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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm finding it hard to meet people does any1 have any advice x wt am I doing wrong lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people hate text speak

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Really and good English is a turn on x

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By *ustyBrunette35Couple
over a year ago

birmingham


"I'm finding it hard to meet people does any1 have any advice x wt am I doing wrong lol "

Sort your profile out.

1 cock pic.. Seriously ?

You cannot travel or accommodate, where are you wanting to meet people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you expect when you've made no effort to sell yourself on your profile? There are plenty of good examples around.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok I get ur point thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really and good English is a turn on x"

Depends if you want to meet someone who takes time to compose a legible message

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

Don't take these comments too personally. We see this kind of thread quite often and some regular users get frustrated that single men find it more difficult Than they thought it would be. They sometimes get rude in their replies.Fab is tough on single men so you need to stand out and be persistant. Good luck in your endeavours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Aww thanks for ur words of encouragement Hun x I have Reyes sproosing my profile up a bit to give away a bit more of who I am fingers crossed xxx

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

A variety of pics, clothed as well as naked.

A little effort into your profile text instead of three words.

Add in a line about why you can't accom as some will assume it's cos you're attached. If you are then don't worry as some will meet you, but for those that don't want to then you won't have wasted conversations.

Your profile ostensibly your shop window. Women usually read them, often before they read any message you send. So cock pics and a poorly written profile could be getting you deleted without even being read.

Oh and read profiles before you send a message. If you don't match but are determined to message at least acknowledge that and admit you're being hopeful.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Address your pics, 1 cock pic won't get you very far. Go for variety

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well hopefully I sorted that out now x got it variety x

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Well hopefully I sorted that out now x got it variety x"

I have nt seen your previous profile,, however if thats your improved mk2 version I can see you needing many more versions,,

Theres loads of threads offering profile advice ,,

I suggest the Triple H factor,, display these in your profile and messages

Honesty

Humour

Hung*

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* hung is for views benefit only*

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Well hopefully I sorted that out now x got it variety x"

Any1?

Ur?

Those kind of abbreviations are not popular.

And a libel about why you can't accom...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I really don't want to sound rude but if these abbreviations offend people and put them off me then so be it u must be really up tight to judge SOME1 on there grammar alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm finding it hard to meet people does any1 have any advice x wt am I doing wrong lol "

NOTHING !

Have you seen that David Attenborough documentary where a huge school of sardines get surrounded by 2-3 marlin. What happens is that the marlin eat there fill of sardines , but if your a sardine the chances of actually getting eaten are very slim as there are so many of them . It's exactly the same on here for us sardines

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I do, I like to meet intelligent men and a sign of that is that they are able to converse without resorting to text speak. Call it uptight, call it whatever you like, it's my choice and so far it has served me well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don't want to sound rude but if these abbreviations offend people and put them off me then so be it u must be really up tight to judge SOME1 on there grammar alone "

Nobodys judging you though!!

You asked a valid question and people are posting answers to help you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always difficult but enjoy the site for other things, like the loads of hot pics and funny threads.

Keep trying

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No I mean if that's important to u that's fine I'm not saying it shouldn't matter but to me it's just what I'm used to doing and by no means does it mean I'm not intelligent x

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire


"No I mean if that's important to u that's fine I'm not saying it shouldn't matter but to me it's just what I'm used to doing and by no means does it mean I'm not intelligent x "

But if you want to appeal to the greatest number of people why type in a way that puts some people off ? You're already reducing the number of potential people who might have been interested in you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So true just got a msg of a nice girl giving advice on what had put her off messaging me and she says it doesn't matter if some1 was to use txt speak as long as its legible xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are so many of these posts and my advice is ... don't give or ask for advice! What you think is appropriate for a profile reflects you and what you are after. If there is little uptake then that's because people aren't interested. But if you can't sort out your profile on your own then I think it's wrong to have others help you out.

We could put out the perfect formula for generating interest, but if it's just that, a formula, then it doesn't reflect you and is misleading.

We do not want to look at the perfect profile for what we are after, arrange a meet, only to find it belongs to some ...person ...who didn't generate it him/herself.

Just be honest. If you aren't generating interest, think a bit more about you want and add more detail. If that doesn't work then try another site that might suit your needs better.

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire


"So true just got a msg of a nice girl giving advice on what had put her off messaging me and she says it doesn't matter if some1 was to use txt speak as long as its legible xx"

It doesn't matter to her, but it does matter to some.

Your call fella, you can choose to take advice or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok I think you just have your profile how you want it,its yours and yours alone

Hope it brings you loads of fun

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I really don't want to sound rude but if these abbreviations offend people and put them off me then so be it u must be really up tight to judge SOME1 on there grammar alone "

It wasn't a personal attack it was a comment that you asked for.

People start up threads complaining about text speak, and though some have no issue with it others do.

It's like the cock pics thing. Lots of ladies prefer them kept in private, others like to see them. Though there does seem to be a consensus on guys who have lots of cock pics and nothing else!

You asked for advice which I am offering. I don't mind if you choose not to take it and hope you realise that I'm trying to offer constructive criticism and not just attack. I have made no comment about poor grammar or spelling, though running the text through a spell check can be handy for all of us.

Above all it's YOUR profile so as long as you feel it truly represents you and how you want to be seen then don't worry about the forum opinion. But if you ask us how to increase your chances of replies then bear in mind that advice is offered based on lots of these threads and discussions that have been before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YOUR finding it hard? I wake up every morning and find it hard.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You no with the replys I'm getting I'm starting to see what type of person I want to meet never mind who wants to meet me x like minded people who don't take things so seriously so some good has came from this x thanks for the input

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And I do have more than just a cock pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mart, your profile is you main selling point, much like a CV would be to get a job (this gets you on the job lol).

would you use text speak on your CV or application form?

even though its supposed to reflect you, the people on here are of a certain vintage that text speak is seen as something unpallatable.

as you have said, its your choice as how you present yourself.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don't want to sound rude but if these abbreviations offend people and put them off me then so be it u must be really up tight to judge SOME1 on there grammar alone "

Try to think about the 5second window!

You are not putting yourself forward in the best light with "txt speak".

You are one off many and uf you don't shine you are lost in the crowd.

After all ut is not us asking for help!

Best off luck I think you might need ut.

Cupid x

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"I'm finding it hard to meet people does any1 have any advice x wt am I doing wrong lol "

You type like this, it looks like you are an idiot. It makes you come across badly. If you can't be bothered to type the correct version of "ur" then what does that say about you?

Your pics aren't terrible but arn't great.

Cant accom? Why? Cheating? Living with parents?

Can't accom is often a red flag.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Get what u are saying I really do but I wasn't applying for a job I'm looking for nice understanding honest people to enjoy what we are all on here for x I don't mean to sound argumentative I no your only trying to help and it's appreciate x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write more in your profile. Inject some humour and intelligence into it to show that you're not just the other muscle guy that takes a decent selfie (no offence meant by the way, not that it currently says bad things, it just doesn't say much at all about you).

Where people read about you in your absence, you need to represent yourself somehow. By putting across some charisma and personality, you'll be appreciated/trusted more.

Oh and dont lie lol

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