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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This week I have been contemplating giving up the swinging lifestyle.

And it got me thinking to why I have been doing it for nearly 15 years... What are peoples reasons for partaking in such a lifestyle?

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By *annameet6Man
over a year ago

tarvin

Serious horn!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tried the marriage thing . Tried the relationship thing . Both = Pain . So thought I would try this

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

to get more cock

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe its just me, but swinging isn't just about the sex! right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe its just me, but swinging isn't just about the sex! right?"
is it not ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe its just me, but swinging isn't just about the sex! right? is it not ? "

no far from it... as i say maybe its me that sees swinging as a way to be around like minded people, an opportunity to be open and care free about what you discuss and what you do.. i know swingers that do this more for social release than sex..

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

we visited erotica with other swingers we meet purely socially and it was a riot. it's great to have someone to talk about anything with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe its just me, but swinging isn't just about the sex! right? is it not ?

no far from it... as i say maybe its me that sees swinging as a way to be around like minded people, an opportunity to be open and care free about what you discuss and what you do.. i know swingers that do this more for social release than sex.."
Oh just me then

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"Maybe its just me, but swinging isn't just about the sex! right?"

I initially thought it was just a way to get my rocks off with multiple partners and a good way to satisfy my bi side, but I've been pleasantly surprised at the amount of social interaction I've had through the site - I'd still say 80%+ just sex though

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

Prude and simple sex, in all it's glorious forms xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe its just me, but swinging isn't just about the sex! right?"

I totally agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I'm single but have needs I.don't want to go to pubs etc and have lots of one night stands as I prefer to take my time and see people again ....but not looking to date anyone so all in all I swing because I need sex but there is the social side too

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I like variety in sex and I don't get it at home.

I like being able to chat and meet to like-minded people about sex.

That's why I'm here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"to get more cock "

Yes and some new experiences that push my boundaries, explore my sexuality and be a little out of my comfort zone.

For me it is not about socialising and meeting like minded ppl or making friends it is mostly sexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People swing for many reasons, including , but not exclusively.

they have been hurt and cant trust others.

only way they can get sex, because they have a personality disorder

damaged form a relationship or marriage.

don't have the time to put into a relationship

are trapped in a marriage or relationship because of children, money or family, or a combination of all 3

Too lazy or not motivated enough to end a relationship they are not happy in, so look for sex with random people, in the hope it improves their quality of life.

Boredom

self gratification

low self esteem

huge ego

big cock

freedom from restraint

fantasy

and you can add your own reasons.

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

I have always been a very sexual person and have basically been a "swingle" for a decade through clubs and various dating websites. I personally find I can relate to this community well. I found my people so to speak, so its not just sex for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just trying to indulge a few fetishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"to get more cock "

this the same for you isn't it Cheeky Rich ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because I'm single but have needs I.don't want to go to pubs etc and have lots of one night stands as I prefer to take my time and see people again ....but not looking to date anyone so all in all I swing because I need sex but there is the social side too "
This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We swing as we have an already fantastic sex life together but as we are both bi we joined here together so we get that side of our pleasures together without having to sneak around having affairs just to get some same sex fun.

We had a discussion very early stages into our relationship about what turns us on & found (luckily) we are both into bi fun & now been together nearly 10yrs & swinging for around 7yrs.

Just as well we love to see each other having fun too lol

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford


"We swing as we have an already fantastic sex life together but as we are both bi we joined here together so we get that side of our pleasures together without having to sneak around having affairs just to get some same sex fun.

We had a discussion very early stages into our relationship about what turns us on & found (luckily) we are both into bi fun & now been together nearly 10yrs & swinging for around 7yrs.

Just as well we love to see each other having fun too lol "

am I twisted for thinking this is ideal? Good on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We swing as we have an already fantastic sex life together but as we are both bi we joined here together so we get that side of our pleasures together without having to sneak around having affairs just to get some same sex fun.

We had a discussion very early stages into our relationship about what turns us on & found (luckily) we are both into bi fun & now been together nearly 10yrs & swinging for around 7yrs.

Just as well we love to see each other having fun too lol

am I twisted for thinking this is ideal? Good on you."

Thankyou, it is ideal for us, it may not work for a lot of people but we have an excellent marriage because we can be so honest with each other about what we want / need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe its just me, but swinging isn't just about the sex! right?"

We had a similar conversation at our local club the other night . For some it isn't just about the sex . For others ( like us ) it really is .

Perhaps we are not real swingers ?

Who knows but it really is about the sex for us .....we simply don't go out for a social !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe its just me, but swinging isn't just about the sex! right?

We had a similar conversation at our local club the other night . For some it isn't just about the sex . For others ( like us ) it really is .

Perhaps we are not real swingers ?

Who knows but it really is about the sex for us .....we simply don't go out for a social !

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Same here. swinging is about the sex side for us too.

We rarely do socials as we are meeting for sex not to spend hours chatting about what may happen.

Each to their own I suppose.

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"This week I have been contemplating giving up the swinging lifestyle.

And it got me thinking to why I have been doing it for nearly 15 years... What are peoples reasons for partaking in such a lifestyle?"

Well I guess it is just you, 'cos that's the reason I'm here

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Maybe its just me, but swinging isn't just about the sex! right?"

Not for me, the search and then the anticipation is awesome

Julie

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Maybe its just me, but swinging isn't just about the sex! right?"

Not for me, the search and then the anticipation is awesome

Julie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bored and was looking to spice up our life and now like you we are bored again .Swinging was fun but been there now years off and on and we like loads of other things as much. We can go months and don't wish to meet only our friends .

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

I (Mr) started swinging when I was in a sexless marriage as far back as the 80's. Then it was just for sex, pure and simple.

Since I got divorced I have had times in longer relationships that haven't involved any swinging, but also a couple (including with my current partner of 8 years) that have.

These days it isn't just about sex, although we like a lot of it, but we both fully enjoy the social side, and love the atmosphere in swinger clubs so a sexless club night isn't really a problem (but not too often )

I suppose we just enjoy pushing the boundary's, being a bit edgy, and if we're completely honest at our age getting in as much as we can before it's too late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as has been mentioned, everyone has different reasons.

For me personally, its a bit of an ego trip, I like people looking at kim and wanting her, and get turned on seeing them get turned on by her. However, we both enjoy the social side to a club visit, being able to chat to like minded people.

Im not sure id be as comfortable with it if i was a single guy because a big part of it for me is that I feel closer to her, its our secret and we like to talk about what we,ve done and what we plan to do in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're relatively new to it so for us it's about exploring new things sexually but as we do it for longer the social side will no doubt become a bigger part of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it for more interesting sex, I don't have to worry about saying would you like to try this like you do when you're in a relationship some times.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"This week I have been contemplating giving up the swinging lifestyle.

And it got me thinking to why I have been doing it for nearly 15 years... What are peoples reasons for partaking in such a lifestyle?"

To push and explore our boundaries

To enjoy group sex and do things that take more than 2.

For the social side, we enjoy meeting & chatting with people.

For the friendships...very lucky that we have built some great friendships. Some who we see just for meals / evenings out.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Because monogamy doesn't work for either of us, and sex is one of the great pleasures in life, so why deny yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I'm constantly horny and my FwB can't keep up!

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By *wo shades cplCouple
over a year ago

leeds

relationships = too much hard work!!! love the fun and friendships! not to mention all the pussssssssy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sick of being asked for sex on dating sites.

Had some fun and its additive. But its not a life style I want to stay with I keep signing up and off.

I know I am capable of a relationship and want the whole relationship not just the sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

need more cock, and most other things are so boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it was to explore our wildest dreams and fantasies. More so to share them with each other. Like others for us it's just the sex. It's only about 30% of sex we would say. It's more about connecting with like minded people. We don't find it an excuse just to bonk someone's wife or hubby but if we have great sex with others then that's a bonus. We enjoy the social side too. We have a wonderful and experimental sex life. But fantasies generally involve others. So if we can't explore them together and feel liberated and free around each other we shouldn't be together. It's not something that controls our lives like some. Connection is big for us. Respect even more important. Pushing boundaries is big on our agenda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Escapism

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House


"to get more cock "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have needs that cannot be addressed by toys; been there done that with relationships; no longer believe one man can tick all my boxes; too selfish to give up my freedom and independence for another person; etc....

NSA fun suits me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tried the marriage thing . Tried the relationship thing . Both = Pain . So thought I would try this "

ditto. No more pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because im single with a sex drive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope not for me it's about a connection made with like minded people AND then great sex!!

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By * pool 1Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

We enjoy a fabulous sex life with each other and think it would be a shame not to increase the sexual pleasure a man and a woman can experience together and share it occasionally with like minded people, we love the buzz and the excitement this brings.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

I started swinging for same sex fun and group fun, but found the social side to be a huge bonus, so do a lot of socialising now, with the odd bit of fun thrown in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sex is the most natural thing to humans.

but it is so frowned up on in the british way.

like all experiences, we like to share each others experiences.

after we have got past wanting to sleep with others to experience each other.

the social side kicks in..

swinging is a life of "Friends with Benefits"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This week I have been contemplating giving up the swinging lifestyle.

And it got me thinking to why I have been doing it for nearly 15 years... What are peoples reasons for partaking in such a lifestyle?"

I guess 15 years in it is quite a journey ....could understand as you questioning things but then again ....there's unlimited things to try and experiance regarding sex .....it's about opening up that imagination and going wild ....within reason of course ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because I'm single but have needs I.don't want to go to pubs etc and have lots of one night stands as I prefer to take my time and see people again ....but not looking to date anyone so all in all I swing because I need sex but there is the social side too "

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With one person it's fucking amazing. I love to watch and share. The connection is electric. On my own I think I'd give it up, as it can be fun but just not the same.

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I'm bi, I could easily be 'faithful' but with swinging I can continue.

We have fantasies we simply couldn't do with just the two of us.

We both very much enjoy watching the other enjoying themselves and turns us on ridiculously.

Obviously we didn't know in the beginning but over the years we have made the most amazing long lasting friends, many have stopped swinging but our strong friendships continue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs N says it's mainly to keep me happy LOL. Does that mean she's happy if I'm happy I wonder. As usual she was a bit enigmatic about it. I do it for ALL the reasons mentioned above and more.

It is a bit of a pressure cooker release I must say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We came into swinging by accident really lol but realised how fun it was and how close and open it made us and learned so much more sbout each other sexually we had a tight relationship before swinging and still have one now so far its all been fun cant say that we will swing forever but for now its all good are relationship still has the same values as any other non swinging relationship

But with a extra ingredient lol and we have met some nice friends its all about trust and love

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I like group sex.

121 sex does very little for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me its about the thrill, and about meeting people who are like minded and who give me the comfort to be fully open about what I like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best of both worlds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We swing because we are sexual deviants and proud and we flipping love it lol

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Because it is serious fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its horny and spices up a relationship.

you can also meet some nice people and make good friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A high sex drive and I don't do commitment , just love the buzz that comes with swinging

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I like one on one with men that care is that swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have made a lot of sexy friends here on Fab and enjoy the social side too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My a wide cross section of sexy people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe its just me, but swinging isn't just about the sex! right? is it not ?

no far from it... as i say maybe its me that sees swinging as a way to be around like minded people, an opportunity to be open and care free about what you discuss and what you do.. i know swingers that do this more for social release than sex.."

We had a moment like this; we were at a party and post lots of naughtiness we were all sat around naked chatting when one reveller suddenly pointed out;

"Where else would you be able to sit naked with a bunch of people you had only just met and then had sex with and be so relaxed?"

Found that quite profound.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This week I have been contemplating giving up the swinging lifestyle.

And it got me thinking to why I have been doing it for nearly 15 years... What are peoples reasons for partaking in such a lifestyle?"

We do it for the excitement fun and the hint of being non conformist but we do take long breaks away from it that can be months at a time that way it stays fresh. Try a break rather than give up then come back in say 3-6 months if you feel like it or take another 6 months if not.

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe


"Maybe its just me, but swinging isn't just about the sex! right? is it not ?

no far from it... as i say maybe its me that sees swinging as a way to be around like minded people, an opportunity to be open and care free about what you discuss and what you do.. i know swingers that do this more for social release than sex..

We had a moment like this; we were at a party and post lots of naughtiness we were all sat around naked chatting when one reveller suddenly pointed out;

"Where else would you be able to sit naked with a bunch of people you had only just met and then had sex with and be so relaxed?"

Found that quite profound."

it feels even stranger in someone's bed.....three of you, naked before you go home, chatting like your fully clothed and meeting somewhere normal

its nice when it ends that way though

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

It's about the sex for us - whilst it's nice to know people and be able to chat to them occasionally outside of the whole sex thing, we don't go to clubs to chat - we can go to the pub or stay in with 'nilla friends if we wanted to do that

I appreciate that knowing people at our local club makes it easier (and makes me feel far more comfortable) going by myself sometimes, but I really don;t go just to chat to people - shallow though it may seem, I/ we are there for the possible sexual content of the evening, rather than the social side. Sometimes the social side takes over too much - people are so busy chatting that it seems as though they forget what the purpose of a swing club is! xx

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By *dditional-1Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I am just not into giving anyone any commitment so swinging is the way to go.But in saying that I have met some very nice people and I guess give a bit of that commitment back.

Strange that guess their no emotional ties with swinging.

Sorry had 2 bites of the cherry then

A xxx

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