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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've never put anything about being discreet on our profile - we don't shout it from the rooftops but are not cloak and daggers about it. I always just assumed that we all have a common-sense level of discretion when it comes to this here pass-time.

Wrong.

I went to a new school today that I've never worked in before. At lunch time I was sitting in the staff room having a chat to the class TA when I notice some dude is staring at me. He swaggers over and asks if I'm Meghan. Erm... Yes. Don't I recognise him? Nope...

The TA then asks if he knows me and he says

"Oh I've seen her out clubbing before".

I'm confused at this point. Pubs = yes, bars = yes, clubs = not since my friend dragged me to that awful cheese-ball male stripper show at PACHA.

So I apologise for having no idea what he's talking about. And he says "At Greg's club".

Penny drops.

Oh...

Then he tells me I look "sexy all dressed up", sleazy wink and swaggers off.

I was a bit mortified and probably made myself looks more suspicious by going bright red (nasty habit).

I just cant believe someone would do that in a work place!

Has anyone else experienced anything like this? What did you do?

Apart from him I liked the school and the agency have said they have asked for me back... but I feel like I cant ever go back there. Am I being over-dramatic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has happened to both of us. We have invented twins lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think he's crossed the line a little bringing your personal lives into the workplace.

I wouldn't give up the school if you enjoy the job but I would make it my number one priority to take him to one side & tell him as far as you are concerned what goes on outside work stays outside work...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are just complete and utter twats!

Still it serves to remind us that our standards of discrection are not always shared by others and we have to be aware of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What an utter wanker. I'd take him to one side and administer a quick knee to the bollocks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally I think he's crossed the line a little bringing your personal lives into the workplace.

I wouldn't give up the school if you enjoy the job but I would make it my number one priority to take him to one side & tell him as far as you are concerned what goes on outside work stays outside work...!"

I'm a bit paranoid that he might have told someone else who works there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turns out the male half of a couple I'd been chatting to works at the same place as me. It's not a terribly large place but we work in different departments and though our paths may cross from time to time, we're not going to bring it up at work.

Sounds like the guy that mentioned it to you is a bit of a tool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be willing to bet his colleagues think so too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've never put anything about being discreet on our profile - we don't shout it from the rooftops but are not cloak and daggers about it. I always just assumed that we all have a common-sense level of discretion when it comes to this here pass-time.

Wrong.

I went to a new school today that I've never worked in before. At lunch time I was sitting in the staff room having a chat to the class TA when I notice some dude is staring at me. He swaggers over and asks if I'm Meghan. Erm... Yes. Don't I recognise him? Nope...

The TA then asks if he knows me and he says

"Oh I've seen her out clubbing before".

I'm confused at this point. Pubs = yes, bars = yes, clubs = not since my friend dragged me to that awful cheese-ball male stripper show at PACHA.

So I apologise for having no idea what he's talking about. And he says "At Greg's club".

Penny drops.

Oh...

Then he tells me I look "sexy all dressed up", sleazy wink and swaggers off.

I was a bit mortified and probably made myself looks more suspicious by going bright red (nasty habit).

I just cant believe someone would do that in a work place!

Has anyone else experienced anything like this? What did you do?

Apart from him I liked the school and the agency have said they have asked for me back... but I feel like I cant ever go back there. Am I being over-dramatic?"

Yes over dramatic x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him to shut his pie hole or you'll fill everyone in on how pretty he looked all dressed up like his mama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to me,but the guy who done it I know personally as his son is friends with my son.

We bumped into him at our local club, nothing happened but he thought it was acceptable to keep on coming upto me in work asking if we have had any fun ect, this happened a few times, hubby asked him to not speak about my private life in my work place, he done it again in the end hubby said to him if he didn't leave me alone then he would tell his wife what he does in his spare time.

That done the trick and not seen him when I've been working since then x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've never put anything about being discreet on our profile - we don't shout it from the rooftops but are not cloak and daggers about it. I always just assumed that we all have a common-sense level of discretion when it comes to this here pass-time.

Wrong.

I went to a new school today that I've never worked in before. At lunch time I was sitting in the staff room having a chat to the class TA when I notice some dude is staring at me. He swaggers over and asks if I'm Meghan. Erm... Yes. Don't I recognise him? Nope...

The TA then asks if he knows me and he says

"Oh I've seen her out clubbing before".

I'm confused at this point. Pubs = yes, bars = yes, clubs = not since my friend dragged me to that awful cheese-ball male stripper show at PACHA.

So I apologise for having no idea what he's talking about. And he says "At Greg's club".

Penny drops.

Oh...

Then he tells me I look "sexy all dressed up", sleazy wink and swaggers off.

I was a bit mortified and probably made myself looks more suspicious by going bright red (nasty habit).

I just cant believe someone would do that in a work place!

Has anyone else experienced anything like this? What did you do?

Apart from him I liked the school and the agency have said they have asked for me back... but I feel like I cant ever go back there. Am I being over-dramatic?"

I think he definitely crossed the line. I'd take him to one side and 'have a word in ya shell like pal'.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Personally I think he's crossed the line a little bringing your personal lives into the workplace.

I wouldn't give up the school if you enjoy the job but I would make it my number one priority to take him to one side & tell him as far as you are concerned what goes on outside work stays outside work...!"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've never put anything about being discreet on our profile - we don't shout it from the rooftops but are not cloak and daggers about it. I always just assumed that we all have a common-sense level of discretion when it comes to this here pass-time.

Wrong.

I went to a new school today that I've never worked in before. At lunch time I was sitting in the staff room having a chat to the class TA when I notice some dude is staring at me. He swaggers over and asks if I'm Meghan. Erm... Yes. Don't I recognise him? Nope...

The TA then asks if he knows me and he says

"Oh I've seen her out clubbing before".

I'm confused at this point. Pubs = yes, bars = yes, clubs = not since my friend dragged me to that awful cheese-ball male stripper show at PACHA.

So I apologise for having no idea what he's talking about. And he says "At Greg's club".

Penny drops.

Oh...

Then he tells me I look "sexy all dressed up", sleazy wink and swaggers off.

I was a bit mortified and probably made myself looks more suspicious by going bright red (nasty habit).

I just cant believe someone would do that in a work place!

Has anyone else experienced anything like this? What did you do?

Apart from him I liked the school and the agency have said they have asked for me back... but I feel like I cant ever go back there. Am I being over-dramatic?"

He crossed a line there. Jeez, men are hopeless at this stuff. I've been in a not dissimilar situation related to work but even though there was a mutual recognition I made no mention of it. I have hobbies that I love people mentioning but y'know, not this one.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


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He crossed a line there. Jeez, men are hopeless at this stuff. I've been in a not dissimilar situation related to work but even though there was a mutual recognition I made no mention of it. I have hobbies that I love people mentioning but y'know, not this one. "

It does seem to be a predominantly male failing.

It's probably just that men feel we have less to lose should we be 'outed' and that in some circles our reputations will be enhanced.

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