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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A question for the single peeps on the site that meet couples,

I would think that for any single meeting a couple may be a bit daunting and nerve wracking? So what do you look for in couples? What makes you say " yes " I will meet them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've yet to get that far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's the same thing as meeting single fellas. You get a feeling for the people by their message style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's vital you get on with the husband as well, be it banter online or chatting in a social environment before play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get on with both of them, they are ok with my level of experience and both are looking to play...then when I meet in person, that their relationship seems solid and happy, and neither one seems to be going along with it to please the other x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get on with both of them, they are ok with my level of experience and both are looking to play...then when I meet in person, that their relationship seems solid and happy, and neither one seems to be going along with it to please the other x"

This. In spades. And not being pushy. So many bloody pushy couples who I have not even met because we get through the messaging and I get a text saying 'x is in town can he come over and fuck you?'. No! At no point, before we've even had a social, have I said I would meet you seperately. It's not that I won't ever, but before a social together. No chance. It's a shame because it can be off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they seem relaxed. If their profile lists desires and preferences like the ten commandments then it says to me that they're uptight and demanding. For me, it's unwelcoming and you want to make that person feel welcomed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid I always bottle it, chatted to some lovely couples but I get nervous enough meeting just a man let alone a couple so stays at just chat for me sadly, I would however love to gain the confidence to bite the bullet so to speak

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By *iceguy25Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

Well when I look for couples I read their profile to make sure im what they want and they are what im looking for

But a must is getting on with the guy but at the same time the lady as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's the same thing as meeting single fellas. You get a feeling for the people by their message style. "

Their attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet in a club so there is less risk for me anyway, then they know what they are getting and so do I, they have to be comfortable and so do I! If we get that far then all good! I don't think I would have the balls to meet a couple in their or my own home unless I knew them already x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get on with both of them, they are ok with my level of experience and both are looking to play...then when I meet in person, that their relationship seems solid and happy, and neither one seems to be going along with it to please the other x"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too look for 'balanced' couples, where neither urges or pushes the other into something they may not want... the balance between encouraging curiosity and pushing your partner for selfish reasons is quite thin for me.

I realise that I, as an outsider cannot always get this judgement right, nor that a profile can always show this but that's why I tend to meet for a drink first...

From a profile (baring in mind that most of singles just look for a whole , I look for relaxed tone, something that shows that the couple understands what they are each want and that they are supportive of one another.

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By *ust a TeaseMan
over a year ago

Earth

I normally meets couples for a social first. If we all get on then it may go further.

Ive only met a few that I didnt get on with so I left them in the pub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to see their verifications, see what they have done in previous meets and make sure what they have done is what I would like!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll let you know if i ever actually get to meet a couple !

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

all parties must get on chat , a bit of banter , before and after any fun uses have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a couple of bad experiences with couples I got put off meeting them. I thought I had done my homework properly but I hadn't so now I take a little bit longer to get to know them and look for those that are happy and secure in their own relationship first. Then the ability to not make me feel as if I'm just there for their own pleasure but mutual pleasure for all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a couple of bad experiences with couples I got put off meeting them. I thought I had done my homework properly but I hadn't so now I take a little bit longer to get to know them and look for those that are happy and secure in their own relationship first. Then the ability to not make me feel as if I'm just there for their own pleasure but mutual pleasure for all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question for the single peeps on the site that meet couples,

I would think that for any single meeting a couple may be a bit daunting and nerve wracking? So what do you look for in couples? What makes you say " yes " I will meet them? "

It can be quite daunting, regardless of how long you've been doing it. I've found the best approach is to get to know the couple a little, that means both of them. Exchange messages, chat on the phone and have a social. The key to having great fun is the ability to relax and make the very best of the opportunity.

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By *ymrocruMan
over a year ago

penygroes

When i met a cpl for the first time i was so nervous i could hardly get an erection. They are a lovely cpl easy to get on with, but why so nervous i dont know, met them again with my fb and i was the same again. Its getting easier. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always meet for drinks/meal 1st to see how we get along, i'm not a pushy guy so happy to go with the flow. My 1st 3sum was unexpected after a few drinks and poker which turned into strip poker lol. Next was planned and I'm hoping for plenty more. Get to know each others likes and dislikes in a relaxed atmosphere and chat in general too. Its been a while for me bt sure it will happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a couple of bad experiences with couples I got put off meeting them. I thought I had done my homework properly but I hadn't so now I take a little bit longer to get to know them and look for those that are happy and secure in their own relationship first. Then the ability to not make me feel as if I'm just there for their own pleasure but mutual pleasure for all.

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what were yr bad experiences if you don't mind me asking?

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

I do not meet them online period.

In a club if I start chatting with some one or a couple, you get a real feel how they are together, how bi she really is, you see them both, the male cant ask you to meet separate or without the other half knowing, (etc) and things are just much easier.

Online you simply can not tell, which is emailing, how they are together, if one is doing things to please the other and a whole host of things easily answered in a face to face scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question for the single peeps on the site that meet couples,

I would think that for any single meeting a couple may be a bit daunting and nerve wracking? So what do you look for in couples? What makes you say " yes " I will meet them? "

There was one couple that were really nice and settled my nerves in a very kind, friendly way. That is the sort of couple I'd want to meet. Very down to earth, nice and just.... cool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet couples.

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By *ick_u_nudeMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

My first meet from here was with a couple and a little something that helped soothe nerves was that they wanted me to take photos. And I'm a very happy photographer to combine 2 things I love a lot - woman, photography, skin, sex etc. It broke the ice very well because the woman was certainly not camera shy!

It was a terrific first meet to have the couple show up as planned and put me at ease and give me that experience. Certainly looking for more of same, but no camera necessary for those who don't want that.

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By *stmateMan
over a year ago

Notts

Friendly easy going couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not met a couple yet too many rules lol

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By *sa fun bradfordMan
over a year ago

bradford/leeds

I have met a few great couples on here! I look for honesty friendliness and a couple who are safe and secure in there own relationship and are happy for another man to enter there bedroom or come to mine for good safe adult fun and laugh and may be a beer or two!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet to find a couple for me, I guess it would come down to attraction, personality and sexual compatibility? It soon become apparent after a few messages if it is going anywhere. Mostly location for me as everyone even slightly interested is miles away :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont meet couples as only interested in the fella x too many single fellas to choose from to bother with meeting couples x now and again have played with the male half of a couple at a club but only if the dynamics are good ) have faced too many jealous wives to bother xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question for the single peeps on the site that meet couples,

I would think that for any single meeting a couple may be a bit daunting and nerve wracking? So what do you look for in couples? What makes you say " yes " I will meet them? "

I don't meet couples even through I do get messages from couples to meet them

Only single men for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No women want 2 meet me ( full stop ).

Oh, wel, God. loves a trier? lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like to speak to both,U can never tell how a cple is from phonecalls and text,they may seem solid and give a different impression when meet,ive had a cple argue in back of my car and a cple argue whilst i played with them

Thankfully it rare so wasnt Totally put me of,just think they both need to be clear on there boundrys and talk to eachother and trust had to be there

Mainly i meet in clubs and partys,seeing how they are together and with others give me a clue to what they are like and whether i feel comfortable with them

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By *sa fun bradfordMan
over a year ago

bradford/leeds

I agree with stubborn bitch I have had that also they need to fully understand them self's before inviting overs to join in!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Confident in themselves and their relationship.

Both take the time to understand me, or at least what i want out of the experience and do their best to put me at ease.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Friendly people as per my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look for a relaxed, easy going nature and not a long list of demands.

I also look for couples where I'm more attractive than the husband, just for my own vanity and ego.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A well stuffed brown envelope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me its gut instinct. If it feels wrong then leave well alone. However, if you get the swinging butterflies go for it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself and see were it leads its worked for me in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a boob lady so nice boobs do it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for me, in any meet, would be trust.

...the trust that I would respect their boundaries and that anything we have discussed has not been in vain.

Of course, from the initial messages you can tell if you will get along and if they spark your interest.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I've yet to get that far "

Damn!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't meet couples. Single men for me!

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