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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys, we're new here so please be gentle. For years we've talked about asking another fem to join us. It turns us both on massively. Finally plucked up the courage and have decided to take the plunge. Just wondered if our profile is ok? We've read of people getting hundreds of messages a day and we're not getting anything like that! Bit worried we may be doing something wrong!

Any feedback is welcome

K&L

XxxxxX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More public pictures and more interests need to be added x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

As everyone is looking for a single bi fem, and they aren't in the majority here, you will have to be patient. Make your profile welcoming to them and make sure they know they will be safe and not just there to be your fantasy.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

The reason you aren't inundated with messages is because you've blocked single males. Single females rarely message first, they usually don't have to.

Single bi females are in the minority here, and single bi fems that meet with couples are even more difficult to find. But we are out there. You just have to persevere, put some better pictures on, maybe try La Chambre.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take the "Sydney University" thing off, unless you actually plan to sue them.

What everyone else has said, too.

Good luck & have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for the advice. We've only put 1 public pic on as there seems to be a lot of pic collectors on here. Also with the la chambre suggestion, just don't think we're ready to be watched by numerous people. We wanted the 3sum to be more about mrs exploring her bi side rather than mr sleeping with other girls.Are we expecting to much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think that you are, and its a fair point about picture collectors.

Be patient, be yourselves and it will all be good.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"Thank you for the advice. We've only put 1 public pic on as there seems to be a lot of pic collectors on here. Also with the la chambre suggestion, just don't think we're ready to be watched by numerous people. We wanted the 3sum to be more about mrs exploring her bi side rather than mr sleeping with other girls.Are we expecting to much? "

Possibly. If it's about the fem exploring her bi-side and no sex with the male, then you'll maybe have more luck if the male isn't present. I, and I know a fair few other women feel the same, won't be a puppet to put on a sex show, then be cast out the front door so you two can have sex.

As for La Chambre, there are lockable rooms, you don't have to be watched by numerous people.

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By *r tickle 22Man
over a year ago

Sheffeld

All I can say is get ready for the nutter lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As above says arrange for your wife to meet the female alone and the male have no part at all.

otherwise you will be very lucky to find a performing seal to put on a show for you.

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

arrh the elusive single bi fem, shes the holy grail.

u have more chance of treading in rocking horse shit im afraid , but good luck in your quest

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I don't think that you are, and its a fair point about picture collectors.

Be patient, be yourselves and it will all be good. "

They have been patient. They've been "new" members for over a year.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lockable rooms....we didn't know that.that changes things lol! That changes things a lot!

I know what you mean about the 2 Fem's being alone but it's something we want to do together. I don't expect him not to touch her just no sex,touching and oral is fine.

Maybe We're being unrealistic lol

Thanks for the helps guys

XxxxX

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think that you are, and its a fair point about picture collectors.

Be patient, be yourselves and it will all be good.

They have been patient. They've been "new" members for over a year."

We signed up but never actually followed it up,we only uploaded our first photo a few weeks ago, so technically we are new

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"Lockable rooms....we didn't know that.that changes things lol! That changes things a lot!

I know what you mean about the 2 Fem's being alone but it's something we want to do together. I don't expect him not to touch her just no sex,touching and oral is fine.

Maybe We're being unrealistic lol

Thanks for the helps guys

XxxxX"

So maybe advertise soft swap rather than full swap. It may not help in the short term, but at least then females will have an idea what they are getting themselves into.

Don't give up hope, you will eventually find what you are looking for, just because you are being quite specific about it, it will take a little longer.

You can go to the club and just have a look around, you don't have to play. There may even be socials advertised on here, when I lived that way there was loads of socials held there.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I don't think that you are, and its a fair point about picture collectors.

Be patient, be yourselves and it will all be good.

They have been patient. They've been "new" members for over a year.

We signed up but never actually followed it up,we only uploaded our first photo a few weeks ago, so technically we are new"

Fair enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lockable rooms....we didn't know that.that changes things lol! That changes things a lot!

I know what you mean about the 2 Fem's being alone but it's something we want to do together. I don't expect him not to touch her just no sex,touching and oral is fine.

Maybe We're being unrealistic lol

Thanks for the helps guys

XxxxX

So maybe advertise soft swap rather than full swap. It may not help in the short term, but at least then females will have an idea what they are getting themselves into.

Don't give up hope, you will eventually find what you are looking for, just because you are being quite specific about it, it will take a little longer.

You can go to the club and just have a look around, you don't have to play. There may even be socials advertised on here, when I lived that way there was loads of socials held there. "

Thank you,was nervous about posting in here but we've learnt so much in such a little time lol.

XxxX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"arrh the elusive single bi fem, shes the holy grail.

u have more chance of treading in rocking horse shit im afraid , but good luck in your quest"

You just dont know how to find them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not find a couple who want just fems to play.

the chance of finding a woman who is happy to put on a show for a bloke is slim to nothing.

surley he will understand you meeting fems on your own if you want to try women.ots not alot to ask.you can tell him about it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why not find a couple who want just fems to play.

the chance of finding a woman who is happy to put on a show for a bloke is slim to nothing.

surley he will understand you meeting fems on your own if you want to try women.ots not alot to ask.you can tell him about it all "

Good advice here. Make friends with a few bi women on here - get chatting and the forum is good for that.

The soft swap 3sum with a single bi woman would be rare to find I'm afraid.

Hope you find what you're looking for and great ass pic btw

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands


"Lockable rooms....we didn't know that.that changes things lol! That changes things a lot!

I know what you mean about the 2 Fem's being alone but it's something we want to do together. I don't expect him not to touch her just no sex,touching and oral is fine.

Maybe We're being unrealistic lol

Thanks for the helps guys

XxxxX"

We attend la chambre most weeks and have used the private rooms a few times. We are also are lucky to have taken a single female in with us, so it can happen for you...

Otherwise you can always play with the female out of a couple as another member has mentioned...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"arrh the elusive single bi fem, shes the holy grail.

u have more chance of treading in rocking horse shit im afraid , but good luck in your quest"

I have my first couple meet tomorrow. Wish me luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lockable rooms....we didn't know that.that changes things lol! That changes things a lot!

I know what you mean about the 2 Fem's being alone but it's something we want to do together. I don't expect him not to touch her just no sex,touching and oral is fine.

Maybe We're being unrealistic lol

Thanks for the helps guys

XxxxX

So maybe advertise soft swap rather than full swap. It may not help in the short term, but at least then females will have an idea what they are getting themselves into.

Don't give up hope, you will eventually find what you are looking for, just because you are being quite specific about it, it will take a little longer.

You can go to the club and just have a look around, you don't have to play. There may even be socials advertised on here, when I lived that way there was loads of socials held there.

Thank you,was nervous about posting in here but we've learnt so much in such a little time lol.

XxxX"

as has been said, soft play would be a reasonable comprimise.

you can find couples where only the fems play with each other, then have fun with their own partners in the presence of each other.

or you can have full interaction with another couple where eveyone gets to have fun with everyone else, including the ladies.

we enjoy it anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"arrh the elusive single bi fem, shes the holy grail.

u have more chance of treading in rocking horse shit im afraid , but good luck in your quest

I have my first couple meet tomorrow. Wish me luck "

good luck.

really hope it goes very well x

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"arrh the elusive single bi fem, shes the holy grail.

u have more chance of treading in rocking horse shit im afraid , but good luck in your quest

You just dont know how to find them. "
obviously not but luckily im not looking for one i just go on the 1000s of threads on here saying they dont come easy

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"arrh the elusive single bi fem, shes the holy grail.

u have more chance of treading in rocking horse shit im afraid , but good luck in your quest

I have my first couple meet tomorrow. Wish me luck "
i bet your a guy in disguise really

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By *eggaeloverMan
over a year ago

Bristol

You could just open yourselves up to your full sexual nature without fear, basically doing whatever you want with whoever you want. Of course not much will happen but you might have some fun along the way. Its a bit like the 'Dice Man' philosophy, do you know it?

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

Echo what's already been said, going along to local socials & clubs will give you a better advantage of meeting those that share your fantasy.

There are more couples were only the fems want to play than single fems that only want to play with another fem, imho

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