FabSwingers.com forum: Women Trying To Get pregnant Through Fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Should these people be reported and banned? I know it's a free country but surely for the sake of that potential child being born, something should be done? That's the third time this month I've had someone ask me to go bareback and when I've asked them about the possibility of pregnancy they've all just flippantly said "well we'd need to have the baby".

Needless to say they were all blocked but surely this is a sign of something who isn't all there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go johnny go go go!

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

as long as they are not charging, no rules are being broken, so whats the problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never mind the child..disgrace to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you kidding? (No pun intended)

That is sick. Stay well clear but yes i think u should also report...but theres very little admin could do really x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Report what? It's not illegal. What about all the unplanned pregnancies that happen after a night on the lash?

Who are you to determine that the child wI'll be in some way be left wanting by being bought up by someone off here? Because they're swingers they won't know how to bring a child up?

If someone wants a child is how and where it is conceived relevant? Would it be better to tell a child that their Dad was a faceless profile from a sperm bank neatly delivered in a turkey blaster?

My mum and Dad conceived me naturally but not once have I wanted to know the ins and out of my conception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What?!

It might not be illegal, but it sure isn't ethical. What kind of person would do something like that?

Sure a lot of pregnancies are unplanned, but this woman's nonchalance about the whole thing is a bit suspect.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"What?!

It might not be illegal, but it sure isn't ethical. What kind of person would do something like that?

Sure a lot of pregnancies are unplanned, but this woman's nonchalance about the whole thing is a bit suspect."

Mine?? It's not nonchalance it's just none of my business. Judge mot lest he be judged and all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more concerned about how you'd explain to that child where their father was.

"Well dear we posted on a sex site and he happened to reply"

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Why do you care?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you care?

It's a child protection thing. I can't help worry about the kinda of people who would have a child in this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What?!

It might not be illegal, but it sure isn't ethical. What kind of person would do something like that?

Sure a lot of pregnancies are unplanned, but this woman's nonchalance about the whole thing is a bit suspect.

Mine?? It's not nonchalance it's just none of my business. Judge mot lest he be judged and all that

Typo. Sorry, I meant to say "these women's".

I'm not judging, but it's very difficult to imagine that a sane person would do something like that. If these women are alright mentally, then

to them. I wish them and their kids good fortune.

On the real though, that's gross! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand bareback is a no no and why its not for me for the fact i want to be safe and dont want to have kids all over the place with people i dont know to well but in saying that there are people out there who are so desprate to have a child and have probaly explored all other options they have turned to asking here we all have a finger to type the word no or sorry its not my thing we cant keep judging people we dont really know as deep down it may be there only or last chance after trying every other option

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By *eisenberg2Man
over a year ago

Rochester

That is just SICK, I'm really shocked at the pple that think there's actually nothing wrong with this , I'd hate to have a kid that doesn't know I'm his/her dad ... Very unfair to the kid as well

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Why do you care?

It's a child protection thing. I can't help worry about the kinda of people who would have a child in this way. "

My response wasn't actually directed at you, but i'll touch on the point regardless.

Guess what....children don't need to know the details of their conception. Whatever happened to parents being parents and setting the bar that kids don't need to know some things, full stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That is just SICK, I'm really shocked at the pple that think there's actually nothing wrong with this , I'd hate to have a kid that doesn't know I'm his/her dad ... Very unfair to the kid as well "

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By *atietvsheffTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

A few years ago some friends were unable to conceive, my mate knew I fancied his wife and we had joked about having a 3sum then one day his wife rang and said they would like to meet up with the intention of us having sex and if possible would I help her try and conceive, they came around he watched while we had sex several times, the next day she rang and asked me to go to theirs that afternoon as she wanted some more, it didn't work that month, and a few months later on I found out they were having a baby, the wife was a GP , when I said what dark eyes their son had compared to both her and hubby she smiled and said it was genetically impossible for her and her hubby to have a child with those coloured eyes and smiled, strangely enough their 2nd child was conceived by "accident" and she privately assured me it was her hubby's.

I ready somewhere that there could be a high %+ of all children not actually the children of the guy who thinks he is the father.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

errrrm, CSA anyone????? what's to stop the woman having the 'donor' fork out for the kid when its born, since he will be the biological father . Or maybe the kid is born and the donor decides he wants to be a father to it, all very potentially messy, sounds like a contract would need to be drawn up beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should these people be reported and banned? I know it's a free country but surely for the sake of that potential child being born, something should be done? That's the third time this month I've had someone ask me to go bareback and when I've asked them about the possibility of pregnancy they've all just flippantly said "well we'd need to have the baby".

Needless to say they were all blocked but surely this is a sign of something who isn't all there?"

I would love your babies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That is just SICK, I'm really shocked at the pple that think there's actually nothing wrong with this , I'd hate to have a kid that doesn't know I'm his/her dad ... Very unfair to the kid as well "

It is 2013, I imagine 10% of kids wouldn't know their father, at least looking for a sperm donor, has to be better than going to the pub, getting d*unk, and ending up pregnant, by accident, that is a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"errrrm, CSA anyone????? what's to stop the woman having the 'donor' fork out for the kid when its born, since he will be the biological father . Or maybe the kid is born and the donor decides he wants to be a father to it, all very potentially messy, sounds like a contract would need to be drawn up beforehand."

would be somewhat difficult if saaid woman was doing it with dozens of little brain lead men, though.

as has been said, there are many kids around with dads that have been found in a bar after a few too many glasses of peach schnapps or wkd or whatever it is the females drink in clubs now to loosen their knickers.

and unless the oor child develops some form of genetic problem where the only solution is a paternal transplant of some form or other, then having sex for a baby on here is no better, or worse than that.

its life

it happens

either get into government and pass legislation to stop it (not liekly)

or get over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This maybe a wrong view at this but what if.....

We wanted another baby but sissy couldn't produce enough living sperm.

Were not millionaires or anywhere near that so ivf probably wouldn't be an option. So how would we have a baby.?Well do we go to the pub and pick someone up and steal there sperm? I doubt it.

Here on a swinging site we could display in our profile our issue, then said sperm giver would know.

Seems pretty straight forward to us.

As for the life of the little creature it would have a mum and a dad who loved it.

Bet there's quite a lot on here who grew up with two parents who they did not biologically belong to both.

And as for being ethical, o m g this is a swinging site. Right there, ethics go out the window as Adam and Eve would look at it.

But at the end of the day it's down to the couple and their choice.

However if they had a child and hid it under the cupboard for 30 years then yeah, dam right, kick up a fuss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit off a Jeremy Kyle moment lol

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By *S_PennyTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Ok I'm going to take a slightly different tack on this in a couple directions so please just indulge me for a bit

Ok so first :

We have hundreds of children in this country / globally that have been orphaned or removed from dangerous or abusive situations. They need love too. They will be desperate for the love of a good family so why not use your love to help these children rather than getting some random joe off of here.

A couple I know spent literally thousands upon thousands on IVF and it didn't work so have recently adopted. They are beyond happy and will make great parents because of that deep desire to be so for so long.

And now for something completely different:

I guess this might be a way of getting for free what Americans pay thousands for. They get to carry out social engineering through genetic choices. So do these women look for the fittest bodies and largest cocks or particular hair and eye colour or maybe they are seeking intellectuals? Somehow I suspect the former over the latter.

Personally I wouldn't have gone close, i like safe sex. Mind you I don't produce that many if any little swimmers now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as long as they are not charging, no rules are being broken, so whats the problem?

The problem is he becomes legally responsible for the support of the child.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you care?

It's a child protection thing. I can't help worry about the kinda of people who would have a child in this way. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have hundreds of children in this country / globally that have been orphaned or removed from dangerous or abusive situations. They need love too. They will be desperate for the love of a good family so why not use your love to help these children rather than getting some random joe off of here"

It's nice to have a new one, not a second hand one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok I'm going to take a slightly different tack on this in a couple directions so please just indulge me for a bit

Ok so first :

and people always ask me why i have never had, or even had any inclination to have, children, and in 2 paragraphs this sums it up.

people seem to be hooked up on the fact that, if the woman doesnt push it out of her pussy, then they wont love it as much, as its not theirs.

well, guess what, getting some hard cocked lethario to fill you up and hope for 9 months, isnt having your own baby either.

get over yourselves!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Ok I'm going to take a slightly different tack on this in a couple directions so please just indulge me for a bit

Ok so first :

And now for something completely different:

Personally I wouldn't have gone close, i like safe sex. Mind you I don't produce that many if any little swimmers now.

Because there are people who would make wonderful parents but can't get through the stages of adoption for whatever reason. There are some that what to carry a child...adoption is great and I'm all for it...I'm 33 now so I know my clock is ticking I've yet to meet the bloke of my dreams I've not been that lucky yet....I am considering all options to become a mother as I have a need for a child....I was pregnant before however the father wanted nothing to do with me or the child and ran off into the sunset...I was set to become a single parent from the off...when people are that determined to have a child they will go to any lengths to become a parent....the feelings you get when you want a child is immense and hard to explain...I don't judge those who use sperm donation to get what they want....as long as they are good loving parents then I don't give a fuck how they conceived the child....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would do her, then again i fire blanks and get great pleasure in telling her when im on the Vineger stroke,hang on n enjoy the ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Needless to say they were all blocked but surely this is a sign of something who isn't all there?"

Strange how they have all sent the exact same response

Maybe they are being tounge in cheek?

Maybe they are on the pill? (I know this isn't "safe", however it is contraception).

People go bareback on this site all the time, whether they choose to admit it or not- look at half the pictures/cam shows for gods sake.. Very few condoms showing!?

Surely there's no difference to a quickie after a night out, to an arranged fab meet? Idiots will always be idiots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely there's no difference to a quickie after a night out, to an arranged fab meet? Idiots will always be idiots.

Of course there is a difference, a meet is planned, a sex partner is chosen, on preferences, as opposed to being d*unk and having a fuck in the entry.

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By *S_PennyTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"Ok I'm going to take a slightly different tack on this in a couple directions so please just indulge me for a bit

Ok so first :

And now for something completely different:

Personally I wouldn't have gone close, i like safe sex. Mind you I don't produce that many if any little swimmers now.

Oh I know about adoption situation well because I went through the first stages when I was married.

I don't judge anyone to be honest if I can help it, never have really. I grew up in a dysfunctional family unit so what would be the point in that? I was merely trying to look at different aspects of this that's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Ok I'm going to take a slightly different tack on this in a couple directions so please just indulge me for a bit

Ok so first :

And now for something completely different:

Personally I wouldn't have gone close, i like safe sex. Mind you I don't produce that many if any little swimmers now.

Oh I know about adoption situation well because I went through the first stages when I was married.

I know I was not having a dig....I was responding from the other side of the fence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep searching there is always someone for everyone

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"as long as they are not charging, no rules are being broken, so whats the problem?

The problem is he becomes legally responsible for the support of the child."

Only if they choose to follow it up. If they dont want his money he doesn't have to pay it.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"as long as they are not charging, no rules are being broken, so whats the problem?

The problem is he becomes legally responsible for the support of the child.

Only if they choose to follow it up. If they dont want his money he doesn't have to pay it. "

He can also sign over all parental responsibilities which mean he is no longer legally attached to that child...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I know a couple of single guys that want to become dads and finding it hard the conventional way to meet someone....so it's just not just women and couples it's men also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Believe it or not some guys would want to have something to do with any offspring they produce. To try and get a donation without being totally upfront about it is shocking. If everybody knows the score and is happy about it then that's fair enough. Not something I could ever do though.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Ok I'm going to take a slightly different tack on this in a couple directions so please just indulge me for a bit

Ok so first :

and people always ask me why i have never had, or even had any inclination to have, children, and in 2 paragraphs this sums it up.

people seem to be hooked up on the fact that, if the woman doesnt push it out of her pussy, then they wont love it as much, as its not theirs.

well, guess what, getting some hard cocked lethario to fill you up and hope for 9 months, isnt having your own baby either.

get over yourselves!"

We'll it is half the women's baby at least.

Using your line of thinking people that use sperm donors for vid can't claim to have a baby of their own or people who use their partners sperm to impregnate a surrogate can't claim to have a baby of their own.

I agree it's not the ideal way to have a child but it is a way and if people choose that option what's it got to do with any of us? Some women feel the need to carry a child. It's a very powerful urge.

Yes there is adoption but my understanding is that it is Avery lengthy, very costly process in which you are at the mecry of wether or not an agency worker likes you to approve you for a child. I have heard stories of very loving people being denied adoption because they are too old, have a health condition etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

child protection issues - Really?

Sick - really?

Man fucks woman bareback and she gets pregnant - really? Well don't go fucking without a condom then!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Also. The OP mentions people who are open and honest about what they want. Surely that's a good thing as he was given the option to react how he desired which was to block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you care?

Helpful comment!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasn't there a chap in the sun paper a while back, offering such a service?

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By *appyfuckerMan
over a year ago

in a happy place north wales coast

what about later in life when the child is asked about parents health history?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also. The OP mentions people who are open and honest about what they want. Surely that's a good thing as he was given the option to react how he desired which was to block them. "

for honesty

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"what about later in life when the child is asked about parents health history?"

Then hopefully if going down the sperm donor route that such questions would be asked and noted

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"what about later in life when the child is asked about parents health history?"

They Just say they have a father they don't know. My nephew was conceived in a relationship but ask him the same question and he wouldn't be able to give you any information because his 'dad' fucked off and hasn't been in contact since he was born.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a woman on fab who is pregnant from a meet she had and is keeping it, he doesn't want to know though.

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By *S_PennyTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I know I was not having a dig....I was responding from the other side of the fence

Sorry bit of a bad habit of mine.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I know a woman on fab who is pregnant from a meet she had and is keeping it, he doesn't want to know though."

It's her choice in keeping it and she is aware of the situation and that's his choice for not knowing...it is not rare that people are getting pregnant from a meet on here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with some of these 'breeding and bareback 'profiles is that they do it for sexually gratification rather than to have a child. Which is morally wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes very true, I guess its a risk you take with any meet, she didn't plan it and used contraception, she was still looking for meets whilst pregnant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a woman on fab who is pregnant from a meet she had and is keeping it, he doesn't want to know though.

It's her choice in keeping it and she is aware of the situation and that's his choice for not knowing...it is not rare that people are getting pregnant from a meet on here..."

Her choice?? Are you suggesting the baby is hers , and hers alone??

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I know a woman on fab who is pregnant from a meet she had and is keeping it, he doesn't want to know though.

It's her choice in keeping it and she is aware of the situation and that's his choice for not knowing...it is not rare that people are getting pregnant from a meet on here...

Her choice?? Are you suggesting the baby is hers , and hers alone??"

If the guy wants nothing to do with it, as stated in the post then yes.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I know a woman on fab who is pregnant from a meet she had and is keeping it, he doesn't want to know though.

It's her choice in keeping it and she is aware of the situation and that's his choice for not knowing...it is not rare that people are getting pregnant from a meet on here...

Her choice?? Are you suggesting the baby is hers , and hers alone??"

The woman is carrying it in her body and will change her life so of course it's her choice...the bloke buggered off he gave her his choice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a woman on fab who is pregnant from a meet she had and is keeping it, he doesn't want to know though.

It's her choice in keeping it and she is aware of the situation and that's his choice for not knowing...it is not rare that people are getting pregnant from a meet on here...

Her choice?? Are you suggesting the baby is hers , and hers alone??

If the guy wants nothing to do with it, as stated in the post then yes. "

Fair enough,I suppose if she is financial stable and has family support things will work out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes she has own business and good family and friends to support her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes she has own business and good family and friends to support her."

Ah right, good luck to her, I can't stand people who seem to have kids to get in the housing ladder or claim benefits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a male and female have casual BB sex under any circumstances,then they are both fully aware of the potential consequences.

If a female decides she wants to get pregnant by sleeping with numerous men,then that's her business only.

She should be more worried about picking up a STD than getting pregnant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a male and female have casual BB sex under any circumstances,then they are both fully aware of the potential consequences.

If a female decides she wants to get pregnant by sleeping with numerous men,then that's her business only.

She should be more worried about picking up a STD than getting pregnant.

It's not her business only, the father has rights and more importantly the child should be considered

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Yes she has own business and good family and friends to support her."

It might be best if you don't discuss this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what about later in life when the child is asked about parents health history?"

im 37 years of age in a few weeks time, and i have never been asked specific parental health history, more than 'any health issues in the family?' which is replied with 'none that i know of'

so, having an absent father, in general terms of life, wont be much of an issue health wise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a male has unprotected sex with a female and it's a meet/encounter,he has no rights imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what about later in life when the child is asked about parents health history?

im 37 years of age in a few weeks time, and i have never been asked specific parental health history, more than 'any health issues in the family?' which is replied with 'none that i know of'

so, having an absent father, in general terms of life, wont be much of an issue health wise."

But what about the absent fathers health problems, a lot of serious conditions are genetic and can be passed down to the child

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a male has unprotected sex with a female and it's a meet/encounter,he has no rights imo."

Seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a male has unprotected sex with a female and it's a meet/encounter,he has no rights imo."

He has the right to catch an std

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"what about later in life when the child is asked about parents health history?

im 37 years of age in a few weeks time, and i have never been asked specific parental health history, more than 'any health issues in the family?' which is replied with 'none that i know of'

so, having an absent father, in general terms of life, wont be much of an issue health wise.

But what about the absent fathers health problems, a lot of serious conditions are genetic and can be passed down to the child "

Wouldn't any good doctor know if someone was ill without having to see if a family member has it too?

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

a rainmac don't just stop you getting wet .. if a man is prepared to take a risk he knows the score .. some women are desperate for a child .. maybe that's why men like older women

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"what about later in life when the child is asked about parents health history?

im 37 years of age in a few weeks time, and i have never been asked specific parental health history, more than 'any health issues in the family?' which is replied with 'none that i know of'

so, having an absent father, in general terms of life, wont be much of an issue health wise.

But what about the absent fathers health problems, a lot of serious conditions are genetic and can be passed down to the child

Wouldn't any good doctor know if someone was ill without having to see if a family member has it too?"

Ruggers you would of thought

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"a rainmac don't just stop you getting wet .. if a man is prepared to take a risk he knows the score .. some women are desperate for a child .. maybe that's why men like older women "

Some men like older women I know a few older men that like younger women because they want a child

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what about later in life when the child is asked about parents health history?

im 37 years of age in a few weeks time, and i have never been asked specific parental health history, more than 'any health issues in the family?' which is replied with 'none that i know of'

so, having an absent father, in general terms of life, wont be much of an issue health wise.

But what about the absent fathers health problems, a lot of serious conditions are genetic and can be passed down to the child

Wouldn't any good doctor know if someone was ill without having to see if a family member has it too?"

Yes, but these tend to be future problems that doctors can look out for, that's why they ask if you have any family history of illnesses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Needless to say they were all blocked but surely this is a sign of something who isn't all there?"

Lets not forget the good old taxpayer paying for all the potential sprogs!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Yes, but these tend to be future problems that doctors can look out for, that's why they ask if you have any family history of illnesses "

The only time I have ever been asked about history is when something happened to me and not for future reference for the Doc.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"as long as they are not charging, no rules are being broken, so whats the problem?

The problem is he becomes legally responsible for the support of the child.

Only if they choose to follow it up. If they dont want his money he doesn't have to pay it. "

but the flip side of that is that if at some point what if the person does want to know his child...

or what if something comes up in the childs medical history........

every child has the right to know who their biological mother and father is... so when do you tell them?

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over a year ago

Yes, but these tend to be future problems that doctors can look out for, that's why they ask if you have any family history of illnesses

The only time I have ever been asked about history is when something happened to me and not for future reference for the Doc.

Then your doctor isn't very good, if you have a family history of something your more likely to get suffer from the same problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Report what? It's not illegal. What about all the unplanned pregnancies that happen after a night on the lash?

Who are you to determine that the child wI'll be in some way be left wanting by being bought up by someone off here? Because they're swingers they won't know how to bring a child up?

If someone wants a child is how and where it is conceived relevant? Would it be better to tell a child that their Dad was a faceless profile from a sperm bank neatly delivered in a turkey blaster?

My mum and Dad conceived me naturally but not once have I wanted to know the ins and out of my conception. "

Yes and at least you can see what the man looks like on here, there are some nice men on here.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Then your doctor isn't very good, if you have a family history of something your more likely to get suffer from the same problems. "

I will bbe sure to let him know that when I go next.

Funnily enough, what I had didn't run in the family, so I wonder what happens then? I guess they just diagnosed on the symptoms that were presented to them at the time.

I suppose they could do that with anyone who doesn't know their parents history too....which brings us full circle

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over a year ago

Then your doctor isn't very good, if you have a family history of something your more likely to get suffer from the same problems.

I will bbe sure to let him know that when I go next.

Funnily enough, what I had didn't run in the family, so I wonder what happens then? I guess they just diagnosed on the symptoms that were presented to them at the time.

I suppose they could do that with anyone who doesn't know their parents history too....which brings us full circle

True, but the more information they have the quicker and more accurate the diagnosis , if it wasn't relevant they wouldn't ask the family history question

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Maybe they're just nosey

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

lots of kids grow up without fathers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are actually shocked this happens?

People are outraged? haha!

Such false outrage and bluster is the FOTM these days, if people want to do it then dont have sex with them simple.

If they trick you its another matter, those are the ones you need to watch out for but if they're upfront about it I dont see how you can go off on them.

Just make sure they cannot drag you through court to get child support.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"People are actually shocked this happens?

People are outraged? haha!

Such false outrage and bluster is the FOTM these days, if people want to do it then dont have sex with them simple.

If they trick you its another matter, those are the ones you need to watch out for but if they're upfront about it I dont see how you can go off on them.

Just make sure they cannot drag you through court to get child support."

Please, that's far too logical for here.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

"If a male and female have casual BB sex under any circumstances,then they are both fully aware of the potential consequences.

If a female decides she wants to get pregnant by sleeping with numerous men,then that's her business only.

She should be more worried about picking up a STD than getting pregnant.

Actually the risk of death is far higher with pregnancy and childbirth than from STDs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not right. Too many unwanted, unplanned children in this world, needing a home. I'm a adopted adult who does not know the full story of her background

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not right. Too many unwanted, unplanned children in this world, needing a home. I'm a adopted adult who does not know the full story of her background

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a male and female have casual BB sex under any circumstances,then they are both fully aware of the potential consequences.

If a female decides she wants to get pregnant by sleeping with numerous men,then that's her business only.

She should be more worried about picking up a STD than getting pregnant.

Actually the risk of death is far higher with pregnancy and childbirth than from STDs"

Who mentioned anything about death?

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

"If a male and female have casual BB sex under any circumstances,then they are both fully aware of the potential consequences.

If a female decides she wants to get pregnant by sleeping with numerous men,then that's her business only.

She should be more worried about picking up a STD than getting pregnant.

Actually the risk of death is far higher with pregnancy and childbirth than from STDs

Who mentioned anything about death?"

The quote mentioned being worried about a health concern? Is there a bigger one then dying you are aware of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a male and female have casual BB sex under any circumstances,then they are both fully aware of the potential consequences.

If a female decides she wants to get pregnant by sleeping with numerous men,then that's her business only.

She should be more worried about picking up a STD than getting pregnant.

Actually the risk of death is far higher with pregnancy and childbirth than from STDs

Who mentioned anything about death?

The quote mentioned being worried about a health concern? Is there a bigger one then dying you are aware of?"

I refuse to see the connection. Bareback may mean pregnancy, std or zero consequences. Bareback sex does not generally equate to death. Obviously there is a potential of murder, heart attack, divine intervention, climatic event (think freak natural occurrence - earyhquake/tsunami

rather than death by orgasm), fire etc.

So you see, bringing death into equation is a lickle silly at this juncture (and wholly irrelevant as all us women would be shit scared of falling pregnant full stop, not just concerned on a site like this

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

She should be more worried about picking up a STD than getting pregnant.

I've edited the quote I was replying to to make it easier for you to see as it's plain you're getting a tad confused between the specific post I was replying to, and general concerns about bare back sex, which is a debate in itself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never post in forums but this thread made me feel I wanted to. I am 44, widowed and sadly I have no children. My husband wasn't very well so children weren't an option. I desperately wanted to be a mother but my need to love my man and look after him took precedence. He left here earlier than we imagined and so I have no husband and no child.

I joined Fab as I'm a red blooded woman and love sex and developed a great relationship with a handsome, articulate and charming young man. We have filthy meets often and a great respect for each other. There is no romantic involvement, in fact, I don't know his surname lol

I asked this guy if he would consider allowing me to become pregnant by him? I didn't want or expect anything from him. As little or as much involvement as he desired. We discussed it at length but he was sadden to turn me down.

Does that make me a bad person? Would my baby have been in a bad environment and at risk? We all have a wee story in life and sometime the grey areas are clearer than they first appear.

Please don't slam me here, it's just my opinion xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She should be more worried about picking up a STD than getting pregnant.

Oh dear, bless you for thinking that I should be thinking on the same narrow lines as yourself

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"I never post in forums but this thread made me feel I wanted to. I am 44, widowed and sadly I have no children. My husband wasn't very well so children weren't an option. I desperately wanted to be a mother but my need to love my man and look after him took precedence. He left here earlier than we imagined and so I have no husband and no child.

Does that make me a bad person? Would my baby have been in a bad environment and at risk? We all have a wee story in life and sometime the grey areas are clearer than they first appear.

Please don't slam me here, it's just my opinion xx "

I understand it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does that make me a bad person? Would my baby have been in a bad environment and at risk? We all have a wee story in life and sometime the grey areas are clearer than they first appear.

Please don't slam me here, it's just my opinion xx "

You haven't resorted to deception so you don't deserve slamming IMO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew, thank you x

"I never post in forums but this made me feel I wanted to. I am 44, widowed and sadly I have no children. My husband wasn't very well so children weren't an option. I desperately wanted to be a mother but my need to love my man and look after him took precedence. He left here earlier than we imagined and so I have no husband and no child.

Does that make me a bad person? Would my baby have been in a bad environment and at risk? We all have a wee story in life and sometime the grey areas are clearer than they first appear.

Please don't slam me here, it's just my opinion xx

You haven't resorted to deception so you don't deserve slamming IMO."

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

She should be more worried about picking up a STD than getting pregnant.

Oh dear, bless you for thinking that I should be thinking on the same narrow lines as yourself

As I was replying to a narrow point raised in a quote, then it would only seem logical to have tailored your reply to that narrow point

Clearly whatever lines you think on is your own business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as long as they are not charging, no rules are being broken, so whats the problem?

The problem is he becomes legally responsible for the support of the child.

Only if they choose to follow it up. If they dont want his money he doesn't have to pay it.

but the flip side of that is that if at some point what if the person does want to know his child...

or what if something comes up in the childs medical history........

every child has the right to know who their biological mother and father is... so when do you tell them? "

I'd say that I didn't know. A one night thing etc..

At least the ones asking can be avoided if you want.. sure plenty do use this site for sperm donation.

As to those saying it's a child protection issue... Really...??? On what grounds ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But where does it stop....Genetic engineering will be next...Height/Colour/Career/Phd.....

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Does that make me a bad person? Would my baby have been in a bad environment and at risk? We all have a wee story in life and sometime the grey areas are clearer than they first appear.

Please don't slam me here, it's just my opinion xx "

I totally understand where you are coming from and welcome to the forums xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are actually shocked this happens?

People are outraged? haha!

Such false outrage and bluster is the FOTM these days, if people want to do it then dont have sex with them simple.

If they trick you its another matter, those are the ones you need to watch out for but if they're upfront about it I dont see how you can go off on them.

Just make sure they cannot drag you through court to get child support."

How do you stop them dragging you through court then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She should be more worried about picking up a STD than getting pregnant.

Oh dear, bless you for thinking that I should be thinking on the same narrow lines as yourself

As I was replying to a narrow point raised in a quote, then it would only seem logical to have tailored your reply to that narrow point

Clearly whatever lines you think on is your own business"

You have a lot to learn about forums and threads. People will respond to posts how they wish to. Often going off on a tangent which can be fun.

What isn't fun is the implication that one should respond in a manner that the poster expects/wants/demands.

Now back to THE point in question: std and pregnancy has everything to do with bareback and not death.

You want to make it purely about death then ermmm you go ahead

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"But where does it stop....Genetic engineering will be next...Height/Colour/Career/Phd....."

We all do that when choosing a mate to have babies with anyway don't we? It's a survival of the fittest thing. You are attracted to people not only because of their physical attributes but also because of their status in life etc. It's natural. It even boils down to an unconscious choosing of people that have different genetic traits that will Gove your child a better chance of life.

Genetic engineering has always been around, just under the guise of natural selection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But where does it stop....Genetic engineering will be next...Height/Colour/Career/Phd.....

Genetic engineering has always been around, just under the guise of natural selection. "

Agreed, but may involve a lot of emails and meets finding the perfect match ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This maybe a wrong view at this but what if.....

We wanted another baby but sissy couldn't produce enough living sperm.

Were not millionaires or anywhere near that so ivf probably wouldn't be an option. So how would we have a baby.?Well do we go to the pub and pick someone up and steal there sperm? I doubt it.

Here on a swinging site we could display in our profile our issue, then said sperm giver would know.

Seems pretty straight forward to us.

As for the life of the little creature it would have a mum and a dad who loved it.

Bet there's quite a lot on here who grew up with two parents who they did not biologically belong to both.

And as for being ethical, o m g this is a swinging site. Right there, ethics go out the window as Adam and Eve would look at it.

But at the end of the day it's down to the couple and their choice.

However if they had a child and hid it under the cupboard for 30 years then yeah, dam right, kick up a fuss.

Mmmm was thinking if you did think the child might know as Good chance he would be coloured ....looking at your pics lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Then your doctor isn't very good, if you have a family history of something your more likely to get suffer from the same problems.

I will bbe sure to let him know that when I go next.

Funnily enough, what I had didn't run in the family, so I wonder what happens then? I guess they just diagnosed on the symptoms that were presented to them at the time.

I suppose they could do that with anyone who doesn't know their parents history too....which brings us full circle

True, but the more information they have the quicker and more accurate the diagnosis , if it wasn't relevant they wouldn't ask the family history question

I didn't say it wasn't relevant, I said I am sure they can diagnose without anyones history including your own.

Although I think it is helpful to know these things, it may also hinder any similar symptoms you may have to a family medical history as they could mis diagnose.

Anyway, the thread isn't really about this so I am off to answer the question now

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I am in two minds about this...as we didn't have problems having children I can't say how desperate we would have been to have one if we couldn't have any.

Now ok I probably wouldn't have joined a swinging site to get pregnant, but who knows what we would have done to have a child.

I think if it is thought out properly and you find the right person for you then I suppose it is a bit like a woman being a surrogate for your baby but the other way round. Someone is helping you out.

For me as long as it isn't involved in a sexual kink then I don't see a problem helping someone get pregnant as long as everyone is in agreement.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I am in two minds about this...as we didn't have problems having children I can't say how desperate we would have been to have one if we couldn't have any.

Now ok I probably wouldn't have joined a swinging site to get pregnant, but who knows what we would have done to have a child.

For me as long as it isn't involved in a sexual kink then I don't see a problem helping someone get pregnant as long as everyone is in agreement.

Ruggers amen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am in two minds about this...as we didn't have problems having children I can't say how desperate we would have been to have one if we couldn't have any.

Now ok I probably wouldn't have joined a swinging site to get pregnant, but who knows what we would have done to have a child.

For me as long as it isn't involved in a sexual kink then I don't see a problem helping someone get pregnant as long as everyone is in agreement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own. It's certainly not something she should be reported for. I've seen more offputting topics on here than a lass that wants to become pregnant.

Isn't that what we are usually told? If you don't like the gals preferences, block and move on. I don't moan about it if it isn't affecting me personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i for one have a bit more self respect.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

what if the father decided to go through court and mentioned where the parents met? it can be frowned upon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what if the father decided to go through court and mentioned where the parents met? it can be frowned upon"

Would not be counted.. Trust me my ex tried..

Cali

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"what if the father decided to go through court and mentioned where the parents met? it can be frowned upon

Would not be counted.. Trust me my ex tried..

Cali"

yet I had social services years ago try to remove my daughter because they found out I was on a different site and didn't approve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what if the father decided to go through court and mentioned where the parents met? it can be frowned upon

Would not be counted.. Trust me my ex tried..

Cali

yet I had social services years ago try to remove my daughter because they found out I was on a different site and didn't approve"

Social services tried to take your kid because you were on a date/sex site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm open to people conceiving / having children in lots of ways and Im not totally against this

BUT

I absolutely believe everyone has a right to know their birth parents. Just because two non birth parents can make great parents does not make it right to leave the child in the dark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what if the father decided to go through court and mentioned where the parents met? it can be frowned upon

Would not be counted.. Trust me my ex tried..

Cali

yet I had social services years ago try to remove my daughter because they found out I was on a different site and didn't approve"

They actually can't victimise against it. I know they can make you feel like your doing something wrong but as long as your not doing it in Front of your children or putting them at risk they csnt.

I know as got reported... And had to kinda enlighten social services.. but it was decided that there was no fault on my part but you do get some right jobs worths.. just ask for a change of social worker as they can not take your kids away for being a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if these women wanna have a kid, surrogacy and adoption are available. I've been wanting to have a kid for 3 years, doesn't mean I'm gonna meet someone and go bareback because of the fact I want a baby, I'd rather have a baby with someone I love than with a stranger

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Ok don't start mentioning specific profiles on here please.

To the OP, if in doubt report, as none of us know the specifics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are actually shocked this happens?

People are outraged? haha!

Such false outrage and bluster is the FOTM these days, if people want to do it then dont have sex with them simple.

If they trick you its another matter, those are the ones you need to watch out for but if they're upfront about it I dont see how you can go off on them.

Just make sure they cannot drag you through court to get child support.

How do you stop them dragging you through court then?"

Lets see how much hate my post gets for this.

1: Dont do it with someone in your local area

2: False name

3: Throw away phone, never your real number

4: Keep picture swaps to a minimum with software that can delete it

No I haven't done this but I know two guys who use fake names and a different phone to screw around. They dont trust women you see.

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

Can of worms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are actually shocked this happens?

People are outraged? haha!

Such false outrage and bluster is the FOTM these days, if people want to do it then dont have sex with them simple.

If they trick you its another matter, those are the ones you need to watch out for but if they're upfront about it I dont see how you can go off on them.

Just make sure they cannot drag you through court to get child support.

How do you stop them dragging you through court then?

Lets see how much hate my post gets for this.

1: Dont do it with someone in your local area

2: False name

3: Throw away phone, never your real number

4: Keep picture swaps to a minimum with software that can delete it

No I haven't done this but I know two guys who use fake names and a different phone to screw around. They dont trust women you see."

I dont blame them for not trusting women, they are doing the right thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would be somewhat difficult if saaid woman was doing it with dozens of little brain lead men, though.

its life

it happens

either get into government and pass legislation to stop it (not liekly)

or get over it."

DNA testing makes it pretty simple to prove who a father is. if I was a guy I wouldnt be stupid enough to get involved in impregnating someone as a favour .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if these women wanna have a kid, surrogacy and adoption are available. I've been wanting to have a kid for 3 years, doesn't mean I'm gonna meet someone and go bareback because of the fact I want a baby, I'd rather have a baby with someone I love than with a stranger"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This

Meant to be

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By *aisy100Woman
over a year ago

wakefield

DNA testing makes it pretty simple to prove who a father is. if I was a guy I wouldnt be stupid enough to get involved in impregnating someone as a favour ."

Yes I agree, im not sure how I feel about this one, my first reaction was "OMG no way is that right" but then as long as both the man and woman know why its bareback then why shouldnt it be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as the man and the woman have discussed the details and agreed between themselves I dont see the problem or how anyone could call it a child protection issue? People have d*unken 1 night stands across the country every night where the woman falls pregnant how is this any different/worse/sick?

I fell pregnant unexpectedly, was in the early stages of a relationship and the guy was a waste of space and left me and has absolutely nothing to do with his child. My daughter is very much loved and has lots of positive rile models in her life, im from a big family and were close, she isnt suffering from not having a dad. And no I dont know if he had any pre existing health conditions, like millions of single parents across the world that's not really a deal breaker for having a child through donation etc.

The urge to have a child, to carry a child in your tummy is very strong, im lucky to have one but I still get incredibly broody for another and mr right has not rocked up yet, ive told myself if im still single at 35 il look into meeting a guy willing to impregnate me. My biological clock is ticking, the longer you leave it the harder it can be the the risk increases. I dont give a toss what people think about that. If two consenting adults want to do that then that is their buisness. This is totally seperate to people 'breeding' for sexual gratification.

My best friend has just been told her husbands sperm count is incredibly low and there only chance of concieving through ivf, she is in bits, her yearning for a child and to carry her child is so great, its heartbreaking so I can totally see why some women resort to coming sites like this as its a free option. As long as the woman is upfront and it doesnt take place through deception then I dont see how the child is at any disadvantage to any other child as long aa that child is loved then that is all that matters imo.

As someone said earlier also there are men on here who also want to have children its not just a female issue.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I have been approached a dozen times with the same request...all from fakes and fantasists ..there are so many of them on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a woman wants a child then who are we to criticize their a children born of rape and still raised in a loving home so I say if both parties agree then what's the problem fair do you may not want to go there but why bitch about it its not your problem

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By *on1Man
over a year ago

spain

Wrong ! Hello stupid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wrong ! Hello stupid "

That's not nice (whoever you're calling stupid). People are entitled to different points of view.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Blimey. ..its things like this that keep Jeremy Kyle on our screens!

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as long as they are not charging, no rules are being broken, so whats the problem?

The problem is he becomes legally responsible for the support of the child.

Only if they choose to follow it up. If they dont want his money he doesn't have to pay it.

but the flip side of that is that if at some point what if the person does want to know his child...

or what if something comes up in the childs medical history........

every child has the right to know who their biological mother and father is... so when do you tell them? "

I find a Tuesday is best, so it doesn't ruin the weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I lost a child three years ago, yes I want one but I'd rather have one in a committed relationship than any other way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I lost a child three years ago, yes I want one but I'd rather have one in a committed relationship than any other way

You have a long way to go before you find your biological clock starts ticking extremely loudly.

I hope life affords you what you want before that time comes. Women in their late thirties plus do not have such a luxury. The pang for motherhood is not exclusive to a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I lost a child three years ago, yes I want one but I'd rather have one in a committed relationship than any other way

You have a long way to go before you find your biological clock starts ticking extremely loudly.

I hope life affords you what you want before that time comes. Women in their late thirties plus do not have such a luxury. The pang for motherhood is not exclusive to a relationship."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I lost a child three years ago, yes I want one but I'd rather have one in a committed relationship than any other way

You have a long way to go before you find your biological clock starts ticking extremely loudly.

I hope life affords you what you want before that time comes. Women in their late thirties plus do not have such a luxury. The pang for motherhood is not exclusive to a relationship."

I want to be able to have a child between 25-30 but whether I'll meet the right guy by then I don't know, but I've met a guy who I think is the one

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By *S_PennyTV/TS
over a year ago

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I lost a child three years ago, yes I want one but I'd rather have one in a committed relationship than any other way

You have a long way to go before you find your biological clock starts ticking extremely loudly.

I hope life affords you what you want before that time comes. Women in their late thirties plus do not have such a luxury. The pang for motherhood is not exclusive to a relationship.

I want to be able to have a child between 25-30 but whether I'll meet the right guy by then I don't know, but I've met a guy who I think is the one

Oh believe you me that it rarely if ever goes as planned. I hope you do meet the right guy and then maybe a few more just for fun afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I lost a child three years ago, yes I want one but I'd rather have one in a committed relationship than any other way

You have a long way to go before you find your biological clock starts ticking extremely loudly.

I hope life affords you what you want before that time comes. Women in their late thirties plus do not have such a luxury. The pang for motherhood is not exclusive to a relationship.

I want to be able to have a child between 25-30 but whether I'll meet the right guy by then I don't know, but I've met a guy who I think is the one

Oh believe you me that it rarely if ever goes as planned. I hope you do meet the right guy and then maybe a few more just for fun afterwards.

Yeah haha that's just my ideal age range to have children. I've met the right guy for me and we'll be joining. This site as a couple soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect a number of people asking for this are just fantasists tbh.

Those that are serious you shouldn't fuck.

If they want to do it they'll do it anyway. Why should they be banned? If the notion of pregnancy (unwanted or planned) doesn't factor into having sex for you then you're not thinking hard enough.

I'm not supporting these people btw I'm just saying you can't ban something because you don't like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well they could try all day long trying to get pregnant with me afraid they would win the lottery first as I had the snip a few years ago so afraid I am a jaffa. Although I wouldn't even consider not wearing a condom period.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I lost a child three years ago, yes I want one but I'd rather have one in a committed relationship than any other way

You have a long way to go before you find your biological clock starts ticking extremely loudly.

I hope life affords you what you want before that time comes. Women in their late thirties plus do not have such a luxury. The pang for motherhood is not exclusive to a relationship.

I want to be able to have a child between 25-30 but whether I'll meet the right guy by then I don't know, but I've met a guy who I think is the one

Did you met him on here??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This

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I lost a child three years ago, yes I want one but I'd rather have one in a committed relationship than any other way

You have a long way to go before you find your biological clock starts ticking extremely loudly.

I hope life affords you what you want before that time comes. Women in their late thirties plus do not have such a luxury. The pang for motherhood is not exclusive to a relationship.

I want to be able to have a child between 25-30 but whether I'll meet the right guy by then I don't know, but I've met a guy who I think is the one

Did you met him on here??"

no...why? if you're gonna ask me this at least do it through a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This

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I lost a child three years ago, yes I want one but I'd rather have one in a committed relationship than any other way

You have a long way to go before you find your biological clock starts ticking extremely loudly.

I hope life affords you what you want before that time comes. Women in their late thirties plus do not have such a luxury. The pang for motherhood is not exclusive to a relationship.

I want to be able to have a child between 25-30 but whether I'll meet the right guy by then I don't know, but I've met a guy who I think is the one

Did you met him on here??

no...why? if you're gonna ask me this at least do it through a message"

Why would he ask through a message when you Posted on a public forum,just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I lost a child three years ago, yes I want one but I'd rather have one in a committed relationship than any other way

You have a long way to go before you find your biological clock starts ticking extremely loudly.

I hope life affords you what you want before that time comes. Women in their late thirties plus do not have such a luxury. The pang for motherhood is not exclusive to a relationship.

I want to be able to have a child between 25-30 but whether I'll meet the right guy by then I don't know, but I've met a guy who I think is the one

Did you met him on here??

no...why? if you're gonna ask me this at least do it through a message

Why would he ask through a message when you Posted on a public forum,just saying"

Common sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I can say to that is give them my name hehe as I can't give them a baby but I'd have fun doing it haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would he ask through a message when you Posted on a public forum,just saying"

Was thinking the same lol of course it's always up to the person being asked if they answer or not.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as long as they are not charging, no rules are being broken, so whats the problem?

Whats the problem??? She could sue him for child support for a kid he doesnt want!!!! Thats the bloody problem!! Anyone who does that deserves banning!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some woman get off on not knowing who the dad is . The dad 9/10 is the one whos standing by them paying the bills.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as long as they are not charging, no rules are being broken, so whats the problem?

Whats the problem??? She could sue him for child support for a kid he doesnt want!!!! Thats the bloody problem!! Anyone who does that deserves banning! "

The greatest contraception, you know to prevent pregnancy, is abstaining. No-one is going to force any lickle man to plonk his lickle willy inside a pussy. However should the lickle man decide to plonk the lickle willy inside the pussy, he could actually slide a lickle condom on

Perhaps men who want to do a lickle bareback should be banned instead, to prevent any lickle sperm fertilising that naughty lady's eggs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So this woman has a kid for some random off here let's just say the random already has a young child from a relationship that had gone pear shape but he still has contact with this child 17/18 years down the line these two children meet up in a pub not knowing they are brother and sister fall in love and have kids it can't be right can it ?

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"as long as they are not charging, no rules are being broken, so whats the problem?

Whats the problem??? She could sue him for child support for a kid he doesnt want!!!! Thats the bloody problem!! Anyone who does that deserves banning!

Perhaps men who want to do a lickle bareback should be banned instead, to prevent any lickle sperm fertilising that naughty lady's eggs

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So this woman has a kid for some random off here let's just say the random already has a young child from a relationship that had gone pear shape but he still has contact with this child 17/18 years down the line these two children meet up in a pub not knowing they are brother and sister fall in love and have kids it can't be right can it ?

It's fantastic what a condom can prevent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting dilemma but I've had the snip so end of............ But I think the moral of the thread is if you can still make babies be very careful who you do it with. They might be secret baby makers and purposefully make holes in the rubbers they provide. ooooooooo now there's a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's fantastic what a condom can prevent

If you read the op you will see that its about women trying to get pregnant through fab now if I'm right you have less chance of getting pregnant if the guy wears a condom so if the woman wants to get pregnant the chances of her meeting a guy who only plays safe are very slim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as long as they are not charging, no rules are being broken, so whats the problem?

Whats the problem??? She could sue him for child support for a kid he doesnt want!!!! Thats the bloody problem!! Anyone who does that deserves banning!

Perhaps men who want to do a lickle bareback should be banned instead, to prevent any lickle sperm fertilising that naughty lady's eggs

Oh my. I've just really laughed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I lost a child three years ago, yes I want one but I'd rather have one in a committed relationship than any other way

You have a long way to go before you find your biological clock starts ticking extremely loudly.

I hope life affords you what you want before that time comes. Women in their late thirties plus do not have such a luxury. The pang for motherhood is not exclusive to a relationship.

I want to be able to have a child between 25-30 but whether I'll meet the right guy by then I don't know, but I've met a guy who I think is the one

Did you met him on here??

no...why? if you're gonna ask me this at least do it through a message

Why would he ask through a message when you Posted on a public forum,just saying

Common sense?

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Common sense dictates if you dont want people to ask or Comment then dont post in a public forum???!! Lol!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would he ask through a message when you Posted on a public forum,just saying

Was thinking the same lol of course it's always up to the person being asked if they answer or not.

Cali"

Lol yes and not be silly about getting a Question lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some woman get off on not knowing who the dad is . The dad 9/10 is the one whos standing by them paying the bills."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's fantastic what a condom can prevent

Have you not heard of irony?

The guy with a lickle cock (yes I'm at it again

) does NOT have to go with her.

Seriously though: any man or woman who does bareback should be prepared to cope with the consequences. It is absolutely ridiculous to suggest banning over it. We are all adults, aren't we?

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

what if the woman got pregnant and the man had an sti just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I lost a child three years ago, yes I want one but I'd rather have one in a committed relationship than any other way

You have a long way to go before you find your biological clock starts ticking extremely loudly.

I hope life affords you what you want before that time comes. Women in their late thirties plus do not have such a luxury. The pang for motherhood is not exclusive to a relationship.

I want to be able to have a child between 25-30 but whether I'll meet the right guy by then I don't know, but I've met a guy who I think is the one

Did you met him on here??

no...why? if you're gonna ask me this at least do it through a message

Why would he ask through a message when you Posted on a public forum,just saying

Common sense?

Common sense dictates if you dont want people to ask or Comment then dont post in a public forum???!! Lol!!!!"

well that actually not mean't to be questioned...but seeing as you asked, I met him on a dating website and no he isn't a swinger....yet

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I would have been wondering why the question was asked as it didn't seem relevant.

But, I am going to be nosey now but you don't have to answer obviously....but is this the man you are going on a first date with soon?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would have been wondering why the question was asked as it didn't seem relevant.

But, I am going to be nosey now but you don't have to answer obviously....but is this the man you are going on a first date with soon?"

It is yeah haha tomorrow :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what if the woman got pregnant and the man had an sti just saying"

Same as in a normal relationship. I certainly never got tested before trying for a baby or with a new partner... Got tested during pregnancy obviously but wasnt something I thought of as wasn't trying for s baby. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would have been wondering why the question was asked as it didn't seem relevant.

But, I am going to be nosey now but you don't have to answer obviously....but is this the man you are going on a first date with soon?

It is yeah haha tomorrow :D"

Good luck, your headline is a bit strange though, 'I hope ' not to be single soon,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would have been wondering why the question was asked as it didn't seem relevant.

But, I am going to be nosey now but you don't have to answer obviously....but is this the man you are going on a first date with soon?

It is yeah haha tomorrow :D

Good luck, your headline is a bit strange though, 'I hope ' not to be single soon,

well we both like each other so hoping it develops into a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never seen a post like this before, and you say you've had 3 like it..... you must just have the genes people want these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would have been wondering why the question was asked as it didn't seem relevant.

But, I am going to be nosey now but you don't have to answer obviously....but is this the man you are going on a first date with soon?

It is yeah haha tomorrow :D

Good luck, your headline is a bit strange though, 'I hope ' not to be single soon,

well we both like each other so hoping it develops into a relationship

So you have met on a vanilla dating site, he isn't a swinger, your on a first date and your going to be setting up a couples profile on here??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol I wouldnt mind helping seeding a woman here, mind you the kid would of been brought up on a swingers scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol I wouldnt mind helping seeding a woman here, mind you the kid would of been brought up on a swingers scene."

Wow......just wow....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol I wouldnt mind helping seeding a woman here, mind you the kid would of been brought up on a swingers scene.

Wow......just wow...."

Yes but on a no string thing basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would have been wondering why the question was asked as it didn't seem relevant.

But, I am going to be nosey now but you don't have to answer obviously....but is this the man you are going on a first date with soon?

It is yeah haha tomorrow :D

Good luck, your headline is a bit strange though, 'I hope ' not to be single soon,

well we both like each other so hoping it develops into a relationship

So you have met on a vanilla dating site, he isn't a swinger, your on a first date and your going to be setting up a couples profile on here??

yes, he wants to try the scene and wants to do it with me. whats the problem?

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By *ondering_yorkshiremanMan
over a year ago

Somewhere near NE Derbyshire/S Yorkshire/Nottinghamshire border

yes, he wants to try the scene and wants to do it with me. whats the problem?

Good luck to you both x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes, he wants to try the scene and wants to do it with me. whats the problem?

Good luck to you both x"

Thank you! I just don't why it was revelant to the thread to ask me them questions x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Needless to say they were all blocked but surely this is a sign of something who isn't all there?"

If they are open about it and someone agrees then what's the harm. doing it of the sly though is bad form but if as a guy you always use condoms you are unlikely to have it happen.

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