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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

why is it hard for single men to even get noticed here. i know there is a men to women/couple ratio of about 10000 to 1. but its hard to even get a message back saying thank you but no thank you.

i think it might just be me. cos im very dom i might be intimidating. or just ugly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You want to meet single women OP ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

reading what profile there is, you dont come across as being dom enough to be intimidating im afraid

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

OP there are probably a hundred different things you can do to try and attract couples' attention. You can have a wordy profile, or a one-liner, you can be positive or "moany", you can bend over backwards and do backflips and you still won't be able to please everyone. Just be decent and also be yourself and get yourself to your nearest social or swingers' club. Try for the best and also don't have expectations. Xx I hope this helps a little x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i didnt want to make it dom.

coz i feel that if people see dom then they know what im on about.

but dont want to go into to much detail coz i dont have to be dom and make people think otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why is it hard for single men to even get noticed here. i know there is a men to women/couple ratio of about 10000 to 1. but its hard to even get a message back saying thank you but no thank you.

i think it might just be me. cos im very dom i might be intimidating. or just ugly lol "

You're probably right

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ugly.........im a modern art masterpiece me.

picasso would be proud of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I set up a single man profile and got a meet that night.

put some effort in and sone decent pics and it will return the effort.

woe is me on here from single men is crap.

lots of single men do very well.learn off them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as another has said you don't intimidating so women looking for that they may think you a fantasist.

maybe the status update wont help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i think it might be my profile.

any pointers as to making it better.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

OP you've had a meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your status says you are looking for someone to abuse?

Not what we would look for by all means message your preferences over to people. But do you think that tag like would attract anyone?

Loads of single guys do very well on here. Word gets round if you are a decent chap but the succesful guys are probably not going to give up their secrets easily.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i have had a meet.....from when i was on before.

one meet in 7 months.

status update is gone.

im just crap at writing things about myself.

just makes me feel selfcentred when i do

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"why is it hard for single men to even get noticed here. "

I don't believe it is that hard. There are so many fuckwits on here (male, female and couples before anyone starts) that decent people stick out like sore thumbs.

Decent single guys probably stand out the most because they are that much rarer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yeah but im decent and nice....i think lol

but i send messages. and get none in return.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Then maybe you need to find another way?

I suppose there are guys that have success just by messaging but there are other ways too. Socials, clubs etc are all good ways of meeting people.

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm a single guy, my profile is pretty nonsense, I'm no perfectly sculpted Adonis. Im just me. Yes a lot of messages go unread, but be yourself & someone out there will be looking for what you're offering. If I can get to meet folk here, anyone can mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i know

but clubs are so expensive for single blokes. for obvious reasons.

and socials.

never any round this area.

i carnt really have one here in my one bed flat lol

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By *eaboMan
over a year ago

marden

keep trying, it works. a sense of humour helps too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know for me a guy that is cute makes me read on. A good clear face pic may help if you don't mind others seeing you. Also read the profile all the way of the ppl you want to message & see if you match what they are looking for. Hope this helps a little.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience, most women would like to see more than a cock pick on the profile picture. There's a million cocks to look at, it's the rest of you that makes you different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't be the only one who had a bit of a childish giggle at the thread title.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't be the only one who had a bit of a childish giggle at the thread title. "

Hahahahahahaha

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By *rencherMan
over a year ago

Derby

My advice for what its worth would be...

Show respect at all times

Be yourself

Be honest and genuine about what you want

Give it time

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Man!!!

It's not that hard! It requires basic knowledge of women's psychology.

Read books and articles and you'll learn what women look for in a guy. Believe me, its not impossible.

I've even had an offer today.

Basically, you have to be confident, happy, have a strong mental attitude, be funny.

Never! Ever! Look desperate... Pretend that you don't care about sex early on. Try to be friends with women at first, you'll be surprised how sexual they get with you after a while. And when they get sexual with you, play cool! Play very cool! Women love the challenge!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why is it hard for single men to even get noticed here. i know there is a men to women/couple ratio of about 10000 to 1. but its hard to even get a message back saying thank you but no thank you.

i think it might just be me. cos im very dom i might be intimidating. or just ugly lol "

It doesnt cost anything at all for manners/a respectful reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

just re wrote my profile.

can anyone give me there honest opinion please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have had a meet.....from when i was on before.

one meet in 7 months.

status update is gone.

im just crap at writing things about myself.

just makes me feel selfcentred when i do"

write it about someone else then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmm this is a regular thing on here... now just like dancing there is a massive gender balance and therefore makes it harder to be noticed.. but women or and couples can be just as at fault to having blinkers on in not searching for genuine people, but having read alot of profiles and read that people are rude and disrespectful..I'm not surprised.

Bit of a catch 22

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i just have.

just need some reaction from it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why is it hard for single men to even get noticed here. i know there is a men to women/couple ratio of about 10000 to 1. but its hard to even get a message back saying thank you but no thank you.

i think it might just be me. cos im very dom i might be intimidating. or just ugly lol "

Thread heading reads ' hard for single men' . Sorry crap joke. Mwahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not natural to sell yourself...try chat good icebreaker

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i need a pick axe and a Norwegian ice breaker for there!!!

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

Hard for SOME single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your just to horny pudding lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i must be the some part then!!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm no pro but I've only been on here for a few months and ive met loads..some didn't leave veris..but my advice without giving my secrets away would be to message out in large volumes...someone will take your bait....don't fall out or get the hump with anyone...try and show personality and not be too forceful on the sex talk...just be like you would if you were out on the pull in a night club...no cock pics everyone does that and ladies are sick of it...know that your the best at sex than any other without being a nob about it...be cheeky charming and chatty and log on regular...maybe go to some clubs..get out there chatting and boom watch the verifies increase.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thoughts to ass

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

We only meet single guys. We have found that about 95% of them, if not more just can't be bothered to read the profile properly all the way through. They think by just looking at the pictures they are reading the profile. It's become apparent to us that most women and couples will not give a single male the time of day if they can't be bothered to read the profile first. I know we certainly don't. Even those that claim they have read it clearly have not. There is the answer you are looking for op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i just have.

just need some reaction from it lol"

Fix the spelling mistake, and use capitals. Fill it out as you go along.

My 2d

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We only meet single guys. We have found that about 95% of them, if not more just can't be bothered to read the profile properly all the way through. They think by just looking at the pictures they are reading the profile. It's become apparent to us that most women and couples will not give a single male the time of day if they can't be bothered to read the profile first. I know we certainly don't. Even those that claim they have read it clearly have not. There is the answer you are looking for op."

i do read profiles. i dont randomly fire off messages to everyone.

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By *urvelover39Man
over a year ago

Somewhere

Get out there on a weekend over christmas plenty of hot totty pissed up with there wine goggles on, works for me im ugly as sin and shite at talking

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol.

Would if i could, but have two boys with me all over xmas i think

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs


"We only meet single guys. We have found that about 95% of them, if not more just can't be bothered to read the profile properly all the way through. They think by just looking at the pictures they are reading the profile. It's become apparent to us that most women and couples will not give a single male the time of day if they can't be bothered to read the profile first. I know we certainly don't. Even those that claim they have read it clearly have not. There is the answer you are looking for op.

i do read profiles. i dont randomly fire off messages to everyone.

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I didn't say you did randomly fire off messages to everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i know you never. i like to read then send

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 meet in 7 months?

Give it up as a bad job dude!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My thoughts to ass"

The difference an extra 'o' and a comma can make...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

cheers hudds. thats what i really want to hear

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs


"1 meet in 7 months?

Give it up as a bad job dude!!"
who's had one meet in 7 months?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1 meet in 7 months?

Give it up as a bad job dude!! who's had one meet in 7 months? "

The OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i know

but clubs are so expensive for single blokes. for obvious reasons.

and socials.

never any round this area.

i carnt really have one here in my one bed flat lol"

What gosh...there are regular socials in Sheffield, Wakefield, Leeds...there is la chambre, Isis...youre just expecting it to drop into your lap by the sound of it...and anyone who has to tell people they are dom, really aren't imo...stop whining boy and make an effort!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand your view Lucy and carl Ive always read and think if its right to send a message first... we not all out the same tin of paint .... hence catch 22 smiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also so many guys on here are rude in mails and let meets down or just no shows make it difficult for genuine guys on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get hard for single men but I prefer them to get hard for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you stick to your local area there arent actually that many women to choose from.

depending on ur preferences that is. just have to be patient and wait for the right ones to pop up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get out there on a weekend over christmas plenty of hot totty pissed up with there wine goggles on, works for me im ugly as sin and shite at talking "

And that's exactly how I met my husband 13 years ago pmsl.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i can never find socials.

and when i do. i cant go due to family.

sounds like im fubar

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs


"I understand your view Lucy and carl Ive always read and think if its right to send a message first... we not all out the same tin of paint .... hence catch 22 smiles

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I didn't say we were. Not sure what your saying there. Are you saying you send messages asking to meet before even reading their profile?

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By *urvelover39Man
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Get out there on a weekend over christmas plenty of hot totty pissed up with there wine goggles on, works for me im ugly as sin and shite at talking

And that's exactly how I met my husband 13 years ago pmsl. "

There you go blurrrerered lines find your soul mate lol, my job here is done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can get a meet faster with another man than with a woman. Men just need to hear a few things, what will be done and when etc

I find women almost need poetry to be interested. We are two tribes when it comes to this swinger sex site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile doesn't come across at all dom like, and your status update about looking to abuse a woman reaffirms your lack of dominance in your profile. I'd stick with humour, and try get some better pics uploaded. Definitely don't have "I wanna smash your back doors in and leave you in a snotty heap" as your opening gambit. This will not intimidate woman, just have them reaching for the block button. You will have much better luck being respectful and tailoring your messages to the needs and wants of the recipient, after all a fundamental trait of a Dom is respect and trust.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ive got rid of all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i can never find socials.

and when i do. i cant go due to family.

sounds like im fubar"

Sounds like you're making excuses...look in the section listing them in the forums, they are advertised all the time!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

nothing.....unless i want to travel across country

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are actually 4 local ones listed now...ones even in Donny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

look in Meet Requests and Parties Section on the Forum...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I still don't think toilets are sexy. You say that's the only mirror in you flat....could you not take a photo in the mirror without the toilet in the background?

It suggests you might benefit from a little more effort photowise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

its either the toilet or the sink. both not good.

i need to try and do new ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 4 profiles and over 10 verifications most of which was in Doncaster, you need to get out doggin see some faces get to know hot spots like blidworth! Don't be too pushy, have a shave don't be geeky and most of all don't let them down.. I've met couples & fems in DN5 just try a little harder pal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are actually 4 local ones listed now...ones even in Donny"

thanks.

put myself down for donny one

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"its either the toilet or the sink. both not good.

i need to try and do new ones"

Look at milfhumters pics. Stylish, witty and cheeky.

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