FabSwingers.com forum: real people

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

does anyone else get annoyed with people who cant be bothered to get verified, i think that if a cpl, single female, or male hasnt been verified within a month or 2 they should have there profile deleted, would cut down the amount of messers on the site!

your foughts :P

oh and happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"does anyone else get annoyed with people who cant be bothered to get verified, i think that if a cpl, single female, or male hasnt been verified within a month or 2 they should have there profile deleted, would cut down the amount of messers on the site!

your foughts :P

no pressure then!!!!

oh and happy swinging"

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By *exeteraWoman
over a year ago

Bridgend

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

your alright mischief, your verified

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By *exeteraWoman
over a year ago

Bridgend

Well that would certainly cut down on the number of single males for starters. You can't force the pace at which people choose to meet and some guys, couples etc state it can take months before they get their first meet. Can't see how that'll work.

Can't bloody spell tonight

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ok juicy i see what your saying, but how hard is it to hold abit of paper infront of you for a picture, that no one see anyways, ok ok maybe being abit harsh on a month or 2, maybe they should do it on the amount of times that you sign in,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met a few in the past (on old account) that have never been verified and been on the site for months, over a year even and they been real nice guys and Shaz has enjoyed there company

If someone seems to be what we are looking for then we will meet verification or not

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its the profiles that aint verified after being in fab for nearly a year i dont trust

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

Thats a bit harsh.

Not everyone gets off the ground straight away.

Some are brand new to this and may need to take a bit of time talking and browsing.

Not everyone is a gobshite like me who just dives right in

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

your foughts :P

oh and happy swinging"

heck.. i'll bite... i'm in grumpy man mood...

can I ask who made you the master of how everyone goes about there swinging?

some people prefer to get to know people and socialise before they swing... why does that have to time limited??

some people like the privacy.... so what business is it of yours know who they have or haven't met...

we all go about swinging in different ways... the way you do yours may not be the way I did mine....

I didn't meet anyone for the first 6 months... would that have automatically made me a "timewaster" in your eyes?

oh... and happy swinging!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ah ok then guys, maybe it just me becuase you wont believe how many women i seem to be speaking to that turn out not to be women!

but still hey ho, if there was a way around getin the fakes out im sure that fab team will work it out!!!

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By *exeteraWoman
over a year ago

Bridgend

Hope you remembered to report the profiles hun

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I think the site does all it can to get rid of fakes.....but it is up to all of us to any out......so good old gut instinct when you are speaking to people should play a big part.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

_abio, just try to cut down on the fakes im not asking people to meet as soon as they get on the site. just like to know that im talking to the person they tell me they are in a picture...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

indeed juicy

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"ah ok then guys, maybe it just me becuase you wont believe how many women i seem to be speaking to that turn out not to be women!

but still hey ho, if there was a way around getin the fakes out im sure that fab team will work it out!!!

well then maybe.. and this is just a maybe... this says more about the way you choose or dare i say it, actually get to know the people you swing with...

I know... its a radical thought.... ooooh maybe it is time you changed the way you go about your swinging, or picking potential partners...

I know... controversial old me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ah ok then guys, maybe it just me becuase you wont believe how many women i seem to be speaking to that turn out not to be women!

but still hey ho, if there was a way around getin the fakes out im sure that fab team will work it out!!!

been on this site for the second time nearly 12 months now and in all that time I have never ever come across a profile for a single girl or couple that was a bloke in disguise lol.

And as far as I can see about being verified isn't the poster only talking about being verified by the site not by meeting people for swinging.

So therefore not telling people how to go about swinging!!!!

or have I missed something.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"_abio, just try to cut down on the fakes im not asking people to meet as soon as they get on the site. just like to know that im talking to the person they tell me they are in a picture..."

If you have a member who won't verify who they are with you, be that by cam. PV etc, then walk away.

People verify who they are in different ways, I don't think anything should be compulsory.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no i mean by people verifying with fab, not on a meet verification you know the old green flag one.. when only fab can see your pic.. the other meet verification is cool too, but wouldnt want anyone to feel forced into meeting someone.

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By *exeteraWoman
over a year ago

Bridgend

Think it would have been helpful if the op had specified method of verification. Think my verifications speak volumes, not been photo verififed as didn't see the necessity. I do however, have pics I can attach to messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your foughts :P

oh and happy swinging"

I have replied to a simular thread like this in the past..

I dont like the idea of time limits,you got to be verified by a certian amout of time or you will be deleted..

Just because a person has been on here x amount of time and not been verified does not mean they are not genuine.

We met someone of here not long ago,they had been on here over 6 months and not been verified and w had a fab time with them.

Also,when we first joined this site when it first started must be nearly 4 years ago we didnt get verifed for well over 6 months,we knew we were genuine as we have been on another swing site for 7 yrs.

Why should somone meet someone just to get a green tick just because they would get their profile deleted within a certian amount of time?

You get messers on all swing sites even pay ones too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i think your right there juicy, no need for you too send a pic to fab as you have been verified by other members i just fought it would be a good shout if your not looking to meet to send a pic with the paper to fab, i didnt think anyones sees them ones? but i might be wrong..?

still no need for arguements with all friends here and verified! lol

wahey

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

I have never been Pic Verified, don't see the need for it as most know me from the Scotland Chat Room and am on cam there for folk to see who I am.

But with what you said in your opening post I should be put off the site and have my profile deleted! Why would that be then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No Jim you're not wrong.

When I first read the OP I thought he was saying people should get meeting and verified but he is talking about photo verification by admin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never been Pic Verified, don't see the need for it as most know me from the Scotland Chat Room and am on cam there for folk to see who I am.

But with what you said in your opening post I should be put off the site and have my profile deleted! Why would that be then?

We too have never been photo verified,does this mean we are not genuine?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

well then no one should feel forced into meeting someone because of some "ill-conceived" time limit.....

I say to newbies all the time that if something doesn't quite feel right, don't do it.... and if that means taking time, then so be it....

I'd rather people were 110% sure then to have doubt and rush on in....

if people aren't willing to wait, there loss, if that makes people in the eyes of others "timewasters" then like i said, I think that say more about the people making the claim, than it does about those who are apparently wasting peoples time...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

_b430, you have been verified by another member yer, im just saying that i fought it would be a good idea if people got verified that where real, either by another member of fab, or if they wana stay private, maybe they could send a pic to fab with there screenname,

obviously everyones not going to think the same aas me so i fought id post a message about it to get abit of feedback about the while thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

alrite _abio fair enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

nope jnp, you verified by other contacts, so you dont need to be verified by fab do you..

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"_b430, you have been verified by another member yer, im just saying that i fought it would be a good idea if people got verified that where real, either by another member of fab, or if they wana stay private, maybe they could send a pic to fab with there screenname,

obviously everyones not going to think the same aas me so i fought id post a message about it to get abit of feedback about the while thing"

Yeah I have been verified by quite a few other members on here. But not everyone verifies others, some like to keep things private and everyone should be allowed to run their profile, meets, verifications, etc as they see fit themselves.

Setting time limits isn't for anyone else to decide on and is never gonna work as people will take things at their own pace.

Just my thoughts on a subject that seems to pop up all the time and will never be resolved!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nope jnp, you verified by other contacts, so you dont need to be verified by fab do you.."

Yeah we are but point i am trying to put accross is thst you dont have to be verfied to be genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

obviously everyones not going to think the same aas me so i fought id post a message about it to get abit of feedback about the while thing

Setting time limits isn't for anyone else to decide on and is never gonna work as people will take things at their own pace.

Just my thoughts on a subject that seems to pop up all the time and will never be resolved!

totally agree and just because not been photo verified or verified by other members does not mean you are not genuine,people do use other sites and may have played more on them.

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By *aravancoupleMan
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

We have meet people that are not verified and still do, only last weekend we met a couple that was not verified, and what a fantastic couple they are just because they are not verified doesn't mean that they are not genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

jimmy the hand summed it up,who the hell has the right to tell someone that they should do something by a certain amount of time??

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

What i dont get is what the problem is???

You dont get verified by other people until you have had a meet.

So - unless you know people off another site - then you wont get verified by other people til you have a meet.

So - are you saying - that unless you know people on here already that can verify you - then you should have a pic verified by Fabs???

Again a little unfair - esp as some of the fake profiles are verified by friends - and they can hide each pthers verifications - so all you see still is that they have been verified but not how.

So on that point - that actually doesnt solvee your problem does it - cos they can be a bunch of people with fake profiles that have verified each other - and to you they would appear verified and therefore genuine.

Not everyone wants their pics up - weather others can see them or not- admin still have to see them.

At end of the day - as been mentioned above - use your gut instinct, talk, verify by cam, or at the worst - meet

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By *eppoch1970Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I haven't been verified this time, but I was on my previous profile which I deleted. I'm mostly on fabguys and a couple of other websites, but the through-put between swingers and guys means I will have a verification on here again also. Personally I go by my instincts rather than checking the images at the top of a person's profile to see if they are verified or not. My contacts/callers tend to be married men with families or bisexual men who live or at least have a girl-friend and they tend to not show their friends list or want their feedback publicly shown on your profile. If you got rid of the single people from swingers and made it a couple's only website, you would force a lot of them into living a lonely life, or the couples who want to meet bi men(gay men can't get their head around women wanting to watch 2 men together)would be deprived also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say that i prefer people to be verified and get quite wary of those that claim theyve done this and that but theres nothing to show that on their profile. When i asked one guy why not, he said he'd asked them not to?? And his last meet was May last year and she didnt remember him at all, makes you wonder doesnt it

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

So do people actually mail whoever verified a person you are interested in to find out more information?

And do those people tell you more?

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"So do people actually mail whoever verified a person you are interested in to find out more information?

And do those people tell you more?

If I was approached with questions about someone I had verified I would politely tell the enquirer to foxtrot oscar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So do people actually mail whoever verified a person you are interested in to find out more information?

And do those people tell you more?

If I was approached with questions about someone I had verified I would politely tell the enquirer to foxtrot oscar.

I wouldn't be so polite...!!

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By *ick and tockCouple
over a year ago

wigan

we hate the people that are new after a chat on hear send them pics u get some kind of pic back then a few day later there profile gone.. anybody else had that happen

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"we hate the people that are new after a chat on hear send them pics u get some kind of pic back then a few day later there profile gone.. anybody else had that happen"

Used to, so thats why I dont get involved in any chat with new people. I do tell them thats one of the reasons why I dont want to chat - they have a habit of disappearing.

But I have later caught up with a few of the ones that had staying power

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Nice to see some people like discretion Sassy and Bobby....

I would do the same as you two and tell them to take a hike.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not verified but have plenty of pics on profile, which include facial pics that have not been scrubbed out......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of the people we have met havnt verified us and alot of them arent verified themselves, it doesnt automaticly mean that because they arnt verified they arnt gen

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