FabSwingers.com forum: 'Smash that'

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm noticing this kind of exceptionally aggressive approach more and more frequently on here from guys, not just on here but on pretty much any other site where women are mentioned, expressions to the effect of

'I'd smash that/destroy her'

'Smash your back doors in'

Does anyone else read this kind of language, as being that of anything other than frankly, someone who has absolutely no idea how to approach women? Sure, I read a few posts here and there from women who enjoy being submissive and want to be 'used' to an extent, but surely guys must realise that such sexual preferences are highly individual and approaching all women the same way is most likely to cause offence rather than wow them with how macho and virile you are?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

It is slang really. Not sure of the origins, but it spread into wider vocabulary. And not just in the UK.

Many of my American friends (male and female) use the term "smash" interchageably with "fuck", "bang" or "shag". As far as i know, they don't approach every sexual encounter with that attitude, despite the use of the word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the term..Make love..more dishonest,after all how many swingers actually love the person they wish to Bang

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Slang or not, don't you think terms like 'bang/smash' are aggressive terms, and wonder why they're used in the first place?

Expressions like

'Show her a good time/treat her right'

are predominantly American also, yet sound so much more appealing.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

I agree it's instant delete if I get a " I'm gonna smash your back door in"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stick with 'fuck'.... No chance of ambiguity then

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

My gentleman friend is always saying he's going to destroy me its a joke between us. As for smash your back doors in, Keith lemon made it popular. I don't see it as aggressive at all

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Smash maybe. Bang i think is acceptable.

I personally find the term "shag" to be dumb.

At the end of the day, its all about context and location. If you were chatting with peeps in east london and said "making love" you'd get weird looks. Whereas "smash" is the term that won't make anyone bat an eyelid.

With all that said, i partly understand where you are coming from in your OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean...I may be sub but no one is going to 'smash' any part of me without a swift knee to the nuts! Plus my sub side doesn't come out till I feel comfortable with the guy I'm with so anyone assuming they can just come round and go 'at it' from the off are sadly mistaken.

Think a lot who use words like that though tend to be able to talk the talk, but go into hiding when it comes to and actual action! Same as the guys who can breathe through their ears but never seem to let their head go below the boobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexybrain...

So right...the second I hear stuff like that, I want to run a mile. My sweet pussy is wonderfully sensitive...

I'd much rather it be appreciated and enjoyed extensively rather than destroyed?!

'fuck' is ok, but how about a guy just says...'want to have some fun together?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I stick with 'fuck'.... No chance of ambiguity then

I had to Goggle Ambiguity i thought it was a new position

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yawn

Let's cut the bullshit and just fuck!

I love that word x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sexybrain...

So right...the second I hear stuff like that, I want to run a mile. My sweet pussy is wonderfully sensitive...

I'd much rather it be appreciated and enjoyed extensively rather than destroyed?!

'fuck' is ok, but how about a guy just says...'want to have some fun together?'"

I'm not the sort of guy who wants to put a woman on a royal couch, overlooking a sunset vista whilst feeding her grapes and fanning her with a palm leaf, but neither would I ever favour the caveman approach of clubbing her and having my way with her unconscious body either.

When I find a woman attractive, a big part of my desire to please her sexually isn't just for her benefit, but for my own satisfaction of knowing that the women and things I desire, are equally excited by and appreciative of me - harmonious lovin'!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I stick with 'fuck'.... No chance of ambiguity then

I had to Goggle Ambiguity i thought it was a new position

It could now be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexybrain...

So right...the second I hear stuff like that, I want to run a mile. My sweet pussy is wonderfully sensitive...

I'd much rather it be appreciated and enjoyed extensively rather than destroyed?!

'fuck' is ok, but how about a guy just says...'want to have some fun together?'"

I'd think we were playing tennis then going to the fair if he said that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexybrain...

So right...the second I hear stuff like that, I want to run a mile. My sweet pussy is wonderfully sensitive...

I'd much rather it be appreciated and enjoyed extensively rather than destroyed?!

'fuck' is ok, but how about a guy just says...'want to have some fun together?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexybrain...

So right...the second I hear stuff like that, I want to run a mile. My sweet pussy is wonderfully sensitive...

I'd much rather it be appreciated and enjoyed extensively rather than destroyed?!

'fuck' is ok, but how about a guy just says...'want to have some fun together?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My gentleman friend is always saying he's going to destroy me its a joke between us. As for smash your back doors in, Keith lemon made it popular. I don't see it as aggressive at all

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

I don't like the terms 'smash' or 'ruin'. Don't mind regular friends joking about it though

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I can't see the attraction of such terms. Both smack of the kind of violence right-thinking people abhor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't see the attraction of such terms. Both smack of the kind of violence right-thinking people abhor."

Define Right thinking, I tell Nette i'm going to bang her back doors in all the time..Its derived from a Cockney saying..Bangs like a barn door in a Hurricane,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I stick with 'fuck'.... No chance of ambiguity then

I had to Goggle Ambiguity i thought it was a new position

It could now be

Hey Sexy Arse ya wanna Ambiguate lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I stick with 'fuck'.... No chance of ambiguity then

I had to Goggle Ambiguity i thought it was a new position

It could now be

Hey Sexy Arse ya wanna Ambiguate lol

Ooo.. Who could turn down an offer like that!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I stick with 'fuck'.... No chance of ambiguity then

I had to Goggle Ambiguity i thought it was a new position

It could now be

Hey Sexy Arse ya wanna Ambiguate lol

Ooo.. Who could turn down an offer like that!!!!

Call me Silver Tongue lolol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its just peons trying to sound more macho

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"its just peons trying to sound more macho "

Probably, we don't get many shots at feeling manly these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its just peons trying to sound more macho "

Really ? i can assure you that i'm not a Serf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its just peons trying to sound more macho

Really ? i can assure you that i'm not a Serf"

a what? lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"its just peons trying to sound more macho

Really ? i can assure you that i'm not a Serf

a what? lol"

As for as I'm aware 'Peon' was the name given to workers/peasant in Ancient Rome, whilst 'Serf' was the term used in medieval Britain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its just peons trying to sound more macho

Really ? i can assure you that i'm not a Serf

a what? lol

As for as I'm aware 'Peon' was the name given to workers/peasant in Ancient Rome, whilst 'Serf' was the term used in medieval Britain."

learn summat new everyday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its just peons trying to sound more macho

Really ? i can assure you that i'm not a Serf

a what? lol

As for as I'm aware 'Peon' was the name given to workers/peasant in Ancient Rome, whilst 'Serf' was the term used in medieval Britain."

Spanish word/Definition of Peon is Involuntary Servitude = Forced Labour, same thing whichever Country it originated from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just find it a bit immature. Thankfully nobody has offered to 'smash my back doors in'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know what you mean...I may be sub but no one is going to 'smash' any part of me without a swift knee to the nuts! Plus my sub side doesn't come out till I feel comfortable with the guy I'm with so anyone assuming they can just come round and go 'at it' from the off are sadly mistaken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree it's instant delete if I get a " I'm gonna smash your back door in"

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phew!!!!, I almost sent that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just find it a bit immature. Thankfully nobody has offered to 'smash my back doors in'.

I'll wait till u've left the house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i thought peon was someone of low rank

anyway i see the term smash this and that coming from kids mostly. and noobs on muscle forums that joined the gym half hour ago

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i hadn't really heard of the term before the richard keys/andy gray thing where they used it in the secret conversations with jamie redknapp that got them sacked from sky...... but it does sound ghastly...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smash your back door in now thats horny...nette

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"its just peons trying to sound more macho

Really ? i can assure you that i'm not a Serf

a what? lol

As for as I'm aware 'Peon' was the name given to workers/peasant in Ancient Rome, whilst 'Serf' was the term used in medieval Britain.

Spanish word/Definition of Peon is Involuntary Servitude = Forced Labour, same thing whichever Country it originated from."

Possibly, lots of words in English, Spanish and French are derived from Latin, such as

Vigil, Vigilance, Vigilante etc coming from 'Vigilium', meaning watchfulness, and my favourite 'intervigilium' meaning sleep!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I'm noticing this kind of exceptionally aggressive approach more and more frequently on here from guys, not just on here but on pretty much any other site where women are mentioned, expressions to the effect of

'I'd smash that/destroy her'

'Smash your back doors in'

Does anyone else read this kind of language, as being that of anything other than frankly, someone who has absolutely no idea how to approach women? "

The first time some young man said he wanted to 'ruin' me I said 'I BEG your pardon??!!' with some indignation, at which point he went all mealy-mouthed in an instant!! In my opinion it's more about peer pressure/bravado than any real indication of aggressive intent. If I had the slightest inkling of an aggressive attitude behind it, I would instantly walk the other way.

I did once talk in depth to a dom guy who primarily wanted some real emotional intensity, but could not give his word that if I said stop to anything physical, he would stop immediately. 'But you want it' he said.

'Bye Bye Sooty'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

'I'd smash that/destroy her'

'Smash your back doors in'

Does anyone else read this kind of language, as being that of anything other than frankly, someone who has absolutely no idea how to approach women?

You're probably right, but I still think the attitude further reduces the opinion of single males in general in the eyes of many.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"My gentleman friend is always saying he's going to destroy me its a joke between us. As for smash your back doors in, Keith lemon made it popular. I don't see it as aggressive at all

Exactly. If I hear the phrase I just think of Keith and it makes me laugh. Surely no one uses it seriously?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they are horrible terms, destroy I particularly dislike. Im not interested in men who talk in that way, it's extremely juvenile.

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By *exystargirlWoman
over a year ago

Warrington

I overheard some the son and his mates of a couple i know very well, using some lads talk.

"i'd tap the shit of that, all day then turn her over and carry on. "

Then about 3 seconds later, as i'm just getting to my car "bet that peach is better to eat than my ex"

Why do it as i'm walking past, got only knows what terms are used on fb and twitter as English doesn't seem to be their first language lol

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"My gentleman friend is always saying he's going to destroy me its a joke between us. As for smash your back doors in, Keith lemon made it popular. I don't see it as aggressive at all

We are the same and we use "ruin" too.

I cant say if weve ever used smash your back doors in though but equally it doesnt bother me

. Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'I'd smash that/destroy her'

'Smash your back doors in'

Does anyone else read this kind of language, as being that of anything other than frankly, someone who has absolutely no idea how to approach women?

'Bye Bye Sooty'. "

About the dom guy-

He sounds a bit of a nutjob.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"smash your back doors in"...I always have visions of a carpenter trying to get more repair work in

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Smash Williams

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm part of a *cough* certain kink community website where comments such "smash that" and "ruin you" are a regular occurrence. Personally, I don't like them at all. I do see that it is slang, but even so it suggests something cruel and not in the the fun cruel way.

I notice too that it's largely said by dominant males to the submissive female, and very rarely are the genders switched. Not that I wish to ruin a male either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The children in work use that term a lot, personally it is a sign of bravado. As if they used that on thier missus they would get a left hook.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keith Lemon has alot to answer for! I find he is crass, rude and irritating. Therefore anyone using his phrase is going to have the same effect. Having some fun seems appropriate when you don't know the person but I love the word 'fuck' and like to use that once I know someone

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

'Bye Bye Sooty'.

About the dom guy-

He sounds a bit of a nutjob.

Yes, narrow escape I think - slammed the phone down on me and threw all the toys out the pram, so a temper too I suspect. Noooo thank you!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

You're probably right, but I still think the attitude further reduces the opinion of single males in general in the eyes of many."

I see it as a 'porn generation' issue myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'I'd smash that/destroy her'

'Smash your back doors in'

Its alright if you are Keith Lemon, that's one of his sayings, im sure he isn't like that really. but if someone said it to me in a message, would be block, delete definitely. just not necessary, unless as you said, women like it, then their choice, I don't judge anyone

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