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By *reamakers OP   Couple
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

A place to discuss polyamory, anyone interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I could do it. If I was equally in love with two men I would live with them both but only if both were totally OK with it and there was no drama with jealousy or one trying to out-alpha the other. I would always need to be the alpha dog (bitch in this case) of the pack.

Not sure I could share one man with more women though (in a relationship obviously not such about sex, am OK to share for sex).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two or more women with PMT no thank you. It was bad enough with the ex and 4 daughter's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very interested in a poly relationship anyone know the best place to meet likeminded people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds ok but really would it work. Maybe with 3 friends as love and stuff can make people do things that can be nasty at times,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are specialised meet ups

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Difficult to see how it could realistically work . Could understand the concept of being in love with more than one person , but if it's not 100% reciprocal the shit will hit the fan !

Just takes one instance of choosing one over the other and jealousy will rear it's ugly head .

Or finding yourself in a compromising position more often than you like . One wants an evening in the other a night out etc......

So I think it carries too many risks to work , but fair play to anyone who does it !

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By *rincessKinkyWoman
over a year ago

Basildon

My other half and I are poly. We find it works as long as everyone is totally honest about their feelings.

Jealousy is a natural human emotion, its more about how you deal with it. If someone needs a little reassurance then you give it.

Of course you will hit issues, the same with any relationship, but its about how you deal with it.

We find it works well for us but I understand it isn't for everyone!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Not for me I like alpha males and can't see two men like that sharing a roof and I wouldn't be prepared to be a sister wife either ....so its a definite no from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The image is of the blonde publisher in the girl with the dragon tattoo series

The reality doesn't always live up to that.

I would never knock anyone who has an alternative lifestyle to mine. Each to their own. My motto about many things is "don't knock it until..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a poly in a poly group with my husband and long term boyfriend, and seeking a girlfriend too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cleaning up after two men, not a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a serious note i wouldn't do this as i have kids and i think this would ne a to wierd an environment to bring kids up in

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By *ana StephanieWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I think I could do it. If I was equally in love with two men I would live with them both but only if both were totally OK with it and there was no drama with jealousy or one trying to out-alpha the other. I would always need to be the alpha dog (bitch in this case) of the pack.

Not sure I could share one man with more women though (in a relationship obviously not such about sex, am OK to share for sex)."

It's my ideal world. I can be in love with multiple men at the same time, and I'd like to be alpha myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have this, I have a partner, a bf and a gf, all know about each other, and arent jealous. Its hard work spreading my time between them all but we cope and it is genuine love we have for one another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My other half and I are poly. We find it works as long as everyone is totally honest about their feelings.

Jealousy is a natural human emotion, its more about how you deal with it. If someone needs a little reassurance then you give it.

Of course you will hit issues, the same with any relationship, but its about how you deal with it.

We find it works well for us but I understand it isn't for everyone!"

Hi I would really love to ask you a few questions about this but your pm setting wont allow me to. If you would could you pm me so that I could ask please?

Understand if you don't want to. I have serious questions to ask.

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have this, I have a partner, a bf and a gf, all know about each other, and arent jealous. Its hard work spreading my time between them all but we cope and it is genuine love we have for one another "

Same goes for you if I may.

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On a serious note i wouldn't do this as i have kids and i think this would ne a to wierd an environment to bring kids up in"

I have 4 children and I'm teaching them everyone has different opinions on relationships they know already that women can love men, men can love women and every combination in between.

My children know we all get on and love each other better than parents that have split and hate each other.

Just because something doesn't comply to society's normality it doesn't make something wrong.

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By *reamakers OP   Couple
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

We are a happily married couple who would like to explore Poly with another couple. He Straight She Bi curious. Anyone interested ?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i liked the brightly coloured houses

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have 4 children and I'm teaching them everyone has different opinions on relationships they know already that women can love men, men can love women and every combination in between.

My children know we all get on and love each other better than parents that have split and hate each other.

Just because something doesn't comply to society's normality it doesn't make something wrong."

Hmm, I feel a little uncomfortable with your statement about loving each other better than parents who have split and hate each other...that isn't always true, I thought you were teaching your children that there were many options in relationships and that acceptance was the way forward not superiority.

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By *wingerdelightCouple
over a year ago

eastliegh


"My other half and I are poly. We find it works as long as everyone is totally honest about their feelings.

Jealousy is a natural human emotion, its more about how you deal with it. If someone needs a little reassurance then you give it.

Of course you will hit issues, the same with any relationship, but its about how you deal with it.

We find it works well for us but I understand it isn't for everyone!"

you notpoly of its just you and your otherhalf

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

Having a successful poly relationship can be hard work, but it's also very rewarding

For me it makes sense, but i understand for many it doesn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is it similar to jackanory except about parrots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a happily married couple who would like to explore Poly with another couple. He Straight She Bi curious. Anyone interested ? "

We've been looking for the same thing, finding someone that's able to join us as a unit has been harder than expected. If it happens it does if not we're fine with having fun and making friends

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"My other half and I are poly. We find it works as long as everyone is totally honest about their feelings.

Jealousy is a natural human emotion, its more about how you deal with it. If someone needs a little reassurance then you give it.

Of course you will hit issues, the same with any relationship, but its about how you deal with it.

We find it works well for us but I understand it isn't for everyone!

you notpoly of its just you and your otherhalf"

It would have to be other third or less surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whats the story in balamory would......... ooooops sorry wrong end of the stick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This was a recipe for disaster for me i lost my marriage everything over it and wouldnt recommend it from my own personal experience however it does work for some but only a small percentage of people.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

My Great Grandfather was married to my Great Grandmother but also in a relationship with her sister, who he had children with. I believe they all lived together. Nice to know I'm not the first odd one in the family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"whats the story in balamory would......... ooooops sorry wrong end of the stick"

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By *ickD38Man
over a year ago

Preston


"i liked the brightly coloured houses "

Am I the only one who got that?

I'm poly. I have two lovers, both of whom know the score & have other lovers themselves. Works fine for us. Not sure how I'd be with moving in & living in combination but nobody wants that so far, so happy days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very interested in this as a single bi lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not for me I like alpha males and can't see two men like that sharing a roof and I wouldn't be prepared to be a sister wife either ....so its a definite no from me."

A definite fan of Alpha men too!

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By *reamakers OP   Couple
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

We are looking for those that are interested not those that aint.!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is something that seriously interest me, mainly as I have many sides to me and I don't think there they can be all satisfied by one person. I think each person in a poly relationship is very close but provides a different dynamic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is something that seriously interest me, mainly as I have many sides to me and I don't think there they can be all satisfied by one person. I think each person in a poly relationship is very close but provides a different dynamic"

I was in a 'poly' relationship one person didn't want to be a part of it, the other person wasn't in it for the right reason and it wasn't talked about, it just happened and me and the bf weren't happy. we all broke up but the two people who were happy are now together and I was in another poly relationship that worked out a lot better and still is working quite well

there is a poly forum but its mostly Americans who post, I wish there was a local one or a poly meet up group.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Would be very interested in it. I quite like the idea. But I can't imagine loving another man / woman as much as I love my hubby at the same time. But then I can love my children all the same so I don't know. Oh im going. .. confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you don't have to love them the same just love them and share your life or a part of your life with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this would suit me as I dont like being with just one person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is something that seriously interest me, mainly as I have many sides to me and I don't think there they can be all satisfied by one person. I think each person in a poly relationship is very close but provides a different dynamic

I was in a 'poly' relationship one person didn't want to be a part of it, the other person wasn't in it for the right reason and it wasn't talked about, it just happened and me and the bf weren't happy. we all broke up but the two people who were happy are now together and I was in another poly relationship that worked out a lot better and still is working quite well

there is a poly forum but its mostly Americans who post, I wish there was a local one or a poly meet up group."

There is a poly group in London that meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm very interested in this as someones boyfriend, i've done abit of reading up but i think i'm only just scratching the surface

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two guys in my bed all the time hell yes please log xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is something that seriously interest me, mainly as I have many sides to me and I don't think there they can be all satisfied by one person. I think each person in a poly relationship is very close but provides a different dynamic

I was in a 'poly' relationship one person didn't want to be a part of it, the other person wasn't in it for the right reason and it wasn't talked about, it just happened and me and the bf weren't happy. we all broke up but the two people who were happy are now together and I was in another poly relationship that worked out a lot better and still is working quite well

there is a poly forum but its mostly Americans who post, I wish there was a local one or a poly meet up group.

There is a poly group in London that meet "

thank you but I can't get to london xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were both very open to this ourselves. As with all of these types of lifestyle choices be it cuckolding, swinging or poly it's finding the right person to work with to develop the relationship.

Any men open to this feel free to drop us a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any couples looking for a fem MSG me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you don't have to love them the same just love them and share your life or a part of your life with them "

Exactly, my ideal is I would have a gf, a play partner, a Mistress and a sub, my Mistress teach me how to become a better Master to a sub - Personally I think I need to experience been a sub to be a good Master.

Each are all a caring relationship but all with different dynamics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want a relationship with many people. Never want to invest all in just one again. I don't think it's natural

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you don't have to love them the same just love them and share your life or a part of your life with them

Exactly, my ideal is I would have a gf, a play partner, a Mistress and a sub, my Mistress teach me how to become a better Master to a sub - Personally I think I need to experience been a sub to be a good Master.

Each are all a caring relationship but all with different dynamics"

love the last sentence sooo true xx

hope you find what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks I hope so too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks I hope so too!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My Great Grandfather was married to my Great Grandmother but also in a relationship with her sister, who he had children with. I believe they all lived together. Nice to know I'm not the first odd one in the family "

Aye the days were short and the nights were long.......

In serious note, sounds a great concept but Balamory would prob be more realistic for me.....

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

We are in a poly BDSM relationship, MFF. Been together nearly 4 years, it works for us but like all relationships you must work at it hard to keep it working.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is something I have always wanted, can imagine it has it compilcations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you don't have to love them the same just love them and share your life or a part of your life with them "

This!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's totally possible for these relationships to work. I think if I ever had a relationship again that a poly one would work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems as if being poly is better suited to women, I wonder why that is

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

From recent and bitter personal experience - no, just no. Will never go there again

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By *ing and RideCouple
over a year ago

stockport

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By *ing and RideCouple
over a year ago

stockport

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder, but I wouldn't mind trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is something my wife and I are actively looking to do if we can meet the right man.

Even more interested in pursuing this having read Sex at Dawn and Polyamory in the 21st century.

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By *damandeve4funCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"On a serious note i wouldn't do this as i have kids and i think this would ne a to wierd an environment to bring kids up in

I have 4 children and I'm teaching them everyone has different opinions on relationships they know already that women can love men, men can love women and every combination in between.

My children know we all get on and love each other better than parents that have split and hate each other.

Just because something doesn't comply to society's normality it doesn't make something wrong."

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By *damandeve4funCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Anyone interested should read The Ethical Slut...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is something my wife and I are open to. We're not looking for it...but we're not frightened of it either Because of this attitude we are more open to connecting with our meets, sparking a little romance perhaps, and just approaching swinging in a more spiritually connected way than some chose to do

Glad to see so many others on this thread with a similar mind to us...really thought we we're the lone freaks lol

Oh and...sorry but if your alpha males are too insecure to deal with a polyamorous scenario without wanting to punch the crap out of each other... they're not really very alpha are they? lol Perhaps they're just twats after all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone interested should read The Ethical Slut..."

Thx for the tip...just ordered a copy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Kin 'ell, never seen so many unlos on one thread might be the subject?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Kin 'ell, never seen so many unlos on one thread might be the subject?"

Were they all the same person? Or did this thread take a bunch of people down in a blaze of glory? lol

Polygamy is illegal in most of thee western world...so maybe they've been bumped off by the state

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes us too just ordered tge ethical slut.

Yes we do find that those meets where there is some romance and emotional bonding far more satisfactory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soo hot when its a mutual view shared by all parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Kin 'ell, never seen so many unlos on one thread might be the subject?"

It is however an old thread of 34 weeks so its to be expected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally not something we would be into

1) think it would confuse children

2) children would get bullied

3) I'll happily share Paul's cock but no one but me is getting his long cuddles, his love, care and attention.

I'm not a jealous woman and enjoy watching him with other girls but the thought of a poly relationship fills me with a totally jealous rage!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Today's a windy day in polyamory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(Part 1)Afternoon! (Or evening by the time I finish this message...)

I'm a truly polyamorous guy. I have a setup with 4 main girlfriends (one of whom has kids) and they have other partners too. It took several months, but we all hang out and in some cases have ventured sexually.

I didn't even know what it was or what it truly meant until recently and I can honestly say... after being monogamous and dating monogamously for 10+ years (my brief adult life to date) that polyamory is like going from black and white television to 3D HD TV with surround sound. It literally adds an extra dimension to your life, more so than any monogamous relationship has done for me (Have been engaged for 3 of those years...I genuinely tried, wasn't for me.)

I want to get things clear: It isn't for everyone. Much like swinging, it's for people with an open mind and incredible emotional intelligence and empathy. Honesty and trust are just as important in these relationships as they would be in monogamous ones.

Communication is key and it's because of this that I prefer polyamory as.... mind games don't exist. If they did, they'd just seem pointless. I think the golden rule for polyamory is "You can get away with anything as long as everybody is aware". Just like swinging, it's consensual. It's all about consent. (Unless you have weird rape fantasies...you naughty devils!). I personally couldn't live any other way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(Part 2)

The reason I can justify it is simple: I am truly capable of loving multiple people AND (just as importantly) their relationships , no matter how strong, will not affect my relationship with them. That addendum is critical as I believe we are all capable of loving multiple people. Dealing with the consequences of letting partners truly love someone else and to admit they have something special that can't be replicated and still holding firm that you also have a special relationship that is just as unique and is built on just as intimate of a collection of memories is vital. It's binary. There's no "I can kind of take it..." or "I'm ok with it except for...". You either can take or you can't.

For those who struggle to get your head around this concept (and since having children seems to be a recurring theme). I'll assume you have a set of loving parents and/or brothers and sisters. I'll assume you have a unique bond with all of them that's been built up over time. If push came to shove, you couldn't decide between them (life and death situation). You could probably pick a favourite and that may change with time, but you'd never want to lose any and you'd be heartbroken if they were gone. You would never expect them to be jealous of relationships with yourself and it's not even vital that they have particularly strong relationships with each other (Divorce/adoptions etc) as long as you have a relationship with the individuals, there is a sense of a unit. This kind of "love" between family members is called "agape". Unconditional, un-erotic love. Replace these family members with romantic partners, inject some eroticism and lose other social norms and you can quite easily have a polyamorous setup.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(Part 3)

Raising children? Well...this can be done in the following ways:

1) Do not tell them about polyamory and be discreet. A monogamous couple wouldn't tell their young children that they swing, would they? Common sense.

2) If it works for you and you want a family unit, some women prefer having a "primary" partner. (One that acts like a husband in a conventional monogamous relationship) and the other partners as "secondary". In this way, it would be easier to ease the kids into getting used to the same faces. For example, secondary partners can be introduced as family friends and who knows? They may have children too with their other partners and play dates can be organised. As time goes on, when the kids are in their early 20's/mid 20's...it may be time to tell them the whole truth about your polyamorous setup at this stage.

3) Intimacy and sex. Be discreet! Just as a conventional couple wouldn't want their children knowing of their sexual exploits, neither would polyamorous units. Sure, compliment & flirt all you want but I'm sure I don't need to remind you that it's rather distasteful to snog in front of your offspring :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

30 years ago , I lived in a "ménage à trois " just by accident ...trust , respect and awareness of feeling make it work ...after that experience I continue and lived in an open relationship with my husband ...now , I have 3 lovers , that I have known for years , they all are different with a common factor ...they know about each other's , we don't live together and we value each time spent together ...but we are having each our independence , my son know and my daughter suspect it , they know 2 of them , my neighbours envy me .it work , it's not for everybody but when it's well balanced ...it's very liberating ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovers or romantic partners?

I came out (sounds like coming out as a homosexual, but it's probably worse!) to my parents around Easter and they fumed.

I brought around two of my partners for dinner and we were given everything under the sun by the parents:

"When are you gonna grow up? When are you gonna settle down? When are you gonna give us grand kids? You're immature! You're a player! These women are whores! You don't know what you're doing!" it went on.

I dislike that society and mainly religious values have buried us into the idea of one wife, one husband, a family unit that's "settled" and anything else is a shame and a scandal.

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Totally agree... Not a fan of religion, been to many places and not seen anything to convince me otherwise...

I think it's dolphins that live in polyamourous groups? And as a species they are doing pretty well...

But alas I think I'm more of a tiger shark than a dolphin...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lovers or romantic partners?

For my case it's Romantic partners ...but is it different ?

I came out (sounds like coming out as a homosexual, but it's probably worse!) to my parents around Easter and they fumed.

I brought around two of my partners for dinner and we were given everything under the sun by the parents:

"When are you gonna grow up? When are you gonna settle down? When are you gonna give us grand kids? You're immature! You're a player! These women are whores! You don't know what you're doing!" it went on.

I dislike that society and mainly religious values have buried us into the idea of one wife, one husband, a family unit that's "settled" and anything else is a shame and a scandal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovers and romantic partners different? Well...I guess it is a bit of semantics of the nomenclature but I wanted to distinguish between "lovers" as people you have sexual affairs with (with feelings or otherwise) and "romantic partners" as people you form romantic relationships with (and may exclude sexual encounters, I suppose). I could have sex with people without forming a relationship with and I'd call them "lovers" regardless of frequency or regularity whereas people I'd call romantic partners I'd call my 4 gf's.

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

If we could normalise that and romanticise it a little less, I would be bang with you in this one...

I'm all for long term select groups of partners...

And I'm worldly enough to know that, anything worth while always comes with strings...

But I draw the line at the perfect world sounding stuff...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For years me and Mrs P have had an open house, letting people stay, join us for dinner, come and party, whatever. Now we've finally arrived at swinging, it seems absurd that we never thought of similarly opening up our relationship before. We had a good friend visiting recently and I had to make a mental note not to make out with her as the line between close friendship and sexual engagement is now so blurred in my mind lol

I think the polyamory we're heading towards is one centered around a distinct primary relationship (us)... but which recognises and respects those secondary connections, no matter how brief, as genuine people and, hopefully, intimate friends. It's perhaps not the kind of polyamory you're talking about... but it's a step up from anonymous NSA stuff and a commitment to build friendship and community which, ultimately, could transform into something like an extended family later in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe I'm weird but I've never found a correlation between the "amount of strings" an encounter has attached and it beig worthwhile. I can think of many superfluous encounters that have happened rather off the cuff and have had MANY strings attached and further implications down the road :p

I still believe communication and honesty is the way forward.

I'd like to put out there where any good polyamory dating websites are. I tried fetlife but it's just full of fetishistic weirdos :p okcupid is full of arrogant people at the best of times.. Any suggestions?

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By *iz78Woman
over a year ago

wirral

I need to get me some of this

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

I didn't just mean sex and/ relationships and yes strings develop, but with no hook they are easy to ignore.

I'm not doing this by the way, so I wouldn't know any websites, but I do think it's the way forward... In time...

I used to live in a condo, it was gated, had about 20 other condos surrounding a pool and small garden, that was the perfect environment for this. Everyone was in and out of each other's houses anyway.

My problem is, I'm a moving target, it's hard enough to tell one person the man they knew is dead, but to tell 4 would be a nightmare... Think I'd just move to Hong Kong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lovers and romantic partners different? Well...I guess it is a bit of semantics of the nomenclature but I wanted to distinguish between "lovers" as people you have sexual affairs with (with feelings or otherwise) and "romantic partners" as people you form romantic relationships with (and may exclude sexual encounters, I suppose). I could have sex with people without forming a relationship with and I'd call them "lovers" regardless of frequency or regularity whereas people I'd call romantic partners I'd call my 4 gf's."

Mmm, I stick to " lovers " ...mes amants , or sometime I call them my friends ..

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I've become more intrigued by the idea of something like this or an open/swinging relationship. Think it would work better for me with another woman as I'm more of a girls girl. I'm a late arriving hippy by nature anyway and think this is totally do able.

My only 2 concerns are:

My daughter wouldn't want her life made harder by my choices

I don't really wanna live with someone again. That's hard work. Living next door to a couple within this type of scenario would be ideal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Evie. I know exactly where your cumming from. Having a very tender and sensual ménage a trois has always appealed to me too

I do think you can genuinely love more than one person at a time. I've grown to adore a number of ladies and men that I've enjoyed regular sex with. I don't possess an ounce of jealousy and the emotional attraction has greatly enhanced our sex or dare insaybit love making.

It's not for many but lovely if it is xx Jim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all swing. As such, we are all pretty capable of defying normal sociological conventions....clearly!

As such, having a relationship with someone doesn't MEAN you have to live together. It means you have a relationship with them. I live alone and always want to keep it that way. It's not for everyone but you find what works, surely?

As for the "I need some of this" comments and that it's sex galore...it's not. Teething problems involve getting regular check-ups, if something goes wrong and an STI is detected being mature enough to break the news quickly and sensitively. (Nothihg puts a strain on a relationship like that. It screams of not making people feel special). Thankfully, services like dean street express near Piccadilly offer results within 6 hours and is a free, fun and clean service. Well worth checking out!

Having sex in a polyamorous setup is a major worry. Definitely is the main health risk as you increase your risk dramatically. (Take Bacteria Vaginosis which isn't an STI , just a pH imbalance but can be passed with no symptoms to a guy through skin to skin contact (so condoms do shit) and can make other ladies infected too. Worst of all, BV increases your risk of STI's too.)

It's all scary stuff! (Don't want to bring doom and gloom but polyamory is no laughing matter)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cleaning up after two men, not a chance "

LOL

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

Want that a kids tele programme based in Scotland?

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By *rivate roomMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

Boyfriend and girlfriend, how exciting

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I haven't tried it but agree with the idea here. I'm not a very jealous person and have always struggled being faithful in so far as I like variety and am naturally flirtatious. That's why swinging has been a revelation for me. I'm a very honest person and think if you're all honest that really limits misunderstandings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very interested in this. Couples feel free to msg me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think polyamory is such a beautiful concept if you are unjealous and genuinely love and enjoy sharing your partners with others you love and adore.

I wish I was much younger as this form of relationship would suit me down to the ground. I've loved embracing my bisexuality and sharing, be it 1on1 sex or as part of a 3sum or more sum.

It's just the way I am made. I love having quite a few sex partners but I like the emotional bond. It's lovely when you really like them and even nicer when you love and adore them xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were in a poly relationship for about 3 months. It was great, one of the biggest issues we had was open display of affection. There can be a lot of ridicule from friends and people you associate with. It does put a lot of pressure on the relationship.

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By *rivate roomMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

Lucky to have boyfriend and girlfriend. Are you married to your partner? I bet you get plenty of romance x3 and those vanentines cards x3

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"A place to discuss polyamory, anyone interested?"

Potentially, yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lucky to have boyfriend and girlfriend. Are you married to your partner? I bet you get plenty of romance x3 and those vanentines cards x3"

Use the quote button so people know who you are talking to/post you are commenting on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were in a poly relationship for about 3 months. It was great, one of the biggest issues we had was open display of affection. There can be a lot of ridicule from friends and people you associate with. It does put a lot of pressure on the relationship."

I find the solution to this is to get better friends.

My friends have never ridiculed me - because real friends don't ridicule friends.

It's great being able to openly be affectionate with both of my partners. None of my friends care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes its something we are very into, have practiced it before in the past

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By *rivate roomMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

Both partners, both male? or do u have girlfriend as well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avoid.

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By *rivate roomMan
over a year ago

Bracknell


"Lucky to have boyfriend and girlfriend. Are you married to your partner? I bet you get plenty of romance x3 and those vanentines cards x3

Use the quote button so people know who you are talking to/post you are commenting on"

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By *rivate roomMan
over a year ago

Bracknell


"I have this, I have a partner, a bf and a gf, all know about each other, and arent jealous. Its hard work spreading my time between them all but we cope and it is genuine love we have for one another "

So your private part is always busy with penis x2 condoms or bareback, plus female and male tongues and fingers. Girlfriend may also use strap on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bouncing boobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were in a poly relationship for about 3 months. It was great, one of the biggest issues we had was open display of affection. There can be a lot of ridicule from friends and people you associate with. It does put a lot of pressure on the relationship.

I find the solution to this is to get better friends.

My friends have never ridiculed me - because real friends don't ridicule friends.

It's great being able to openly be affectionate with both of my partners. None of my friends care."

"Friends don't ridicule"

Well said, that goes for all walks of life and all situations, not just here. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something we have experienced before and something we're willing to explore again with the right man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was "forced" to try it once and failed spectacularly. Even to the point where police were involved.

In my case 75 aspirin didnt kill me, i woke up with a headache

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to have two boyfriends, but can men deal with jealousy. To me it's possible to love more than one person, they have different qualities and bring different things to the table. So anyone interested, you know what do to :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are open to poly relationships, would love to find a regular we can add into our already fantastic relationship. It's so hard finding someone that suits us both though and then to find someone looking for the same ideals we have, a lot often just want a quick fuck and go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love to have two boyfriends, but can men deal with jealousy. To me it's possible to love more than one person, they have different qualities and bring different things to the table. So anyone interested, you know what do to :P"

Why is the question can 'men' deal with jealousy?

Some people can deal with jealousy some people can't. Others are just not jealous at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are open to poly relationships, would love to find a regular we can add into our already fantastic relationship. It's so hard finding someone that suits us both though and then to find someone looking for the same ideals we have, a lot often just want a quick fuck and go."

I'm looking actively for a couple, but it's hard to find a couple that understand you're most likely to prefer one person out of the couple and want to spend more time with them. It's rare to find a couple who will meet you both separately and together, socially and for sex, which is really the ideal situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cleaning up after two men, not a chance "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite fascinated by the thought of this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm acceptant of my sexual partners having multiple partners...I do not usually have more than one partner at a time though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been reading a fiction book about a girl who falls in love with 7 guys. Sounds mad but actually really interesting.. cant imagine it really happening though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the story with Polyamory wouldn't you like to know?

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By *rivate roomMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

Has anyone experienced relationships with male and female in their late teens in this type of relationship.

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By *rivate roomMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

To make my earlier post more clear has any older person who is married and in the poly relationship had rel with a young man and woman 18+ separately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly our view, to find someone you can both get involved with sexualy as well as as a socially is proving very hard. Like I said, most men are in it for the quick fuck and go which is a shame as we know that the great sex only comes with familiarity and a relaxed outlook, something you don't get from quick one offs.


"We are open to poly relationships, would love to find a regular we can add into our already fantastic relationship. It's so hard finding someone that suits us both though and then to find someone looking for the same ideals we have, a lot often just want a quick fuck and go.

I'm looking actively for a couple, but it's hard to find a couple that understand you're most likely to prefer one person out of the couple and want to spend more time with them. It's rare to find a couple who will meet you both separately and together, socially and for sex, which is really the ideal situation."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 sounds extreme but we could easily imagine a third for a three way relationship, it's a common theme in our chats and something we discovered were both open too after exploring this lifestyle.


"Ive been reading a fiction book about a girl who falls in love with 7 guys. Sounds mad but actually really interesting.. cant imagine it really happening though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone experienced relationships with male and female in their late teens in this type of relationship."

Your posts on this thread are quite creepy. I'd take a look at what you've written and consider how it comes across within the discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been reading a fiction book about a girl who falls in love with 7 guys. Sounds mad but actually really interesting.. cant imagine it really happening though.

"

I have strong feelings about perhaps four or five people in my life.

It really depends what you mean by love I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It hasnt really got far woth it yet i think im 7 books into 20 innthe series. But i dont think there in love yet. More crushes so far.

Just fansinates me

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By *rivate roomMan
over a year ago

Bracknell


"Has anyone experienced relationships with male and female in their late teens in this type of relationship.

Your posts on this thread are quite creepy. I'd take a look at what you've written and consider how it comes across within the discussion."

I don't think they are creepy and late teen is 18+ and adult. I do have a fantasy about young adult women as does many other men.

You open talk about dating men and women but not young adults.

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