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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Ok so I met up with a previous boyfriend/partner for lunch and took some pics (vanilla ones)

He asked me to send him a pic for him to remember so sent one we took on my phone and included a pic of me on my way to a club. Now he has seen me dressed sexy before but I naturally while in a relationship with him shelved my swing life.

He text me asking if he can take me out wearing it sometime. I responded reminding him when I wear that I normally get naked and have lots of fun in public. He responded saying he knows (was always honest with him of course) and the invite to go out to a party was still open.

Not sure what to do. Do I jump back in and take him to a party? The sex side was always great. Its really stumped me lol. Help.....??

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

What was the reason/s for breaking up? I would say be cautious, he's an ex for good reason!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

take him to a club...its a reason i never think ex's are ex's always for negative reasons

go for it...but make it known what ur liking at present, i.e swingering

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

give it a go ...nothing to loose really !! ...hope it goes well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if there are feeling there id say give it ago there is time in life for what ifs trust me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no time in life for what ifs*

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

He knows all about my escapades lol.

Reason for break up...my choice was that I was a mum with young kids and he was very much a bachelor. It was never going to work but remained good friends. The thought of sex with him is certainly good but just not sure what to do. Hence asking for opinions x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never as good as the first time as Sade says

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By *amamanMan
over a year ago

Inverness and around. ...

there is always the temptation to remember the good times ,tread carefully ..good luck

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I don't have feelings of any depth now. Experiences after that taught me that. Just don't know. My free time as he knows has not changed. So very limited x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deep down you must still want him, why else would you send a sexy pic? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the people that said he's an ex for a reason! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there must be a way of overcoming the ex part? you must still care in a away?

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

We have always kept in touch and he has shown interest in my naughty life. I have in the past after a relationship ending met that person again for no heart strings tugging damn good sex. So far with each of the guys its been again damn good fun.

I would love to show him my parties and clubs I attend as he is naturally lovely so easy to like. So the idea of him seeing me let loose and seeing him drop his inhibitions sounds good but still unsure.

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By *corpi0stingMan
over a year ago

london


"Deep down you must still want him, why else would you send a sexy pic? x"

Want him in what sense?

I think it's cool if you know what you want and he knows what your stance is.

I recently had a strange thing happen.. My ex from 7 years ago who I hadn't seen since popped up again. Initially she broke my heart and I haven't been in a relationship since. So a month or two ago she came and stayed with me for a few days. She was clear that she didn't want a relationship etc.. and I knew I had to be careful, but I also really wanted to see her again. All that selective memory and wonder got resolved, it was miraculous. We had a nice time together and it was great to have sex with her again, and now I feel I don't need to ponder anymore, can move on from wondering all the whys and I wish's regarding her..

So as long as you keep yourself in check and are clear about things, I think it can be a positive experience reconnecting with people from the past in a new context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he/she might have changed and could be the person you always wanted them to be and all you may have to do is put your self out there and give him/her a chance even if it does seem like a risk!

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I have been lucky and found it quite easy just to put the emotion away and just fuck a previous partner. Have enjoyed the pleasure from knowing how they remember what buttons to push.

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"he/she might have changed and could be the person you always wanted them to be and all you may have to do is put your self out there and give him/her a chance even if it does seem like a risk!"

There is no chance of a proper relationship again. Our circumstances are still the same and prorities still very different. I always felt very protected with him and he was lovely to my kids. I don't see him and flush at the sexy memories as I have done with another partner but my sexual experiences are far greater now. It sounds like he would like to explore though.

I hate being indecisive lol

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

just go and see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i see i understand what your saying.

id see what happens to be fair but i am holding on to someone myself and hoping things work out.

i hate to think about the what ifs and what could bes and a chance could change you mind surely?

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

He isn't the man of my dreams but a lovely guy without a doubt. Hate being indecisive. Guess I need to sleep on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only seeing positives, there's no real downside, why not explore together...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being indecisive isnt a bad thing to be fair

everyone is different i guess but as i say id see what happens

sleeping on it could be the best idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it girl, you got hurt very much by the last guy and he's in the past. Just enjoy yourself what will be will be, x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you can only be fb's. Maybe ask him what he wants?

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Fbs...yes maybe.

Slightly embarrassed to ask him out direct lol. But his texts were clear without spelling it out.

Bugger...lol.

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"Go for it girl, you got hurt very much by the last guy and he's in the past. Just enjoy yourself what will be will be, x"

Saffie. Its life I guess. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go for it girl, you got hurt very much by the last guy and he's in the past. Just enjoy yourself what will be will be, x

Saffie. Its life I guess. X"

Maybe but go with it, with eyes wide open x

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I am so very careful with my heart and give it out very carefully. Have only ever once given it almost without realising so going into this with eyes wide open for sure if I do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

take a chance even if it doesnt work at least you had the chance to see the outcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not always that simple, people can get hurt and sometimes not worth the risk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its worth the risk if you know that you wont be the person who hurt them in the first place.

sometime you just have to take risks to be happy no matter what the is in the past. the future is all that matters and it just about putting your self out there so thing can be better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Past matters too, don't care what people say but sometimes you can't move on from the past and forget

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people can move past the past and can be stronger for it. i think strength comes from the challenges a relationship holds and the more you can go through and still feel deep down you ment for each other. people overthink things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I guess we are all different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah people are all different i know that i still hold hope that people can let go of the past and think of a good future they can share together.

i know life is hard and these things are sent to test everyone.

i know this last year i have changed alot ! mainly the last 5 months but i still think there is a chance for people to come together again

some people can give up but some have to keep trying to get what they want and truely believe is ment to be :D

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I don't look at back at my relationship with him and wish things were different. ..no. Certainly not with him. I haven't cried over him or anything like that. So meeting hom again would be like a slipper I guess. We know each other and it works. Maybe a fb is a good way to look at each other again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry i was using your thread to vent my relationship problems and thoughts on if its worth keep trying in hope of another chance.

still worth people can have other chance and be happy

but in your situation fb is prob the way to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or lack of relationship problems should i say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its worth the risk if you know that you wont be the person who hurt them in the first place.

sometime you just have to take risks to be happy no matter what the is in the past. the future is all that matters and it just about putting your self out there so thing can be better."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ex's are like fireworks. If you go back to one after you've walked away it will blow up in your face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i honestly dont believe that is true

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I think it varies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair, looking at your pics, the guy should be moving hell and high water to get you back.

And my previous post is from my experience. I had my heart broke but it led me into swinging and sexual freedom. So it's not all bad.

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Bless you manc for saying that. I don't think he is trying to get ne back but then I don't think I understand men anyway lol.

Will have to see what happens x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bless you manc for saying that. I don't think he is trying to get ne back but then I don't think I understand men anyway lol.

Will have to see what happens x"

Well i wish you the best of luck and i really hope you both find what you're looking for x

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Have text him to invite him to a club with me. Been quite honest with him. I will wait to hear x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have text him to invite him to a club with me. Been quite honest with him. I will wait to hear x"

He is a lucky man! Your body is gorgeous! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I write this, I wonder if you've had a reply as yet?

For what it's worth, I took an ex to a swing club in Stockholm and she just loved it.

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Unfortunately he is at his work do that night. He wants to do some 1 on 1 practice before getting him out in the world lol.

So it answers my questions really. Now making other plans for my free night x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lucky bloke...

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