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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've struck upon a recent trend on here.

I'll message a lady, she'll message back, we'll end up having a lengthy conversation over messages that evening or maybe over a night or two. We'll add each other as friends and swap pics and talk about a possible meet. Then one day you message and say hi and nothing, leave it a day or two and say hi again and message is deleted immediately. Anyone want to try and explain this? These are not fake profiles either these are profiles with lots of verifications. I'm not losing sleep over it as I just delete then from my friends but just curious if this happens to anyone else, guys or girls?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've struck upon a recent trend on here.

I'll message a lady, she'll message back, we'll end up having a lengthy conversation over messages that evening or maybe over a night or two. We'll add each other as friends and swap pics and talk about a possible meet. Then one day you message and say hi and nothing, leave it a day or two and say hi again and message is deleted immediately. Anyone want to try and explain this? These are not fake profiles either these are profiles with lots of verifications. I'm not losing sleep over it as I just delete then from my friends but just curious if this happens to anyone else, guys or girls?"
no such thing as a Lady on here mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no such thing as a Lady on here mate "

Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all the time .. ladies are the worst timewasters of all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't take it personally bud. People just click with different people at different times. That's just the nature of the site. Don't dwell on it. Stay positive, move on and have fun!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've struck upon a recent trend on here.

I'll message a lady, she'll message back, we'll end up having a lengthy conversation over messages that evening or maybe over a night or two. We'll add each other as friends and swap pics and talk about a possible meet. Then one day you message and say hi and nothing, leave it a day or two and say hi again and message is deleted immediately. Anyone want to try and explain this? These are not fake profiles either these are profiles with lots of verifications. I'm not losing sleep over it as I just delete then from my friends but just curious if this happens to anyone else, guys or girls?"

Strike while the iron is hot. Though you have to balance that with not being pushy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened to me this week with a scouse girl...got on really well..its looking good then nothing...vanished..really weird..but girls can be weird....its probably down to the sheer volume/ratio of guys to girls on here....end of the day..they get the pick...were just like sweets in a sweet shop Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no such thing as a Lady on here mate

Really? "
Showaddywaddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it happens but sometimes people just change their mind I. Don't think its personal just natural just keep looking

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"no such thing as a Lady on here mate

Really? "

That's what I thought.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Like I say it's not stopping me, delete and move on. I do wonder about the people that do it though.

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

I think sometimes at the start of an exchange you think "yeah, ok, nice" but sometimes the messages can turn you off a bit. I'm having that right now with someone. Everything was good but now... not so sure.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

[Removed by poster at 08/11/13 14:15:08]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no such thing as a Lady on here mate

Really? Showaddywaddy"

What?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've struck upon a recent trend on here.

I'll message a lady, she'll message back, we'll end up having a lengthy conversation over messages that evening or maybe over a night or two. We'll add each other as friends and swap pics and talk about a possible meet. Then one day you message and say hi and nothing, leave it a day or two and say hi again and message is deleted immediately. Anyone want to try and explain this? These are not fake profiles either these are profiles with lots of verifications. I'm not losing sleep over it as I just delete then from my friends but just curious if this happens to anyone else, guys or girls?"

Happens a lot. No matter what you do they will be some that do not like it. Ask for a meet and ignored do not ask and ignored, you just cannot win. some will say a nice no thank you after chatting for a bit. These are the one with manners.

Just take a deep breath and more on. Some men have manners as well after all.

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By *lliesCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Single women are bad for doing this, they love the pic sharing, flirting and even the naughty chat, but mention meeting, they either don't turn up or never answer messages... Be honest if you only want to be turned on say so.....

Happy hunting

elle x

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"I've struck upon a recent trend on here.

I'll message a lady, she'll message back, we'll end up having a lengthy conversation over messages that evening or maybe over a night or two. We'll add each other as friends and swap pics and talk about a possible meet. Then one day you message and say hi and nothing, leave it a day or two and say hi again and message is deleted immediately. Anyone want to try and explain this? These are not fake profiles either these are profiles with lots of verifications. I'm not losing sleep over it as I just delete then from my friends but just curious if this happens to anyone else, guys or girls?"

Happens all the time. I've lost count of the times it has happened, but I don't loose any sleep over it. I used to wonder why, but it doesn't bother me now

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Exchanging messages / photos does not always turn into a meet.

We have chatted with people before and at the start been very keen. Then they might say or do something that puts us off.

Maybe they changed their mind but didn't know how to tell you so simply just ignored your messages.

Don't worry about it....

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By *lliesCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

The difference is, fantasy V reality... They love the idea, but no follow through... There called attention seekers....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no such thing as a Lady on here mate

Really?

That's what I thought.....

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"The difference is, fantasy V reality... They love the idea, but no follow through... There called attention seekers...."

So if you change your mind for whatever reason...you are an attention seeker?

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"no such thing as a Lady on here mate

Really? Showaddywaddy

What? "

I think that translates into....poop and cock, I can get any

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)


"This happened to me this week with a scouse girl...got on really well..its looking good then nothing...vanished..really weird..but girls can be weird....its probably down to the sheer volume/ratio of guys to girls on here....end of the day..they get the pick...were just like sweets in a sweet shop Haha "

Now that is a perfectly good way to put it.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"I've struck upon a recent trend on here.

I'll message a lady, she'll message back, we'll end up having a lengthy conversation over messages that evening or maybe over a night or two. We'll add each other as friends and swap pics and talk about a possible meet. Then one day you message and say hi and nothing, leave it a day or two and say hi again and message is deleted immediately. Anyone want to try and explain this? These are not fake profiles either these are profiles with lots of verifications. I'm not losing sleep over it as I just delete then from my friends but just curious if this happens to anyone else, guys or girls?"

Yes it does. It happens to me all the time which is why I never accept a friend's invite until after we have met (if we clicked). No big deal, there are plenty of other people on this site. I usually give someone a min of 5 days to respond because work and life does take over sometimes. If he/she has been online past the 5 days and still no response....delete and block! I think I am very nice to give them 5 days.

Dont beat yourself up about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've struck upon a recent trend on here.

I'll message a lady, she'll message back, we'll end up having a lengthy conversation over messages that evening or maybe over a night or two. We'll add each other as friends and swap pics and talk about a possible meet. Then one day you message and say hi and nothing, leave it a day or two and say hi again and message is deleted immediately. Anyone want to try and explain this? These are not fake profiles either these are profiles with lots of verifications. I'm not losing sleep over it as I just delete then from my friends but just curious if this happens to anyone else, guys or girls?

Yes it does. It happens to me all the time which is why I never accept a friend's invite until after we have met (if we clicked). No big deal, there are plenty of other people on this site. I usually give someone a min of 5 days to respond because work and life does take over sometimes. If he/she has been online past the 5 days and still no response....delete and block! I think I am very nice to give them 5 days.

Dont beat yourself up about it. "

E eekkk! *checks* when I was last in touch with miss oooo la la

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no such thing as a Lady on here mate

Really? "

Could not agree more, wouldn't waste our time even to look for one!

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By *tuartb1970Man
over a year ago

tunbridge wells

I've had the same thing happen to me, even exchanged phone numbers and then it's no response to messages on here and no response to text messages

Does it bother me?

No

Life's too short to get worked up by time wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will never be everyone's cup of tea but you will always be someone's xx

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I've struck upon a recent trend on here.

I'll message a lady, she'll message back, we'll end up having a lengthy conversation over messages that evening or maybe over a night or two. We'll add each other as friends and swap pics and talk about a possible meet. Then one day you message and say hi and nothing, leave it a day or two and say hi again and message is deleted immediately. Anyone want to try and explain this? "

They changed their mind. Men do it too, we all have a right to think - 'Hmm, maybe he's not as hot/witty/perfect as I first thought now I've slept on it'.

Maybe life took over. Maybe they wandered off 'cos the hot blond from No 23 popped round and they haven't got the balls to say. But if that's the reason they always come back. I don't block, I just leave them to it, though I wouldn't message more than once.

However, if I have been in conversation with someone I agree it is damn rude to delete and not reply. In that case, fuck 'em.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no such thing as a Lady on here mate

Really? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had this happen to me a couple of times but i don't take it personally either. The women have so much choice here they can just move on if they think there is someone better around. You just have to move on yourself.

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