on this site. Whatever you say or suggest is wrong. I personally read the profile to make sure we match, then I tailor an erudite and witty message and get nothing but a delete. I've commented before that I may as well send a cock pic and 'fancy a fuck' for very all the good it fits like does me."

Seriously, there is no right way or wrong way to message anyone on here, no matter what they say on their profile and suggest how you need to message them etc. at the end of the day, there needs to be attraction through pix, I suggest face and body pix on 2nd or 3rd message to be swapped is best, if you get that far.

Loads of people contradicts themselves on their profile, saying you must send them clear face and body pix when they don't even have any pix on their profile, and quite demanding (their excuse is that they want to out incompatibility, but the moment you send then face/body pix, they will ignore you if they don't like the look of you anyways!) telling you to send key words to indicate you have read their lengthy profile, telling you to message lengthy reason of why you match them and want to meet etc.. The best policy I think is to be polite in all cases, but otherwise message how you like, am sure your chances of actual meets will not be affected.

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over a year ago

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