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Timewasters - do you get f*cked about

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We message on fab. We get a reply. We chat. Talk about a possible meet them bam ! Messages get read and ignored or deleted, how annoying. Not saying that we haven't had a few positive experiences, but we've had quite a lot of time wasters including being let down right at the last minute, does this happen to a lot of people in here ? I mean yes were looking for bi females in the SW & Wales area- can travel so we can go our if our way for people and then some people are just rude instead of saying sorry not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like attracts like, so far have not had any time wasted, mind you I am very selective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are new to this site and already finding this to be the case, seems there are one or two couples where the female is just going along with things to please their man or the bloke is doing all the messaging just to talk dirty n whack one out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've noticed that too plus pic collectors, men posing as women lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've noticed that too plus pic collectors, men posing as women lol "

Anyone wanting to collect pics of me has got to be seriously Dysfunctional lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess the best option for you guys would be to find a club close by and make friends there to see where it leads. Your right in the fact there seems to be a lot of fake accounts around which makes it all the more harder to get a meet and frustrating when you have spent time messaging and then nothing. Chin up folks and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've noticed that too plus pic collectors, men posing as women lol "

If you have 68 public pictures, I suspect that picture collectors are to a degree an inevitability.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We've noticed that too plus pic collectors, men posing as women lol

If you have 68 public pictures, I suspect that picture collectors are to a degree an inevitability. "

Haha maybe your right !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also think that when you are solely looking for single bi females the search is often a very difficult one.

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By *ptimum trajectoryCouple
over a year ago

gloucester

To be honest I would sooner be let down than have a meet with someone who had second thoughts. Focus on the good meets you have had and maybe look at your selection process. Use a series of steps to filter out the time wasters as they are always going to be about and count yourself lucky you haven't met them. Also remember that people back out for all sorts of reasons (all of which sound like excuses but sometimes people don't want to reply through fear of a reaction or just simple embarrassment). The message is don't let it upset you and when it's meant to work out it will and the experience will be better for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages are just one part of the process, sometimes they go nowhere, it happens - to me that isn't timewasting, it's more a selection/discovery process, which isn't always fruitful.

Going to a meet and the other party not turning up, to me is actual timewasting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The meets you seek are not the easiest ... a common thing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're looking for the one thing everybody else is - single guys, many couples and other single females!! So it will be hard work!

They do exist (I know one in particular very well! ) - but you not being able to accommodate will also be an issue as not many single girls will be 100% comfortable (or often able) to accommodate a couple. As others have said - try clubs - although you may have more luck soft swinging initially with another couple.

Good luck!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Messages are just one part of the process, sometimes they go nowhere, it happens - to me that isn't timewasting, it's more a selection/discovery process, which isn't always fruitful.

Going to a meet and the other party not turning up, to me is actual timewasting."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been in the scene for almost 9 years now and yes, had to go through our fair share of wasters too, but then we've met and made some good friends and had good times too

Whats worked for us is not doing any private meets, with people we've never seen before (blind meets)

Instead we have gone to socials, where we have met lots of people in a non-pressured atmosphere, had a few drinks and laughs and then got to know people that way

result: no timewasters, no males posing as couples and no stress

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's so true....you seem to really get on then boom their gone...I'd rather have a polite " Actually I regret to inform you, that after much deliberation I have decided to pursue this avenue no longer. This is mainly due to my own weird and unpredictable methologies so I bid you fair well x

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"To be honest I would sooner be let down than have a meet with someone who had second thoughts. Focus on the good meets you have had and maybe look at your selection process. Use a series of steps to filter out the time wasters as they are always going to be about and count yourself lucky you haven't met them. Also remember that people back out for all sorts of reasons (all of which sound like excuses but sometimes people don't want to reply through fear of a reaction or just simple embarrassment). The message is don't let it upset you and when it's meant to work out it will and the experience will be better for it. "

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