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By *umpleteazer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Does anyone else find this phrase on a profile offputting? Or phrases such as 'Looking for a woman who can handle me'? I am looking for mutual sexy fun, not to be tested on my abilities or to see how much I can 'take'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are just trying to appear super manly.

I still avoid them though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people view sex as a competitive event rather than a mutual interaction of body and mind. They're usually the ones complaining that they can't get meets too...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I agree with both posts above. The other phrase that makes me roll my eyes is "shaved in all the important/right places" implying that everyone thinks the same when it comes to body hair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find this phrase on a profile offputting? Or phrases such as 'Looking for a woman who can handle me'? I am looking for mutual sexy fun, not to be tested on my abilities or to see how much I can 'take' "

Yes very off putting . Another one is people who say they can only do daytime meets !!! Smacks of them being married . Avoid like the plague .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might be a type of reverse psychology. Not a fan of it myself, it's not me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avoid anyone that brags.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

the little breathers are the fun bits where you can flirt and tease and explore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find this phrase on a profile offputting? Or phrases such as 'Looking for a woman who can handle me'? I am looking for mutual sexy fun, not to be tested on my abilities or to see how much I can 'take'

Yes very off putting . Another one is people who say they can only do daytime meets !!! Smacks of them being married . Avoid like the plague . "

Could be children there at night, carer duties, personal preference, work nights, ....

Jumping to conclusions maybe?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Does anyone else find this phrase on a profile offputting? Or phrases such as 'Looking for a woman who can handle me'? I am looking for mutual sexy fun, not to be tested on my abilities or to see how much I can 'take'

Yes very off putting . Another one is people who say they can only do daytime meets !!! Smacks of them being married . Avoid like the plague .

Could be children there at night, carer duties, personal preference, work nights, ....

Jumping to conclusions maybe? "

I thought the same.

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By *umpleteazer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"Does anyone else find this phrase on a profile offputting? Or phrases such as 'Looking for a woman who can handle me'? I am looking for mutual sexy fun, not to be tested on my abilities or to see how much I can 'take'

Yes very off putting . Another one is people who say they can only do daytime meets !!! Smacks of them being married . Avoid like the plague .

Could be children there at night, carer duties, personal preference, work nights, ....

Jumping to conclusions maybe?

I thought the same. "

I assumed it was a comment on my profile as I only do daytime meets. However, as one of the first things I say in it is that I am married, there is little detective work required

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always used to put a disclaimer regarding my performance in my profile. It never did me any favours, but don't see the point in claiming to be Casanova and disappointing people in the flesh. The best I can say is that I can hold my own, which is true in more ways than one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people view sex as a competitive event rather than a mutual interaction of body and mind. They're usually the ones complaining that they can't get meets too..."

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I think it would be piss funny if a girl advertised a meet for 4 guys and then set them Krypton Factor challenges based around sex. A memory game revolving around what interests she had ticked on the site, a spatial awareness puzzle involving the G spot and so on....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The phrases/questions that gets me are "how open minded are you?" Or "how dirty are you?" . I honestly never know how to answer that, I mean I'm on a swinging site and meet strangers for sex, so pretty open minded in the big scheme of things, but is there an official scale for open mindedness or dirtiness?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The phrases/questions that gets me are "how open minded are you?" Or "how dirty are you?" . I honestly never know how to answer that, I mean I'm on a swinging site and meet strangers for sex, so pretty open minded in the big scheme of things, but is there an official scale for open mindedness or dirtiness?

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Or up for or will try anything

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By *airymusclesMan
over a year ago

scotland


"I agree with both posts above. The other phrase that makes me roll my eyes is "shaved in all the important/right places" implying that everyone thinks the same when it comes to body hair."

This one is news to me? Doesnt everyone want shaven??

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I agree with both posts above. The other phrase that makes me roll my eyes is "shaved in all the important/right places" implying that everyone thinks the same when it comes to body hair.

This one is news to me? Doesnt everyone want shaven?? "

no they don't thank goodness or we would be very short on offers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with both posts above. The other phrase that makes me roll my eyes is "shaved in all the important/right places" implying that everyone thinks the same when it comes to body hair.

This one is news to me? Doesnt everyone want shaven??

no they don't thank goodness or we would be very short on offers."

Same here

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By *airymusclesMan
over a year ago

scotland

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By *udiguyMan
over a year ago

harrogate


"Does anyone else find this phrase on a profile offputting? Or phrases such as 'Looking for a woman who can handle me'? I am looking for mutual sexy fun, not to be tested on my abilities or to see how much I can 'take'

Yes very off putting . Another one is people who say they can only do daytime meets !!! Smacks of them being married . Avoid like the plague .

Could be children there at night, carer duties, personal preference, work nights, ....

Jumping to conclusions maybe? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Viagra might be an Idea lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find this phrase on a profile offputting? Or phrases such as 'Looking for a woman who can handle me'? "

Men like to challenge other men at sports. This can be footy, squash, etc etc etc. The point is, by issuing the challenge, they think they can demonstrate their prowess, by winning.

Some men DON'T understand women, and they DON'T understand that sex is not a competitive sport. Those men think that by issuing the same kind of challenge to WOMEN, we will 'try to prove them wrong', by dropping our knickers.

I rate myself higher than a sportsball and I rate myself higher than the opposing team of sweaty men. Sex isn't a 'winner and loser' situation.

Anyone whose profile suggests that they view sex differently is a profile which I will pass by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree totally I don't like claims to be an oral king .... sucking queen ...or challenges of any sexual nature a turn on at all ....

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"Does anyone else find this phrase on a profile offputting? Or phrases such as 'Looking for a woman who can handle me'? I am looking for mutual sexy fun, not to be tested on my abilities or to see how much I can 'take' "

Women use that a lot. They also stress that they are insatiable. I always assume it's just bravado but I don't find that attitude attractive

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Does anyone else find this phrase on a profile offputting? Or phrases such as 'Looking for a woman who can handle me'? I am looking for mutual sexy fun, not to be tested on my abilities or to see how much I can 'take'

Yes very off putting . Another one is people who say they can only do daytime meets !!! Smacks of them being married . Avoid like the plague .

Could be children there at night, carer duties, personal preference, work nights, ....

Jumping to conclusions maybe? "

I jump to the same conclusions. Often correctly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Once you've been with me no one else will compare "

That sooooo annoys the hell out of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get just a little put off when people refer to themselves as "good looking". Puts me off straight away.

A common one is "good looking couple seek other good looking couples and singles"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Does anyone else find this phrase on a profile offputting? Or phrases such as 'Looking for a woman who can handle me'?

Men like to challenge other men at sports. This can be footy, squash, etc etc etc. The point is, by issuing the challenge, they think they can demonstrate their prowess, by winning.

Some men DON'T understand women, and they DON'T understand that sex is not a competitive sport. Those men think that by issuing the same kind of challenge to WOMEN, we will 'try to prove them wrong', by dropping our knickers.

I rate myself higher than a sportsball and I rate myself higher than the opposing team of sweaty men. Sex isn't a 'winner and loser' situation.

Anyone whose profile suggests that they view sex differently is a profile which I will pass by."

Yes, yes and yes. It isn't just the men who view sex as a competition though a great many threads in the forums are women trying to outdo each other in ways they can be made to orgasm,, metres they can squirt, how they can deep throat etc. and don't even get me started on the I'm better, cleaner and sexier because I have no hair whatsoever below my eyebrows

Its going to happen on sites like this though rather like the in crowd at school having the newest phone or trainers.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I get just a little put off when people refer to themselves as "good looking". Puts me off straight away.

A common one is "good looking couple seek other good looking couples and singles"

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Agreed, how are we supposed to know if they will find us good looking or not and vice versa how do they know what we find attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all the things that infur a challenge mean that there is a winner and a loser, my opinion is theres not meant to be a loser in a meet, i want to make sure all my play mates enjoy themselves as much as possible but i'm also not a dildo lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"all the things that infur a challenge mean that there is a winner and a loser, my opinion is theres not meant to be a loser in a meet, i want to make sure all my play mates enjoy themselves as much as possible but i'm also not a dildo lol "

I agree that respect goes both ways I suspect a lot of single guys get treated less than respectfully simply because they are in the majority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't brag girls - just give me a min to amend my profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps it would be better to say "I like to do what you like".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I'd say you tend to see this sort of thing on women's profiles more than mens.

I've given up mailing women now as most of the profiles near to me seem incredibly demanding and one sided and essentially wanting a sex toy rather than a bit of fun and mutual pleasure.

hell someone of therm have such long lists of demands and requirements and promises making that i just think "Christ i was looking for someone to have some fun with not a bloody second job"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe they arent being serious when they say that though.

if i am lucky enough to meet someone i like and feel relaxed with i will be more enthusiastic, if i meet someone who i just dont like that much for one reason or another, i just keep looking at the clock and thinking when are they going to leave.

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