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Who is, and is not, a swinger?

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By *avensa OP   Man
over a year ago

Ballathreesome

Hi all,

I have just received this mail, from a couple, after I had a look at their profile and fabbed their sexy photos.

"cheers for fabbing, but I have news for you, you don't SWING you are not a couple and only couples in a relationship can swing"

When I went to reply, I find that they have blocked me...

So...

Is it really only 'couples in a relationship' who are swingers?

Thanks,

John.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

..netteIm a virgin..but on me way fast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

I have just received this mail, from a couple, after I had a look at their profile and fabbed their sexy photos.

"cheers for fabbing, but I have news for you, you don't SWING you are not a couple and only couples in a relationship can swing"

When I went to reply, I find that they have blocked me...

So...

Is it really only 'couples in a relationship' who are swingers?

Thanks,

John.

"

well technically yes, swinging is indeed the art of wife swapping.. however we all know that the single element in a lot of cases is needed for other peoples fulfilment. Don't sweat it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You will find that some people are horribly pedantic and like to stick to hard and fast definitions of themselves and others. Its a shame because if you want what someone is offering and vice versa who cares what its called as long as you all enjoy it.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Who cares. Just find someone you want to fuck and who wants to fuck you and get on with the fucking!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who cares. Just find someone you want to fuck and who wants to fuck you and get on with the fucking!!!!"

I like that thinking, you can be milk monitor next week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least I now know what Im not. Now I just need to know what I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You will find that some people are horribly pedantic and like to stick to hard and fast definitions of themselves and others. Its a shame because if you want what someone is offering and vice versa who cares what its called as long as you all enjoy it. "

Good answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At least I now know what Im not. Now I just need to know what I am. "

Do you need me to help you find out, lol

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

OP. I bet you are glad they took time out of their day to email you and share that information.

You must immediately close your account. Or become part of a couple. lol

I don't regard myself as a swinger. Just a women having lots and lots of fun. Xx

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By *zanyCouple
over a year ago

truro

We had a look at a women's profile and got a very terse message from her saying don't bother to look as she is only interested in single males. Now how do you know this if you don't read the profile? What is more why join a site like this if you don't want to be looked at on your profile. Fortunately most on this site are not like that.

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By *avensa OP   Man
over a year ago

Ballathreesome

Excellent replies!

I noticed that the couple in question hadn't even taken the trouble to have a look at my profile at all. So their knowledge of who or what I am is actually limited to them seeing that I fabbed their pics...

I know myself, and never really care about classifications as they rarely fit anyone in total anyway.

It was just the petulance of them that prompted me to share this.

I am so glad they did block me as I would hate to accidentally approve of any more of their photos. With an attitude like that, I wonder how they get on in a club situation or at a party? If they get invites...

Anyway, I've been swinging since the 80s, on and off, sometimes with partners(M and F), but mostly solo. I've been to clubs and parties all over Britain and I was at Swingfields I this year. So if that all means I'm not a swinger, then I suppose I'm not, but I do have a lot of sexy fun, for a non swinger...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You will find that some people are horribly pedantic and like to stick to hard and fast definitions of themselves and others. Its a shame because if you want what someone is offering and vice versa who cares what its called as long as you all enjoy it. "

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Who cares. Just find someone you want to fuck and who wants to fuck you and get on with the fucking!!!!"

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"You will find that some people are horribly pedantic and like to stick to hard and fast definitions of themselves and others. Its a shame because if you want what someone is offering and vice versa who cares what its called as long as you all enjoy it. "

Does picking car keys out of a hat still happen? Bit random but that was the image that was in my head in my nieve days

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"OP. I bet you are glad they took time out of their day to email you and share that information.

You must immediately close your account. Or become part of a couple. lol

I don't regard myself as a swinger. Just a women having lots and lots of fun. Xx"

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By *estfrienddaveMan
over a year ago

wellingborough

So tell me this, when that couple go too a club i bet they fuck singles as well! Talk about double standards!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"So tell me this, when that couple go too a club i bet they fuck singles as well! Talk about double standards!"

You don't know that. There are lots of couples that only play with couples at clubs. That's why clubs have couples nights isn't it?

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By *estfrienddaveMan
over a year ago

wellingborough


"So tell me this, when that couple go too a club i bet they fuck singles as well! Talk about double standards!

You don't know that. There are lots of couples that only play with couples at clubs. That's why clubs have couples nights isn't it?"

Valid point but you also get singles in to clubs so chances are they have played with singles.

Still on need to go off on one at the chap for commenting in a way by means of saying you like the pictures?

Should make them private if that bothered about people looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who cares. Just find someone you want to fuck and who wants to fuck you and get on

with the fucking!!!!"

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

You don't swing in their perception of swinging. And obviously not what they're looking for.

Swinging is a broad spectrum especially on this site of sexual awareness.

Some like wifeswap,bukkake,gangbang,female play,wankfest or just a shag.

Swinging is what you and eachother makes it. And respect other peoples wants/needs.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

OP: you got burned. Your options are now a) give up recreational sex as you're not a swinger or b) have lots of recreational sex anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all swings and roundabouts...

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

I dont consider single people as swingers....

And im sure all the single people dont give a toss what I think..

Just be whatever the fk you want to be!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You will find that some people are horribly pedantic and like to stick to hard and fast definitions of themselves and others. Its a shame because if you want what someone is offering and vice versa who cares what its called as long as you all enjoy it.

Does picking car keys out of a hat still happen? Bit random but that was the image that was in my head in my nieve days "

We've never experienced it but maybe it does somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Excellent replies!

I noticed that the couple in question hadn't even taken the trouble to have a look at my profile at all. So their knowledge of who or what I am is actually limited to them seeing that I fabbed their pics...

I know myself, and never really care about classifications as they rarely fit anyone in total anyway.

It was just the petulance of them that prompted me to share this.

I am so glad they did block me as I would hate to accidentally approve of any more of their photos. With an attitude like that, I wonder how they get on in a club situation or at a party? If they get invites...

Anyway, I've been swinging since the 80s, on and off, sometimes with partners(M and F), but mostly solo. I've been to clubs and parties all over Britain and I was at Swingfields I this year. So if that all means I'm not a swinger, then I suppose I'm not, but I do have a lot of sexy fun, for a non swinger..."

They may have looked at you in stealth.

Im me I do what I want when I want and with who I want and I don't need or want a label to tell me what I am.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Hi all,

I have just received this mail, from a couple, after I had a look at their profile and fabbed their sexy photos.

"cheers for fabbing, but I have news for you, you don't SWING you are not a couple and only couples in a relationship can swing"

When I went to reply, I find that they have blocked me...

So...

Is it really only 'couples in a relationship' who are swingers?

Thanks,

John.

"

Other people's labels never stick to me. I am what I am and I do what I do. I couldn't care less about what other people think. I don't live my life to please them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So tell me this, when that couple go too a club i bet they fuck singles as well! Talk about double standards!

You don't know that. There are lots of couples that only play with couples at clubs. That's why clubs have couples nights isn't it?

Valid point but you also get singles in to clubs so chances are they have played with singles.

Still on need to go off on one at the chap for commenting in a way by means of saying you like the pictures?

Should make them private if that bothered about people looking"

but again, why should they make them private when they are trying to attract other couples?

are you really suggesting swinging is for single men to get their jollies?

the OLD definition is just as the couple described, couples sharing/swapping, their partners, and as singles have nothing to swap, then they were quite correct.

however, as we all know, definitions migrate and this simply isnt the case anymore.

no idea which couple is the subject of OPs ire, but im almost certain they wouldnt turn a single lady away, but then possibly they would, who knows.

they may well just purely want to meet couples that have the same thing to share, ie, the object of their love, so they can be sure the other people have the same emotional involvement as themselves.

but why they havent then just stopped singles from contacting them is anyones guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to classed as anything, why fall in with the masses, and labels, who cares if they think you're a swinger or not, some some people are hypocrites,just be yourself dude and dont feel you have to fall into a category just to please others

im a lone wolf and dont really care what people think of me, if you like me you like me, if not so be it,

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"You will find that some people are horribly pedantic and like to stick to hard and fast definitions of themselves and others. Its a shame because if you want what someone is offering and vice versa who cares what its called as long as you all enjoy it.

Does picking car keys out of a hat still happen? Bit random but that was the image that was in my head in my nieve days

We've never experienced it but maybe it does somewhere "

Putting the keys to my Lada in the pot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not sure singles who only meet other singles are swingers. But more than anything I think being a swinger is a certain mindset rather than being limited to a particular relationship status. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not sure singles who only meet other singles are swingers. But more than anything I think being a swinger is a certain mindset rather than being limited to a particular relationship status. X"

but then, mindsets are different.

SOME on here want to fuck everything moving

others dont. want to see 1 or 2 people on a every now and then

what is the particular mindset you feel best describes a 'swinger'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who cares. Just find someone you want to fuck and who wants to fuck you and get on with the fucking!!!!

I like that thinking, you can be milk monitor next week "

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By *orn_To_PerformCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

From Wikipedia:

'Swinging or (rarely) partner swapping is a non-monogamous behavior, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.'

It's not really about wife swapping, but recreational sex with multiple partners. That's why we do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who cares. Just find someone you want to fuck and who wants to fuck you and get on with the fucking!!!!"

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

It's simple really. The people who are hung up about the definition of what a swinger is or is not are the people who want to be able to say:

'We are, by definition, swingers. You are, by definition, not a swinger. Therefore, by definition, we are better than you.'

Idiots, basically. Ignore them, and carry on having fun.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

I put real money on that it was the male that messaged you.

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By *avensa OP   Man
over a year ago

Ballathreesome

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By *avensa OP   Man
over a year ago

Ballathreesome


"It's simple really. The people who are hung up about the definition of what a swinger is or is not are the people who want to be able to say:

'We are, by definition, swingers. You are, by definition, not a swinger. Therefore, by definition, we are better than you.'

Idiots, basically. Ignore them, and carry on having fun."

That is my opinion. I would not like to meet these two in a club/party situation as their attitude really is not conducive to mutual pleasure nor a fun atmosphere.

What they are referring to is 'wife-swapping', a concept I find quite revolting, tbh, as it implies that the husbands are doing the swapping and the 'wife' is a possession that can be swapped, a very outdated attitude, nowadays.

For me, swinging is simply all about people who wish to have sexy fun.

If that be singles (M or F), like me, who have been bereaved or divorced and now have little interest in a relationship, or younger people who are perhaps in a busy career or travel a lot with work commitments and have little time for forging lasting relationships. Or perhaps it is a couple who have a great time in bed and want explore their fantasies in a safe and sensible manner, with people who they can chat to and then organise to meet, either in their own homes, the other's homes, a club, a dogging site or where ever they fancy.

The whole point is that it should be fun and an enhancement to what you have.

To be labelled as 'NOT A SWINGER' by someone who knows absolutely nothing about me and to make that distinction based on an outdated categorisation and with male-dominant overtones is of no interest or importance to me.

I am so glad they also blocked me, it will save me blocking them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And i can guarantee you that they were looking for a single female on their profile! Lol.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

my take on swinging is couples sharing each other going to clubs etc

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

on the subject of wife swapping years before I met my now husband he went wife swapping ... she left him for the said man and still with him years later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it called 'Wife swapping'? Why not 'Hubby swapping' or, 'gettin rid of that bastard for an hour or two'! Lol.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I was asked by a family member if I was a swinger yesterday. I told him I could not be as I was single. He just laughed and said but that just means you can swap more than one partner. You just keep swapping yours!

So in his eyes I am a swinger. I just thought I was a horny mare!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

They didn't even ask if you "fancied a fuck"

For shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am concerned by this thread...c'mon, I need a label!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am concerned by this thread...c'mon, I need a label!! "

Bio degradable??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am concerned by this thread...c'mon, I need a label!!

Bio degradable?? "

I do have to be washed separately

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I am concerned by this thread...c'mon, I need a label!! "

Fire crotch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am concerned by this thread...c'mon, I need a label!!

Bio degradable??

I do have to be washed separately "

Hand washed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am concerned by this thread...c'mon, I need a label!!

Fire crotch? "

Like it...shall I start a new thread?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I am concerned by this thread...c'mon, I need a label!!

Fire crotch?

Like it...shall I start a new thread?"

Go for it

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