FabSwingers.com forum: jealousy!!!!!!!!!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

not that we have any jealousy issues but i do have to ask...

if ur man was less entertained by by you but was more entertained by another woman how wud you feel???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There should be no jealousy issues at all as swingers. But we all know it does happen. It's not a good feeling at all & it does cause problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy is a natural emotion, and can be beneficial as it can reveal underlying issues, its how you act on it that counts. You can communicate and work through it, or go full on crazy. Some of us have been known to do both lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah jealousy

Ive seen plenty with 'FBs' on here

It is a natural emotion but I do think that when it rears its head and it out there for all to see - its time to think about your emotional wellbeing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wise words from Floro.

I'd think jealousy has no place on here, if you are a couple and on here and jealous of your partner with others; well you shouldn't be on here.

If you get jealous of meets meeting others you're in the wrong place too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wise words from Floro.

I'd think jealousy has no place on here, if you are a couple and on here and jealous of your partner with others; well you shouldn't be on here.

If you get jealous of meets meeting others you're in the wrong place too. "

See ... with this a little tinge is natural I think - don't you ~?

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

Is it not a natural occurrence that because it's different it's going to be better??? Xxx

Thought that was the whole idea share the experiences together xxx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"not that we have any jealousy issues but i do have to ask...

if ur man was less entertained by by you but was more entertained by another woman how wud you feel???

I would feel that we stop doing this until we got our house in order. If the only sex we had was when swinging I would stop. I wouldn't say it's a jealousy issue. It's a relationship issue.

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By *ingerbicky69Woman
over a year ago

EXETER

Thats why im single,

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

x10 Exclamation Marks, holy shit this is a serious matter to you.

I dont miss getting jealous anymore, last time I had that disease was when I was 20. I learned my lesson once and for all then

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

one of my fbs is very jealous its scary sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should not be jelouse of the sex, however if someone is showing more interest for the sake of replacing you..quit while your ahead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think quite a few people get jealous sometimes but they dont always admit it.

its human nature some people are more jealous than others.

i met someone a few times then he comented on the other men in my photos, not in a good way, when i have met more than one man i have sometimes prefered one to the other and felt like they liked me more than the other man too.

i try not to make it obvious though and give them both the same attention, but its not so easy if one man makes you feel a bit nervous.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

jealousy is caused by insecurity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not that we have any jealousy issues but i do have to ask...

if ur man was less entertained by by you but was more entertained by another woman how wud you feel???

I would imagine that happens a lot

if you have been married a long time and sex has got stale between you and you have started swinging to spice things up i'd thing a lot of people, men and women would get more of a thrill out of playing with someone else than their partner

I have met a few couples where they have had issues once play has started that's the reason I no longer meet couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"jealousy is caused by insecurity"
yes and if one person is not giving the other sincere security it can rear its ugly head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not that we have any jealousy issues but i do have to ask...

if ur man was less entertained by by you but was more entertained by another woman how wud you feel???

I would feel that we stop doing this until we got our house in order. If the only sex we had was when swinging I would stop. I wouldn't say it's a jealousy issue. It's a relationship issue. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"jealousy is caused by insecurity yes and if one person is not giving the other sincere security it can rear its ugly head."

Agree. It's a two way thing- not necessarily the jealous person's fault, if the other person is being an ass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"jealousy is caused by insecurity yes and if one person is not giving the other sincere security it can rear its ugly head.

Agree. It's a two way thing- not necessarily the jealous person's fault, if the other person is being an ass. "
I agree, that's why I posted my first, jelousey don't just come within, its brewed.

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton

I always refer back to the following quote if the green eyed monster rears its ugly head.

'Anger, resentment and jealousy does not change the hearts of others. It only changes yours.....'

Wise words from Shannon Adler.

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

the lass my hubby left me for was part of a cpl we had met from another site we had a social meet first then arranged another only she came on her monthlies ;she was gonna cancel but was persuaded not to , so after going for a meal back at my house she is all over my hubby something which i not feel comfortable with so the guy stopped play and they went home afterwards saying i was jealous of her .i wasnt the situation not feel right for me

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"i think quite a few people get jealous sometimes but they dont always admit it.

its human nature some people are more jealous than others.

Yes, and more possessive - I actually like that in a man up to a point, I find it a turn-on. But the more so you are by nature, the less suited you are to swinging anyway, obviously. That doesn't bother me as the more I like someone, the more exclusivity I like to give as well as receive, I'd happily stick to one man if the right one comes along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the lass my hubby left me for was part of a cpl we had met from another site we had a social meet first then arranged another only she came on her monthlies ;she was gonna cancel but was persuaded not to , so after going for a meal back at my house she is all over my hubby something which i not feel comfortable with so the guy stopped play and they went home afterwards saying i was jealous of her .i wasnt the situation not feel right for me

You may have been jealous but I'd say much more than that, it was your sixth sense kicking in. You knew there was something wrong about the situation. They were in the wrong, not you. x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"not that we have any jealousy issues but i do have to ask...

if ur man was less entertained by by you but was more entertained by another woman how wud you feel???

I would feel as though I had the opportunity to learn a new way to give my partner pleasure.

Ultimately he's my partner, which is what matters. He comes home to me, not her.

Would I be annoyed if he enjoyed a meal in a restaurant more than one I'd made?

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

You may have been jealous but I'd say much more than that, it was your sixth sense kicking in. You knew there was something wrong about the situation. They were in the wrong, not you. x"
it was they way she was all over him when she on was her monthly its just not right, she's a prick tease anyway he;s with her now so hope she does same to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

difficult one to judge.

jealous of people or the situation.

personally have had meets where we both play, and have had one where she did on her own and i took pics.

the only time i have felt even the smallest bit of jealousy was when we met a couple, and when i was out the room getting V a drink, they pulled her into them to join in their fucking.

it wasnt the fact she was close with them while they were pleasuring each other, it was they felt it right to pull her into them as soon as i left the room, beforehand we were alongside each other with no interraction, so i felt as if they had purposely waited for me to leave the vicinity.

otherwise i dont feel jealousy that much, much to V's annoyance sometimes lol

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By *adgodCouple
over a year ago

Greensburg

There are some good points on here to the contrary, but I would think if your woman is cool enough to let you experience other women, the very least you could do is not put her in a position where she feels forgotten, or second fiddle. Out of respect and appreciation. Seems like common sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some good points on here to the contrary, but I would think if your woman is cool enough to let you experience other women, the very least you could do is not put her in a position where she feels forgotten, or second fiddle. Out of respect and appreciation. Seems like common sense. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was on here with a partner and there were jealousy issues then I would knock this place on the head til things at home were discussed, talked through and soted out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will add, this place is rife with jealousy whether its towards a partner, fuck bubby or just another fabster. Quite sad really considering what kind of site it is...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will add, this place is rife with jealousy whether its towards a partner, fuck bubby or just another fabster. Quite sad really considering what kind of site it is...

Yes i have noticed.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will add, this place is rife with jealousy whether its towards a partner, fuck bubby or just another fabster. Quite sad really considering what kind of site it is...

Isn't it just...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will add, this place is rife with jealousy whether its towards a partner, fuck bubby or just another fabster. Quite sad really considering what kind of site it is...

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you get it on all the sites like this .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i met a couple of fbs a few times the male threw hissy fit as she paid me more attention you would thonk he owned us way he went on.

jealousy is a dangerous trait to have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There should be no jealousy issues at all as swingers. But we all know it does happen. It's not a good feeling at all & it does cause problems. "

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

I think some amount of jealousy is normal. Its not until it becomes resentment that it really bites.

As others have said, security & confidence are big factors.

If i were to meet someone & find i was jealous i think id look deeper at the relationship & my expectations. Communication is always essential and bottled jealousy leads quickly to resentment. That rarely ends well

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

my fb smothers me sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure I want to meet fb, fwb or 'partners' again!

Bad experience!! Put me off!! They or at least she should not be on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can honestly say that all the time we have been swinging neither of us have felt any jealousy, when we have had a 3sum with another male and when I have watched luke play and fuck another woman, or when we have been in group situations.

If jealousy was to ever rise it's head then it would be time for us to take a step away from swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is definitely around!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sure I want to meet fb, fwb or 'partners' again!

Bad experience!! Put me off!! They or at least she should not be on here.

Out of interest why should ' she' not be on here ??

Merely curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A small amount of jealousy can be a good thing, means you're not totally emotionally dead but only a very small amount.

I like it if a man is a little jealous over me meeting others but only if he handles it in a mature way and doesn't let it change things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i met a couple of fbs a few times the male threw hissy fit as she paid me more attention you would thonk he owned us way he went on.

jealousy is a dangerous trait to have"

being jealous is natural, its how you act when you are jealous my ex called me a slut when I came back from a meet. when I feel jealous I talk about it and don't go crazy but that was in the past P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the above posters, a little bit of zealous is not such a bad thing, its good to show a little emotion towards someone that you care about, however the green eyed monster is definitely a very ugly trait to posses!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was on here with a partner and there were jealousy issues then I would knock this place on the head til things at home were discussed, talked through and soted out... "

This

Often it's not jealousy it's just communication breakdown but until it's sorted you should concentrate on each other. Plenty of time for playing apart when you have a solid base x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often it's not jealousy it's just communication breakdown but until it's sorted you should concentrate on each other. Plenty of time for playing apart when you have a solid base x

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my fb smothers me sometimes "

Have you tried talking to him about that? Doesn't sound very healthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't ask, don't tell, don't compare.

Works for me.

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

"If I was on here with a partner and there were jealousy issues then I would knock this place on the head til things at home were discussed, talked through and soted out...

This

Often it's not jealousy it's just communication breakdown but until it's sorted you should concentrate on each other. Plenty of time for playing apart when you have a solid base x

I have a friend thst should read this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as we're concerned if there is jealousy in swinging between a couple then it's time to give it up!

(just our opinion and the action we would take as a couple if that ever became the case)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you would be so jealous if you were not feeling a bit left out. Don't be jealous if he enjoyed what she did. Instead, find out off him exactly what she did and you do it too him too.

How do you feel now after reading all the advice off people here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Often it's not jealousy it's just communication breakdown but until it's sorted you should concentrate on each other. Plenty of time for playing apart when you have a solid base x

Doesn't apply to my situation, but seems sound advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband and I are relatively new to swinging and are very much in love and secure in our relationship

The very first time I saw another women with his manhood in her mouth and heard him moaning with pleasure I was really hurt. I think it was hurt but it may have been jealousy. Shortly after we went downstairs for a drink and I explained how I felt. Because he loves me and didn't want me hurt, we only played with each other for the rest of the evening.

I think jealousy is only a bad thing when it's like others have said, where people feel insecure in themselves and it turns into resentment

We spoke about it immediately and now both enjoy full swap with others. Sex isn't love but not everyone is cut out for a life of swinging. We moderate our play and it doesn't rule our life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jealousy is a natural emotion, and can be beneficial as it can reveal underlying issues, its how you act on it that counts. You can communicate and work through it, or go full on crazy. Some of us have been known to do both lol! "

This ^

We've both experienced the odd bit of jealousy over the years, nothing major. In fact every time I recall it's resulted in a very hot session, so I'm not adverse to it

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By *ayandess1Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

We have had this happen once, the chappy made her squeal in a really good way, a way I didn't know how to do.

I just asked what he did! No need for jealousy.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

jealousy is part of human nature. its ok to feel it but can you control it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its fine to feel a little jealousy when swinging. True its not good when it effects you so much that it causes bad feeling or anger, but I know for me and my hubby if we didn't have a little jealousy when im with another guy we would worry that we had done this so much it had desensitized us to it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think you would be so jealous if you were not feeling a bit left out. Don't be jealous if he enjoyed what she did. Instead, find out off him exactly what she did and you do it too him too.

How do you feel now after reading all the advice off people here?"

i feel alot better reading the things in here and know one thing at least, i have to get my house in order xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not a natural occurrence that because it's different it's going to be better??? Xxx

Thought that was the whole idea share the experiences together xxx "

different doesnt mean better.

the best sexual play is with someone you have a connection with, and there is no more connection than that you have with your OH (obviously this doesnt apply to swingles)

have never felt jealous watching or hearing her enjoy the attentions of someone else.

you are naturally going to enjoy it, afterall, sex is supposed to be so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will add, this place is rife with jealousy whether its towards a partner, fuck bubby or just another fabster. Quite sad really considering what kind of site it is...

Thats why I had to hide my verifications!

Jealousy is a natural thing. U cannot avoid it but u can manage it and it can often be a positive thing. Some who is jealous about u is someone who is into u. If he or she is your partner that should give u the sexurity to know that there is still the sparkle in the realtionship. If u feel that your man is enjoying having fun more tgen he does with another woman there could be different reasons for that.

it could simply because everyone has a different sexual behaviour when being with a different person. you might just have noticed the difference and took it as he is enjoying nore or,

May be there is something she is doing or a skill u dont have (yet) that he likes which is a good reason for u to find it out, make your husband happy and your relationship stronger.

The other reason I can think of is not good lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

jealousy can kill things. Love passion and lust . But its a normal feeling most have but have to be controlled .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only jesalous of other womens shoes

Seriously I don't think I have that feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm only jesalous of other womens shoes

Seriously I don't think I have that feeling

Keep swinging then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm only jesalous of other womens shoes

Seriously I don't think I have that feeling

Keep swinging then

I am and I will

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

Meet couple in bath swingers a year or so ago when we were juzt starting. There was a smallgroup just chilling and saying how we started where we'd got to so forth. The male said that before we'd all gone tofar the would be tears! More tbey would be on both sides of the partnerships he further said what you do with them between you would determine how we'd fair.

I'd like to say he has been right onthe money!

By the way I am the male and I have found this an amazing experience! !

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

Met a couple in bath swingers a year or so ago when we were just starting. There was a small group just chilling and saying how we started where we'd got to so forth. The male said that before we'd all gone to far there would be tears! More they would be on both sides of the partnerships! he further said what you do with them between you would determine how we'd fair.

I'd like to say he has been right on the money!

By the way I am the male and I have found this an amazing experience! !

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