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"you asked this 3 weeks ago.. still not done any research then..? "   | |||
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Not that there are hard & fast rules. Discussion is needed with the individuals as everyone is well...... Individual  | |||
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"you asked this 3 weeks ago.. still not done any research then..? " Hi, yes, I did but seem to have had almost no response. I have done some research, but there's not a lot of what i would say is real stuff, about. Mostly more like fantasies and stories, not really anecdotal. I'm just wondering if anyone who regularly indulges in this sort of play would let on as to what is expected, rather than just someone's fantasies... | |||
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Not that there are hard & fast rules. Discussion is needed with the individuals as everyone is well...... Individual "Thanks for that. I am wondering if that discussion itself would be against the principles of the scene. If you are a 'bull', then you wouldn't need to ask and it would seem to detract from the scene, if you see what I mean... | |||
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"you asked this 3 weeks ago.. still not done any research then..? Hi, yes, I did but seem to have had almost no response. I have done some research, but there's not a lot of what i would say is real stuff, about. Mostly more like fantasies and stories, not really anecdotal. I'm just wondering if anyone who regularly indulges in this sort of play would let on as to what is expected, rather than just someone's fantasies... " it will be as different for some as we equally differ in tastes in food, clothes etc etc.. communicate perhaps with the folks your meant to be meeting..? | |||
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"Being a good bull means discussing limits/expectations & boundaries! Otherwise you're not a bull but something of a different label. During the scene you may control or degrade someone (if they are into that aspect) but communication is key and not a weakness (unless you phone a friend/advice line during ) "I see. So it's more a sort of assertiveness with previously agreed limits. | |||
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"Being a good bull means discussing limits/expectations & boundaries! Otherwise you're not a bull but something of a different label. During the scene you may control or degrade someone (if they are into that aspect) but communication is key and not a weakness (unless you phone a friend/advice line during )
I see. So it's more a sort of assertiveness with previously agreed limits."Im sooooo the wrong person to be answering this but yes if you like. Talk to those approaching you. Find out what they want then if you think you match go for it. If not then be honest & decline. Without discussion you're making a rod for your own back. Say my fantasy was a bull spanking me, degrading a fwb (i don't have a partner/fwb/fb but just pretend) but then being licked clean & balls sucked and emptied by said pretend male fwb. Wouldn't you rather know ahead of time? Or are you happy to take the risk of what happens happens? How can you control a scene without knowing anything about those involved in the scene? Common sense over sex drive | |||
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"Being a good bull means discussing limits/expectations & boundaries! Otherwise you're not a bull but something of a different label. During the scene you may control or degrade someone (if they are into that aspect) but communication is key and not a weakness (unless you phone a friend/advice line during )
I see. So it's more a sort of assertiveness with previously agreed limits.
Im sooooo the wrong person to be answering this but yes if you like.
Talk to those approaching you. Find out what they want then if you think you match go for it. If not then be honest & decline. Without discussion you're making a rod for your own back. Say my fantasy was a bull spanking me, degrading a fwb (i don't have a partner/fwb/fb but just pretend) but then being licked clean & balls sucked and emptied by said pretend male fwb. Wouldn't you rather know ahead of time? Or are you happy to take the risk of what happens happens?
How can you control a scene without knowing anything about those involved in the scene?
Common sense over sex drive "Sage advice, there Angel... I was just curious as to what level of Dom would be expected from the outset. I suppose my own feelings are that a decent bull would want to know and 'demand' to know, in a firm manner... It's a role-play and I think I would like to try it... I'll get back to the last couple to ask me... See how this goes. Cheers, folks! | |||
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"i would say talk to the female of the couple . she will have a good idea of what the male is prepared to submit to also as she is in control of there relationship she knows what she wants her husband to see her doing, "Yes! That's good, talk to the fem. That's good as well. Do you know, I've had more good advice in the last few mails on here than I could find anywhere on the net! Thanks! | |||
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"i would say talk to the female of the couple . she will have a good idea of what the male is prepared to submit to also as she is in control of there relationship she knows what she wants her husband to see her doing,
Yes! That's good, talk to the fem. That's good as well.
Do you know, I've had more good advice in the last few mails on here than I could find anywhere on the net!
Thanks!"then you need to look in the right place  Site specific is a good place to start | |||
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"I've been asked a couple of times to join a cuck couple. But I'm not sure what would be expected. Would anyone have any advice, please? And how far does one go with such things as dominating and humiliating, etc? Thanks" I think you are lumping 3 completely different things together....... wouldn't the best thing to do be the actually "talk" to the couple with what there expectation is, or what they want out of it.... | |||
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"you asked this 3 weeks ago.. still not done any research then..? " Loads of guys advertise as repeaters why can't this guy! | |||
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"you asked this 3 weeks ago.. still not done any research then..? Loads of guys advertise as repeaters why can't this guy!" hav'nt said anyone cant do anything.. in 3 weeks with the internet anyone of us can look most things up.. | |||
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"It was a joke. As in guys put on profile " I'm a repeater" "bollocks.. didn't read that properly methinks.. sorry.. | |||
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"It was a joke. As in guys put on profile " I'm a repeater"
bollocks..
didn't read that properly methinks..
sorry.."My fault for acting the prat again  | |||
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"It was a joke. As in guys put on profile " I'm a repeater"
bollocks..
didn't read that properly methinks..
sorry..
My fault for acting the prat again "no you weren't.. my fault for having a 'moment'.. hey ho | |||
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"is there a forfeit..? "No it's that game where you start with a "sorry it's my fault and give a friendly flamboyant tap to the other person". Then they say it back and the tap becomes a hit that becomes a shove then a push and the winner is the last one standing  | |||
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"is there a forfeit..?
No it's that game where you start with a "sorry it's my fault and give a friendly flamboyant tap to the other person". Then they say it back and the tap becomes a hit that becomes a shove then a push and the winner is the last one standing "Ah, not played that one.. not sure I have a flamboyant tap in me.. | |||
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