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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville

Just reading over a thread, you also see it a lot on profiles so thought I'd see what's going on

People looking for quality. How do you measure it? As chatting to potential meets, you have no idea if they can sustain a good fuck or are full of hot air until you meet them.

Say you do eventaully meet them and they are a poor shag - does this not count towards quantity? That what you are trying to avoid.

Am I missing something - say the quality of the person, i.e. physicality, wealth, education, class etc? If quality is measured in this 'material' regard, does good sex/enjoyment not count? Instead you are you happy that you have had a good looking notch on the bedpost?

As this only means you'd gladly meet anyone with those same qualities again, meaning quantity whould start adding up and up and up??

Hope you get what I'm meaning...

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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville

not sure if that reads as I meant to write it but quantity and quality are a bit like that exceptional guys quote that a lot of people use

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a point

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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville


"You have a point "

glad you can realise what I'm trying to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I despise the phrase...I hate the implication that because I enjoy meeting different people that the meets are of poor quality. I like some repeat meets and some one offs...all of which I enjoy for different reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You see this all the time ..

Pretentious wanabees in the main from our experience !

Wtf does it really mean ?

Not into notches on the bedpost ... not after shagging the whole of fab ... we have standards etc.......

Pffffffttttt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good point as sometimes what you think is a quality meet beforehand in terms of looks, personality etc can turn out to be far less than originally hoped - then it just becomes another statistic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question for the OP so does a quality meet for you have to involve a "shag" as you put it?

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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville


"You see this all the time ..

Pretentious wanabees in the main from our experience !

Wtf does it really mean ?

Not into notches on the bedpost ... not after shagging the whole of fab ... we have standards etc.......

Pffffffttttt "

I wouldnt put it quite like that but yeah lol

It is a bit confusing that - someone might appear all that they say they are on messaging then in person, its a whole different story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in my view quality over quantity means those who are selective and dont want fuck n go meets!

quality could be socialising/good convo/ sex/Unrushed with a connection.

Quantity to me are those who have meet after meet, week in and week out.And to them its just about sex and how much they can get. Whos free..even if just convinient!!!

Quickies in the day time..fuck n goes!

u never know how someone is in bed until you meet them, but there are many on here who are after quality time with someone as the sex is only a part of being a swinger!

those who come one here and do fuck n go meets and look for quickies... that aint swinging!or those who expect a shag yet put no effort in what so ever.

at clubs u dont just walk in..fuck and leave. its about socialising also, and sometimes in clubs people still go and dont even have sex. Its a night out to enjoy with no expectations, at which after chatting and having drinks if anything happens then sex wise so be it.

well thats my view anyways, though im sure people will see quantity and quality in different ways

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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville


"Good point as sometimes what you think is a quality meet beforehand in terms of looks, personality etc can turn out to be far less than originally hoped - then it just becomes another statistic "

what I was trying to say

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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville


"Question for the OP so does a quality meet for you have to involve a "shag" as you put it? "

Well it wouldnt involve being flown to the Bahamas for snacks and drinks (my idea of quality)

A shag is the outcome of a good meet, whether its a quality shag or one thats forgettable is a different matter.

Are you saying you dont shag, you get along with them and then that is a quality meet then?

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"Good point as sometimes what you think is a quality meet beforehand in terms of looks, personality etc can turn out to be far less than originally hoped - then it just becomes another statistic "

if they are quality I will see them again simples

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


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well thats my view anyways, though im sure people will see quantity and quality in different ways "

Exactly - people have their own criteria, which will vary from person to person, and whilst the cliche may not be liked, I think those people are just trying to say they are *trying* to keep the numbers down and just go for people they truly think will tick a lot of boxes for them, not just a few.

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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville


"in my view quality over quantity means those who are selective and dont want fuck n go meets!

quality could be socialising/good convo/ sex/Unrushed with a connection.

Quantity to me are those who have meet after meet, week in and week out.And to them its just about sex and how much they can get. Whos free..even if just convinient!!!

Quickies in the day time..fuck n goes!

u never know how someone is in bed until you meet them, but there are many on here who are after quality time with someone as the sex is only a part of being a swinger!

those who come one here and do fuck n go meets and look for quickies... that aint swinging!or those who expect a shag yet put no effort in what so ever.

at clubs u dont just walk in..fuck and leave. its about socialising also, and sometimes in clubs people still go and dont even have sex. Its a night out to enjoy with no expectations, at which after chatting and having drinks if anything happens then sex wise so be it.

well thats my view anyways, though im sure people will see quantity and quality in different ways "

As much as there is a social aspect to swinging, you dont have to be social to swing - plenty dont like to be ogled at in clubs and prefer to meet at home? The quality/quantity aspect would be socials, get alongs, drinks and maybe more as opposed to gangbangs, quickies and the like then..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree good point..I would be seen saying I'm going to do this I'm going to do that..because for some reason it could go bad..I've not had complaints yet..but there is always that one time..so I wouldn't put a promise there..not fair..nette

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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville


"Yes I agree good point..I would be seen saying I'm going to do this I'm going to do that..because for some reason it could go bad..I've not had complaints yet..but there is always that one time..so I wouldn't put a promise there..not fair..nette"

Dont know if you're talking about sex but good sex has to count as a quality meet. You wouldn't have sex with them if you were'nt attracted to them. And if the sex is tip top explosive all the better - but surely you only find that out after catching a few fish? i.e quantity

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all areas of my life I expect my life to be enriched in some way,

In work, friendships, sex, family,

if someone adds something to my life, I am happy, if someone doesn't, I would rather not have them in my life.

In my day to day life, once a year I look at everything, if I haven't used it for 12 months it goes, either the charity shop or ebay, or free cycle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes never been a bragger me lol..I have just heard from men on other sites about some saying we do this blah blah and not quite the same as they have written down online..nette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I count it as tempting fate if you brag about what you will do to a women - I just ask a few basic dos and donts - and then see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes best way airing likes and dislikes ..never portray yourself as the best fuck since sliced bread as it could go wrong..nette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have what I would call quality meets and majority of them do not include a "shag". For me a quality meet means so much more, but it is not until you get together for some fun, do you really know.

My instinct is pretty good at telling me if the meet is likely to be a success.And I do tell any potential meet if your expecting a "shag" then probably best look elsewhere as I go with the flow, sometimes it happens sometimes not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to make every sexual encounter I have quality

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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville


"I try to make every sexual encounter I have quality"

I applaud you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"in my view quality over quantity means those who are selective and dont want fuck n go meets!

quality could be socialising/good convo/ sex/Unrushed with a connection.

Quantity to me are those who have meet after meet, week in and week out.And to them its just about sex and how much they can get. Whos free..even if just convinient!!!

Quickies in the day time..fuck n goes!

u never know how someone is in bed until you meet them, but there are many on here who are after quality time with someone as the sex is only a part of being a swinger!

those who come one here and do fuck n go meets and look for quickies... that aint swinging!or those who expect a shag yet put no effort in what so ever.

at clubs u dont just walk in..fuck and leave. its about socialising also, and sometimes in clubs people still go and dont even have sex. Its a night out to enjoy with no expectations, at which after chatting and having drinks if anything happens then sex wise so be it.

well thats my view anyways, though im sure people will see quantity and quality in different ways

As much as there is a social aspect to swinging, you dont have to be social to swing - plenty dont like to be ogled at in clubs and prefer to meet at home? The quality/quantity aspect would be socials, get alongs, drinks and maybe more as opposed to gangbangs, quickies and the like then.. "

I just want good to amazing sex. Nothing is ever guaranteed as the proof of the pudding is in the eating. I have friends I socialise with, I don't want to fuck my friends. I'm very happy to chat for a few days/weeks then meet for a fuck and go encounter. Different encounters keep it exciting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Dont know if you're talking about sex but good sex has to count as a quality meet. You wouldn't have sex with them if you were'nt attracted to them. And if the sex is tip top explosive all the better - but surely you only find that out after catching a few fish? i.e quantity

lol "

If I only had sex with guys who I was attracted to (chemistry) then I'd be a nun . Don't get me wrong, I cannot do the fuck and go. I simply rarely have the full chemistry thing going on, but my libido is high and it takes over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"in my view quality over quantity means those who are selective and dont want fuck n go meets!

quality could be socialising/good convo/ sex/Unrushed with a connection.

Quantity to me are those who have meet after meet, week in and week out.And to them its just about sex and how much they can get. Whos free..even if just convinient!!!

Quickies in the day time..fuck n goes!

u never know how someone is in bed until you meet them, but there are many on here who are after quality time with someone as the sex is only a part of being a swinger!

those who come one here and do fuck n go meets and look for quickies... that aint swinging!or those who expect a shag yet put no effort in what so ever.

at clubs u dont just walk in..fuck and leave. its about socialising also, and sometimes in clubs people still go and dont even have sex. Its a night out to enjoy with no expectations, at which after chatting and having drinks if anything happens then sex wise so be it.

well thats my view anyways, though im sure people will see quantity and quality in different ways "
I agree totally with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to make every sexual encounter I have quality

I applaud you! "

you get out what you out in in my opinion. There will be some that just don't go well, but that is life. I have found that the men that don't want sex chat or pics before meeting are the most satisfying of men

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

it used to be a case of how many men could I see in a day now I prefer who I see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting clicking..and if the click is not there..no harm done walk away as friends..the shag will happen if all good..and if you do your best they will be back for more..nette

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By *unnysmileWoman
over a year ago

wakefield area ish

I think we agree that this is an adult swingers site...none of us joined it thinking it was a book club....

If everyone was honest about it we d all like select "friends" that are available whenever we are. That ticked every box, that were honest n trustworthy to boot...but unfortunately in the real world...to make friends, we have to circulate, get to know, meet (hence quantity ).. When we find quality...we have select "friends" , but as everyone has lives outside of swinging and can t be available at all times to suit, we look for further friends (hence quantity ) and the cycle continues...you don t have to play with everyone you meet. As adults we can meet, socialise and walk away if the chemistry isn t there...just do it safely

Anna x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I guess you need a certain amount of meets to find your standards, discover what you're happy with. Quantity to filter out quality. I tend to write a lot with people. Quite a few of them I will never meet, for various reasons.

Of those I do meet, some might be my choice for subsequent meets.

I need that spark.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

what does quality means? Is it possible to have a common and unique meaning of quality?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"in my view quality over quantity means those who are selective and dont want fuck n go meets!

quality could be socialising/good convo/ sex/Unrushed with a connection.

Quantity to me are those who have meet after meet, week in and week out.And to them its just about sex and how much they can get. Whos free..even if just convinient!!!

Quickies in the day time..fuck n goes!

u never know how someone is in bed until you meet them, but there are many on here who are after quality time with someone as the sex is only a part of being a swinger!

those who come one here and do fuck n go meets and look for quickies... that aint swinging!or those who expect a shag yet put no effort in what so ever.

at clubs u dont just walk in..fuck and leave. its about socialising also, and sometimes in clubs people still go and dont even have sex. Its a night out to enjoy with no expectations, at which after chatting and having drinks if anything happens then sex wise so be it.

well thats my view anyways, though im sure people will see quantity and quality in different ways "

I don't consider myself to be a swinger. I like sex with men in all shapes and sizes. I have no ideal man I want. What makes someone a quality person? I could spend hours drinking and chatting with someone and get bored and want to go home. Some one else I could have a quick drink with and want to annihilate him in bed. I'm not here or anywhere else in the sex world to find a social life but I have had a lot of quality sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Dont know if you're talking about sex but good sex has to count as a quality meet. You wouldn't have sex with them if you were'nt attracted to them. And if the sex is tip top explosive all the better - but surely you only find that out after catching a few fish? i.e quantity

lol

If I only had sex with guys who I was attracted to (chemistry) then I'd be a nun . Don't get me wrong, I cannot do the fuck and go. I simply rarely have the full chemistry thing going on, but my libido is high and it takes over."

I quite like a fuck and go sometimes. I think I'm unsociable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what does quality means? Is it possible to have a common and unique meaning of quality?"

Quality for me is a man who makes me feel wanted, desired, who can arouse me and who I can arouse; someone I can talk to and laugh with, feel safe with, be relaxed with, can discover with, explore with. Someone who'd be happy to see me, not just to shag me.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"what does quality means? Is it possible to have a common and unique meaning of quality?"

No, but that is definitely a quality 'enigmatic smile',haha, I had to say.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"what does quality means? Is it possible to have a common and unique meaning of quality?

No, but that is definitely a quality 'enigmatic smile',haha, I had to say."

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"what does quality means? Is it possible to have a common and unique meaning of quality?

Quality for me is a man who makes me feel wanted, desired, who can arouse me and who I can arouse; someone I can talk to and laugh with, feel safe with, be relaxed with, can discover with, explore with. Someone who'd be happy to see me, not just to shag me."

Sounds like the basis of good quality to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what does quality means? Is it possible to have a common and unique meaning of quality?

Quality for me is a man who makes me feel wanted, desired, who can arouse me and who I can arouse; someone I can talk to and laugh with, feel safe with, be relaxed with, can discover with, explore with. Someone who'd be happy to see me, not just to shag me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Dont know if you're talking about sex but good sex has to count as a quality meet. You wouldn't have sex with them if you were'nt attracted to them. And if the sex is tip top explosive all the better - but surely you only find that out after catching a few fish? i.e quantity

lol

If I only had sex with guys who I was attracted to (chemistry) then I'd be a nun . Don't get me wrong, I cannot do the fuck and go. I simply rarely have the full chemistry thing going on, but my libido is high and it takes over.

I quite like a fuck and go sometimes. I think I'm unsociable "

I can't because it takes a long time for me to climax. So I want the oral, the anal, the spanking... (& my toy ).

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"what does quality means? Is it possible to have a common and unique meaning of quality?

Quality for me is a man who makes me feel wanted, desired, who can arouse me and who I can arouse; someone I can talk to and laugh with, feel safe with, be relaxed with, can discover with, explore with. Someone who'd be happy to see me, not just to shag me."

Sound like compatibility. But without it you will never want to be with someone. Now we all have what to look for when talking about quality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Dont know if you're talking about sex but good sex has to count as a quality meet. You wouldn't have sex with them if you were'nt attracted to them. And if the sex is tip top explosive all the better - but surely you only find that out after catching a few fish? i.e quantity

lol

If I only had sex with guys who I was attracted to (chemistry) then I'd be a nun . Don't get me wrong, I cannot do the fuck and go. I simply rarely have the full chemistry thing going on, but my libido is high and it takes over.

I quite like a fuck and go sometimes. I think I'm unsociable

I can't because it takes a long time for me to climax. So I want the oral, the anal, the spanking... (& my toy )."

I did all that tonight, minus the toy, plus a little shower sex and lots of kissing. Was a relatively quick meet but a really good one. I didn't even stop for a cup of tea

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

What's wrong with both? I have had several meets with no sex but it was a quality meet but just no sexual chemistry. Doesn't mean it was a bad meet just not the right person for sex. I get on with pretty much every one and most of my meets have been of some quality.

I met one guy and had a quality meet then the next we had a sexual meet and it was not so quality. But being the sortof person that never really has any expectations I wasn't disappointed and just put down as an experience.

Quality Vs Quantity. ...........?

I say give me both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quality for me is a man who makes me feel wanted, desired, who can arouse me and who I can arouse; someone I can talk to and laugh with, feel safe with, be relaxed with, can discover with, explore with. Someone who'd be happy to see me, not just to shag me.

Sound like compatibility. But without it you will never want to be with someone. Now we all have what to look for when talking about quality. "

Yes - that's the word, compatibility.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"What's wrong with both?

I say give me both

"

Saved me a load of typing. I aim for both. My selection criteria allows for both (most of the time)

Both terms are highly subjective anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to make every sexual encounter I have quality

I applaud you!

you get out what you out in in my opinion. There will be some that just don't go well, but that is life. I have found that the men that don't want sex chat or pics before meeting are the most satisfying of men"

I've found that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Dont know if you're talking about sex but good sex has to count as a quality meet. You wouldn't have sex with them if you were'nt attracted to them. And if the sex is tip top explosive all the better - but surely you only find that out after catching a few fish? i.e quantity

lol

If I only had sex with guys who I was attracted to (chemistry) then I'd be a nun . Don't get me wrong, I cannot do the fuck and go. I simply rarely have the full chemistry thing going on, but my libido is high and it takes over."

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

during the cold war the ussr had a phrase quantity has a quality all of its own.

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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville


"

Dont know if you're talking about sex but good sex has to count as a quality meet. You wouldn't have sex with them if you were'nt attracted to them. And if the sex is tip top explosive all the better - but surely you only find that out after catching a few fish? i.e quantity

lol

If I only had sex with guys who I was attracted to (chemistry) then I'd be a nun . Don't get me wrong, I cannot do the fuck and go. I simply rarely have the full chemistry thing going on, but my libido is high and it takes over.

I quite like a fuck and go sometimes. I think I'm unsociable "

lol

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We will only arrange to meet those that we think tick our boxes, that we are attracted to and that share some interests.

That's what quality over quantity means to us. We have no interest in just arranging a meet with someone for the sake of it and to fill a quota. We like to find or wait for the right people to come along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We will only arrange to meet those that we think tick our boxes, that we are attracted to and that share some interests.

That's what quality over quantity means to us. We have no interest in just arranging a meet with someone for the sake of it and to fill a quota. We like to find or wait for the right people to come along.

"

Ditto but my impression of the OP is that if they fail to live up to quality they become quantity. That's what I agree with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We will only arrange to meet those that we think tick our boxes, that we are attracted to and that share some interests.

That's what quality over quantity means to us. We have no interest in just arranging a meet with someone for the sake of it and to fill a quota. We like to find or wait for the right people to come along.

Ditto but my impression of the OP is that if they fail to live up to quality they become quantity. That's what I agree with "

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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville


"We will only arrange to meet those that we think tick our boxes, that we are attracted to and that share some interests.

That's what quality over quantity means to us. We have no interest in just arranging a meet with someone for the sake of it and to fill a quota. We like to find or wait for the right people to come along.

Ditto but my impression of the OP is that if they fail to live up to quality they become quantity. That's what I agree with "

Exactly that. Wonder when they think the number of their meets dissolves their quality needs lol (devils advocate cape firmly fixed on)

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"what does quality means? Is it possible to have a common and unique meaning of quality?

Quality for me is a man who makes me feel wanted, desired, who can arouse me and who I can arouse; someone I can talk to and laugh with, feel safe with, be relaxed with, can discover with, explore with. Someone who'd be happy to see me, not just to shag me.

"

so very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm Happy with a Sympathy Shag..Bugger all that talking lark, when i want loads of chat il buy a Parrot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lolol..i have to point out that was the male part of luvesmuffin..not the female lol..nette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i'm Happy with a Sympathy Shag..Bugger all that talking lark, when i want loads of chat il buy a Parrot "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always thought it meant they are more selective and not here to fcuk a boat load of guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Dont know if you're talking about sex but good sex has to count as a quality meet. You wouldn't have sex with them if you were'nt attracted to them. And if the sex is tip top explosive all the better - but surely you only find that out after catching a few fish? i.e quantity

lol

If I only had sex with guys who I was attracted to (chemistry) then I'd be a nun . Don't get me wrong, I cannot do the fuck and go. I simply rarely have the full chemistry thing going on, but my libido is high and it takes over.

I quite like a fuck and go sometimes. I think I'm unsociable

I can't because it takes a long time for me to climax. So I want the oral, the anal, the spanking... (& my toy )."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes in can work in reverse, where you attend a club not entirely sure what will happen and hoping to play. You can meet and play with a quality person when you least expected it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it depends where you want the quality!

Is it quality meets?

Is it quality time with folk?

Is it quality sex?

Quality fore play!

Quality street?

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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville


"i always thought it meant they are more selective and not here to fcuk a boat load of guys"

But there's the question. Is quality who you meet rather than how good they are.

Could be the most attractive, well spoken and educated person to meet, but be a bag of spuds in bed. That wouldn't equal quality.

You wouldn't know this, until you have fucked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes in can work in reverse, where you attend a club not entirely sure what will happen and hoping to play. You can meet and play with a quality person when you least expected it "
i agree would rather have half an hour of quality to be honest than longer with someone selfish..it would dry me up lol...nette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i always thought it meant they are more selective and not here to fcuk a boat load of guys

But there's the question. Is quality who you meet rather than how good they are.

Could be the most attractive, well spoken and educated person to meet, but be a bag of spuds in bed. That wouldn't equal quality.

You wouldn't know this, until you have fucked.

"

quality would mean no rif raf, the sex can be average as long as they are likeable, not too stupid, extremely clean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i always thought it meant they are more selective and not here to fcuk a boat load of guys

But there's the question. Is quality who you meet rather than how good they are.

Could be the most attractive, well spoken and educated person to meet, but be a bag of spuds in bed. That wouldn't equal quality.

You wouldn't know this, until you have fucked.

"

That's bollocks young man...if they can stimulate you with their words and with their thoughts, imagination, openness, understanding...and most of all their honesty then sometimes the sex doesn't even have to happen for it to be a satisfying sexual experience!!

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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville


"i always thought it meant they are more selective and not here to fcuk a boat load of guys

But there's the question. Is quality who you meet rather than how good they are.

Could be the most attractive, well spoken and educated person to meet, but be a bag of spuds in bed. That wouldn't equal quality.

You wouldn't know this, until you have fucked.

That's bollocks young man...if they can stimulate you with their words and with their thoughts, imagination, openness, understanding...and most of all their honesty then sometimes the sex doesn't even have to happen for it to be a satisfying sexual experience!! "

Can you believe you have just written that?

pffffffft - I just spat my orange juice!

(and to say, as was mentioned before if your looking for friends - surely this isn't the place to seek them, Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"in my view quality over quantity means those who are selective and dont want fuck n go meets!

quality could be socialising/good convo/ sex/Unrushed with a connection.

Quantity to me are those who have meet after meet, week in and week out.And to them its just about sex and how much they can get. Whos free..even if just convinient!!!

Quickies in the day time..fuck n goes!

u never know how someone is in bed until you meet them, but there are many on here who are after quality time with someone as the sex is only a part of being a swinger!

those who come one here and do fuck n go meets and look for quickies... that aint swinging!or those who expect a shag yet put no effort in what so ever.

at clubs u dont just walk in..fuck and leave. its about socialising also, and sometimes in clubs people still go and dont even have sex. Its a night out to enjoy with no expectations, at which after chatting and having drinks if anything happens then sex wise so be it.

well thats my view anyways, though im sure people will see quantity and quality in different ways "

Totally agree with this.

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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville


"Eh? "

I'm an open minded guy, and I have tried one or two things, but I have never had a satisfying sexual experience - without actually having some kind of sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i always thought it meant they are more selective and not here to fcuk a boat load of guys"

But why can a boatload of fun not be of good quality? I am selective/picky whatever you want to call it and only meet those I find attractive...just so happens I can find lots of people attractive for lots of reasons. I have far more great quality meets than poorer quality ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alwais quantity, love to shag loads lol x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Eh?

I'm an open minded guy, and I have tried one or two things, but I have never had a satisfying sexual experience - without actually having some kind of sex "

Poor you!!

So because YOU haven't experienced it, it can't happen?

Maybe you should try 3 or 4 things more before you look like a fud!

Ever heard of Tantra?

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By *oodmess OP   Man
over a year ago

yumsville


"Eh?

I'm an open minded guy, and I have tried one or two things, but I have never had a satisfying sexual experience - without actually having some kind of sex

Poor you!!

So because YOU haven't experienced it, it can't happen?

Maybe you should try 3 or 4 things more before you look like a fud!

Ever heard of Tantra? "

So say you met someone familair in tantra but not adept. Would that still be a quality fumble?

and I dont mean to look like a fud - honestly, that'd just be the pits

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"You see this all the time ..

Pretentious wanabees in the main from our experience !

Wtf does it really mean ?

Not into notches on the bedpost ... not after shagging the whole of fab ... we have standards etc.......

Pffffffttttt "

I have to admit to smiling at the irony: people on a site for promiscuous people to meet other promiscuous people looking down their noses and taking some pseudo moral high ground towards people being erm...promiscuous!

Go figure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Eh?

I'm an open minded guy, and I have tried one or two things, but I have never had a satisfying sexual experience - without actually having some kind of sex

Poor you!!

So because YOU haven't experienced it, it can't happen?

Maybe you should try 3 or 4 things more before you look like a fud!

Ever heard of Tantra?

So say you met someone familair in tantra but not adept. Would that still be a quality fumble?

and I dont mean to look like a fud - honestly, that'd just be the pits "

No fumbling involved....just quality time, quality guy, quality multiple orgasms!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You see this all the time ..

Pretentious wanabees in the main from our experience !

Wtf does it really mean ?

Not into notches on the bedpost ... not after shagging the whole of fab ... we have standards etc.......

Pffffffttttt

I have to admit to smiling at the irony: people on a site for promiscuous people to meet other promiscuous people looking down their noses and taking some pseudo moral high ground towards people being erm...promiscuous!

Go figure! "

Now that's a quality statement

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By *izniz49Man
over a year ago

Hackney

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By *izniz49Man
over a year ago

Hackney

WHY CANT WE HAVE BOTH???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think we agree that this is an adult swingers site...none of us joined it thinking it was a book club....

If everyone was honest about it we d all like select "friends" that are available whenever we are. That ticked every box, that were honest n trustworthy to boot...but unfortunately in the real world...to make friends, we have to circulate, get to know, meet (hence quantity ).. When we find quality...we have select "friends" , but as everyone has lives outside of swinging and can t be available at all times to suit, we look for further friends (hence quantity ) and the cycle continues...you don t have to play with everyone you meet. As adults we can meet, socialise and walk away if the chemistry isn t there...just do it safely

Anna x "

Well done Anna,

You have summarized it so well.

Joe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You see this all the time ..

Pretentious wanabees in the main from our experience !

Wtf does it really mean ?

Not into notches on the bedpost ... not after shagging the whole of fab ... we have standards etc.......

Pffffffttttt

I have to admit to smiling at the irony: people on a site for promiscuous people to meet other promiscuous people looking down their noses and taking some pseudo moral high ground towards people being erm...promiscuous!

Go figure!

Now that's a quality statement "

Nowt so queer as folk as they say.

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