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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Isn't the term swinger for couples who swop and enjoy sex with other couples?

surely a single on here is someone just looking for sex

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am only interested in group sex, so yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Fabsomeonelookingforsexers' wouldn't sound particularly catchy though.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

No, I don't class myself as one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In some cases yes - some no.

Depends on their motivation, interaction and understanding of the lifestyle.

If they are using the site just for 1-2-1 hook ups then I guess it could be argues no. If they enjoy meeting couples, group sex, parties, clubs and the whole social side to swinging? Why not?

Personally I feel two couples simply meeting to play with each others partners more akin to old school 'wife swapping' especially if in private rather than a club environment.

But at the end of the day the term swinger will mean different things to different people and there's no right answer! It is, after all just another label!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our _iew is that singles are not swingers. If singles are playing with couples then they would be involved in the swinging scene but we don't think of them as swingers, just people looking for sexual experiences with swingers.

Hope that makes sense.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

This old chestnut

I was a swinger pre and during my marriage and my last long term thing, just because I'm single right now it doesn't mean I now go to 'desperate for sex' clubs.

Couples swapping is only a part of swinging, and swinging is first and foremost a mindset in my _iew.

ps 2 singles posing as a couple? when both are married elsewhere would be welcomed by 'proper couples swapping' but they frown on singles.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't the term swinger for couples who swop and enjoy sex with other couples?

surely a single on here is someone just looking for sex "

I think the term has evolved and now can mean singles and couples.

I don't see the difference in a 'swinger' looking for sex and a person looking for sex. It seems elitist. Do swingers somehow think they are 'better' because they call it swinging?! I find that very amusing.

I am not a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm swingle and bi sensual and that's 2 labels for me

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Given that all things evolve does it matter what terminology is used, labels are attached..?

long as folk are doing what they want and having fun..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't the term swinger for couples who swop and enjoy sex with other couples?

surely a single on here is someone just looking for sex "

Strictly speaking , yes you are correct . However the site is clearly being used for much more than swinging , which I don't think is a bad thing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say its someone who Likes the idea of having fun consensual sex with others in the same room be it at a party or club and feeling ok to discuss sexuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This old chestnut

I was a swinger pre and during my marriage and my last long term thing, just because I'm single right now it doesn't mean I now go to 'desperate for sex' clubs.

Couples swapping is only a part of swinging, and swinging is first and foremost a mindset in my _iew.

ps 2 singles posing as a couple? when both are married elsewhere would be welcomed by 'proper couples swapping' but they frown on singles..... "

That's your _iew and that's perfectly fine as we have ours. No need for rolling eyes ( which I presume were intended for us). I never said singles are not swingers just that in our _iew they're not. Every one is allowed one you know.

Well if two singles were "posing" as a couple how would the "proper couple " know? Maybe the two singles should be honest in the first place.

Ps we don't frown on meeting singles, no problem with it at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was going to say something about the eye rolling but couldn't be arsed wasting my time with her until you picked up on it.

seems like she feels like she is better than others and looking down her nose.

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

In the old definition, technically no, but you have to appreciate that the scene has changed alot since then. So the defintion has really broadened on its own terms.

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London


"Our _iew is that singles are not swingers. If singles are playing with couples then they would be involved in the swinging scene but we don't think of them as swingers, just people looking for sexual experiences with swingers.

Hope that makes sense. "

I think this would be our _iew as well, it doesn't make us think any less of singles, apart from the time we met a single guy, played with him, then he admited he had a wife, but would never do this sort of thing with her. Yeah, he left shortly after that comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So do couples who also play separately too cease to be 'swingers' when playing without their other half?

Or if a couple splits up but both continue meeting are they now simply 'seeking sex'?

Not to mention how many pissed off swinging couples there's be if no single bi females existed!!

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

Ah...as always the wise Mr Haive got there first...so deleted my post!

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands


"Ah...as always the wise Mr Haive got there first...so deleted my post! "

The day this site becomes a 'couples swap only' one I'll leave.

The day I feel I cant respond to a thread with my honest opinion, I will leave.

Until then I will respond as I do, honestly and giving my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah...as always the wise Mr Haive got there first...so deleted my post! "

Sorry Bambi!

I do have to roll my eyes (although not in this instance on the thread!) whenever this question rocks up on a site related to a lifestyle that is meant to be inclusive rather than exclusive, where singles of both sexes are welcome to join and are welcomed at clubs the length and breadth of the country as active members and participants - but are then branded as being in some way different to couples!!

Often by those who apparently seek those very singles for their fun!!

But hey - I could always just switch to using the couples profile I share and see how differently I'd be _iewed then! Mind you - as we're not married or cohabiting that probably excludes us as well!!

Good job I'm not fussed about labels eh!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do couples who also play separately too cease to be 'swingers' when playing without their other half?

Or if a couple splits up but both continue meeting are they now simply 'seeking sex'?

Not to mention how many pissed off swinging couples there's be if no single bi females existed!! "

Just on the last bit there:- we've no problem with singles, we love meeting single men prob wouldn't bother on here if they weren't.

Just it's our _iew that they are not swingers but they are a large part of the swinging scene and it wouldn't be the same with out them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Just it's our _iew that they are not swingers but they are a large part of the swinging scene and it wouldn't be the same with out them. "

How can someone be "a large part of the swinging scene" and yet be denied the same 'label' as others in said scene?

Surely that's contradictory?

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By *obbobeanMan
over a year ago

dagenham

I count myself as a swinger, as I do swing both ways

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"Ah...as always the wise Mr Haive got there first...so deleted my post!

Sorry Bambi!

I do have to roll my eyes (although not in this instance on the thread!) whenever this question rocks up on a site related to a lifestyle that is meant to be inclusive rather than exclusive, where singles of both sexes are welcome to join and are welcomed at clubs the length and breadth of the country as active members and participants - but are then branded as being in some way different to couples!!

Often by those who apparently seek those very singles for their fun!!

But hey - I could always just switch to using the couples profile I share and see how differently I'd be _iewed then! Mind you - as we're not married or cohabiting that probably excludes us as well!!

Good job I'm not fussed about labels eh!! "

How do you do this??? I need to be careful around you if you can read my mind

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"Ah...as always the wise Mr Haive got there first...so deleted my post!

The day this site becomes a 'couples swap only' one I'll leave.

The day I feel I cant respond to a thread with my honest opinion, I will leave.

Until then I will respond as I do, honestly and giving my opinion "

And so you should, everyone is allowed their opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All seems a little too "Animal Farm" for me - four legs good, two legs bad!!

And we know how well that ended up!

*exits thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares what the label says?

We are all on here for the same reasons!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting post and good to see peoples _iews .

We see singles as an integral part of the scene , especially as we happily meet both male and female singles .

But the true definition of a swinger is surely a couple who involve others in their sex life .

Whether that be other couples or singles , the term swinger wouldn't exist were it not for couples .

Although our local club is having a party night tonight for singles only .... we are not eligible to attend as we are a couple !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't the term swinger for couples who swop and enjoy sex with other couples?

surely a single on here is someone just looking for sex "

who cares

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't the term swinger for couples who swop and enjoy sex with other couples?

surely a single on here is someone just looking for sex "

who cares

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting post and good to see peoples _iews .

We see singles as an integral part of the scene , especially as we happily meet both male and female singles .

But the true definition of a swinger is surely a couple who involve others in their sex life .

Whether that be other couples or singles , the term swinger wouldn't exist were it not for couples .

Although our local club is having a party night tonight for singles only .... we are not eligible to attend as we are a couple !

"

That's our _iew too but be careful some on here get a bit edgy about other peoples _iews being different to there's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

none of us are swingers.

it is a term that has been invented to replace 'wife swappers' which is now somewhat defunct, and gives the lifestyle and almost acceptable title for many.

HOWEVER, if you take it in its infancy then no, no single can be a swinger, by virtue of they have nothing to swap (remember, it replaced the term wife swapper, so unless you have a wife to swap, you dont count)

there was a thread about this not long ago, and i think the general consensus wa that single persons should be hereby referred to as swingles.

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By *uper_gMan
over a year ago

london

Swinging or (rarely) partner swapping is a non-monogamous behavior, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.

According to wiki singles or partners!!!! When wiki ever wrong!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was introduced to the lifestyle in The early 90s by a couple I was friends with.

I used to meet them regularly and went to parties with them.

The lifestyle does get into your system even though I have taken breaks if I have a vanilla relationship.

there is nothing I would like more than have a partner into the lifestyle who I could explore with but they are rare.

Am I a genuine swinger? I think so After all if it was just sex I wanted I could just as easily find someone on a dating site. But I chose to try and meet people in the lifestyle because I enjoy it.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Just out of curiousity...... When all these couples are looking for single fems.... What is it called then?

Are they swinging but the single isn't???

I'll hang up and listen..................

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

swinger

a person who dates/sleeps with multiple people at the same time.

Urban dictionary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought swinging was about looking for sex.

yet if yourbsingle your looking for sex so a couple is looking for? Sex surely if they swing.. is that not the same thing...

confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiousity...... When all these couples are looking for single fems.... What is it called then?

Are they swinging but the single isn't???

I'll hang up and listen.................. "

1st question:- swinging

2nd:- yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't the term swinger for couples who swop and enjoy sex with other couples?

surely a single on here is someone just looking for sex "

I understand that couples are termed the dated "wife swappers" whereas a swinger is someone that in promiscuous with sex life, with can be single or couple.

Plus how would mmf/FFM happen without singles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiousity...... When all these couples are looking for single fems.... What is it called then?

Are they swinging but the single isn't???

I'll hang up and listen..................

1st question:- swinging

2nd:- yes"

So what's the single doing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would join in a dogging session lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do couples who also play separately too cease to be 'swingers' when playing without their other half?

Or if a couple splits up but both continue meeting are they now simply 'seeking sex'?

Not to mention how many pissed off swinging couples there's be if no single bi females existed!!

Just on the last bit there:- we've no problem with singles, we love meeting single men prob wouldn't bother on here if they weren't.

Just it's our _iew that they are not swingers but they are a large part of the swinging scene and it wouldn't be the same with out them. "

If they enjoying same sexual act makes them swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another thread against singles buuuu hoooooo lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This old chestnut

I was a swinger pre and during my marriage and my last long term thing, just because I'm single right now it doesn't mean I now go to 'desperate for sex' clubs.

Couples swapping is only a part of swinging, and swinging is first and foremost a mindset in my _iew.

ps 2 singles posing as a couple? when both are married elsewhere would be welcomed by 'proper couples swapping' but they frown on singles..... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another thread against singles buuuu hoooooo lol."

How's it against singles??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another thread against singles buuuu hoooooo lol.

How's it against singles??

"

Not as such, but its like "singles cant do swinging".

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Before i was with Nik i was shagging different women most weekends,including three somes .i never considered my self a swinger.just a dirty twat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before i was with Nik i was shagging different women most weekends,including three somes .i never considered my self a swinger.just a dirty twat."

But with respect... how is that different from what you do now?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Totally different,i never had any feelings for these women ,if i never saw them again i wouldn't care.99% of the time its me and Nik.very rare we do anything meet wise on here or go clubs.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I use the label swinger as a definition for the lifestyle choice I make to shag men, women and couples (mind you, I also use the label slapper ) if some folk want to term me something else then that's their choice. If at a meet a couple (or another single even) were to start this discussion, then I'd likely call a halt - it does sometimes come over a wee bit elitist in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some are - those who do group sex.

I think this site has become more of a dating site than a swingers site albeit of the one-night-stand kind of dating.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Think being single on here is more casual sex...swinging I would think is a term more for people who are couples..but that's just my opinion....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm swingle and bi sensual and that's 2 labels for me "

Swingle!!! Single swingers!!! Uv nailed it, im single so cant be classed as a swinger, im a swingler!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm swingle and bi sensual and that's 2 labels for me

Swingle!!! Single swingers!!! Uv nailed it, im single so cant be classed as a swinger, im a swingler!!! "

right...not a swinger...bags packed, I'm off to find a swingler's site. Anyone care to join? We can exclude all those swinger couples and just have fun...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm swingle and bi sensual and that's 2 labels for me

Swingle!!! Single swingers!!! Uv nailed it, im single so cant be classed as a swinger, im a swingler!!!

right...not a swinger...bags packed, I'm off to find a swingler's site. Anyone care to join? We can exclude all those swinger couples and just have fun...lol "

Noooooo!!! I like those swinger couples!!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't care what label I'm given. I'm not a swinger then....so what? I'm here, I have sex with people I don't know. No one has ever asked me if I'm a swinger. At least now I'll be able to say 'No, sorry'. It won't make any difference to me at all so for me, it's a moot question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find it odd that anyone would want to be 'classified'when there are so many different approaches to 'having sex with strangers' which is what this lifestyle boils down to (at it's most basic level at least). Do people still have the old 'key parties' and just take pot luck swapping partners? I doubt it. In the so called 'swinging' 60's when everyone was having 'free sex'I can't imagine it bothered them one bit what they might be called.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unfortunately this type of thread always grabs my attention, basically what I get from the issue is couples thinking they have some form of hierarchical superiority over single people...most often, they are told to get to fuck and just enjoy that the scene has moved on and much more open to various methods of people meeting people(sometimes they dont even 'meet' other people in person) for fun,friendship and sex.

question: will it lessen the sexual desire when ON the job?...thought not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We as a couple couldn't enjoy some of the meets we have had if it wasn't for singles!!!

As I said before, who cares what the label says!

If it's fun and you enjoy it!!! Does it really matter?

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Maybe swingers is actually the better label for single folk, and couples are better labelled as 'wife-swappers'

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I am not really bothered what people call me. A swinger or a swingler. I have fun and some people are really glad to see me and have fun altogether.

As long as no one looks down their nose at me as I am single then thats fine. I class myself as a swinger and lots of people want to meet me so all good for me x

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"Maybe swingers is actually the better label for single folk, and couples are better labelled as 'wife-swappers' "

I like this lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not really bothered what people call me. A swinger or a swingler. I have fun and some people are really glad to see me and have fun altogether.

As long as no one looks down their nose at me as I am single then thats fine. I class myself as a swinger and lots of people want to meet me so all good for me x"

Thank you. You've put it so succinctly I don't have to write this myself. It's just a word isn't it.

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By *exualhealer30Man
over a year ago

some what closer to you, in southeast

I love orgies too..!! only NSA fun..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah...as always the wise Mr Haive got there first...so deleted my post!

The day this site becomes a 'couples swap only' one I'll leave.

The day I feel I cant respond to a thread with my honest opinion, I will leave.

Until then I will respond as I do, honestly and giving my opinion "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Just it's our _iew that they are not swingers but they are a large part of the swinging scene and it wouldn't be the same with out them.

How can someone be "a large part of the swinging scene" and yet be denied the same 'label' as others in said scene?

Surely that's contradictory? "

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

So many people want to meet the single bi fem so why would some possibly look down their noses at us suggesting we are not proper swingers.

Really I don't care what you call me. I just want to carry on having fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe swingers is actually the better label for single folk, and couples are better labelled as 'wife-swappers' "
well said 100% +

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Maybe swingers is actually the better label for single folk, and couples are better labelled as 'wife-swappers' "

Now Jezz?? No offence, but that actually makes sense...even for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe swingers is actually the better label for single folk, and couples are better labelled as 'wife-swappers' well said 100% + "

in the true sense...I dont believe wifeswappers are swingers...after all..its just vanilla sex with someone elses partner.....possibly in different rooms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before i was with Nik i was shagging different women most weekends,including three somes .i never considered my self a swinger.just a dirty twat."

So basically if you are single nut enjoy the swinging lifestyle you're a dirty twat and you're not welcomed into the swinging 'club' until you find a fellow dirty twat to pair up with?!

Being single doesn't change the person I am, it just affects the way I can play. Yes I enjoy sex and yes I like to have sex with multiple partners but if I were to meet a guy that could put up with me and have a relationship with me then I would want us to have sex with multiple partners together. I'd still the same person with the same outlook on sex, I'd just be lucky enough to have someone to share it with. And I too am going to use the eye roll as I find the whole assumption that because someone is single they're just looking for an easy lay...I've known some of my meets for 2-3 years and have developed friendship with a number of guys so it's not just about an easy shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care who labels themselves what. But I do understand why people may be frustrated if they're a couple maybe new to things and then find it hard to find other 'couples' among the singles only looking for singles and couples that are really two singles etc. etc.

I don't think this is a swingers site so much as a sex site - and I'm not complaining about that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

O.K how about this one.

A single male meets a single female on here for sex, how is that swinging? After all, they're only doing what thousands of singles do every weekend in vanilla pubs and clubs, it's not swinging.

However, if a couple meet another couple on here for sex they're swinging and if they met another couple in a vanilla pub or club for sex they'd still be swinging.

Ask any vanilla person what swinging is and they'd say "wife/partner swapping".

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"O.K how about this one.

A single male meets a single female on here for sex, how is that swinging? After all, they're only doing what thousands of singles do every weekend in vanilla pubs and clubs, it's not swinging.

However, if a couple meet another couple on here for sex they're swinging and if they met another couple in a vanilla pub or club for sex they'd still be swinging.

Ask any vanilla person what swinging is and they'd say "wife/partner swapping".

XXXX"

I wouldnt put much thought what a vanilla person thinks about swinging though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldnt put much thought what a vanilla person thinks about swinging though..."

Always amusing when it comes up as a topic in the pub though.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"

Ask any vanilla person what swinging is and they'd say "wife/partner swapping".

XXXX

I wouldnt put much thought what a vanilla person thinks about swinging though..."

I suspect some of them might call it other things that are slightly less complimenary too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"O.K how about this one.

A single male meets a single female on here for sex, how is that swinging? After all, they're only doing what thousands of singles do every weekend in vanilla pubs and clubs, it's not swinging.

However, if a couple meet another couple on here for sex they're swinging and if they met another couple in a vanilla pub or club for sex they'd still be swinging.

Ask any vanilla person what swinging is and they'd say "wife/partner swapping".

XXXX

I wouldnt put much thought what a vanilla person thinks about swinging though..."

Why so?

We've had many an interesting conversation with "vanillas" on swinging.

Their _iews can be as valid as anyone else's.

And on such a question as the one above, their replies are not swayed by ulterior motives.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"O.K how about this one.

A single male meets a single female on here for sex, how is that swinging? After all, they're only doing what thousands of singles do every weekend in vanilla pubs and clubs, it's not swinging.

However, if a couple meet another couple on here for sex they're swinging and if they met another couple in a vanilla pub or club for sex they'd still be swinging.

Ask any vanilla person what swinging is and they'd say "wife/partner swapping".

XXXX"

How about this!

If a couple meet another couple for sex then they're wife swapping!

*unless there's a single or two involved - in which case it's swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"O.K how about this one.

A single male meets a single female on here for sex, how is that swinging? After all, they're only doing what thousands of singles do every weekend in vanilla pubs and clubs, it's not swinging.

However, if a couple meet another couple on here for sex they're swinging and if they met another couple in a vanilla pub or club for sex they'd still be swinging.

Ask any vanilla person what swinging is and they'd say "wife/partner swapping".

XXXX

I wouldnt put much thought what a vanilla person thinks about swinging though...

Why so?

We've had many an interesting conversation with "vanillas" on swinging.

Their _iews can be as valid as anyone else's.

And on such a question as the one above, their replies are not swayed by ulterior motives.

XXXX"

they have valid _iews..but valid _iews dont equate to having experience,,,the majority of vanillas think swinging is for those u find on jeremy kyle and that for a man to have sex with another man present means they must be bi...

and to be honest, I dont always value the judgements of couples on the site either...who have barely swung themselves...especially when they are claiming to be correct in _iew of the original OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Ask any vanilla person what swinging is and they'd say "wife/partner swapping".

XXXX

I wouldnt put much thought what a vanilla person thinks about swinging though...

I suspect some of them might call it other things that are slightly less complimenary too"

Definitely, and make assumptions about what swinging entails...I've never yet seen a keys bowl in a club.

Surely being a swinger though is about state of mind rather than marital status? Or do you cease to be a swinger when you stop being in a relationship? Do I become a swinger if I play with my FB and another couple for a limited time only? Or it swinging something reserved exclusively for married couples?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"O.K how about this one.

A single male meets a single female on here for sex, how is that swinging? After all, they're only doing what thousands of singles do every weekend in vanilla pubs and clubs, it's not swinging.

However, if a couple meet another couple on here for sex they're swinging and if they met another couple in a vanilla pub or club for sex they'd still be swinging.

Ask any vanilla person what swinging is and they'd say "wife/partner swapping".

XXXX

I wouldnt put much thought what a vanilla person thinks about swinging though...

Why so?

We've had many an interesting conversation with "vanillas" on swinging.

Their _iews can be as valid as anyone else's.

And on such a question as the one above, their replies are not swayed by ulterior motives.

XXXX

they have valid _iews..but valid _iews dont equate to having experience,,,the majority of vanillas think swinging is for those u find on jeremy kyle and that for a man to have sex with another man present means they must be bi...

and to be honest, I dont always value the judgements of couples on the site either...who have barely swung themselves...especially when they are claiming to be correct in _iew of the original OP"

Never seen Jermy Kyle but assume its a programme for chavs and scum?

My preconception had been that swinging was an upper middle class thing - big houses, keys, bowls etc. Also that it was for older people.

We've seen that. We've also seen dog rough. And a few in between.

How do you know how much experience others have though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use the site and I wouldn't call ourselves a swingers. We have used others in the past too that we feel that the title is more reflective of what we are and are after but Fab just happens to be better.

We won't meet couples so think that's why the label doesn't sit right. But we do love meeting single men so without adopting the title the site seems to work well for us. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"O.K how about this one.

A single male meets a single female on here for sex, how is that swinging? After all, they're only doing what thousands of singles do every weekend in vanilla pubs and clubs, it's not swinging.

However, if a couple meet another couple on here for sex they're swinging and if they met another couple in a vanilla pub or club for sex they'd still be swinging.

Ask any vanilla person what swinging is and they'd say "wife/partner swapping".

XXXX

I wouldnt put much thought what a vanilla person thinks about swinging though...

Why so?

We've had many an interesting conversation with "vanillas" on swinging.

Their _iews can be as valid as anyone else's.

And on such a question as the one above, their replies are not swayed by ulterior motives.

XXXX

they have valid _iews..but valid _iews dont equate to having experience,,,the majority of vanillas think swinging is for those u find on jeremy kyle and that for a man to have sex with another man present means they must be bi...

and to be honest, I dont always value the judgements of couples on the site either...who have barely swung themselves...especially when they are claiming to be correct in _iew of the original OP

Never seen Jermy Kyle but assume its a programme for chavs and scum?

My preconception had been that swinging was an upper middle class thing - big houses, keys, bowls etc. Also that it was for older people.

We've seen that. We've also seen dog rough. And a few in between.

How do you know how much experience others have though?"

"we are new to this"- often rings a bell lol

then there are the people who only meet a select few on numerous occasions

All I'm trying to say is the definition of the scene is much wider than it ever was thanks especially to the internet, bisexuality also

and finally, not everyone checks someone has a ring on their finger..who the fuck knows whos married to eachother really...unless theres documented proof...thatd be a fun sexy meet

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody autocorrect

True. We don't wear rings but have been together nearly 20 years. Which sounds very old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bloody autocorrect

True. We don't wear rings but have been together nearly 20 years. Which sounds very old.

"

well u both have rings anyway

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"Isn't the term swinger for couples who swop and enjoy sex with other couples?

surely a single on here is someone just looking for sex "

Does anyone care? The site is called Fabswingers and singles are welcome to join.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care that you don't care if people care except that I care enough to say I don't care that you care enough to say you don't care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am on here as a couple, but we both play single as well. Y not

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By *fordMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

what puzzles me is couples or single ladies looking to go dogging or have gangbangs with lots of men but block sor wont meet not lookig for single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed. Personally I'm just here for whatever as a single guy...

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By *issy NickersWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

As ever it's a broad church ... We all have different reasons for being on here - chill

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over a year ago

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