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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, 3 weeks ago I write to a couple. No response until late yesterday, I get a message from nowhere saying, meet tomorrow at 4pm, pay for a room or pay childcare for them.

Their profile was up front and said this could be the only way they would meet so it wasn't unexpected.

Trouble is....it was less than 24hrs away and I had a family commitment made weeks ago. So I quickly wrote and said sorry....something else on.

Now...I'm a time waster. Actually I'm a fu**ing time waster".

And I dont think I am.....I've met a few people off here and had a ball, I'm just a person who has a life.

Any thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they sound like the sort of people id run a mile in the opposite direction from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no you are not a timeswaster.they are totally out of order to expect you to meet at such short notice after no earlier reply from them

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Don't let it worry you. Real life always comes before FAB meets in my book and anyone who thinks differently wouldn't be worth meeting in my opinion.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

You're not a timewaster. And why do you think so little of yourself that you would find it acceptable to be asked to pay for a room or babysitter? Meets on here are for mutual fun, not making someone pay.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

Block and move on... let them exploit someone else - they don't even deserve a second thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aye fucking right, they can get tae

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"aye fucking right, they can get tae"

Fook on a pony?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How dare you have a life outside of swinging and turn them down !

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"So, 3 weeks ago I write to a couple. No response until late yesterday, I get a message from nowhere saying, meet tomorrow at 4pm, pay for a room or pay childcare for them.

Their profile was up front and said this could be the only way they would meet so it wasn't unexpected.

Trouble is....it was less than 24hrs away and I had a family commitment made weeks ago. So I quickly wrote and said sorry....something else on.

Now...I'm a time waster. Actually I'm a fu**ing time waster".

And I dont think I am.....I've met a few people off here and had a ball, I'm just a person who has a life.

Any thoughts?"

They have a blooming cheek.....

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

Pay childcare??? Are these jokers for real?!?!

I take it you blocked and moved on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're not a timewaster. And why do you think so little of yourself that you would find it acceptable to be asked to pay for a room or babysitter? Meets on here are for mutual fun, not making someone pay."

^^^^^ this! Block and count youself lucky you didnt meet them!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Block them and move on mate, plenty of genuine people in here to have fun with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why on earth would somebody have the gaul to expect you to pay to meet with them... I can understand going halves on a room but for you to pay for that plus their babysitter, it would be an instant NO from me, wouldn't even waste my time. They would have more chance winning the lottery blindfolded with a blunt pen than me agreeing to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have children.

I can accommodate.

I would never call you a timewaster.

Message me and lets fuck...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block on move on obs they think no one has a life out Side of Fabs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LMAO.. There are some raw people out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly time wasters are a fact of life on here. And on all other sites including paying sites.

They come in all shades - women, couples, men, TVs - seems there are far too many fantasists out there who like the thought of swinging but run a mile when it actually comes down to doing anything.

Shame on all of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're not a timewaster. And why do you think so little of yourself that you would find it acceptable to be asked to pay for a room or babysitter? Meets on here are for mutual fun, not making someone pay."

Well said .

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By *olly_1983TV/TS
over a year ago

there

Avoid them at all costs, if they wanted you to pay for a room OR pay for child care then they were planning to abandon the children if you got a hotel room... That makes them either negligent or somewhat stupid, either of which is not a good personality trait

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Well at least you know your not a timewaster. They are in the wrong. Demanding in the arrangements of the meet and specifics quite so rudely.

You had a lucky escape. Don't worry not everyone else is like that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP said the couple were up front about their financial needs on their profile. He still chose to message them !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is such a lot of nonsense up here. Bad attitudes, rude, unfriendly behaviour, aggression and attitude. Why, I have no idea, its a swinging site .. That is socialising with friends and adding sexual playtime too ...

Personally I would move away from such members with that attitude, I would not have them as friends in person so why the heck would I want to fuck with them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move on, they clearly arnt worth the hassle.

It's funny the attitude some couples have as of all single makes should be on their knees grovelling an thankful to be allowed to speak to them. Bit do they get annoyed when you judge them to the same standards you do single makes who message you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why should you have to pay for the room .yes go halves but as for child care they brought their little monsters into the world so should accept responsibility of paying some one to look after them or a trusted family member whilst they getting it on with some one else .what makes them so precious they can demand such things ! I sometimes question people's morality on here and not in a sexual way lol. But in how fair or unfair they are to people.some people are so precious about themselves .they should wise up.poppyxc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP said the couple were up front about their financial needs on their profile. He still chose to message them !"
yes but some people thinks thats how it goes on here and its the norm but its not .i don't think they should be allowed to post and demand that myself .you either want to meet people for fun on an equal footing go half on a room or not .poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why should you have to pay for the room .yes go halves but as for child care they brought their little monsters into the world so should accept responsibility of paying some one to look after them or a trusted family member whilst they getting it on with some one else .what makes them so precious they can demand such things ! I sometimes question people's morality on here and not in a sexual way lol. But in how fair or unfair they are to people.some people are so precious about themselves .they should wise up.poppyxc "

Yes it's ridiculous, yes I agree that this couple are demanding to say the least BUT the OP chose himself to contact them, so I don't really see why he's spouting off about that in the forum. If he didn't like that - why message them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP said the couple were up front about their financial needs on their profile. He still chose to message them !yes but some people thinks thats how it goes on here and its the norm but its not .i don't think they should be allowed to post and demand that myself .you either want to meet people for fun on an equal footing go half on a room or not .poppyxx "

The majority of profiles do not have that kind of crap on. There are plenty of other couples to approach but he chose to message a couple accepting their stated terms. More fool him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"meet tomorrow at 4pm, pay for a room or pay childcare for them"

That's the point I would have stopped reading the mesage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""meet tomorrow at 4pm, pay for a room or pay childcare for them"

That's the point I would have stopped reading the mesage"

as any self respecting person would. If you're open to giving money in this fashion you may as well make it easy and hire a prostitute.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Why should you have to pay for the room .yes go halves but as for child care they brought their little monsters into the world so should accept responsibility of paying some one to look after them or a trusted family member whilst they getting it on with some one else .what makes them so precious they can demand such things ! I sometimes question people's morality on here and not in a sexual way lol. But in how fair or unfair they are to people.some people are so precious about themselves .they should wise up.poppyxc

Yes it's ridiculous, yes I agree that this couple are demanding to say the least BUT the OP chose himself to contact them, so I don't really see why he's spouting off about that in the forum. If he didn't like that - why message them "
Indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you were perfectly reasonable. We all sometimes get hiccups that prevent meets. Being courteous and letting them know was great. They should have been more gracious and accepted your apology. Some notice is better than no notice, which has happened to us and many others too I imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, 3 weeks ago I write to a couple. No response until late yesterday, I get a message from nowhere saying, meet tomorrow at 4pm, pay for a room or pay childcare for them.

Their profile was up front and said this could be the only way they would meet so it wasn't unexpected.

Trouble is....it was less than 24hrs away and I had a family commitment made weeks ago. So I quickly wrote and said sorry....something else on.

Now...I'm a time waster. Actually I'm a fu**ing time waster".

And I dont think I am.....I've met a few people off here and had a ball, I'm just a person who has a life.

Any thoughts?"

Y worry hit the block button move on lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP said the couple were up front about their financial needs on their profile. He still chose to message them !yes but some people thinks thats how it goes on here and its the norm but its not .i don't think they should be allowed to post and demand that myself .you either want to meet people for fun on an equal footing go half on a room or not .poppyxx "

Indeed well said 100% agree

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Block, remove them from your Christmas card list, find a couple who don't want anything silly before they deign to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always pay any hotel room costs as we get the most out of it. We nearly always buy refreshments in and never have any expectation other than the guy should turn up clean at the agreed time.

Quite sure we aren't the only couple that treat the guys we choose to meet with respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow, what a cheek! But yeah, block and move on! Its a two way thing, if its not just as fun for you as it is the other party, its pointless! C xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""meet tomorrow at 4pm, pay for a room or pay childcare for them"

That's the point I would have stopped reading the mesage

as any self respecting person would. If you're open to giving money in this fashion you may as well make it easy and hire a prostitute. "

which is the point i was going to make.

surely this couple are asking for financial recompense for sexual gratification?

so they should not only be blocked, but reported too as thats not what this place is about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We always pay any hotel room costs as we get the most out of it. We nearly always buy refreshments in and never have any expectation other than the guy should turn up clean at the agreed time.

Quite sure we aren't the only couple that treat the guys we choose to meet with respect. "

when we meet in a hotel, its usually because we have the room and fancy a bit of fun.

we always stay, so its OUR room, so agree with you, we never even ask the other party to contribute, why would we.

when people come to your house, you wouldnt ask them to pay the mortgage lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We always pay any hotel room costs as we get the most out of it. We nearly always buy refreshments in and never have any expectation other than the guy should turn up clean at the agreed time.

Quite sure we aren't the only couple that treat the guys we choose to meet with respect.

when we meet in a hotel, its usually because we have the room and fancy a bit of fun.

we always stay, so its OUR room, so agree with you, we never even ask the other party to contribute, why would we.

when people come to your house, you wouldnt ask them to pay the mortgage lol"

Eh that's a cracking idea lol

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

when i was swinging as a cpl we never met in hotels as we lived in a 3 bed house. we invited folk round to us and if they wanted to have a drink put them up in our

spare room . so need to worry about hotel cost for anyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a similar issue this week.

I had need aged a woman who agreed we would meet up at an agreed time.

I gave her my phone number to text me address details etc

Anyway she didn't text so I presumed she had lost interest or changed her mind.

Not wanting to come across desperate I didn't chase up on here and today I get told to leave the site by said woman as I am a time waster

Am I in right or wrong??

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Some people think others are just toys in their sex lives that is not gender specific either

Block, forget and leave them too it

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

people can only get away with demands if others are prepared to accept them....

so it is a two way street.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe im reading it differently. The OP says that they were upfront about the financial stuff, his issue was being called a timewaster because he said no to a meet with the couple?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe im reading it differently. The OP says that they were upfront about the financial stuff, his issue was being called a timewaster because he said no to a meet with the couple?"

Yes he just tossed the other bit in, in an attempt to bolster his argument.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""meet tomorrow at 4pm, pay for a room or pay childcare for them"

That's the point I would have stopped reading the mesage

as any self respecting person would. If you're open to giving money in this fashion you may as well make it easy and hire a prostitute. "

it almost amounts to prostitution when money is exchanged for childcare this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""meet tomorrow at 4pm, pay for a room or pay childcare for them"

That's the point I would have stopped reading the mesage

as any self respecting person would. If you're open to giving money in this fashion you may as well make it easy and hire a prostitute.

it almost amounts to prostitution when money is exchanged for childcare this way. "

Some wouldn't see that but I think when you're paying for someone else's expenses on here it's getting that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pay childcare??? Are these jokers for real?!?!

I take it you blocked and moved on?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand them being dissappointed but thats life you win some you lose some they expected you to pay anyway if we arranged to meet someone they have every right to back out if they are not happy we would have been friends either way and waited for the right moment we would class that as a lucky escape best of luck to you in future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're not a timewaster. And why do you think so little of yourself that you would find it acceptable to be asked to pay for a room or babysitter? Meets on here are for mutual fun, not making someone pay."

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