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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why are we finding it so hard to get even one genuine coloured guy to meet? we chat, he talks the talk, but don't walk the walk,, so let us down at the last minute.

We have even put up a meet for Monday, but so far, not much response, can anyone tell us what we are doing wrong?

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all depends how you approach them, a lot of black guys tell us that they are only wanted, approached and asked about how big they are....... not saying the op is doing this , but know it does happen!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could be the fact ur meet is a bareback meet thats wanted...that will diminish ur responses incredibly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"could be the fact ur meet is a bareback meet thats wanted...that will diminish ur responses incredibly"

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

Black or white they are a person first not just a fantasy.

I hate being treated like a fantasy (or worse a toy)

Some people like it but as with many preferences it takes time to find suitable playmates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to give you a heads up but most well pretty much all black people I know dont like to be called coloured they'd rather be called black or mixed race, coloured is a outdated term these day, just so you know.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Why are we finding it so hard to get even one genuine coloured guy to meet? we chat, he talks the talk, but don't walk the walk,, so let us down at the last minute.

We have even put up a meet for Monday, but so far, not much response, can anyone tell us what we are doing wrong?

Thanks"

Don't mean to be a dick. But if you are a swinger, you should have a pretty modern outlook. The use of the word "coloured" is a bit....... Stonehenge. Just FYI

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Just to give you a heads up but most well pretty much all black people I know dont like to be called coloured they'd rather be called black or mixed race, coloured is a outdated term these day, just so you know."

lol just beat me to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to give you a heads up but most well pretty much all black people I know dont like to be called coloured they'd rather be called black or mixed race, coloured is a outdated term these day, just so you know.

lol just beat me to it"

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think seeing someone as a fantasy is the problem so it will remain a fantasy, not reality, no one likes being seen " for novelty value"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also bareback is off putting in the age of HIV.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There lots of genuine coloured guys on here .we never been stood up by any of them.they always show .only go for verified sis best and meet then at a social or party best before or club even better .xxxpopsxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"could be the fact ur meet is a bareback meet thats wanted...that will diminish ur responses incredibly

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where does it say bare back I couldn't see it on the meet or profile ?xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"could be the fact ur meet is a bareback meet thats wanted...that will diminish ur responses incredibly

where does it say bare back I couldn't see it on the meet or profile ?xx "
i see now .no lots of black guys like safe sex .there is one thats always asking for bare back but we not met him cos of that .hes from England too.poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are we finding it so hard to get even one genuine coloured guy to meet? we chat, he talks the talk, but don't walk the walk,, so let us down at the last minute.

We have even put up a meet for Monday, but so far, not much response, can anyone tell us what we are doing wrong?

Thanks"

You want a bareback fuck and go and you're only interested in the colour of their skin...I get that you are trying to fulfill a fantasy but where does his fantasy come into it? You're appealing to a small market (ie black guys that don't practice safe sex with strangers) and not even pretending to be bothered about what they will get out of it. If a guy was to post that he wanted to dump his load in a white woman then leave I can't imagine it would go down very well or get a huge number of offers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"could be the fact ur meet is a bareback meet thats wanted...that will diminish ur responses incredibly"

^^^^^ this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a huge fan of the word coloured ...reminds me of civil rights and signs outside B&Bs, pubs, toilets, and rental adverts ...usually preceded by the word 'No'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the feedback, must be showing my age with the 'coloured' comment, didn't want to offend by saying Black,,, so cant do right for doing wrong eh?

Get the point about the bareback, I guess its not everyone's cup of tea, I just wanted to be filled for the hubby,,, like was said, perhaps it might stay a fantasy,, hey ho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when you say 'genuine' do you mean the people you talk to arent really black?

interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am confused. When you say 'coloured' did you mean black or brown or both or anyone who is not white?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Thanks for the feedback, must be showing my age with the 'coloured' comment, didn't want to offend by saying Black,,, so cant do right for doing wrong eh?

Get the point about the bareback, I guess its not everyone's cup of tea, I just wanted to be filled for the hubby,,, like was said, perhaps it might stay a fantasy,, hey ho.

"

You're around my age group: the word "coloured" has not been used for decades!

As for fantasy: so it's ok for couples to seek mmf/ffm, gang bangs, bukkake etc but not a black man? There are black men who actively promote their colour to obtain meets. There's a black man in my area who posts new bare back pics nearly every day so they are out there.

The only thing I wanted from this site was fantasy: all concerned knew that. Personally don't understand why people get upset being a fantasy.

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By *ogamuffinMan
over a year ago

slough

I'm not coloured, I'm brown....

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

[Removed by poster at 30/11/13 21:26:38]

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

OP on your profile you've asked for people that has verifications yet you don't have any on show.

Just a thought.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Don't call them coloured...that would definitely help!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a huge fan of the word coloured ...reminds me of civil rights and signs outside B&Bs, pubs, toilets, and rental adverts ...usually preceded by the word 'No'

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i was just using it as the context of the forum content .i otherwise use black and nobody usually gets offended .poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP on your profile you've asked for people that has verifications yet you don't have any on show.

Just a thought."
i hate that .you got to see the veries .poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when you say 'genuine' do you mean the people you talk to arent really black?

interesting"
lol.thats why i originally went to read this .i thought it was people pretending to be black and would turn up white or with a very bad spray tan of overindulgence .lol, popyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind being called coloured or black , but from a black guys point of view and from where I come from, the bareback is just a no no in my eyes,ive lost family and seen so much heartbreak with the hiv virus.each to ther own but just not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a huge fan of the word coloured ...reminds me of civil rights and signs outside B&Bs, pubs, toilets, and rental adverts ...usually preceded by the word 'No'

i was just using it as the context of the forum content .i otherwise use black and nobody usually gets offended .poppyxx"

It's fine - my response was directed at the OP anyway. Black is fine with me.

LT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"could be the fact ur meet is a bareback meet thats wanted...that will diminish ur responses incredibly"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a huge fan of the word coloured ...reminds me of civil rights and signs outside B&Bs, pubs, toilets, and rental adverts ...usually preceded by the word 'No'

i was just using it as the context of the forum content .i otherwise use black and nobody usually gets offended .poppyxx

It's fine - my response was directed at the OP anyway. Black is fine with me.

LT "
good glad we are ok was going to say cool but thats a bit too blackish to say lol.not meaning anything by that but sure someone would sat sarcastically .lovely pics by the way and a mutual friend .mmmmmm.poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to give you a heads up but most well pretty much all black people I know dont like to be called coloured they'd rather be called black or mixed race, coloured is a outdated term these day, just so you know."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a huge fan of the word coloured ...reminds me of civil rights and signs outside B&Bs, pubs, toilets, and rental adverts ...usually preceded by the word 'No'

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With photos like that I'd happily call you whatever you wanted me too (I'm such a damned flirt)

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Face-fucking-palm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aren't we all coloured? Black, white, etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a huge fan of the word coloured ...reminds me of civil rights and signs outside B&Bs, pubs, toilets, and rental adverts ...usually preceded by the word 'No'

i was just using it as the context of the forum content .i otherwise use black and nobody usually gets offended .poppyxx

It's fine - my response was directed at the OP anyway. Black is fine with me.

LT good glad we are ok was going to say cool but thats a bit too blackish to say lol.not meaning anything by that but sure someone would sat sarcastically .lovely pics by the way and a mutual friend .mmmmmm.poppyxx"

Yes I'd noticed ...I've heard rumours of your parties ... Feel free to get in touch sometime x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is there a filter on here to filter out rude, uneducated, ignorant people with no manners?"

That would definitely curtail your responses (if you get any).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i hope the OP found a meet.......... coloured or black or brown or whatever..I dont think thers a huge fucking isssue lol

I drew attention to the actual meet wanted.......

I may have said OK lets shag....but then i dont know how great the OP expressed themselves... alot of the times I may get couples interested, with mails...and then of course I get the couples who it appears have the male half messaging...the female half can never be proven....so it begs the question...has the male half let this become a fantasy to make reality or is he just a fake fudwank

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Blimey, opened a can of worms there eh? at least it got everyone talking, and just for the record, not that I can prove it, but it is the female part of the couple here, and yes thanks, sorted for tomorrow night now.

Each to their own eh? what is one woman's fantasy is another's nightmare, we should all know that being on a swinging site, diversity is what makes the world go round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP on your profile you've asked for people that has verifications yet you don't have any on show.

Just a thought."

Another positive post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow this is is deep, and in the wrong sense lol. Surely language that is used need to have malice behind it for someone to take offence???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP on your profile you've asked for people that has verifications yet you don't have any on show.

Just a thought.

Another positive post "

Ahhh,,, but we do have some,,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow this is is deep, and in the wrong sense lol. Surely language that is used need to have malice behind it for someone to take offence??? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP on your profile you've asked for people that has verifications yet you don't have any on show.

Just a thought.

Another positive post "

for most groups male female whatever...hidden verifications if especially new to the site always lead me to believe its either fake veris or just from cam(even then...some will verify without even seeing the female half...)..I try to give everyone a chance that mails me, unverified or not...but I require a bit more reassurance...if I dont get that, either ive lost out on a shag or not wasted my time pursuing it

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By *ownthereMan
over a year ago

luton

Cant we all just have a nice cup of tea.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhh, I though that was about blokes pretending they are coloured.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cant we all just have a nice cup of tea......."

I am doing reading this thread by my eyes are like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to give you a heads up but most well pretty much all black people I know dont like to be called coloured they'd rather be called black or mixed race, coloured is a outdated term these day, just so you know.

"

All the team I work with are black

Saying coloured is offensive but then I get told off for calling some dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"also bareback is off putting in the age of HIV."

Glad you brought that up, straight community forget sometimes they spread it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to give you a heads up but most well pretty much all black people I know dont like to be called coloured they'd rather be called black or mixed race, coloured is a outdated term these day, just so you know.

All the team I work with are black

Saying coloured is offensive but then I get told off for calling some dear "

are u the receptionist for teamblack uk....cos I've sent in my cv and not had a response yet..I just wanna start my career as a black gangbang crew member, my wages at kefuckyfriedchokin are woeful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno whats been lost in translation here...maybe keep it off the forum...its sunday...day of rest, ffs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 reasons

1) the fact you say coloured

2) the fact you do bareback

3) this isn't a circus we are not here to perform to your pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow this is is deep, and in the wrong sense lol. Surely language that is used need to have malice behind it for someone to take offence??? "

The op asked for tips as to why they may not be getting responses, I wasn't referring at all that they were saying the word 'coloured' as malice just that its a very outdated term and some people *might* be put off hearing it. No need to get deep about it etc but it's a fact some people will be put off by it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3 reasons

1) the fact you say coloured

2) the fact you do bareback

3) this isn't a circus we are not here to perform to your pleasure"

See, bang on point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nhs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3 reasons

1) the fact you say coloured

2) the fact you do bareback

3) this isn't a circus we are not here to perform to your pleasure"

well with that attitude i dont think you will get very far lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to give you a heads up but most well pretty much all black people I know dont like to be called coloured they'd rather be called black or mixed race, coloured is a outdated term these day, just so you know."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The very fact that the OP is seeking black men rules out the possibility of any racism surely ?

Of course certain people have to jump on the bandwagon because the OP made an outdated,uneducated comment.

If they're seeking BB I'm sure they will find that eventually,horses for courses this swinging lifestyle.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"Just to give you a heads up but most well pretty much all black people I know dont like to be called coloured they'd rather be called black or mixed race, coloured is a outdated term these day, just so you know."

Thank you! We are definitely not coloured. Certainly not from a Caucasian person's point of view. If race was to be rated on a colour scale, I doubt very much the hue of my skin would be classified as having more colour than a Caucasian person's.

Secondly you have no discernible pics. Not sure what that pic is. Is that someone's chin with shaving cream?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The very fact that the OP is seeking black men rules out the possibility of any racism surely ?

Of course certain people have to jump on the bandwagon because the OP made an outdated,uneducated comment.

If they're seeking BB I'm sure they will find that eventually,horses for courses this swinging lifestyle.

"

Again who is stating racism? No band wagon jumping just stating facts. I looked at the title of the thread and thought to myself "who's say's coloured these days! Dinosaurs! Its 2013 ffs get with the times!"

I hate it when you can't have a genuine upfront duscussion without someone throwing in the word 'band wagon' there's no band wagon just giving an opinion that the op asked for and I know for a fact that the word coloured will put people off, or shall I just be unhelpful and have not of bothered to tell them and let them carry on using an outdated word as obviously some people have cause they're still using it in 2013 when most people realise people use the word black?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to give you a heads up but most well pretty much all black people I know dont like to be called coloured they'd rather be called black or mixed race, coloured is a outdated term these day, just so you know.

Thank you! We are definitely not coloured. Certainly not from a Caucasian person's point of view. If race was to be rated on a colour scale, I doubt very much the hue of my skin would be classified as having more colour than a Caucasian person's.

Secondly you have no discernible pics. Not sure what that pic is. Is that someone's chin with shaving cream? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The very fact that the OP is seeking black men rules out the possibility of any racism surely ?

Of course certain people have to jump on the bandwagon because the OP made an outdated,uneducated comment.

If they're seeking BB I'm sure they will find that eventually,horses for courses this swinging lifestyle.

Again who is stating racism? No band wagon jumping just stating facts. I looked at the title of the thread and thought to myself "who's say's coloured these days! Dinosaurs! Its 2013 ffs get with the times!"

I hate it when you can't have a genuine upfront duscussion without someone throwing in the word 'band wagon' there's no band wagon just giving an opinion that the op asked for and I know for a fact that the word coloured will put people off, or shall I just be unhelpful and have not of bothered to tell them and let them carry on using an outdated word as obviously some people have cause they're still using it in 2013 when most people realise people use the word black?

"

I agree with ladyluck's general sentiment... Seeing the term 'coloured' (an 'outdated, uneducated comment') may be a reason why OP isn't getting the meets...simple deductive reasoning. OP's decision to bareback is perhaps another cause.

Good luck OP.

**Dismounts bandwagon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The very fact that the OP is seeking black men rules out the possibility of any racism surely ?

Of course certain people have to jump on the bandwagon because the OP made an outdated,uneducated comment.

If they're seeking BB I'm sure they will find that eventually,horses for courses this swinging lifestyle.

Again who is stating racism? No band wagon jumping just stating facts. I looked at the title of the thread and thought to myself "who's say's coloured these days! Dinosaurs! Its 2013 ffs get with the times!"

I hate it when you can't have a genuine upfront duscussion without someone throwing in the word 'band wagon' there's no band wagon just giving an opinion that the op asked for and I know for a fact that the word coloured will put people off, or shall I just be unhelpful and have not of bothered to tell them and let them carry on using an outdated word as obviously some people have cause they're still using it in 2013 when most people realise people use the word black?

I agree with ladyluck's general sentiment... Seeing the term 'coloured' (an 'outdated, uneducated comment') may be a reason why OP isn't getting the meets...simple deductive reasoning. OP's decision to bareback is perhaps another cause.

Good luck OP.

**Dismounts bandwagon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can never see anyones issue with being called coloured...its a pretty neutral comment to be honest...there is no difference between being called black or coloured..

and to be vey simple...noone has ever called me a coloured bastard lol

some people just dont like calling people black...my non coloured family included... they arent racist they arent ignorant they arent stupid, they see me as coloured...simple as.

I feel language is some form of barrier in these cases

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Wow this is is deep, and in the wrong sense lol. Surely language that is used need to have malice behind it for someone to take offence??? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow this is is deep, and in the wrong sense lol. Surely language that is used need to have malice behind it for someone to take offence???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much ado about nothing.

Although the Op has used an outdated word to describe black men there was clearly no malice. Some still use words like Eskimo or Oriental. We only learn by being told.

As for the 'fantasy' argument, am I missing something? This is Fabswingers, it's based on fantasy.

Why else would a happily married couple invite someone into their sex life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Much ado about nothing.

Although the Op has used an outdated word to describe black men there was clearly no malice. Some still use words like Eskimo or Oriental. We only learn by being told.

As for the 'fantasy' argument, am I missing something? This is Fabswingers, it's based on fantasy.

Why else would a happily married couple invite someone into their sex life? "

cos the hubby is secretly bi..true story

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"3 reasons

1) the fact you say coloured

2) the fact you do bareback

3) this isn't a circus we are not here to perform to your pleasure"

short, sharp, straight to the point....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Much ado about nothing.

Although the Op has used an outdated word to describe black men there was clearly no malice. Some still use words like Eskimo or Oriental. We only learn by being told.

As for the 'fantasy' argument, am I missing something? This is Fabswingers, it's based on fantasy.

Why else would a happily married couple invite someone into their sex life? "

You're right, it is about fantasy and something you wouldn't just walk up to someone on the street and ask. You'd think the selection process was for a job the way some couples carry on with their criteria. I don't entertain such couples myself, they assume to have high standards about themselves but in reality the "high" end of the standards is out the window when you're online looking for others to spice up your sex life. We are all on the same level as singles or couples. We enjoy the company sex brings us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are we finding it so hard to get even one genuine coloured guy to meet? we chat, he talks the talk, but don't walk the walk,, so let us down at the last minute.

We have even put up a meet for Monday, but so far, not much response, can anyone tell us what we are doing wrong?

Thanks"

Maibe its time to have vanilla sex instead

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Much ado about nothing.

Although the Op has used an outdated word to describe black men there was clearly no malice. Some still use words like Eskimo or Oriental. We only learn by being told.

As for the 'fantasy' argument, am I missing something? This is Fabswingers, it's based on fantasy.

Why else would a happily married couple invite someone into their sex life? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can never see anyones issue with being called coloured...its a pretty neutral comment to be honest...there is no difference between being called black or coloured..

and to be vey simple...noone has ever called me a coloured bastard lol

some people just dont like calling people black...my non coloured family included... they arent racist they arent ignorant they arent stupid, they see me as coloured...simple as.

I feel language is some form of barrier in these cases

"

*sigh*

Ok explain myself again, you may not see it as offensive /off putting but many black people do - myself and other people who have posted do. Its an outdated term associated with some bad memories for black people (such as no coloureds on toilet doors etc)

Im am not saying the op said colured to be racist, naaty, ignorant etc etc, im saying many people will read that word and it will put them off messaging. And I was thinking maybe they dont realise most black people find the term offensive therefore someone should tell them to give them a heads up for the future. Its 2013 not the 70's....

They did ask!

To make it clear I was not and I dont think anyone is saying they are racist.

Can't say fuck all these days without someone coming along and saying your pulling iut the race card and pc gone made bullshit! They asked and I told, no agenda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can never see anyones issue with being called coloured...its a pretty neutral comment to be honest...there is no difference between being called black or coloured..

and to be vey simple...noone has ever called me a coloured bastard lol

some people just dont like calling people black...my non coloured family included... they arent racist they arent ignorant they arent stupid, they see me as coloured...simple as.

I feel language is some form of barrier in these cases

*sigh*

Ok explain myself again, you may not see it as offensive /off putting but many black people do - myself and other people who have posted do. Its an outdated term associated with some bad memories for black people (such as no coloureds on toilet doors etc)

Im am not saying the op said colured to be racist, naaty, ignorant etc etc, im saying many people will read that word and it will put them off messaging. And I was thinking maybe they dont realise most black people find the term offensive therefore someone should tell them to give them a heads up for the future. Its 2013 not the 70's....

They did ask!

To make it clear I was not and I dont think anyone is saying they are racist.

Can't say fuck all these days without someone coming along and saying your pulling iut the race card and pc gone made bullshit! They asked and I told, no agenda."
on a positive note.... you have a cracking arse x

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over a year ago


"I can never see anyones issue with being called coloured...its a pretty neutral comment to be honest...there is no difference between being called black or coloured..

and to be vey simple...noone has ever called me a coloured bastard lol

some people just dont like calling people black...my non coloured family included... they arent racist they arent ignorant they arent stupid, they see me as coloured...simple as.

I feel language is some form of barrier in these cases

*sigh*

Ok explain myself again, you may not see it as offensive /off putting but many black people do - myself and other people who have posted do. Its an outdated term associated with some bad memories for black people (such as no coloureds on toilet doors etc)

Im am not saying the op said colured to be racist, naaty, ignorant etc etc, im saying many people will read that word and it will put them off messaging. And I was thinking maybe they dont realise most black people find the term offensive therefore someone should tell them to give them a heads up for the future. Its 2013 not the 70's....

They did ask!

To make it clear I was not and I dont think anyone is saying they are racist.

Can't say fuck all these days without someone coming along and saying your pulling iut the race card and pc gone made bullshit! They asked and I told, no agenda. on a positive note.... you have a cracking arse x"

Lol thank u x

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over a year ago

Its like with anyone, you will alwais find timewasters lol.

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over a year ago


"I can never see anyones issue with being called coloured...its a pretty neutral comment to be honest...there is no difference between being called black or coloured..

and to be vey simple...noone has ever called me a coloured bastard lol

some people just dont like calling people black...my non coloured family included... they arent racist they arent ignorant they arent stupid, they see me as coloured...simple as.

I feel language is some form of barrier in these cases

*sigh*

Ok explain myself again, you may not see it as offensive /off putting but many black people do - myself and other people who have posted do. Its an outdated term associated with some bad memories for black people (such as no coloureds on toilet doors etc)

Im am not saying the op said colured to be racist, naaty, ignorant etc etc, im saying many people will read that word and it will put them off messaging. And I was thinking maybe they dont realise most black people find the term offensive therefore someone should tell them to give them a heads up for the future. Its 2013 not the 70's....

They did ask!

To make it clear I was not and I dont think anyone is saying they are racist.

Can't say fuck all these days without someone coming along and saying your pulling iut the race card and pc gone made bullshit! They asked and I told, no agenda. on a positive note.... you have a cracking arse x"

Indeed it is very nice!!

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over a year ago


"I can never see anyones issue with being called coloured...its a pretty neutral comment to be honest...there is no difference between being called black or coloured..

and to be vey simple...noone has ever called me a coloured bastard lol

some people just dont like calling people black...my non coloured family included... they arent racist they arent ignorant they arent stupid, they see me as coloured...simple as.

I feel language is some form of barrier in these cases

*sigh*

Ok explain myself again, you may not see it as offensive /off putting but many black people do - myself and other people who have posted do. Its an outdated term associated with some bad memories for black people (such as no coloureds on toilet doors etc)

Im am not saying the op said colured to be racist, naaty, ignorant etc etc, im saying many people will read that word and it will put them off messaging. And I was thinking maybe they dont realise most black people find the term offensive therefore someone should tell them to give them a heads up for the future. Its 2013 not the 70's....

They did ask!

To make it clear I was not and I dont think anyone is saying they are racist.

Can't say fuck all these days without someone coming along and saying your pulling iut the race card and pc gone made bullshit! They asked and I told, no agenda. on a positive note.... you have a cracking arse x

Indeed it is very nice!! "

And thank you mr sexy torso lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"could be the fact ur meet is a bareback meet thats wanted...that will diminish ur responses incredibly"
.H.I.V here i come.

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over a year ago


"I can never see anyones issue with being called coloured...its a pretty neutral comment to be honest...there is no difference between being called black or coloured..

and to be vey simple...noone has ever called me a coloured bastard lol

some people just dont like calling people black...my non coloured family included... they arent racist they arent ignorant they arent stupid, they see me as coloured...simple as.

I feel language is some form of barrier in these cases

*sigh*

Ok explain myself again, you may not see it as offensive /off putting but many black people do - myself and other people who have posted do. Its an outdated term associated with some bad memories for black people (such as no coloureds on toilet doors etc)

Im am not saying the op said colured to be racist, naaty, ignorant etc etc, im saying many people will read that word and it will put them off messaging. And I was thinking maybe they dont realise most black people find the term offensive therefore someone should tell them to give them a heads up for the future. Its 2013 not the 70's....

They did ask!

To make it clear I was not and I dont think anyone is saying they are racist.

Can't say fuck all these days without someone coming along and saying your pulling iut the race card and pc gone made bullshit! They asked and I told, no agenda. on a positive note.... you have a cracking arse x

Indeed it is very nice!!

And thank you mr sexy torso lol x

"

My pleasure and thank you too

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over a year ago


"I can never see anyones issue with being called coloured...its a pretty neutral comment to be honest...there is no difference between being called black or coloured..

and to be vey simple...noone has ever called me a coloured bastard lol

some people just dont like calling people black...my non coloured family included... they arent racist they arent ignorant they arent stupid, they see me as coloured...simple as.

I feel language is some form of barrier in these cases

*sigh*

Ok explain myself again, you may not see it as offensive /off putting but many black people do - myself and other people who have posted do. Its an outdated term associated with some bad memories for black people (such as no coloureds on toilet doors etc)

Im am not saying the op said colured to be racist, naaty, ignorant etc etc, im saying many people will read that word and it will put them off messaging. And I was thinking maybe they dont realise most black people find the term offensive therefore someone should tell them to give them a heads up for the future. Its 2013 not the 70's....

They did ask!

To make it clear I was not and I dont think anyone is saying they are racist.

Can't say fuck all these days without someone coming along and saying your pulling iut the race card and pc gone made bullshit! They asked and I told, no agenda."

time to move on its 2014 nearly, we can remember horrible things and help with our futures..I for one dont live in the past, I dont live in the time when scotland was at war with england, I didnt live in the place were segregation was common place.

Unfortunately ppl walk on eggshells when talking about other groups of people, and when its not meant offensively(or actually isnt taken as offensive)it really does pale in comparison to other racial issues.

coloured is pretty simple it doesnt need digging into in my opinion...I dont see how it differs from black

so neither is derogatory to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am Mixed race and its interesting that there isn't much call for us mixed race guys.

Well I suppose if someone has a fantasy it dosnt hurt to see if they can make it become a reality. isn't that what part of swinging is about

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over a year ago


"I am Mixed race and its interesting that there isn't much call for us mixed race guys.

Well I suppose if someone has a fantasy it dosnt hurt to see if they can make it become a reality. isn't that what part of swinging is about"

well, you could help them get half way there.

little steps and all that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can never see anyones issue with being called coloured...its a pretty neutral comment to be honest...there is no difference between being called black or coloured..

and to be vey simple...noone has ever called me a coloured bastard lol

some people just dont like calling people black...my non coloured family included... they arent racist they arent ignorant they arent stupid, they see me as coloured...simple as.

I feel language is some form of barrier in these cases

*sigh*

Ok explain myself again, you may not see it as offensive /off putting but many black people do - myself and other people who have posted do. Its an outdated term associated with some bad memories for black people (such as no coloureds on toilet doors etc)

Im am not saying the op said colured to be racist, naaty, ignorant etc etc, im saying many people will read that word and it will put them off messaging. And I was thinking maybe they dont realise most black people find the term offensive therefore someone should tell them to give them a heads up for the future. Its 2013 not the 70's....

They did ask!

To make it clear I was not and I dont think anyone is saying they are racist.

Can't say fuck all these days without someone coming along and saying your pulling iut the race card and pc gone made bullshit! They asked and I told, no agenda. on a positive note.... you have a cracking arse x

Lol thank u x"
lol your welcome,(squatting as we speak)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can never see anyones issue with being called coloured...its a pretty neutral comment to be honest...there is no difference between being called black or coloured..

and to be vey simple...noone has ever called me a coloured bastard lol

some people just dont like calling people black...my non coloured family included... they arent racist they arent ignorant they arent stupid, they see me as coloured...simple as.

I feel language is some form of barrier in these cases

*sigh*

Ok explain myself again, you may not see it as offensive /off putting but many black people do - myself and other people who have posted do. Its an outdated term associated with some bad memories for black people (such as no coloureds on toilet doors etc)

Im am not saying the op said colured to be racist, naaty, ignorant etc etc, im saying many people will read that word and it will put them off messaging. And I was thinking maybe they dont realise most black people find the term offensive therefore someone should tell them to give them a heads up for the future. Its 2013 not the 70's....

They did ask!

To make it clear I was not and I dont think anyone is saying they are racist.

Can't say fuck all these days without someone coming along and saying your pulling iut the race card and pc gone made bullshit! They asked and I told, no agenda.

time to move on its 2014 nearly, we can remember horrible things and help with our futures..I for one dont live in the past, I dont live in the time when scotland was at war with england, I didnt live in the place were segregation was common place.

Unfortunately ppl walk on eggshells when talking about other groups of people, and when its not meant offensively(or actually isnt taken as offensive)it really does pale in comparison to other racial issues.

coloured is pretty simple it doesnt need digging into in my opinion...I dont see how it differs from black

so neither is derogatory to me

"

I dont live in the past either and neither should anyone else, hense using archaic words like coloured should stay in the past.

Im mixed race by the way, not purple or red as colured would insinuate.

Its not about walking on eggshells its about using common sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can never see anyones issue with being called coloured...its a pretty neutral comment to be honest...there is no difference between being called black or coloured..

and to be vey simple...noone has ever called me a coloured bastard lol

some people just dont like calling people black...my non coloured family included... they arent racist they arent ignorant they arent stupid, they see me as coloured...simple as.

I feel language is some form of barrier in these cases

*sigh*

Ok explain myself again, you may not see it as offensive /off putting but many black people do - myself and other people who have posted do. Its an outdated term associated with some bad memories for black people (such as no coloureds on toilet doors etc)

Im am not saying the op said colured to be racist, naaty, ignorant etc etc, im saying many people will read that word and it will put them off messaging. And I was thinking maybe they dont realise most black people find the term offensive therefore someone should tell them to give them a heads up for the future. Its 2013 not the 70's....

They did ask!

To make it clear I was not and I dont think anyone is saying they are racist.

Can't say fuck all these days without someone coming along and saying your pulling iut the race card and pc gone made bullshit! They asked and I told, no agenda. on a positive note.... you have a cracking arse x

Lol thank u x lol your welcome,(squatting as we speak)"

Lol

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over a year ago


"Just to give you a heads up but most well pretty much all black people I know dont like to be called coloured they'd rather be called black or mixed race, coloured is a outdated term these day, just so you know."

Couldn't agree more as a black guy myself...someone used the term to describe me once and i remember confronting the person who actually happens to be my fwb now .... people may mean well by it but the term has a certain negative overtone to it...good luck!

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over a year ago


"Just to give you a heads up but most well pretty much all black people I know dont like to be called coloured they'd rather be called black or mixed race, coloured is a outdated term these day, just so you know.

Couldn't agree more as a black guy myself...someone used the term to describe me once and i remember confronting the person who actually happens to be my fwb now .... people may mean well by it but the term has a certain negative overtone to it...good luck! "

Exactly, negative undertones, feel uneasy hearing it, not that it was intended to cause offense but can't disassociate the word woth the negative connotations once connected to it.

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over a year ago


"Just to give you a heads up but most well pretty much all black people I know dont like to be called coloured they'd rather be called black or mixed race, coloured is a outdated term these day, just so you know.

Couldn't agree more as a black guy myself...someone used the term to describe me once and i remember confronting the person who actually happens to be my fwb now .... people may mean well by it but the term has a certain negative overtone to it...good luck!

Exactly, negative undertones, feel uneasy hearing it, not that it was intended to cause offense but can't disassociate the word woth the negative connotations once connected to it."

which goes back to the 'queen of spades' thread from the other week.

not intended to be insulting, but has undertones of a racist history

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over a year ago


"Just to give you a heads up but most well pretty much all black people I know dont like to be called coloured they'd rather be called black or mixed race, coloured is a outdated term these day, just so you know.

Couldn't agree more as a black guy myself...someone used the term to describe me once and i remember confronting the person who actually happens to be my fwb now .... people may mean well by it but the term has a certain negative overtone to it...good luck!

Exactly, negative undertones, feel uneasy hearing it, not that it was intended to cause offense but can't disassociate the word woth the negative connotations once connected to it.

which goes back to the 'queen of spades' thread from the other week.

not intended to be insulting, but has undertones of a racist history"

Yep I remember the thread, its very hard to get people to understand your not calling *them* racist but the term or word is connected with something that makes yoi feel uneasy. As was pointed out in that thread, many rap songs use the N word not intending to be racist, doesnt mean when I hear it I dont feel uneasy and your damn right if someone says it in my presence il be calling them up on it whether they meant they intended to insult me or not, that word should die out so the less it's said the better imo.

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over a year ago

Yes I agree never call a black Asian or mixed race person coloured its not nice for them just my opinion happy fabbing

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over a year ago


"Thanks for the feedback, must be showing my age with the 'coloured' comment, didn't want to offend by saying Black,,, so cant do right for doing wrong eh?

Get the point about the bareback, I guess its not everyone's cup of tea, I just wanted to be filled for the hubby,,, like was said, perhaps it might stay a fantasy,, hey ho.

You're around my age group: the word "coloured" has not been used for decades!

As for fantasy: so it's ok for couples to seek mmf/ffm, gang bangs, bukkake etc but not a black man? There are black men who actively promote their colour to obtain meets. There's a black man in my area who posts new bare back pics nearly every day so they are out there.

The only thing I wanted from this site was fantasy: all concerned knew that. Personally don't understand why people get upset being a fantasy. "

Nobody has said they can't fulfill a fantasy, but that the person they are invited into the fantasy is more than a performing seal. I'm sure they will find what they want but they wanted reasons as to why they were struggling to find it when the truth is they are looking for a needle in a haystack...a black guy that will play bare and have no social interaction, just a fuck and go meet. Yes someone will be up for that but the majority wouldn't be for all the reasons pointed out

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over a year ago


"Not a huge fan of the word coloured ...reminds me of civil rights and signs outside B&Bs, pubs, toilets, and rental adverts ...usually preceded by the word 'No'

i was just using it as the context of the forum content .i otherwise use black and nobody usually gets offended .poppyxx

It's fine - my response was directed at the OP anyway. Black is fine with me.

LT good glad we are ok was going to say cool but thats a bit too blackish to

say lol.not meaning anything by that but sure someone would sat sarcastically .lovely pics by the way and a mutual friend .mmmmmm.poppyxx

Yes I'd noticed ...I've heard rumours of your parties ... Feel free to get in touch sometime

x"

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over a year ago


"Yes I agree never call a black Asian or mixed race person coloured its not nice for them just my opinion happy fabbing "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"also bareback is off putting in the age of HIV."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Black isn't offensive... This terminology has had loads of media over the years so how can you not know that the phrase black is acceptable but coloured isn't.

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By *r_G_SPMan
over a year ago

Nice shoes


"Black or white they are a person first not just a fantasy.

I hate being treated like a fantasy (or worse a toy)

Some people like it but as with many preferences it takes time to find suitable playmates. "

I agree with that

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