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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it that some single guys don't read profiles? If a profile states that we are currently not looking for you then why do you contact anyway? Surely you must understand that you are not going to get a reply. And all you will achive is pissing off the people who you contact...

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford

Most go straight to the pics and dont read anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that some single guys don't read profiles? If a profile states that we are currently not looking for you then why do you contact anyway? Surely you must understand that you are not going to get a reply. And all you will achive is pissing off the people who you contact..."

i dont think the Chancers give a Badgers nadger about pissing people off to be honest

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I'd invite you to look at some of my mail...

its radical, apparently Couples and Single fems seem to have exactly the same issue....

its not a solely a single man, or a couple, or a single fem issue.... its a "people being an arse" issue...

and last time I check... "being an arse" wasn't the sole domain of one group.

so this thread is going to look like a "bash single men" one.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that but men who don't get the fact I'm not after sex right now, I have to be very nasty towards them for them to get the hint, always trying to manipulate me into having sex with them which is not gonna happen, block and delete

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why is it that some single guys don't read profiles? If a profile states that we are currently not looking for you then why do you contact anyway? Surely you must understand that you are not going to get a reply. And all you will achive is pissing off the people who you contact...

i dont think the Chancers give a Badgers nadger about pissing people off to be honest "

I think you are right..lol We ended up blocking all single guys as it really got to much and i see it as bad manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most go straight to the pics and dont read anything else."

all my pics are private so they can't see anything lol

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By *neplusserMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I get that but men who don't get the fact I'm not after sex right now, I have to be very nasty towards them for them to get the hint, always trying to manipulate me into having sex with them which is not gonna happen, block and delete "

I dont understand how they can manipulate you into having sex?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd invite you to look at some of my mail...

its radical, apparently Couples and Single fems seem to have exactly the same issue....

its not a solely a single man, or a couple, or a single fem issue.... its a "people being an arse" issue...

and last time I check... "being an arse" wasn't the sole domain of one group.

so this thread is going to look like a "bash single men" one....."

Point taken.. I will state for the record that my intention is not to bash genuine single guys at all.. It more to encourge them to read before hitting the message/wink/friend req buttons! Im sure that this can happen across men, women or couples. For us though is has generally been a single guy issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get that but men who don't get the fact I'm not after sex right now, I have to be very nasty towards them for them to get the hint, always trying to manipulate me into having sex with them which is not gonna happen, block and delete

I dont understand how they can manipulate you into having sex? "

if i say i don't want sex they keep on pestering me into doing it and saying they'll be the best and just being plain manipulative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You all forget that some single men think this is instant shag sight and all women will worship at their feet as they are gagging for it all the time.

The amount of bad manner on this site is not nice at all. At least some of us single take the time to read profiles and send a nice message. It is so sad most of them get lost in the shit storm of the other messages.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

and for me It is a couple and single fem issue... but you dont see most people berating those groups of people in general...

the site gives you various tools...

the "block" button is a powerful thing!

so is the "delete" button....

I am beginning to think that where you may think the message gets across to those who you think are the problem, You are also turning off the very single guys who do read and understand because to be honest, I don't think they need that grief.....

taking a sledgehammer to a nut......

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By *indingDeemoMan
over a year ago

Manchester

The only reason why this is an issue by single men is cause we out number in ratio terms. Not to say that we are lazy mindless foolish and don't like taking time to read only some are like that.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

well... except for the white knights who i am sure will be around to fawn..... it wont be long!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and for me It is a couple and single fem issue... but you dont see most people berating those groups of people in general...

the site gives you various tools...

the "block" button is a powerful thing!

so is the "delete" button....

I am beginning to think that where you may think the message gets across to those who you think are the problem, You are also turning off the very single guys who do read and understand because to be honest, I don't think they need that grief.....

taking a sledgehammer to a nut......

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only this site had filters to stop people mailing.

If people aren't meeting at the moment, untick everything on your 'looking for' list, so you don't show up on the searches.

But then some people won't do that because they feel unloved if they don't get any mail....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filters are a wondeful thing to use if you're not looking for a certain section of the site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"and for me It is a couple and single fem issue... but you dont see most people berating those groups of people in general...

the site gives you various tools...

the "block" button is a powerful thing!

so is the "delete" button....

I am beginning to think that where you may think the message gets across to those who you think are the problem, You are also turning off the very single guys who do read and understand because to be honest, I don't think they need that grief.....

taking a sledgehammer to a nut......

Im sorry if you feel offended but i have the right in a public forum to put my view. Surely if you have requested that certain people don't contact you then those people should respect that, no? Wy should i have to go through deleting and blocking people when i have already asked them not to contact me in the first place?

Surely on of the golden rules is mutual reaspect?

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If only this site had filters to stop people mailing.

If people aren't meeting at the moment, untick everything on your 'looking for' list, so you don't show up on the searches.

But then some people won't do that because they feel unloved if they don't get any mail.... "

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

there are guys on here who are pushy and impatient and only think of themselves - that is true - but also there are many who are decent and genuine people who treat others with respect aswell

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Filters are a wondeful thing to use if you're not looking for a certain section of the site "

You are quite right but Im talking about respect. Filters should not be needed...

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By *neplusserMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"and for me It is a couple and single fem issue... but you dont see most people berating those groups of people in general...

the site gives you various tools...

the "block" button is a powerful thing!

so is the "delete" button....

I am beginning to think that where you may think the message gets across to those who you think are the problem, You are also turning off the very single guys who do read and understand because to be honest, I don't think they need that grief.....

taking a sledgehammer to a nut......

"

I agree, It's not a problem that solely emanates from single men. I often get messages from couples all the time asking for bareback bi meets watersports etc even though my profile clearly states my preferences. Just focus your attention on the people who take time to respect what you're looking for and avoid single male bashing on forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely hiding your profile would be the best option ?

If you dangle a carrot in front of a dumb animal,you know the outcome

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"there are guys on here who are pushy and impatient and only think of themselves - that is true - but also there are many who are decent and genuine people who treat others with respect aswell"

i agree there are many guys on here who are genuine. But there are others who are not and if nothing is ever said then nothing ever changes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Filters are a wondeful thing to use if you're not looking for a certain section of the site

You are quite right but Im talking about respect. Filters should not be needed..."

To be fair, it says not looking for men... then men is still in your looking for section. It's contradictory. Must be a site blip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree with the mutual respect, but unfortunately most of the single guys causing the issues don't have that respect for you. Their just thinking about themselves.

It can just as equally frustrating on here for a genuine single guy. It's no fun being constantly ignored. I completely appreciate your point of view, as I have enough female friends here to know the rubbish they have to deal with, but it runs both ways.

Granted, use the filters as you see fit, I wouldn't blame you for that, but please don't tarnish all of us with the same brush.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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Im sorry if you feel offended but i have the right in a public forum to put my view. Surely if you have requested that certain people don't contact you then those people should respect that, no? Wy should i have to go through deleting and blocking people when i have already asked them not to contact me in the first place?

Surely on of the golden rules is mutual reaspect?

"

absolutely... but like others have said.... f..i..l..t..e..r..s

the site provides them....

use them....

dont want people to see you show up on filters.... remove them from your "what you are looking for" list

dont want them to know you looked... hide yourself and perv in stealth mode

it may not 100% work... but there are things that can make your life easier...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The bloody buggers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Go and open a new couples profile and state that you are not looking for single guys that this time.. stand back and watch what happens.. And no i am not suggesting that false profile are right either, im just trying to make a point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there are guys on here who are pushy and impatient and only think of themselves - that is true - but also there are many who are decent and genuine people who treat others with respect aswell

i agree there are many guys on here who are genuine. But there are others who are not and if nothing is ever said then nothing ever changes..."

If they can't read profiles I doubt they read the forums....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As is often the case with this type of thread - the very audience your post is relevant to will never see it!

Less than 1% use the forums and of that 1% I suspect most of the single guys (note most!) are not the type that you're commenting about.

Hence the best advice is to use filters and go hunting yourself when you desire single guys.

As Fabio states - it's not a gender issue - it's just an arse/twat/idiot (whatever you want to call it) issue. But as single males are in the majority then proportionally there will be more gripes about them. It happens. It always will. And the world will keep turning.

Filters and the block button are your friends!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Im sorry if you feel offended but i have the right in a public forum to put my view. Surely if you have requested that certain people don't contact you then those people should respect that, no? Wy should i have to go through deleting and blocking people when i have already asked them not to contact me in the first place?

Surely on of the golden rules is mutual reaspect?

absolutely... but like others have said.... f..i..l..t..e..r..s

the site provides them....

use them....

dont want people to see you show up on filters.... remove them from your "what you are looking for" list

dont want them to know you looked... hide yourself and perv in stealth mode

it may not 100% work... but there are things that can make your life easier...

"

That has been done, filters are all in place. That is not my point. Yes it maybe be an ideal thought process but if we as liberated adults showed each other respect then this would improve everyones experience. As i have said im am sure this goes across gender or single status but for us it has been mainly single guys.. hence why i started this.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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If they can't read profiles I doubt they read the forums...."

which is the other point.... the bashing is probably going on at the wrong people... which is why I said it is probably counter-productive as they are preaching to the wrong crowd... and probably turning off the very people they would like to actually meet...

taking this a stage further... so many people wait on mail rather than actually just going out and finding the people themselves...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As is often the case with this type of thread - the very audience your post is relevant to will never see it!

Less than 1% use the forums and of that 1% I suspect most of the single guys (note most!) are not the type that you're commenting about.

Hence the best advice is to use filters and go hunting yourself when you desire single guys.

As Fabio states - it's not a gender issue - it's just an arse/twat/idiot (whatever you want to call it) issue. But as single males are in the majority then proportionally there will be more gripes about them. It happens. It always will. And the world will keep turning.

Filters and the block button are your friends! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go and open a new couples profile and state that you are not looking for single guys that this time.. stand back and watch what happens.. And no i am not suggesting that false profile are right either, im just trying to make a point"

If you have filters on to stop men mailing you and you're still getting messages from men you have never spoken to previously then id contact admin and ask why

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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If they can't read profiles I doubt they read the forums....

which is the other point.... the bashing is probably going on at the wrong people... which is why I said it is probably counter-productive as they are preaching to the wrong crowd... and probably turning off the very people they would like to actually meet...

taking this a stage further... so many people wait on mail rather than actually just going out and finding the people themselves... "

Agreed, Im sure after reading the comments above that my views will not reach the people to whom it concerns and further to that i appolgise to any single men who have felt offended by my comments.

Also i do agree that you have to go out and try and meet people and not wait for them to come to you as you could have a long old wait!!

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By *ockster69Man
over a year ago

Leven

Ahh!!

Here we go another blind slate the single blokes thread! I sometimes state on my profile heading NOT looking for couples or indeed men, yet I still get asked by both to meet. Its nowt to do with gender or hormones, people are sometimes temporarily blinded by being horny and or desperate. That doesn't make them ignorant or rude in my book, or anymore likely to be blocked, its a fun site like it or leave it!

Jock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The time to moan is when no one looks at you or contacts you, Full balls = empty head,

There are more important things to get pissed of about

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London


"its not a solely a single man, or a couple, or a single fem issue.... its a "people being an arse" issue...

and last time I check... "being an arse" wasn't the sole domain of one group.

so this thread is going to look like a "bash single men" one....."

Not all single man are the same on this site! how many times will i have to say it??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MAibe you need to block single guys to view lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some people here are really missing my point... its about respect and not blocking people!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah yes, you are right there lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people here are really missing my point... its about respect and not blocking people!!"

I get your point.

Sadly there will always be chancers and idiots and those too lazy to read the profile I chose to make as clear as possible and put effort into.

Therefore anyone who obviously couldn't be arsed to read it gets blocked. Saves me replying, explaining anything or even bothering to look at their profile.

And still leaves me able to enjoy life on site!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Some people here are really missing my point... its about respect and not blocking people!!"

...see if it is a respect issue, was there then any need to single out one group of people....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn't going to post on this thread but I saw this = Badgers nadger and had a good laugh

Oh and filters are your friend

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London


"Some people here are really missing my point... its about respect and not blocking people!!

...see if it is a respect issue, was there then any need to single out one group of people.... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get that but men who don't get the fact I'm not after sex right now, I have to be very nasty towards them for them to get the hint, always trying to manipulate me into having sex with them which is not gonna happen, block and delete "
.and you have just got that spot on. BLOCK.why bother getting nasty and replying?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people here are really missing my point... its about respect and not blocking people!!

...see if it is a respect issue, was there then any need to single out one group of people.... "

As i have said that for us the problem has been with single guys.. thats why i brought it up.. everyones experience is different and ours is as stated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people here are really missing my point... its about respect and not blocking people!!"

Strangely enough those of us here commenting on this understand the respect and have it to return. I can appreciate your venting, and i understand why. Hopefully, they may update the kinds of filters that exist here already and that will ease the problem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people here are really missing my point... its about respect and not blocking people!!

Strangely enough those of us here commenting on this understand the respect and have it to return. I can appreciate your venting, and i understand why. Hopefully, they may update the kinds of filters that exist here already and that will ease the problem. "

I accept your point that the guys commenting on this may well not be the type that don't message etc when they have been asked not to and i offer them my respect in return. I hope that some might read this and understand that people have the right to be respected and won't have to block people or use filters and can just be....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not just single guys. I think its men in general who just seem to speed read and select tiny snippets ...or generally read through the eye of their little general.

We get a lot of couples contacting us without reading our profile or prefs, I say couples when its obviously the male doing the communicating - again obvious by the style and bearing of messages.

Very much a "man" thing rather than a "single" thing but thats just the way the male mind works!

Pip

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By *ightDiversionMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"Some people here are really missing my point... its about respect and not blocking people!!"

Problem is that with more than 300 blokes in the south east on this site right now looking for women (I did a search )there will always be the ones who have no respect - blanket blocking will work in your case as your not looking for guys - I imagine its much harder for those that may want to be contacted by guys but get so overwhelmed by the crass and disrespectful they have to block all single guys ! I wonder if the use of the supporters and verified filters helps in this case - but its a shame these additional filters can't be gender specific !

I do find it odd that when I am browsing (OK perving) I will come across a couples profile who don't want to meet single guys but they sometimes then view my profile !! and sometimes even message !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and there must be around 10 women in south east lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people here are really missing my point... its about respect and not blocking people!!

Problem is that with more than 300 blokes in the south east on this site right now looking for women (I did a search )there will always be the ones who have no respect - blanket blocking will work in your case as your not looking for guys - I imagine its much harder for those that may want to be contacted by guys but get so overwhelmed by the crass and disrespectful they have to block all single guys ! I wonder if the use of the supporters and verified filters helps in this case - but its a shame these additional filters can't be gender specific !

I do find it odd that when I am browsing (OK perving) I will come across a couples profile who don't want to meet single guys but they sometimes then view my profile !! and sometimes even message ! "

I don't see any problem with anyone reading any profile. The problem comes when the profile is read and ignored or not even read at all, no?

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By *bthreeCouple
over a year ago

Yeovil


"Why is it that some single guys don't read profiles? If a profile states that we are currently not looking for you then why do you contact anyway? Surely you must understand that you are not going to get a reply. And all you will achive is pissing off the people who you contact..."

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By *AMES19620Man
over a year ago

newport

to me its just another pop at single men

i have messaged people who has had no filters set in place and only met men on there verris but still got a roasting

im never rude when messaging so dont expect rudeness back

but a few years ago i messaged a couple who went to the same club as me and asked i would like to get to know you more the next time i meet them ..... wow got a stinking message back saying all sorts but nothing nice lol hay ho its there opinion lol i can live with that move on lol

the following week when i was down the club they walked in i did not approach just was yapping to a group of friends they came over all smiles and sweetness and i said nothing just kept to myself which annoyed them to the point they told me i was rude even though i was talking to someone else

they took my bottle of wine without asking so i stood up and took it back and sat down then it all kicked off lol the owners throw them out as he was in the company of us

the moral is some couples go round like gods gift

and to be honest most trouble in clubs are caused my the fem part of the couple as to much drink gets involved

its my opinion and experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with most of the posts on this thread. For most of the conversations that I have with fellow fabsters it is apparent that lots really don't read the full profile, which is a real shame. I do read each and every profile in full prior to either sending a message or indeed if I receive a message before sending a reply back. I can understand why it really annoys people but sadly some don't care and a lot don't have the respect that is deserved of each individual member. There is no doubt that it causes lots of anomosity towards single guys, but we are all not like that. I for one am very respectful at all times and ensure that even if it is a no, I thank them for their reply make a note on their profile via personal notes and ensure that I don't contact them again. So some of us do understand and fully accept others requirements. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and for me It is a couple and single fem issue... but you dont see most people berating those groups of people in general...

the site gives you various tools...

the "block" button is a powerful thing!

so is the "delete" button....

I am beginning to think that where you may think the message gets across to those who you think are the problem, You are also turning off the very single guys who do read and understand because to be honest, I don't think they need that grief.....

taking a sledgehammer to a nut......

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"to me its just another pop at single men

i have messaged people who has had no filters set in place and only met men on there verris but still got a roasting

im never rude when messaging so dont expect rudeness back

but a few years ago i messaged a couple who went to the same club as me and asked i would like to get to know you more the next time i meet them ..... wow got a stinking message back saying all sorts but nothing nice lol hay ho its there opinion lol i can live with that move on lol

the following week when i was down the club they walked in i did not approach just was yapping to a group of friends they came over all smiles and sweetness and i said nothing just kept to myself which annoyed them to the point they told me i was rude even though i was talking to someone else

they took my bottle of wine without asking so i stood up and took it back and sat down then it all kicked off lol the owners throw them out as he was in the company of us

the moral is some couples go round like gods gift

and to be honest most trouble in clubs are caused my the fem part of the couple as to much drink gets involved

its my opinion and experiences "

you are quite right anyone can act like an arse, be they male female, single or couple. But that was not the point. the point is that if you have been asked not to contact then that should be respected...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like an uncomplicated easy life with this site,I use filters because I completely understand that lots of people don't read profiles or look at preferences so will just message on the off chance,it saves me getting het up and stressy,It saves me having to whinge on my profile about rude people and it saves me moaning on the forums about lack of respect

I have a great time on this site,I find that the overwhelming majority of people that contact me are polite and respectful and very rarely if ever rude,I can't for the life of me understand why everyone does'nt do the same,I guess they just like moaning

Ill continue to moan as I use the site........with pleasure and not through gritted teeth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get probably one message from a single guy every week or so which is no big deal. The Majority of Single Men on here are great it's only a tiny tiny amount who chance their arm and they are the ones that don't stick around long.

We have one guy who probably messages us every Month to see if we are meeting single guys and will not be put off when we say no. He's harmless and respectful so we don't block him. We kinda like having him around in a weird way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree, when emailing single women or couples, the majority is very rude and very abusive in the reply even thought I wrote a nice thing, they sure give this site a bad rap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get probably one message from a single guy every week or so which is no big deal. The Majority of Single Men on here are great it's only a tiny tiny amount who chance their arm and they are the ones that don't stick around long.

We have one guy who probably messages us every Month to see if we are meeting single guys and will not be put off when we say no. He's harmless and respectful so we don't block him. We kinda like having him around in a weird way. "

ooooohhhh can I be the second to mail you regularly. xx

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"Why is it that some single guys don't read profiles? If a profile states that we are currently not looking for you then why do you contact anyway? Surely you must understand that you are not going to get a reply. And all you will achive is pissing off the people who you contact...

i dont think the Chancers give a Badgers nadger about pissing people off to be honest

I think you are right..lol We ended up blocking all single guys as it really got to much and i see it as bad manners"

I've only read the first 5 or so posts, so must ask:

1) Have you NEVER been contacted by a female/couple who have committed the same foul? No?

2) Do you not think females or couples can fall foul or the same? No?

3) So I take it you've not blocked single females and couples then?

Interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like an uncomplicated easy life with this site,I use filters because I completely understand that lots of people don't read profiles or look at preferences so will just message on the off chance,it saves me getting het up and stressy,It saves me having to whinge on my profile about rude people and it saves me moaning on the forums about lack of respect

I have a great time on this site,I find that the overwhelming majority of people that contact me are polite and respectful and very rarely if ever rude,I can't for the life of me understand why everyone does'nt do the same,I guess they just like moaning

Ill continue to moan as I use the site........with pleasure and not through gritted teeth "

nicely put if I may say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get probably one message from a single guy every week or so which is no big deal. The Majority of Single Men on here are great it's only a tiny tiny amount who chance their arm and they are the ones that don't stick around long.

We have one guy who probably messages us every Month to see if we are meeting single guys and will not be put off when we say no. He's harmless and respectful so we don't block him. We kinda like having him around in a weird way.

ooooohhhh can I be the second to mail you regularly. xx "

If you like getting the same answer as him.

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By *AMES19620Man
over a year ago

newport


"to me its just another pop at single men

i have messaged people who has had no filters set in place and only met men on there verris but still got a roasting

im never rude when messaging so dont expect rudeness back

but a few years ago i messaged a couple who went to the same club as me and asked i would like to get to know you more the next time i meet them ..... wow got a stinking message back saying all sorts but nothing nice lol hay ho its there opinion lol i can live with that move on lol

the following week when i was down the club they walked in i did not approach just was yapping to a group of friends they came over all smiles and sweetness and i said nothing just kept to myself which annoyed them to the point they told me i was rude even though i was talking to someone else

they took my bottle of wine without asking so i stood up and took it back and sat down then it all kicked off lol the owners throw them out as he was in the company of us

the moral is some couples go round like gods gift

and to be honest most trouble in clubs are caused my the fem part of the couple as to much drink gets involved

its my opinion and experiences

you are quite right anyone can act like an arse, be they male female, single or couple. But that was not the point. the point is that if you have been asked not to contact then that should be respected..."

i do agree but then couples single men and fems do change their profiles at a drop of a hat to suit any situation

example a straight man will turn bi to get the chance of play

i have seen couples change from st8 to bi to st8 within 3 hours

i fully aware its a freedom of choice but not have the right to be rude

i have talked to couples that reg love being rude online but when you meet them in person are the sweetest people you could ever meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that some single guys don't read profiles? If a profile states that we are currently not looking for you then why do you contact anyway? Surely you must understand that you are not going to get a reply. And all you will achive is pissing off the people who you contact..."

It is not only single guy's that don't read profiles, it apply s across the board, couples are just as bad. please don't blame single guy's for everything, not just them yet they get slated enough on here. I say only black on mine and will only meet couples wit my partner, that doesn't stop every other ethnicity and colour thinking there are the exception- same as with couples, mind you couples in general are special aren't they!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol I would say single females are more special as they are hard to come by here lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get probably one message from a single guy every week or so which is no big deal. The Majority of Single Men on here are great it's only a tiny tiny amount who chance their arm and they are the ones that don't stick around long.

We have one guy who probably messages us every Month to see if we are meeting single guys and will not be put off when we say no. He's harmless and respectful so we don't block him. We kinda like having him around in a weird way.

ooooohhhh can I be the second to mail you regularly. xx

If you like getting the same answer as him. "

Aah but one day your fingers may accidently press the YES letters instead of the NO but on the subject of miniscule chances, I probably have more chance of winning the lottery, blindfolded with a blunt pen. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yet the OP has a verification from a single man? perhaps that should be hidden to avoid confusion?

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"Most go straight to the pics and dont read anything else."

Judging by some of the spelling in messages some of them probably can't read.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"yet the OP has a verification from a single man? perhaps that should be hidden to avoid confusion?"

you are quite right we do and that was a guy we meet at a party and i think you will find that is stated in the verification.. And since when does having a verification give anyone the right to contact you if you have requested that they don't? Or do you see it as a case of they met him so they will meet me?

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"yet the OP has a verification from a single man? perhaps that should be hidden to avoid confusion?"

They do say they are currently not meeting single males. What's confusing about that ?

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

If someone writes us a polite message, we always try and respond at the very least.

Messages that just say 'your pics are hot' tend to be binned. Or reply with 'cheers, my wife looks hot too...'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if its that much of an issue put the filter on, rather than starting a thread that really is a dig at single men...

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By *iceguy25Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

I like reading profiles even if they aint looking for single guys but if they are not or if I dont match what they have put they are looking for then I dont message lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if its that much of an issue put the filter on, rather than starting a thread that really is a dig at single men..."

Its not a dig at all. Its a reflection on what has happened to us which lead us to blocking all single guys and that is something that should never have had to happen.. All im asking is that single guys and everyone else for that matter reads a profile before acting on it.. Is that really so bad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes its rude IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if its that much of an issue put the filter on, rather than starting a thread that really is a dig at single men...

Its not a dig at all. Its a reflection on what has happened to us which lead us to blocking all single guys and that is something that should never have had to happen.. All im asking is that single guys and everyone else for that matter reads a profile before acting on it.. Is that really so bad?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get that but men who don't get the fact I'm not after sex right now, I have to be very nasty towards them for them to get the hint, always trying to manipulate me into having sex with them which is not gonna happen, block and delete .and you have just got that spot on. BLOCK.why bother getting nasty and replying?"

I delete friend requests if they haven't even bothered messaging me first, like someone said, full balls, empty head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got more chance of meeting tony blair at costcutter, than a shag here lol .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yet the OP has a verification from a single man? perhaps that should be hidden to avoid confusion?

you are quite right we do and that was a guy we meet at a party and i think you will find that is stated in the verification.. And since when does having a verification give anyone the right to contact you if you have requested that they don't? Or do you see it as a case of they met him so they will meet me?"

not at all. I just dont see why you are making such a fuss when there are filters available to you...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"yet the OP has a verification from a single man? perhaps that should be hidden to avoid confusion?

you are quite right we do and that was a guy we meet at a party and i think you will find that is stated in the verification.. And since when does having a verification give anyone the right to contact you if you have requested that they don't? Or do you see it as a case of they met him so they will meet me?

not at all. I just dont see why you are making such a fuss when there are filters available to you..."

Simply because if nobody ever said anything then nothing would ever change..

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By *ightDiversionMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

I think basically – in any population there are people that act like Dicks ! Male and Female.

Your (OP) point however is valid – why contact someone who actually says they’re not looking for you – what a waste of time – I assume it’s the same when people are looking for Black guys – white guys make contact and the other way around –

I assume its much quicker to delete a mail however than it is to write it (unless there seriously crap emails ) so as a single guy I should be actively encouraging the tossers to waste their time in the hope it keeps them out of the way !!

One quick Q to the OP – your profile says looking for ….Men so I assume you will come up on a search may I suggest a slight tweek to see if it helps !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive just had this now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got more chance of meeting tony blair at costcutter, than a shag here lol ."

OMG doomed, all the single men are doomed, if you cant get a shag, with such a great body and fantastic cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got more chance of meeting tony blair at costcutter, than a shag here lol .

OMG doomed, all the single men are doomed, if you cant get a shag, with such a great body and fantastic cock "

lol I know, women are not into lads with a 6-pack and a big here, thats why

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By *AMES19620Man
over a year ago

newport

well everyone has preferences and everyone bends there own rules to any given situation

thats what makes us all different which is the part i love about swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got more chance of meeting tony blair at costcutter, than a shag here lol .

OMG doomed, all the single men are doomed, if you cant get a shag, with such a great body and fantastic cock

lol I know, women are not into lads with a 6-pack and a big here, thats why "

Big ego I meant*.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think basically – in any population there are people that act like Dicks ! Male and Female.

Your (OP) point however is valid – why contact someone who actually says they’re not looking for you – what a waste of time – I assume it’s the same when people are looking for Black guys – white guys make contact and the other way around –

I assume its much quicker to delete a mail however than it is to write it (unless there seriously crap emails ) so as a single guy I should be actively encouraging the tossers to waste their time in the hope it keeps them out of the way !!

One quick Q to the OP – your profile says looking for ….Men so I assume you will come up on a search may I suggest a slight tweek to see if it helps !

"

You are quite right our profile does say men on it. And we do meet single men when we want to. what you did not see was that out profile also stated that we was not looking for single guys untill we changed it but this did not stop the large amount of guys messaging us etc.. As i have stated many times now this is about respecting what people want and not doing whatever you feel like. Thus we would not have had to block all single guys.. And once again i am pointing out single guys because to us the single guys who messaged us have either choosen to ignore what we have said or not even read it at all...

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London


"if its that much of an issue put the filter on, rather than starting a thread that really is a dig at single men..."

#Don'tAlwaysBlameTheSingleGuy

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Every single demographic here does the same thing MM MF FF F M, they all do it (ignore profiles and send messages).

The reason why FAB introduced message filters is for exactly this, if you are no longer meeting single guys then filter them from contacting you and problem solved (apart from those who have messaged you before).

The site gives you the tools (in both senses of the word) its up to you to use them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Every single demographic here does the same thing MM MF FF F M, they all do it (ignore profiles and send messages).

The reason why FAB introduced message filters is for exactly this, if you are no longer meeting single guys then filter them from contacting you and problem solved (apart from those who have messaged you before).

The site gives you the tools (in both senses of the word) its up to you to use them

"

you are right, this site does give you tools to filter people out.. But there should be no need to use them..

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By *ightDiversionMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

I cannot fault your reasoning - but it is slightly contradictory to be seeking men but not single guys (are married ones ok ? - I doubt it !) that's the point.

Even the best of the guys on here are still guys so any light however feint will attract the moths !

Just see if removal of Males from the seeks list reduces the profile hits !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cannot fault your reasoning - but it is slightly contradictory to be seeking men but not single guys (are married ones ok ? - I doubt it !) that's the point.

Even the best of the guys on here are still guys so any light however feint will attract the moths !

Just see if removal of Males from the seeks list reduces the profile hits ! "

i understand what you are saying but if a profile says we are not seeking guys at this time then surely that should be enough, no?

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"

you are right, this site does give you tools to filter people out.. But there should be no need to use them.."

There should be no need for jails people should just be nice and treat people with respect but people ARENT nice people are people and being on a swinging site doesn't make them any different.

There are lovely people on here of course but much like in real life there are pick thick ignorant idiots crawling all over the place.

The reality is expecting people to act in a respectful manner isnt going to happen.

you know what annoys US the most ? we have an age filter on our profile the number of MF couples that message us where one of them is 10-20 years outside of this is off the charts, I find that a bigger problem than anything else really cause you cant in any way filter that.

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London


"you are right, this site does give you tools to filter people out.. But there should be no need to use them.."

(what a strange thing to say)

the fact that you started this tread shows that you should use them instead of putting all single men in a box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The amount of bad manner on this site is not nice at all. At least some of us single take the time to read profiles and send a nice message. It is so sad most of them get lost in the shit storm of the other messages.

"

well said (well I think I send nice messages)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

you are right, this site does give you tools to filter people out.. But there should be no need to use them..

There should be no need for jails people should just be nice and treat people with respect but people ARENT nice people are people and being on a swinging site doesn't make them any different.

There are lovely people on here of course but much like in real life there are pick thick ignorant idiots crawling all over the place.

The reality is expecting people to act in a respectful manner isnt going to happen.

you know what annoys US the most ? we have an age filter on our profile the number of MF couples that message us where one of them is 10-20 years outside of this is off the charts, I find that a bigger problem than anything else really cause you cant in any way filter that.

"

once again i agree with you. And i fully understand that people are people. But as i have said if no one ever says anything then nothing ever changes.. A few ruin it for the many but the few sometimes need to be told what they are doing, even if they choose to ignore it...

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By *ightDiversionMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"

i understand what you are saying but if a profile says we are not seeking guys at this time then surely that should be enough, no?"

Clearly not !

a quick untick is all that's required !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you are right, this site does give you tools to filter people out.. But there should be no need to use them..

(what a strange thing to say)

the fact that you started this tread shows that you should use them instead of putting all single men in a box"

Its not at all strange. We don't want to have to use them.. Thats the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree totally Kenny.

Because of the fact that single guys are seen as a sub-species here we all get tarred with the same brush. There are some of us who do indeed read what people have to say and take notice. But there are also people who maybe dont advertise for single guys but will consider the right ones at times, i know such people. I think some men just take that chance.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you are right, this site does give you tools to filter people out.. But there should be no need to use them..

(what a strange thing to say)

the fact that you started this tread shows that you should use them instead of putting all single men in a box"
I would also point out that i have stated that not all guys do this..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Filters are a wondeful thing to use if you're not looking for a certain section of the site

You are quite right but Im talking about respect. Filters should not be needed...

To be fair, it says not looking

for men... then men is still in your looking for section. It's contradictory. Must be a site blip."

it's not a blip. Single men stroll through this site and start reading a women/couples profile. You read likes and dislikes. You get to the bottom or in the dislikes. And see no single males. But before you even get to that bit you've status's or updates contradicting the no single men part! There are desperate/needy/pushy guys out there but its not nice we all get tarred with the same brush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree totally Kenny.

Because of the fact that single guys are seen as a sub-species here we all get tarred with the same brush. There are some of us who do indeed read what people have to say and take notice. But there are also people who maybe dont advertise for single guys but will consider the right ones at times, i know such people. I think some men just take that chance. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The time to moan is when no one looks at you or contacts you, Full balls = empty head,

There are more important things to get pissed of about "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol I gues also this thread gives the op some attention.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"lol I gues also this thread gives the op some attention."

poor, very poor...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah right I see lol .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ah right I see lol ."

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London


"you are right, this site does give you tools to filter people out.. But there should be no need to use them..

(what a strange thing to say)

the fact that you started this tread shows that you should use them instead of putting all single men in a box

Its not at all strange. We don't want to have to use them.. Thats the point"

but my point is you have to use them like everyone else on the site because there will always be fools that don't read profiles and send a message anyway (both make and female)

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"Why is it that some single guys don't read profiles? If a profile states that we are currently not looking for you then why do you contact anyway? Surely you must understand that you are not going to get a reply. And all you will achive is pissing off the people who you contact..."

For single guys read people. It's not just some single guys that don't read profiles

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London


"I would also point out that i have stated that not all guys do this.."

well you did say "why don't single guys don't read profiles?" (instead of "why don't People don't read profiles?) i think you would of got a much better response on this tread i believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people here are really missing my point... its about respect and not blocking people!!"

Good point actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you are right, this site does give you tools to filter people out.. But there should be no need to use them..

(what a strange thing to say)

the fact that you started this tread shows that you should use them instead of putting all single men in a boxI would also point out that i have stated that not all guys do this.."

I don't think you were slagging off single guys. You just said single guys because that's who you had the issue with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, just wondering if this is a good place to ask for advice? I'm not looking for sex at the moment so just wondering if this best place for me to join? I see theres a few like minded souls about, I also don't play golf, so I'm just off to join fabgolfers. I sure hope no one dares offer me a round or I'll be livid!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"I like an uncomplicated easy life with this site,I use filters because I completely understand that lots of people don't read profiles or look at preferences so will just message on the off chance,it saves me getting het up and stressy,It saves me having to whinge on my profile about rude people and it saves me moaning on the forums about lack of respect

I have a great time on this site,I find that the overwhelming majority of people that contact me are polite and respectful and very rarely if ever rude,I can't for the life of me understand why everyone does'nt do the same,I guess they just like moaning

Ill continue to moan as I use the site........with pleasure and not through gritted teeth "

Well said

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I get that but men who don't get the fact I'm not after sex right now, I have to be very nasty towards them for them to get the hint, always trying to manipulate me into having sex with them which is not gonna happen, block and delete

I dont understand how they can manipulate you into having sex?

if i say i don't want sex they keep on pestering me into doing it and saying they'll be the best and just being plain manipulative"

Why do you engage with people you're not interested in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that some single guys don't read profiles? If a profile states that we are currently not looking for you then why do you contact anyway? Surely you must understand that you are not going to get a reply. And all you will achive is pissing off the people who you contact..."

Nope, I just don't believe you?! ..not on fab - it just doesn't happen here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fully agree..maybe they should go to specsavers..Happens ALL the time and the single guys then Whinge when they get blocked/ignored....

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"If only this site had filters to stop people mailing. But then some people won't do that because they feel unloved if they don't get any mail.... "

...and therein is the reason we get these types of threads. People could filter out the numpties, but then any attention is better than none hey?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Filters are a wondeful thing to use if you're not looking for a certain section of the site

You are quite right but Im talking about respect. Filters should not be needed..."
Respect !!!!

Do you lnow what little respect men get on here ??

Some men are dikheads agreed , but some really are decent human beings !

Maybe your on the wrong site ? Try on with similar ratios of men , women and cpls !

Its easy !

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By *himanMan
over a year ago

chichester

Single guy but i agree wiv all of the above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, just wondering if this is a good place to ask for advice? I'm not looking for sex at the moment so just wondering if this best place for me to join? I see theres a few like minded souls about, I also don't play golf, so I'm just off to join fabgolfers. I sure hope no one dares offer me a round or I'll be livid! "
bloody sarcastic but a bloody brilliant analagy ! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had single and married guys not read profile.

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By *r tickle 22Man
over a year ago

Sheffeld

I can't read , ,

Adn I cant spelll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a difference a day makes. Pass comment on here defending single guys and after checking the inbox have a load of frankly insulting and moronic emails.

Sometimes wish we could paste them up.

looks like the eyes of the small majority we were on about fell on us for a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that some single guys don't read profiles? If a profile states that we are currently not looking for you then why do you contact anyway? Surely you must understand that you are not going to get a reply. And all you will achive is pissing off the people who you contact..."
not all

I'm single n read all profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a difference a day makes. Pass comment on here defending single guys and after checking the inbox have a load of frankly insulting and moronic emails.

Sometimes wish we could paste them up.

looks like the eyes of the small majority we were on about fell on us for a bit.

"

But I'd guess you simply used those two lovely buttons - delete and block - rather than start a thread about it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd invite you to look at some of my mail...

its radical, apparently Couples and Single fems seem to have exactly the same issue....

its not a solely a single man, or a couple, or a single fem issue.... its a "people being an arse" issue...

and last time I check... "being an arse" wasn't the sole domain of one group.

so this thread is going to look like a "bash single men" one....."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one guy who's been messaging me is very adamant that he's gonna cum in my mouth, on me and in me, I have told him twice now that he won't be doing any of that as I don't play and it will be safe sex not bareback, he was a sound guy but has now turned into like most guys on here: full balls and empty head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one guy who's been messaging me is very adamant that he's gonna cum in my mouth, on me and in me, I have told him twice now that he won't be doing any of that as I don't play and it will be safe sex not bareback, he was a sound guy but has now turned into like most guys on here: full balls and empty head"

You told him twice???

Once - ok - just to put him straight - but twice?

I'd have been reaching for the block button rather than the message button if someone appeared to be disregarding any of my wishes!

Sometimes people just need to realise that others will often push and try things on in the hope you'll relent - and by continuing to engage with them you're simply keeping their hope alive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a difference a day makes. Pass comment on here defending single guys and after checking the inbox have a load of frankly insulting and moronic emails.

Sometimes wish we could paste them up.

looks like the eyes of the small majority we were on about fell on us for a bit.

But I'd guess you simply used those two lovely buttons - delete and block - rather than start a thread about it ? "

Don't believe in Single men bashing threads just thinks its reverse karma for sticking up for them on here.

Very rarely use the block button get in trouble if I delete them without the OH seeing them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one guy who's been messaging me is very adamant that he's gonna cum in my mouth, on me and in me, I have told him twice now that he won't be doing any of that as I don't play and it will be safe sex not bareback, he was a sound guy but has now turned into like most guys on here: full balls and empty head

You told him twice???

Once - ok - just to put him straight - but twice?

I'd have been reaching for the block button rather than the message button if someone appeared to be disregarding any of my wishes!

Sometimes people just need to realise that others will often push and try things on in the hope you'll relent - and by continuing to engage with them you're simply keeping their hope alive! "

oh no I have blocked him after telling him the second time lol he's married too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

But I'd guess you simply used those two lovely buttons - delete and block - rather than start a thread about it ? "

Yep!! Single woman here who's only looking for single men but I've got filters in place and not afraid to use the delete or the block button when they don't read or cant take no for an answer.

There are some very nice polite single men about too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one guy who's been messaging me is very adamant that he's gonna cum in my mouth, on me and in me, I have told him twice now that he won't be doing any of that as I don't play and it will be safe sex not bareback, he was a sound guy but has now turned into like most guys on here: full balls and empty head

You told him twice???

Once - ok - just to put him straight - but twice?

I'd have been reaching for the block button rather than the message button if someone appeared to be disregarding any of my wishes!

Sometimes people just need to realise that others will often push and try things on in the hope you'll relent - and by continuing to engage with them you're simply keeping their hope alive!

oh no I have blocked him after telling him the second time lol he's married too. "

Just re-read - and I'm more confused now!! You've said many times you don't play and only do socials.

So the "I don't play and it will be safe sex not bareback" part of your post doesn't make a lot of sense?

Surely engaging with anyone about sexual activity (married or not) when you only do socials is just leading them in and asking for the kind of unwanted attention you want to avoid?

Consistency - between profiles, forum posts and message content - will help reduce unwanted attention and messages. Contradictory activity will only encourage it and either be seen as attention seeking or leading people on and result in a total lack of sympathy when complaining about such attention!

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over a year ago


"one guy who's been messaging me is very adamant that he's gonna cum in my mouth, on me and in me, I have told him twice now that he won't be doing any of that as I don't play and it will be safe sex not bareback, he was a sound guy but has now turned into like most guys on here: full balls and empty head

You told him twice???

Once - ok - just to put him straight - but twice?

I'd have been reaching for the block button rather than the message button if someone appeared to be disregarding any of my wishes!

Sometimes people just need to realise that others will often push and try things on in the hope you'll relent - and by continuing to engage with them you're simply keeping their hope alive!

oh no I have blocked him after telling him the second time lol he's married too.

Just re-read - and I'm more confused now!! You've said many times you don't play and only do socials.

So the "I don't play and it will be safe sex not bareback" part of your post doesn't make a lot of sense?

Surely engaging with anyone about sexual activity (married or not) when you only do socials is just leading them in and asking for the kind of unwanted attention you want to avoid?

Consistency - between profiles, forum posts and message content - will help reduce unwanted attention and messages. Contradictory activity will only encourage it and either be seen as attention seeking or leading people on and result in a total lack of sympathy when complaining about such attention! "

No I was basically meaning when I am up for sexual activity that it will be safe sex and no bareback, I've already explained to him that I don't play and he's fine with just a social and then he said that I should drink his cum sometime, so he is aware that I don't play and only do socials so no I am not asking for attention that I'm trying to avoid as I make it quite clear to every single guy that I don't play and only do socials and they take no for answer

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over a year ago

What I don't get is why 'people' put things on their profiles in big shouty capitals like WE/I WONT MEET NON VERIFIEDS or NO SINGLE MEN or PLEASE TAKE NOTE OF MY AGE RANGE! We all have filters that we can use to eliminate unwanted messages from those you do not wish to meet Wouldnt this be easier than moaning about it? Men, women and couples are all guilt of not reading profiles and that's not going to change anytime soon!!

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over a year ago


"What I don't get is why 'people' put things on their profiles in big shouty capitals like WE/I WONT MEET NON VERIFIEDS or NO SINGLE MEN or PLEASE TAKE NOTE OF MY AGE RANGE! We all have filters that we can use to eliminate unwanted messages from those you do not wish to meet Wouldnt this be easier than moaning about it? Men, women and couples are all guilt of not reading profiles and that's not going to change anytime soon!!"

Because that would be too easy!

*and part of me suspects they'd miss the messages!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"What I don't get is why 'people' put things on their profiles in big shouty capitals like WE/I WONT MEET NON VERIFIEDS or NO SINGLE MEN or PLEASE TAKE NOTE OF MY AGE RANGE! We all have filters that we can use to eliminate unwanted messages from those you do not wish to meet Wouldnt this be easier than moaning about it? Men, women and couples are all guilt of not reading profiles and that's not going to change anytime soon!!

Because that would be too easy!

*and part of me suspects they'd miss the messages! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I don't get is why 'people' put things on their profiles in big shouty capitals like WE/I WONT MEET NON VERIFIEDS or NO SINGLE MEN or PLEASE TAKE NOTE OF MY AGE RANGE! We all have filters that we can use to eliminate unwanted messages from those you do not wish to meet Wouldnt this be easier than moaning about it? Men, women and couples are all guilt of not reading profiles and that's not going to change anytime soon!!

Because that would be too easy!

*and part of me suspects they'd miss the messages! "

Ahh didn't think of that. Might go and take all my filters off to see how much attention I get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one guy who's been messaging me is very adamant that he's gonna cum in my mouth, on me and in me, I have told him twice now that he won't be doing any of that as I don't play and it will be safe sex not bareback, he was a sound guy but has now turned into like most guys on here: full balls and empty head

You told him twice???

Once - ok - just to put him straight - but twice?

I'd have been reaching for the block button rather than the message button if someone appeared to be disregarding any of my wishes!

Sometimes people just need to realise that others will often push and try things on in the hope you'll relent - and by continuing to engage with them you're simply keeping their hope alive!

oh no I have blocked him after telling him the second time lol he's married too.

Just re-read - and I'm more confused now!! You've said many times you don't play and only do socials.

So the "I don't play and it will be safe sex not bareback" part of your post doesn't make a lot of sense?

Surely engaging with anyone about sexual activity (married or not) when you only do socials is just leading them in and asking for the kind of unwanted attention you want to avoid?

Consistency - between profiles, forum posts and message content - will help reduce unwanted attention and messages. Contradictory activity will only encourage it and either be seen as attention seeking or leading people on and result in a total lack of sympathy when complaining about such attention!

No I was basically meaning when I am up for sexual activity that it will be safe sex and no bareback, I've already explained to him that I don't play and he's fine with just a social and then he said that I should drink his cum sometime, so he is aware that I don't play and only do socials so no I am not asking for attention that I'm trying to avoid as I make it quite clear to every single guy that I don't play and only do socials and they take no for answer"

Will you just get on with deleting, blocking or filtering out the guys who are apparently manipulating you into sex? And don't post stuff about wanting to be a surrogate, then act surprised when a certain type of person bombards you with mail.

That just sounds like attention seeking IMHO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one guy who's been messaging me is very adamant that he's gonna cum in my mouth, on me and in me, I have told him twice now that he won't be doing any of that as I don't play and it will be safe sex not bareback, he was a sound guy but has now turned into like most guys on here: full balls and empty head

You told him twice???

Once - ok - just to put him straight - but twice?

I'd have been reaching for the block button rather than the message button if someone appeared to be disregarding any of my wishes!

Sometimes people just need to realise that others will often push and try things on in the hope you'll relent - and by continuing to engage with them you're simply keeping their hope alive!

oh no I have blocked him after telling him the second time lol he's married too.

Just re-read - and I'm more confused now!! You've said many times you don't play and only do socials.

So the "I don't play and it will be safe sex not bareback" part of your post doesn't make a lot of sense?

Surely engaging with anyone about sexual activity (married or not) when you only do socials is just leading them in and asking for the kind of unwanted attention you want to avoid?

Consistency - between profiles, forum posts and message content - will help reduce unwanted attention and messages. Contradictory activity will only encourage it and either be seen as attention seeking or leading people on and result in a total lack of sympathy when complaining about such attention!

No I was basically meaning when I am up for sexual activity that it will be safe sex and no bareback, I've already explained to him that I don't play and he's fine with just a social and then he said that I should drink his cum sometime, so he is aware that I don't play and only do socials so no I am not asking for attention that I'm trying to avoid as I make it quite clear to every single guy that I don't play and only do socials and they take no for answer

Will you just get on with deleting, blocking or filtering out the guys who are apparently manipulating you into sex? And don't post stuff about wanting to be a surrogate, then act surprised when a certain type of person bombards you with mail.

That just sounds like attention seeking IMHO."

how the fuck is it attention seeking?! my filters are in place, I have deleted and blocked guys so no I'm not attention seeking, you're not a single woman are you? no so go away and take your opinion elsewhere, I don't need someone like you giving me shit for no reason, when I've done all I can and I only posted that because I had guys asking to get me pregnant so thats why I put that as my status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know what you posted before that status though, didn't you? How you'd love to be a surrogate? I remembered reading that and thinking you'd be bombarded with less than ... helpful messages.

Nope, I'm not a single woman. Yep, I've maybe mailed people without reading - and re-reading - their profiles and I've missed something. But I have received unsolicited attention from couples, guys and the occasional woman. And guess what? They got deleted or filtered out.

So yep, my opinion is valid. And in your particular case, unchanged. Sorry about that, but I'm calling it as I see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know what you posted before that status though, didn't you? How you'd love to be a surrogate? I remembered reading that and thinking you'd be bombarded with less than ... helpful messages.

Nope, I'm not a single woman. Yep, I've maybe mailed people without reading - and re-reading - their profiles and I've missed something. But I have received unsolicited attention from couples, guys and the occasional woman. And guess what? They got deleted or filtered out.

So yep, my opinion is valid. And in your particular case, unchanged. Sorry about that, but I'm calling it as I see it. "

the messages didn't bother me, I just pointed it out that I would not be letting a swinger make me pregnant, and my original post was about a guy who was wanting to do things to me I wasn't comfortable with and I had to tell him twice before blocking and deleting him. I delete friend requests if they haven't messaged me and delete messages off guys when they haven't read my profile, I've blocked men outside my age range and that is all I can do, I can't do anymore than blocking and deleting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know what you posted before that status though, didn't you? How you'd love to be a surrogate? I remembered reading that and thinking you'd be bombarded with less than ... helpful messages.

Nope, I'm not a single woman. Yep, I've maybe mailed people without reading - and re-reading - their profiles and I've missed something. But I have received unsolicited attention from couples, guys and the occasional woman. And guess what? They got deleted or filtered out.

So yep, my opinion is valid. And in your particular case, unchanged. Sorry about that, but I'm calling it as I see it.

the messages didn't bother me, I just pointed it out that I would not be letting a swinger make me pregnant, and my original post was about a guy who was wanting to do things to me I wasn't comfortable with and I had to tell him twice before blocking and deleting him. I delete friend requests if they haven't messaged me and delete messages off guys when they haven't read my profile, I've blocked men outside my age range and that is all I can do, I can't do anymore than blocking and deleting "

Well using phrases like you're being manipulated into having sex etc. is somewhat emotive and makes you sound like you're sonehow being taken advantage of which I'm absolutely certain you're not.

Look at your status now - you'll have some clowns who'll offer to fix your telly now...if you'll do this, that and the next thing. That's a pain in the arse and it shouldn't be like that, but is. If you're not looking to meet then put your age range to 98-99 and that way you don't have to even hide it. But you might land unlucky and meet a 98 year old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know what you posted before that status though, didn't you? How you'd love to be a surrogate? I remembered reading that and thinking you'd be bombarded with less than ... helpful messages.

Nope, I'm not a single woman. Yep, I've maybe mailed people without reading - and re-reading - their profiles and I've missed something. But I have received unsolicited attention from couples, guys and the occasional woman. And guess what? They got deleted or filtered out.

So yep, my opinion is valid. And in your particular case, unchanged. Sorry about that, but I'm calling it as I see it.

the messages didn't bother me, I just pointed it out that I would not be letting a swinger make me pregnant, and my original post was about a guy who was wanting to do things to me I wasn't comfortable with and I had to tell him twice before blocking and deleting him. I delete friend requests if they haven't messaged me and delete messages off guys when they haven't read my profile, I've blocked men outside my age range and that is all I can do, I can't do anymore than blocking and deleting

Well using phrases like you're being manipulated into having sex etc. is somewhat emotive and makes you sound like you're sonehow being taken advantage of which I'm absolutely certain you're not.

Look at your status now - you'll have some clowns who'll offer to fix your telly now...if you'll do this, that and the next thing. That's a pain in the arse and it shouldn't be like that, but is. If you're not looking to meet then put your age range to 98-99 and that way you don't have to even hide it. But you might land unlucky and meet a 98 year old"

Have you seen the messages I was sent? No you haven't. some of the guys on here are trying to push me into things that I don't want to do and trying to manipulate me which is wrong. ewwww god no I do not wanna meet a 98 year old lmfao. the oldest that winked me was 78

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see the posts above on filters.

Well most of our junk mail comes from men. But we want to meet men. Only we want to meet bi men. We can't filter that so we have put up with the annoying messages from people we'd clearly never meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only contribute what I've experienced . As a single guy I don't get much mail and if I do it's normally from a woman or couple I've approached in the first instance . I've had one or two daft emails from gay or bi men .

However I have a lady friend of mine on here , and I was sat with her one night while she was online on Fab and looked at the 38 emails in her inbox for that day . My god the absolute SHITE guys had sent her was gobsmacking . It's opened my eyes to what the girls get even when you put filters in .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do we not have filters that only allow messages from people that you will definately want to fuck

ADMIN!!!!............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know what you posted before that status though, didn't you? How you'd love to be a surrogate? I remembered reading that and thinking you'd be bombarded with less than ... helpful messages.

Nope, I'm not a single woman. Yep, I've maybe mailed people without reading - and re-reading - their profiles and I've missed something. But I have received unsolicited attention from couples, guys and the occasional woman. And guess what? They got deleted or filtered out.

So yep, my opinion is valid. And in your particular case, unchanged. Sorry about that, but I'm calling it as I see it.

the messages didn't bother me, I just pointed it out that I would not be letting a swinger make me pregnant, and my original post was about a guy who was wanting to do things to me I wasn't comfortable with and I had to tell him twice before blocking and deleting him. I delete friend requests if they haven't messaged me and delete messages off guys when they haven't read my profile, I've blocked men outside my age range and that is all I can do, I can't do anymore than blocking and deleting

Well using phrases like you're being manipulated into having sex etc. is somewhat emotive and makes you sound like you're sonehow being taken advantage of which I'm absolutely certain you're not.

Look at your status now - you'll have some clowns who'll offer to fix your telly now...if you'll do this, that and the next thing. That's a pain in the arse and it shouldn't be like that, but is. If you're not looking to meet then put your age range to 98-99 and that way you don't have to even hide it. But you might land unlucky and meet a 98 year old

Have you seen the messages I was sent? No you haven't. some of the guys on here are trying to push me into things that I don't want to do and trying to manipulate me which is wrong. ewwww god no I do not wanna meet a 98 year old lmfao. the oldest that winked me was 78"

Nope, haven't seen the messages and I can only imagine what the content is. But...no one can push, coerce or manipulate you if you don't meet them or if you did then surely no would mean no?

78 eh? You lucky duck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know what you posted before that status though, didn't you? How you'd love to be a surrogate? I remembered reading that and thinking you'd be bombarded with less than ... helpful messages.

Nope, I'm not a single woman. Yep, I've maybe mailed people without reading - and re-reading - their profiles and I've missed something. But I have received unsolicited attention from couples, guys and the occasional woman. And guess what? They got deleted or filtered out.

So yep, my opinion is valid. And in your particular case, unchanged. Sorry about that, but I'm calling it as I see it.

the messages didn't bother me, I just pointed it out that I would not be letting a swinger make me pregnant, and my original post was about a guy who was wanting to do things to me I wasn't comfortable with and I had to tell him twice before blocking and deleting him. I delete friend requests if they haven't messaged me and delete messages off guys when they haven't read my profile, I've blocked men outside my age range and that is all I can do, I can't do anymore than blocking and deleting

Well using phrases like you're being manipulated into having sex etc. is somewhat emotive and makes you sound like you're sonehow being taken advantage of which I'm absolutely certain you're not.

Look at your status now - you'll have some clowns who'll offer to fix your telly now...if you'll do this, that and the next thing. That's a pain in the arse and it shouldn't be like that, but is. If you're not looking to meet then put your age range to 98-99 and that way you don't have to even hide it. But you might land unlucky and meet a 98 year old

Have you seen the messages I was sent? No you haven't. some of the guys on here are trying to push me into things that I don't want to do and trying to manipulate me which is wrong. ewwww god no I do not wanna meet a 98 year old lmfao. the oldest that winked me was 78

Nope, haven't seen the messages and I can only imagine what the content is. But...no one can push, coerce or manipulate you if you don't meet them or if you did then surely no would mean no?

78 eh? You lucky duck"

Exactly! He just kept trying to push me when messaging me so I blocked and deleted him and when a guy has wanted to play with me when I have been at a club I have politely declined and they've taken no for an answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I guess what we're saying then is it's a minority - but a bloody annoying one .

What do you do in the clubs? Is it just a social / voyeur thing at the moment?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But I guess what we're saying then is it's a minority - but a bloody annoying one .

What do you do in the clubs? Is it just a social / voyeur thing at the moment?"

I'm saying the majority like 99.9% of our emails are from guys who can't be bothered reading. Yes if more filtering was in place we would definately filter out straight guys , guys who don't meet people our age , guys who don't meet smokers. Then we could happily leave the single guys filter open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But I guess what we're saying then is it's a minority - but a bloody annoying one .

What do you do in the clubs? Is it just a social / voyeur thing at the moment?

I'm saying the majority like 99.9% of our emails are from guys who can't be bothered reading. Yes if more filtering was in place we would definately filter out straight guys , guys who don't meet people our age , guys who don't meet smokers. Then we could happily leave the single guys filter open "

You could do with a bi / bicurious filter too then in that case, or fabguys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do we not have filters that only allow messages from people that you will definately want to fuck

ADMIN!!!!............ "

What a mighty fine idea and while admin are at it can they arrange the date time place and book and pay for hotel please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh whoever could have thought? Couples bashing single guys. There's a shock! Maybe if you got of your high horses you'd see it's not just single guys. I get messages from couples who obviously don't read profiles too. Don't tar us all with the same shitty brush please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh whoever could have thought? Couples bashing single guys. There's a shock! Maybe if you got of your high horses you'd see it's not just single guys. I get messages from couples who obviously don't read profiles too. Don't tar us all with the same shitty brush please! "

Not all couples bash single guys so don't tar us all with the same shitty brush please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A shitty brush - yuck. Just back from France and saw a toilet brush just like that....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just the single guys doing this , couples also , I suppose there are just a lot of rude , ignorant people around nowadays and unfortunately they are attracted like flys around shit to swinging sites , there are still genuine well mannered people who we have been fortunate enough to meet though on here , so all is not lost x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh whoever could have thought? Couples bashing single guys. There's a shock! Maybe if you got of your high horses you'd see it's not just single guys. I get messages from couples who obviously don't read profiles too. Don't tar us all with the same shitty brush please! "

We're not. 0.1% of messages are from guys that we would like to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally If it clearly stays not looking for single guys or you will contact single guys I don't bother cz it's just a waste of my time n yours by having to go through it n time is very precious n we're all here for the same thing sexy fun

But I always read the profiles best way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh whoever could have thought? Couples bashing single guys. There's a shock! Maybe if you got of your high horses you'd see it's not just single guys. I get messages from couples who obviously don't read profiles too. Don't tar us all with the same shitty brush please!

We're not. 0.1% of messages are from guys that we would like to meet "

That high! wow! ....you lucky lucky people

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Unfortunately I get the opposite! They mail me, I note they are married, I reply they obviously haven't read my profile....

Their response? I did read it but thought I would ask anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But I guess what we're saying then is it's a minority - but a bloody annoying one .

What do you do in the clubs? Is it just a social / voyeur thing at the moment?"

Just a social at the moment, due to my last relationship -.-

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But I guess what we're saying then is it's a minority - but a bloody annoying one .

What do you do in the clubs? Is it just a social / voyeur thing at the moment?

Just a social at the moment, due to my last relationship -.-"

Oh I see. Not so good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But I guess what we're saying then is it's a minority - but a bloody annoying one .

What do you do in the clubs? Is it just a social / voyeur thing at the moment?

Just a social at the moment, due to my last relationship -.-

Oh I see. Not so good. "

no he basically destroyed my sex life

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford

Although we dont actively seek single guys we dont change our filters. We may meet a single guy in a club who we talk to and they would have no way of keeping in touch if we did. Its the ones who masquerade not wanting to meet us with wanting to chat for a few brief exchanges and then ask to play regardless that irk us. Or even those that just go for the kill anyway.

Don't worry, its the minority than ruin it for the majority sadly.

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