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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I keep reading profiles who specifically mention that all winks are/will be ignored...

Are they redundant and do any of you still use them/check them?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We check ours and wink back if we're interested. We like them and think they're a useful tool.

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury


"We check ours and wink back if we're interested. We like them and think they're a useful tool."

Agree x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get some winks and do look at who sent them. Ive used it before once or twice, been ignored, so don't use it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer them to a message sometimes,I can ignore them with no guilt and if I like the profile ill wink back

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By *anatee175Couple
over a year ago

Sunderland


"I get some winks and do look at who sent them. Ive used it before once or twice, been ignored, so don't use it now"

Yep me too.

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By *r tickle 22Man
over a year ago

Sheffeld

Mmmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wink away!!! I love a good wink and have even been guilty of giving one now and then!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are of no use to me I delete them...

Wish I could block them.

I ignore friend requests from.people who just chance their luck, as they can't send you more than one.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"I prefer them to a message sometimes,I can ignore them with no guilt and if I like the profile ill wink back "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think winks work. Sometimes i have a response back if they like what they read and sometimes i don't. There are some instances where i know they have looked at my profile but not responded back...and I respect that too.

...i think that's the purpose of winks and it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't responded to any winks lately

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By *ll of a QuiverCouple
over a year ago

Douglas


"We check ours and wink back if we're interested. We like them and think they're a useful tool.

Agree x"

Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We check ours and wink back if we're interested. We like them and think they're a useful tool."

If someone likes you enough to wink then why don't they like you enough to actually message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink shows someone has taken the time to look at your profile. Does not mean they want to get straight into your knickers. Just that they like what they initially see and would like a bit more information. Easy to respond to (or not), and a good way of seeing who is interested.

Wink away.

XxxXxx sindy

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We check ours and wink back if we're interested. We like them and think they're a useful tool.

If someone likes you enough to wink then why don't they like you enough to actually message?"

they might be testing the water.

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By *exualNeeds69Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick


"We check ours and wink back if we're interested. We like them and think they're a useful tool."

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By *ogamuffinMan
over a year ago

slough

Yep a good way to express an interest. I always check mine and reply accordingly.

Look forward to receiving your winks ...lol

Regards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't see the point of a wink. Why not just send a message? I never check winks so people are wasting winks on me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we like winks.

says someone likes what they see.

kind of a tentative advance.

like a look across the bar.

if they smile back (a return wink) then we go over and say hi.

even in real life, neither of us would just walk up to someone and start chatting, so why do it any different on here?

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

i check mine dont have many but i check em

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I don't check mine and don't think I've ever sent one.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

I check mine; however, as my profile states, not to often.

If I like the look of the 'winker' and he/she/they are close enough to be a viable meet I will either message or wink back.

If he/she/they are miles away I'll have a quick perv but just take it as a compliment and nothing else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If winks were.used properly it would save a load of wasted time writing to folk who dont even read the mail you have put some time and effort into.

No chips on shoulder, just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh im a proper winker .. I like to be winked so feel free xxx

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"We check ours and wink back if we're interested. We like them and think they're a useful tool."

Agreed, even more so when I'm the one being winked at just like I was last night

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex


"We check ours and wink back if we're interested. We like them and think they're a useful tool."

We do the same, they are handy for breaking the ice etc.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't check mine very often as they're usually from men who live hours away. However, there was a local who'd winked at me about 10 days ago, took a look at his profile, winked back, been chatting and we've arranged a social meet next week

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

we like them...

Check them and wink back if we are interested.

Tend to use them to compliment someone's profile when we might not fit their profile/them us but appreciate what we see/read

Ruby x

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I just checked mine out of curiosity and a quick scroll suggests the majority of my winks are from reasonably local people eithervvastly below or above my age range so possibly trying their luck. Also couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may be wrong but I take a wink to just mean . I or we like what we see so far xxx

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"We check ours and wink back if we're interested. We like them and think they're a useful tool.

If someone likes you enough to wink then why don't they like you enough to actually message?"

this is where I stand... all a wink tells me is that the person who did it managed to find the "wink" button.....

I want to get a feel for the people behind sending the message..... I had no idea if they have read my profile, or just looked at my pictures.....

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

Winks can be useful as when someone looks at your profile then follows up with wink usually should mean that they showing an interest in you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We hate winks .... if people are really interested then they will type a short message.

All a wink says to us is "look at my profile first, before i can be arsed to write anything and get rejected anyhow|"

If someone has taken the time to actually read our profile, sends a message and thier profile resembles what we are looking for - then they will always get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't look at them ... Just looked and I have 401 sitting there but I have not looked at them for some time ! Can see they are handy for some people though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I may be wrong but I take a wink to just mean . I or we like what we see so far xxx"

Agree, possibly some overthinking going on? Its a bit of fun and I have never understood why some people get so bothered about them, do they alter your profile- no, do they flash on your screen annoyingly- no, If they are ignoring them then surely that means they dont look at 'who winked at me' page....or do they? lol

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I may be wrong but I take a wink to just mean . I or we like what we see so far xxx

Agree, possibly some overthinking going on? Its a bit of fun and I have never understood why some people get so bothered about them, do they alter your profile- no, do they flash on your screen annoyingly- no, If they are ignoring them then surely that means they dont look at 'who winked at me' page....or do they? lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I may be wrong but I take a wink to just mean . I or we like what we see so far xxx"

Exactly , sometimes it's just a gesture of appreciation .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a wink friendly couple, sometimes send a wink to test the waters, but do send messages to say hiya as well

Don't mind receiving them and always follow them up with a message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very good methinks...a good software addition

Mainly because it, indirectly, s out the Victor Meldrew couples... You know the type ' winks will be ignored n deleted we are too cool to use em etc'

When we see that sort of thing in a profile they get added to the block list as we don't do boring...

I agree, however, that it's often difficult to keep up with it all......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a good thing, sometimes when your just browsing/ perving it's just a quick way of showing your interest without being too intrusive, also good to get them. However I do message people I'm interested in

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

I get the odd wink and always reply, even if it's to ssy thsnkd but no ta....guess I was brought up, not to be rude.....though in some ways, I'm as rude as they cum.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I get lots. I currently have 34 winks. No idea who though as don't pay attention to them. The same for friend invites. No idea how many new ones I have. Probably in the 40s as a guess.

I don't pay attention to either of them. Only time I do look is when a thread like this comes up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink is something I can only dream about ( sigh )

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Someone apologised gor winking at me. I replied saying its fine. I hadn't noticed the wink x

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

23 friends invites 32 winks. Just checked.

Not interested in looking at them. Already lits of people I want to meet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well clearly we are all different. .....I just don't use winks personally. I either send a message..or chat on the forums.

But each to their own!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am probably a little similar to friends invites as I only respond to an invite of someone I have already chatted with and like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a swinging website with good facilities that people have no real reason not to use. Winks we find are one of the best things on this site as it allows the user to check out the profile, and if not interested, ignore without offending as opposed to a message being ignored. We feel that a wink is a flattering, to delete without even looking at the profile is very disrespectful. It takes not even a minute of someones time to reply to a wink!

That's only our opinion though

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

We use them. We see them as an expression of interest without embarrassment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't it simple ? If you bother to look at winks then you use them, if you're not you don't ?

Its a harmless ice breaker in my opinion and I'm not sure why some get bothered by something you can ignore with no effort.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I looked recently and had well over 100 winks. Its gonna take along time if I am rude to not reply to them or bother to look at them. It woukd take me bloody ages. That leaves me no time for the people I actually want to meet.

I don't use them or pay attention to them. If that makes me rude so be it.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"Isn't it simple ? If you bother to look at winks then you use them, if you're not you don't ?

Its a harmless ice breaker in my opinion and I'm not sure why some get bothered by something you can ignore with no effort. "

Thankyou xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ouplekinkCouple
over a year ago

kink town

Yep we think they are useful, as others have said its an easy way to gauge interest, if both wink at each other, then there is a mutual interest, onto to a message next!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend not to look at mine - at one point was saving them up by not opening the box so had 2.5k of them on the front page ..... But I know guys look so I send the odd rare wink x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is a swinging website with good facilities that people have no real reason not to use. Winks we find are one of the best things on this site as it allows the user to check out the profile, and if not interested, ignore without offending as opposed to a message being ignored. We feel that a wink is a flattering, to delete without even looking at the profile is very disrespectful. It takes not even a minute of someones time to reply to a wink!

That's only our opinion though "

I think it is down to the individual to use which facilities they wish to use. I don't think it is rude to exercise the right of freewill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't it simple ? If you bother to look at winks then you use them, if you're not you don't ?

Its a harmless ice breaker in my opinion and I'm not sure why some get bothered by something you can ignore with no effort. "

Agreed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We check ours and wink back if we're interested. We like them and think they're a useful tool."

This ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is down to the individual to use which facilities they wish to use. I don't think it is rude to exercise the right of freewill. "

Very true, couldn't agree more which is why we expressed our right of free will by stating our opinion

Sorry if we offended x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If winks were.used properly it would save a load of wasted time writing to folk who dont even read the mail you have put some time and effort into.

No chips on shoulder, just saying"

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By *zanyCouple
over a year ago

truro

Well said. We try and answer all our winks even if its a no thank you. It's amazing what annoys people, if winks are not for you then just ignore them. They are a tool and in past we have had some lovely meets from them

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"If winks were.used properly it would save a load of wasted time writing to folk who dont even read the mail you have put some time and effort into.

No chips on shoulder, just saying "

True.

But if people about to message or wink would actually read the profile before messaging or winking it would save time sending endless messages or winks.

I get the are you free tonight messages when my profile states that with having one weekend a month free it is very unlikely I am free. I get messages (copy and paste I assume) asking how I am finding the site! I have been on for years now and have many verfis. If they read my profile first they wouldn't need to ask that question.

Unfortunately people use the site as it suits them. I don't pay attention to winks or friend invites. But others do. If people read profiles before getting in touch they would save everyones time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I keep reading profiles who specifically mention that all winks are/will be ignored...

Are they redundant and do any of you still use them/check them?"

we like them too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get lots. I currently have 34 winks. No idea who though as don't pay attention to them. "

I really do love these people who 'pay no attention' to their winks yet know exactly how many they have.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"We check ours and wink back if we're interested. We like them and think they're a useful tool."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love a good wank!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wink me and I will tell you if it works x

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I get lots. I currently have 34 winks. No idea who though as don't pay attention to them.

I really do love these people who 'pay no attention' to their winks yet know exactly how many they have. "

Probably because when you log in the first page you come to tells you how many you have waiting? Least that's what happens when I log in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If winks were.used properly it would save a load of wasted time writing to folk who dont even read the mail you have put some time and effort into.

No chips on shoulder, just saying

True.

But if people about to message or wink would actually read the profile before messaging or winking it would save time sending endless messages or winks.

I get the are you free tonight messages when my profile states that with having one weekend a month free it is very unlikely I am free. I get messages (copy and paste I assume) asking how I am finding the site! I have been on for years now and have many verfis. If they read my profile first they wouldn't need to ask that question.

Unfortunately people use the site as it suits them. I don't pay attention to winks or friend invites. But others do. If people read profiles before getting in touch they would save everyones time x"

Completely agree and the same reasons that I dont bother with winks or friends invites with the exception of those who I have chatted to and who ask! It is clear that the majority haven't got even read my profile yet they are offended when I dont respond!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally take little notice of winks, especially if the members profile has no public pics. I have on a few occasions received winks from people who's pics I've fabbed so have then messaged, a couple ending in good meets so I guess they work in certain situations

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"I get lots. I currently have 34 winks. No idea who though as don't pay attention to them.

I really do love these people who 'pay no attention' to their winks yet know exactly how many they have. "

I checked them especially for the thread obviously. There is a little thingy on my screen that tells me how many new ones I have. I have no idea from who though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We check ours and wink back if we're interested. We like them and think they're a useful tool.

Agree x"

Ditto

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Sent them out as an Id like to get to know more.

Would love to have some sent to me though ....sob sob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i look to see who has winked at me but ignore them, am more interested in who has fabbed my pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like receiving winks and always reply with a message, but message rather than wink if I want to show interest.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I don't even look to see who has fabbed mi e either. I see on my screen that my pucs have been fabbed so many times but also don't look to see who very often.

If someone fabs my pics its because they like them. I don't see they are doing it to get in the back door so to speak lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aye .A wink in the hand is worth two in the bush. Well I think thats it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we like winks.

says someone likes what they see.

kind of a tentative advance.

like a look across the bar.

if they smile back (a return wink) then we go over and say hi.

even in real life, neither of us would just walk up to someone and start chatting, so why do it any different on here?"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yip we use and check our winks if we like wot we c we wink bk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a good wink

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