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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have suffered from time to time from males who cannot control their urge to cum. As a consequence we have seen 1 minute wonders and even faster. To try and avoid this we tended to prefer mature males we hope should have learnt how to control themselves; but this is no guarantee.

Of those males on here who can control themselves, what methods do you employ to get control of coming when a skilled mouth or tight pussy is sending shivers through you? Perhaps you can help some of those with less control.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

I've never suffered with a hair trigger and have only cum from oral alone once. On those occasions when I haven't wanted to cum I find thinking of someone who you 100% wouldn't shag brings me back from the edge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just can't imagine that. I guess it must be more psychological than physical?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cum ... Then go again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never suffered with a hair trigger and have only cum from oral alone once. On those occasions when I haven't wanted to cum I find thinking of someone who you 100% wouldn't shag brings me back from the edge. "

Sounds good. Personally I (male) used to do mental arithmetic or read a book conveniently placed on bedside cabinet. These days I have no problem controlling it simply by relaxing a little. It is essential, if one gives a damn about the lady's pleasures to be able to last.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cum ... Then go again "

So no interest in the lady's pleasure and satisfaction. Interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of Olive from "on the buses"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cum ... Then go again

So no interest in the lady's pleasure and satisfaction. Interesting."

Where did I put that? Don't assume

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I've never suffered with a hair trigger and have only cum from oral alone once. On those occasions when I haven't wanted to cum I find thinking of someone who you 100% wouldn't shag brings me back from the edge.

Sounds good. Personally I (male) used to do mental arithmetic or read a book conveniently placed on bedside cabinet. These days I have no problem controlling it simply by relaxing a little. It is essential, if one gives a damn about the lady's pleasures to be able to last. "

I hope you were never caught reading!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think of Olive from "on the buses" "

I can certainly see that working!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cum ... Then go again

So no interest in the lady's pleasure and satisfaction. Interesting."

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys


"I've never suffered with a hair trigger and have only cum from oral alone once. On those occasions when I haven't wanted to cum I find thinking of someone who you 100% wouldn't shag brings me back from the edge. "

Oh no!!! So wen ur shagging someone u really fancy u r actually thinking of someone u don't!!

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I find drinking heavily helps.

You're welcome!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cum ... Then go again

So no interest in the lady's pleasure and satisfaction. Interesting.

Where did I put that? Don't assume"

OK, sry misread you to say "cum and go". Are you as hard the second time as the first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have suffered from time to time from males who cannot control their urge to cum. As a consequence we have seen 1 minute wonders and even faster. To try and avoid this we tended to prefer mature males we hope should have learnt how to control themselves; but this is no guarantee.

Of those males on here who can control themselves, what methods do you employ to get control of coming when a skilled mouth or tight pussy is sending shivers through you? Perhaps you can help some of those with less control."

Do you cum too quick as well OP ?

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I've never suffered with a hair trigger and have only cum from oral alone once. On those occasions when I haven't wanted to cum I find thinking of someone who you 100% wouldn't shag brings me back from the edge.

Oh no!!! So wen ur shagging someone u really fancy u r actually thinking of someone u don't!! "

No, that's not what I said. But, I have thought of someone I do fancy when the person I'm with isn't doing it for me and I have wanted to cum

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never suffered with a hair trigger and have only cum from oral alone once. On those occasions when I haven't wanted to cum I find thinking of someone who you 100% wouldn't shag brings me back from the edge.

Sounds good. Personally I (male) used to do mental arithmetic or read a book conveniently placed on bedside cabinet. These days I have no problem controlling it simply by relaxing a little. It is essential, if one gives a damn about the lady's pleasures to be able to last.

I hope you were never caught reading! "

Not recently, no, but I was once and had to explain to the lady. She said she wondered how I could control it so well and promptly told her husband the next day! win win situation for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cum ... Then go again

So no interest in the lady's pleasure and satisfaction. Interesting.

Where did I put that? Don't assume

OK, sry misread you to say "cum and go". Are you as hard the second time as the first? "

Yep ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bash one out an hour or two beforehand ... It stops embarresement, but lets face it if im with a woman and blow me load it means she really turns me on and think it should be taken as a compliment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have suffered from time to time from males who cannot control their urge to cum. As a consequence we have seen 1 minute wonders and even faster. To try and avoid this we tended to prefer mature males we hope should have learnt how to control themselves; but this is no guarantee.

Of those males on here who can control themselves, what methods do you employ to get control of coming when a skilled mouth or tight pussy is sending shivers through you? Perhaps you can help some of those with less control.

Do you cum too quick as well OP ? "

My problem now is actually getting it to cum after an hour or so of not being allowed to. So I have no issues with rapid fire thanks. I would like those that do cum quickly to try and sort it though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cum ... Then go again

So no interest in the lady's pleasure and satisfaction. Interesting.

Where did I put that? Don't assume

OK, sry misread you to say "cum and go". Are you as hard the second time as the first?

Yep ... "

The joy of youth! Oh to be 30 again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone told me the first one never counts but my god they make up for it the very few times it happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what about the ones who cum before they even enter the pussy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what about the ones who cum before they even enter the pussy "

Yes! and then say they will be fine afterwards the second time, offer it for sucking to get it hard again and then, within a minute, dump it in her mouth! The MFM then turns into a MF......m.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"what about the ones who cum before they even enter the pussy

Yes! and then say they will be fine afterwards the second time, offer it for sucking to get it hard again and then, within a minute, dump it in her mouth! The MFM then turns into a MF......m. "

Seems like you need to revise your selection process. Hand written testimonials verifying their longevity co-signed by a GP maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about the ones who cum before they even enter the pussy

Yes! and then say they will be fine afterwards the second time, offer it for sucking to get it hard again and then, within a minute, dump it in her mouth! The MFM then turns into a MF......m. "

ah i meant thats it, they cum and go no second cuming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have suffered from time to time from males who cannot control their urge to cum. As a consequence we have seen 1 minute wonders and even faster. To try and avoid this we tended to prefer mature males we hope should have learnt how to control themselves; but this is no guarantee.

Of those males on here who can control themselves, what methods do you employ to get control of coming when a skilled mouth or tight pussy is sending shivers through you? Perhaps you can help some of those with less control.

Do you cum too quick as well OP ?

My problem now is actually getting it to cum after an hour or so of not being allowed to. So I have no issues with rapid fire thanks. I would like those that do cum quickly to try and sort it though. "

Flip side of that is the risk of boredom setting in lol....you can get too much of a good thing and while an early finisher is a bit of a let down conversely someone who just goes on and on can get a tad wearing....or maybe it's just me that thinks that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about the ones who cum before they even enter the pussy

Yes! and then say they will be fine afterwards the second time, offer it for sucking to get it hard again and then, within a minute, dump it in her mouth! The MFM then turns into a MF......m.

Seems like you need to revise your selection process. Hand written testimonials verifying their longevity co-signed by a GP maybe? "

You have something there.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have suffered from time to time from males who cannot control their urge to cum. As a consequence we have seen 1 minute wonders and even faster. To try and avoid this we tended to prefer mature males we hope should have learnt how to control themselves; but this is no guarantee.

Of those males on here who can control themselves, what methods do you employ to get control of coming when a skilled mouth or tight pussy is sending shivers through you? Perhaps you can help some of those with less control.

Do you cum too quick as well OP ?

My problem now is actually getting it to cum after an hour or so of not being allowed to. So I have no issues with rapid fire thanks. I would like those that do cum quickly to try and sort it though.

Flip side of that is the risk of boredom setting in lol....you can get too much of a good thing and while an early finisher is a bit of a let down conversely someone who just goes on and on can get a tad wearing....or maybe it's just me that thinks that "

I sincerely hope it is just you. Ladies have the ability to cum and cum and cum so should be able to appreciate a long stayer. Long staying should not mean boring if a variety of play is available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about the ones who cum before they even enter the pussy

Yes! and then say they will be fine afterwards the second time, offer it for sucking to get it hard again and then, within a minute, dump it in her mouth! The MFM then turns into a MF......m.

Seems like you need to revise your selection process. Hand written testimonials verifying their longevity co-signed by a GP maybe?

You have something there....... "

too true

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Edging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have suffered from time to time from males who cannot control their urge to cum. As a consequence we have seen 1 minute wonders and even faster. To try and avoid this we tended to prefer mature males we hope should have learnt how to control themselves; but this is no guarantee.

Of those males on here who can control themselves, what methods do you employ to get control of coming when a skilled mouth or tight pussy is sending shivers through you? Perhaps you can help some of those with less control.

Do you cum too quick as well OP ?

My problem now is actually getting it to cum after an hour or so of not being allowed to. So I have no issues with rapid fire thanks. I would like those that do cum quickly to try and sort it though.

Flip side of that is the risk of boredom setting in lol....you can get too much of a good thing and while an early finisher is a bit of a let down conversely someone who just goes on and on can get a tad wearing....or maybe it's just me that thinks that

I sincerely hope it is just you. Ladies have the ability to cum and cum and cum so should be able to appreciate a long stayer. Long staying should not mean boring if a variety of play is available."

Its all about balance isnt it?

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Think of Olive from "on the buses"

I can certainly see that working! "

How about if it tips you over the edge...lol

If I were a bloke I'd think of Micheal Winner ...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The secret is simple, arrange meets with people who you don't find too attractive, then you have to work a bit harder and longer.

If guys cum very quickly, surely it is a compliment,

If I want to hold back longer will have a wank before the meet.

When meeting guys always always, cum first, because when a guy comes the guilt usually kicks in, and he is off..pretty quickly...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ever thought of maybe prolonging play before sex rather than just getting down and dirty straight away?

they reckon the average time for a male to ejaculate is 20 minutes anyway so maybe you should just do lots of foreplay

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

Very insightful thread. You learn something new every day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ever thought of maybe prolonging play before sex rather than just getting down and dirty straight away?

they reckon the average time for a male to ejaculate is 20 minutes anyway so maybe you should just do lots of foreplay"

Wont work if the journey is 18 minutes !

orgasms start in the head, before they happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

those that say you think of someone you dont fancy, how do you keep a hard on?

personally, if i want to last, i will stop when i feel im getting close, and play a little bit until the feeling goes, then maybe crack on again.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"those that say you think of someone you dont fancy, how do you keep a hard on?

personally, if i want to last, i will stop when i feel im getting close, and play a little bit until the feeling goes, then maybe crack on again.

"

Just until the moment of truth passes and then re-focus. It's not always convenient to stop especially if the person you're with is urging you on as she's "almost there".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"those that say you think of someone you dont fancy, how do you keep a hard on?

personally, if i want to last, i will stop when i feel im getting close, and play a little bit until the feeling goes, then maybe crack on again.

Just until the moment of truth passes and then re-focus. It's not always convenient to stop especially if the person you're with is urging you on as she's "almost there"."

part of the fun is making her wait too lol

build it up, buttercup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If guys cum very quickly, surely it is a compliment,

"

a backhanded one maybe, but still disappointing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bellend clamp.

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

2 things work for me but I thought both were common knowledge!

Squeezing top of cock with thumb and finger quite hard usually cools my ardour. But stop as soon as urge to cum passes otherwise you might lose erection. Oh and don't forget to withdraw penis from vagina before attempting to do this!

I can only describe the next one as tightening the muscles you use to stop urination.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The secret is simple, arrange meets with people who you don't find too attractive, then you have to work a bit harder and longer.

If guys cum very quickly, surely it is a compliment,

If I want to hold back longer will have a wank before the meet.

When meeting guys always always, cum first, because when a guy comes the guilt usually kicks in, and he is off..pretty quickly..."

What would you rather have? A 30 second compliment or a 2 hour shagging?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bellend clamp."

What is that? A punk band?

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"Edging."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cum ... Then go again

So no interest in the lady's pleasure and satisfaction. Interesting.

Where did I put that? Don't assume

OK, sry misread you to say "cum and go". Are you as hard the second time as the first?

Yep ... "

my kind of guy!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i used to have a hair trigger ... i just ignored it and assumed it was a test clearing the tubes ... just play some more til your ready to go again .. lol .. plenty of fun to be had

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i used to have a hair trigger ... i just ignored it and assumed it was a test clearing the tubes ... just play some more til your ready to go again .. lol .. plenty of fun to be had "

I would have thought that the tubes do not need "test clearing". Only the young get a full, reliable, long lasting hard on after cuming. Mature men should have self control after all, it is not like it is new to you.

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