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Txt spk/Slang or poor language

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By *onny Bones OP   Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

I see so many complaints about poorly written messages or the length of messages being sent or received.

I know there are many who feel passionate about this sort of thing and I just wondered why? I pay less attention to where somebody uses slang than some. I find it quite odd that some can decide on the quality of sex by reviewing a message written in short hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For my partner, a lot of the stimulation leading to foreplay and sex comes from language stimulating her mind, then her body follows, so to her a poorly written message indicates poor or lazy language skills, so that's a non starter.

To her it isn't just about penetration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally am not impressed if someone sends me a message in txt speak, tend to just delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind some text speak, but when I have to sit and translate what has been sent then I just don't feel we'd be compatible. I one of these that even punctuate text messages...I'm not down with the kids!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you cant be arsed to take the few extra seconds of time to write a decent message then I dont want you naked and balls deep in my partner. Simple trade off really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For my partner, a lot of the stimulation leading to foreplay and sex comes from language stimulating her mind, then her body follows, so to her a poorly written message indicates poor or lazy language skills, so that's a non starter.

To her it isn't just about penetration.

"

^^^^^ this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For my partner, a lot of the stimulation leading to foreplay and sex comes from language stimulating her mind, then her body follows, so to her a poorly written message indicates poor or lazy language skills, so that's a non starter.

To her it isn't just about penetration.

^^^^^ this "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well male half here struggles with spelling but will not do text language not down to be stupid but suffered head injury and was left that way they are just plain lazy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The link between sex and language differs from person to person. Some people will talk during sex, some won't. Some need verbal stimulation, some don't.

The biggest gripe most people have is they can't understand it. I don't use it personally but I don't see any direct correlation between a message of this kind and their sexual ability.

If you find it annoying, that's fine. But to tie it to sexual ability is laughable.

But I guess that's what makes Fabs a weird and wonderful place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, it shows a bit of laziness. I go to the trouble of typing out a nice message and I get back "at u nice innit fuk me yea?". Lol no.

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By *onny Bones OP   Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

Does it reduce the amount of meets someone less capable or familiar with typing would get?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it reduce the amount of meets someone less capable or familiar with typing would get?"

Probably. But you could write a great message and still not see any change in success.

My advice would be to steer clear of it, simply because of misunderstanding. It won't guarantee success but it'll help.

Just remember to be polite, curious about profiles and think about who you'd like to approach and if they'd like to be approached by you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, it shows a bit of laziness. I go to the trouble of typing out a nice message and I get back "at u nice innit fuk me yea?". Lol no."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use shorthand, i wouldnt class it as text speak..I can write a pretty good essay if i want, I can talk proper when i need to.......even for a Glaswegian

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I see so many complaints about poorly written messages or the length of messages being sent or received.

I know there are many who feel passionate about this sort of thing and I just wondered why? I pay less attention to where somebody uses slang than some. I find it quite odd that some can decide on the quality of sex by reviewing a message written in short hand."

If you see someone you like, how do you convey interest? By the written word. Personally I'd rather not need an urban dictionary or Rosetta Stone to decipher a message.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"For my partner, a lot of the stimulation leading to foreplay and sex comes from language stimulating her mind, then her body follows, so to her a poorly written message indicates poor or lazy language skills, so that's a non starter.

To her it isn't just about penetration.

"

^^^^This!

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

as long as I can understand the message I dont worry too much about spelling, grammar etc as I understand some people have issues with dyslexia, for others english is not their first languague etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess most on here are from the days before Mobile phones and learnt to write letters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Txet sepak fisrt elvoled wtih the old sytle mbolies wehn you had to perss ecah bttuon svarel tmies bfeore you got the rghit ltteer.

Now hewoveer msot poelpe hvae tucoh sreecns and sepll checkres so threr is no need.

It's all aoubt prseosnl onoipin. We nveer raed a txet msseage. For us it's just too mcuh bthoer.

Erevhtnig you wgriht on here sheds a msseage to a ptonetial meet. Txt saepk for us sndes the worng one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fortunately we are in the lucky position of being able to be selective when we are looking to meet someone new.

We prefer to meet people who seem to have made a little effort & write in a way that suggests at least some level of intelligence & education.

Rightly or wrongly we feel slang or text speak gives us no clues at all & therefore we will draw our own conclusions

Many single guys seem on the other hand find it terribly difficult.

Since text speak & slang clearly is one of those topics that seems to quickly divide opinions it seems good sense if a member is struggling to find meets he/she or they write in a way that will offend the fewest.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

The odd spelling mistake is fine, we are all human and I'm by no means perfect.

If it gives me a headache trying to work it out or I have to ask a friend (yes I've had female friends pm asking for translations ) then no.

I need to be able to communicate with someone, at the very least about what I am looking for, like, dislike and simply there is too much choice, on here & in life; for me to have to work really hard on understanding a basic message.

Via text I have more allowance because of limited text characters; still if my message goes into 2, so what?? Most people are on free messages now a days, and even if not 10p to be clear??? Is that too much to ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the one that gets a delete from myself is the phrase "you's" or "use" when referring to us both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a sweeping generalisation on my part, but text speak = uneducated chav.

I'm dyslexic ,so have always been conscious of spelling mistakes, a few errors is fine if I read a message, but I have a mental image that if we met someone who text talks, they'd turn up in a Barry boy saxo, wearing a track suit tucked into their socks and a cap pointing skyward at 45*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Text speak is part of everyday life now

Also alot of people including myself are using smartphones with little keypads .

Not defending it but it certainly is not laziness or lack of education .

I have a degree in english and i use text speak !

The world moves on , sometimes we should move with it !

Although nothing wrong with old fashioned values .

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