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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

One for you kinksters!

Out of curiosity what safe word do you adopt for your bdsm play?

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

I'm dying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

scissors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm dying"

ahhaah !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tesco!

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

teddybear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not found the need for 1, he seems to know from the look in my eye. He always seems to stop at the right time. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HAGGIS!

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By *avinaxxxWoman
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

Hippopotamus. Started as a joke but works lol xxx

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

I asked my first meet off here to select a safe word before we met. I don't think she quite grasped the concept as it was the first week of a very hot July and she chose "sunshine". We went with "rhinoceros".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stella!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use a safe signal as I'm not always able to speak

crystal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not found the need for 1, he seems to know from the look in my eye. He always seems to stop at the right time. xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tea time

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

We don't have one. Never needed it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck that hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tottenham!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know "fuck you" isn't a safe word if that helps

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"I know "fuck you" isn't a safe word if that helps "

Fuck me is even less so.......

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By *istress v in yorksCouple
over a year ago

south Yorkshire

In the hands of skilled dominants you shouldn't need one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know "fuck you" isn't a safe word if that helps "

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One for you kinksters!

Out of curiosity what safe word do you adopt for your bdsm play?"

Anything! Ceiling was my last one

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"In the hands of skilled dominants you shouldn't need one."

Yes, but you should still always have one, no matter how rarely, if ever, it is used, and also a safe gesture as stated by crystal wheels above, it is only sensible to do so as a failsafe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not found the need for 1, he seems to know from the look in my eye. He always seems to stop at the right time. xx"

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

I've never needed one, I am easily able to get across when I have definitely had enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To hear that people don't think, in the hands of a skilled Dominant, you don't need one, clearly shows they are not one of the aforementioned skilled Dominants. I would NEVER submit to a Dominant who didn't use safeword play.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"To hear that people don't think, in the hands of a skilled Dominant, you don't need one, clearly shows they are not one of the aforementioned skilled Dominants. I would NEVER submit to a Dominant who didn't use safeword play. "

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"To hear that people don't think, in the hands of a skilled Dominant, you don't need one, clearly shows they are not one of the aforementioned skilled Dominants. I would NEVER submit to a Dominant who didn't use safeword play. "
But you play that way Ruby...if I was a single femme and playing that way with meets I would.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

knew a woman whos safe word was "you pussy" but, she had to say it 3 times for it to mean stop.

sick puppy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously , that's mine haha

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Seriously , that's mine haha "

^^^ sick puppy! lolo

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"To hear that people don't think, in the hands of a skilled Dominant, you don't need one, clearly shows they are not one of the aforementioned skilled Dominants. I would NEVER submit to a Dominant who didn't use safeword play. But you play that way Ruby...if I was a single femme and playing that way with meets I would."

It is only sensible tho, if it is never used, whats the harm in having it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seriously , that's mine haha

^^^ sick puppy! lolo"

Haha lol

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"To hear that people don't think, in the hands of a skilled Dominant, you don't need one, clearly shows they are not one of the aforementioned skilled Dominants. I would NEVER submit to a Dominant who didn't use safeword play. But you play that way Ruby...if I was a single femme and playing that way with meets I would.

It is only sensible tho, if it is never used, whats the harm in having it?"
I don't feel the need at this moment in time.Thats the good thing about different lifestyle choices, we can take from them what we want.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

never needed one either, and I have played rougher than you can imagine

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"If you do that again I'm going to rip your fucking head off"

Seriously, it depends on the person I'm playing with. It needs to be something they will remember under stress. Most have their own.

With any sub or bottom I don't know well, however, any version of stop or no would have me either pause or stop to check in with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To hear that people don't think, in the hands of a skilled Dominant, you don't need one, clearly shows they are not one of the aforementioned skilled Dominants. I would NEVER submit to a Dominant who didn't use safeword play. But you play that way Ruby...if I was a single femme and playing that way with meets I would.

It is only sensible tho, if it is never used, whats the harm in having it?I don't feel the need at this moment in time.Thats the good thing about different lifestyle choices, we can take from them what we want. "

We are in very different situations Femme. I was safeword trained by my first Dominant and I'm comfortable in that. I wouldn't use a safeword on a first meet, but its how I am confident in playing.

I think safewords have an important position in D/s, in the early stages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aaargggg works well or umbrella

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"To hear that people don't think, in the hands of a skilled Dominant, you don't need one, clearly shows they are not one of the aforementioned skilled Dominants. I would NEVER submit to a Dominant who didn't use safeword play. But you play that way Ruby...if I was a single femme and playing that way with meets I would.

It is only sensible tho, if it is never used, whats the harm in having it?I don't feel the need at this moment in time.Thats the good thing about different lifestyle choices, we can take from them what we want. "

Absolutely, very very rarely used in my case as I do not ever go 'full on' with a sub till trust has been developed, however when testing limits and for generally play I like a sub to have the security of knowing it is there and will always be respected

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"In the hands of skilled dominants you shouldn't need one."

Sorry but that is plain wrong. Maybe you don't need one with an established partner but it's a simple safety factor for casual play.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

Safe words are useless when you're gagged. I prefer hand/finger gestures, even with hands tied up your fingers can always 'talk'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't stop

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"In the hands of skilled dominants you shouldn't need one.

Sorry but that is plain wrong. Maybe you don't need one with an established partner but it's a simple safety factor for casual play.

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Its not wrong for THAT person.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"In the hands of skilled dominants you shouldn't need one.

Sorry but that is plain wrong. Maybe you don't need one with an established partner but it's a simple safety factor for casual play.

Its not wrong for THAT person."

It is if you get a dim-dom that manages to persuade a newbie sub that they don't need one.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"In the hands of skilled dominants you shouldn't need one.

Sorry but that is plain wrong. Maybe you don't need one with an established partner but it's a simple safety factor for casual play.

Its not wrong for THAT person.

It is if you get a dim-dom that manages to persuade a newbie sub that they don't need one."
Why insult people that you have no clue about?Whilst I agree that an inexperienced sub and dom can be dangerous I really don't see the need to tar someone who is inexperienced , with people that think the word master and sir are the be all and end all of this complex relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the hands of skilled dominants you shouldn't need one."

Is disagree and say in the hands of a skilled dominant they would stop before you used it as they would know you but only after time.

You should have one...

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"In the hands of skilled dominants you shouldn't need one.

Sorry but that is plain wrong. Maybe you don't need one with an established partner but it's a simple safety factor for casual play.

"

It's casual play!

I think I'm missing something of peoples casual play here!!! sign. me. up! lol

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We haven't safe worded more than twice since we started and that was right at the beginning.

Now I know D inside out and she never gets to that point.

But it is still there. Either of us can safe word any time we want to. It's just simple 'belt and braces' safety.

There can be no mistakes made if you are clear on safe words/signals/gestures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the hands of skilled dominants you shouldn't need one.

Is disagree and say in the hands of a skilled dominant they would stop before you used it as they would know you but only after time.

You should have one... "

I agree all Ds or bdsm play should have a safe word unless all parties agree not to use one in which case all bets are off. This is not something I would do.

As for saying that if a safe word has been spoken that play must have gone to far, I disagree. Some people want to be pushed and when you are walking in to new areas etc how can you possibly know when somethingnhas gone to far. You can read another persons mind?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not found the need for 1, he seems to know from the look in my eye. He always seems to stop at the right time. xx"

we have said this - never needed it but we know each other well enough to know

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Oh and we use the traffic light system for simplicity and to avoid confusion in the heat of play. Easy to forget a safe word when you have fireworks going off in you head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can someone please define casual play?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh and we use the traffic light system for simplicity and to avoid confusion in the heat of play. Easy to forget a safe word when you have fireworks going off in you head."

I find the traffic light system to be a very helpful tool when pushing boundries.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Can someone please define casual play?"

lol .. the Venetians used to start at other sides of the room and bow I believe.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Can someone please define casual play?"
While we are at it, can we define what is adult, and taking responsibility for ones own actions/decisions as well please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone please define casual play?While we are at it, can we define what is adult, and taking responsibility for ones own actions/decisions as well please? "

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I simply see it as why take the risk a mistake will be made? Unless you are prepared to take anything as a submissive that is.

I understand knowing your submissive well enough, but a Dominant is still human and therefore can make a mistake and I think nieve to think otherwise.

You 'should' know your submissive well enough to never need a safe word.

Trouble is not everyone actually does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't safeword play in casual play! In casual play, no means no, stop means stop!

I've never used a safeword in a D/s relationship, but I've known its been there if I need it.

I can totally understand that some couples do not use safeword play as they have a strong bond and can read each other, probably better than they can read themselves!

I think its important that everyone respects each others' play and the choices they make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I simply see it as why take the risk a mistake will be made? Unless you are prepared to take anything as a submissive that is.

I understand knowing your submissive well enough, but a Dominant is still human and therefore can make a mistake and I think nieve to think otherwise.

You 'should' know your submissive well enough to never need a safe word.

Trouble is not everyone actually does."

this is very very true. For us a safe word is just safety.The fact is if its not in place and I got it wrong then she could get hurt and that would be bloody awful!

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"

I think its important that everyone respects each others' play and the choices they make. "
Exactly, I would never castigate someone for using a safeword, but I really dislike people telling me I should have one, I am a grown up, I make my own decisions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I think its important that everyone respects each others' play and the choices they make. Exactly, I would never castigate someone for using a safeword, but I really dislike people telling me I should have one, I am a grown up, I make my own decisions. "

I totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bubbles - but try saying it with a ball gag in - i got my arse battered for 2 1/2 hrs before she sussed i was trying to say bubbles not wonderful…… ffs!!

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Armageddon!!!

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=3_Jt_g10Jug&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D3_Jt_g10Jug

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By *aughty-PeepsCouple
over a year ago

teesside

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By *aughty-PeepsCouple
over a year ago

teesside

broccoli

although if she ever says it i've got some veg in her bag of toys just waiting there so i can give her it if i wanna keep on going lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once met a professional dom who invited me to assist her with a client[very flattered]..had never heard of safe words! but her's was RED !

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By *ndy_onlyMan
over a year ago

dunstable

yep red amber works for us when playing also a signal if we are playing in a noisy area.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We don't do BDSM but our codeword for "lets get away from these people" is for either of us to say "I really fancy a drink, let's go to the bar." Useful in clubs!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"We don't do BDSM but our codeword for "lets get away from these people" is for either of us to say "I really fancy a drink, let's go to the bar." Useful in clubs!"

to which they follow you and end up costing you a round

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By *uud 4-funMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"Anne Widdicombe!

Anne Widdicombe!

Anne Widdicombe!"

If that doesn't kill the mood then...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

halftime

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To hear that people don't think, in the hands of a skilled Dominant, you don't need one, clearly shows they are not one of the aforementioned skilled Dominants. I would NEVER submit to a Dominant who didn't use safeword play. But you play that way Ruby...if I was a single femme and playing that way with meets I would.

It is only sensible tho, if it is never used, whats the harm in having it?I don't feel the need at this moment in time.Thats the good thing about different lifestyle choices, we can take from them what we want.

We are in very different situations Femme. I was safeword trained by my first Dominant and I'm comfortable in that. I wouldn't use a safeword on a first meet, but its how I am confident in playing.

I think safewords have an important position in D/s, in the early stages. "

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Each to their own and it has to be right for those playing.

Personally I feel happier with one, I hate using it on the rare occasions I have to but actually it allows me to allow myself to be pushed further knowing Master will stop if I can't take any more.

Agree on the hand gesture/visual version too.

He reads me very well and it's rarely been uttered but hope that the security of having one means he's prepared to push further too.

There was a court case at the beginning of the year with a man accused of assault. They had arranged bdsm play and agreed a safe word yet she admitted to not using it so he continued. She was then hurt. It only works if it's respected equally by both involved IMHO

Ruby x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Red

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To hear that people don't think, in the hands of a skilled Dominant, you don't need one, clearly shows they are not one of the aforementioned skilled Dominants. I would NEVER submit to a Dominant who didn't use safeword play. "

x 100!!!

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By *denlouWoman
over a year ago

bideford

MORE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours is 'rubber baby buggy bumpers'.

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

"mmmmfffmmmfff mmmmmf"

and when i take the gag off "red "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the hands of skilled dominants you shouldn't need one."

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By *llEyesOnUsCouple
over a year ago

London

more

Cos that's what we're like

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