FabSwingers.com forum: single guys?

By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

Hi, im a single guy on here and I understand couples not wanting to meet and that fair enough but went to a club last night and was treated as if I had the plague by most that was there

I had gone with a couple that I know well and although next to them they seemed to talk past me to them and if I tried to join the conversations I got dirty looks:-S

Like I said I understand single guys aint for everyone and some see us as just looking to screw other blokes wifes/gf but we are still people lol

I know that not everyone views us like this but for thoughs that do why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could have been the fact you were knocking one out as you were talking??

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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

Felt like it lol if I go to a club ( bearing in mind I have paid more) I go there to chat and relax anything else is a bonuse but not expected same goes for for if I message a couple lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people just arent very friendly or welcoming. swingers or not

keep hitting clubs and dont let a couple folk sour the experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To save money and fit in try going as a couple, you can kinda move on when inside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy & snobbery on ( FAB ) my friend.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Bloody rude of the couple to ignore you and talk through you as it were. Keep going back and like the person said above, don't let then put you off.

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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

Thanx guys it has not put me off but just shocked that people that are meant to be " open minded " can have that kind of attitude toward people (guys) they dont know :-S

If im honest there wasn't many there I fancied but I would have still talked never know who your next friend is till you find them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

on a sex site no one is open minded, they are mostly very conservative and straight laced, each and every one is here for self gratification and have very specific requirements and preferences.

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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

"on a sex site no one is open minded, they are mostly very conservative and straight laced, each and every one is here for self gratification and have very specific requirements and preferences."

But still dont give anyone the right to treat people like shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its nothing to do with right or wrong, its about ego's and being frightened of anything or anybody new.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"on a sex site no one is open minded, they are mostly very conservative and straight laced, each and every one is here for self gratification and have very specific requirements and preferences.

But still dont give anyone the right to treat people like shit "

Like i say my friend. U'l get alot of " snobbery " @ the ( clubs ).

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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

Ok well as far as my self, I treat everyone with respect and im friendly( even to thoughs that dont meet my preferences) untill im given a reason not be and even then I just keep away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to start hanging round with the right couples. Or find a friendlier club as not all singles are treated like pariahs.

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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

"You need to start hanging round with the right couples. Or find a friendlier club as not all singles are treated like pariahs. "

Oh by no means am I saying all are like this just dont understand though that are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You need to start hanging round with the right couples. Or find a friendlier club as not all singles are treated like pariahs.

Oh by no means am I saying all are like this just dont understand though that are "

By reading your replies.

I take it, u didn't get any action?

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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

Well not at the club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well not at the club

That's wot I ment.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"some people just arent very friendly or welcoming. swingers or not

keep hitting clubs and dont let a couple folk sour the experience"

Keep on hitting the clubs, but as a single guy it'll cost you a fortune. I last used to go there as a couple, couldn't be arsed on my own.

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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

Working on getting a playmate to go as a couple ( any offers

)

But at the moment I go with a great couple

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

"on a sex site no one is open minded, they are mostly very conservative and straight laced, each and every one is here for self gratification and have very specific requirements and preferences.

But still dont give anyone the right to treat people like shit

Like i say my friend. U'l get alot of "

snobbery " @ the ( clubs )."

Think you said FAB haha sorry could not resist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Working on getting a playmate to go as a couple ( any offers

)

But at the moment I go with a great couple "

How did your ( couple friends ) react 2 other ppl ( of all persuasions ). Wen they new the way u r being treated by other ( clubsters ).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty of couples that treat single males well in clubs, even those that don't want to actually play with single guys. Those that don't are not worth the effort anyway!

I've been to plenty of different clubs, both as part of a couple and as a single male, luckily I've found the rude couples to be very much in the minority , so will keep on visiting clubs as and whe I can.

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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

"Working on getting a playmate to go as a couple ( any offers

)

But at the moment I go with a great couple

How did your ( couple friends ) react 2 other ppl ( of all persuasions ). Wen they new the way u r being treated by other ( clubsters )."

They wasn't happy and ended up leaving early

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Working on getting a playmate to go as a couple ( any offers

)

But at the moment I go with a great couple

How did your ( couple friends ) react 2 other ppl ( of all persuasions ). Wen they new the way u r being treated by other ( clubsters ).

They wasn't happy and ended up leaving early "

& did u leav with them?

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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

"Working on getting a playmate to go as a couple ( any offers

)

But at the moment I go with a great couple

How did your ( couple friends ) react 2 other ppl ( of all persuasions ). Wen they new the way u r being treated by other ( clubsters ).

They wasn't happy and ended up leaving early

& did u leav with them?"

Yer too shy still to go it alone lol not that I felt welcome to stay anyways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Working on getting a playmate to go as a couple ( any offers

)

But at the moment I go with a great couple

How did your ( couple friends ) react 2 other ppl ( of all persuasions ). Wen they new the way u r being treated by other ( clubsters ).

They wasn't happy and ended up leaving early

& did u leav with them?

Yer too shy still to go it alone lol not that I felt welcome to stay anyways "

Your couple friends & your goodself ( get it on? ).

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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

Not last night but its a regular thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not last night but its a regular thing "
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Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if you are too shy to go alone, then maybe you are too shy for conversing with strangers before hopefully engaging in a bit of fun??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we were at a club and there were guys / couples we were interested in we'd spend time getting to know them. Generally we only spend a few hours at clubs so we wouldnt waste time speaking to anyone that didn't interest us.

Don't get me wrong we wouldn't be rude but if you don't float out boat, the last thing I want is you following me to play because I've given you the wrong idea / led you on. Like it or not, most guys who receive just a little attention take that to mean a fuck is in store.

So would you rather be dismissed during chat time or risk embarrassment being knocked back when these couples are playing?

It's just another side to things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus you appear to have an expectation that attending with a couple gets you added benefits

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"But still dont give anyone the right to treat people like shit "

Now prepare for the best of it...one day you'll walk into the same club with a lady, and the same people who were giving you dirty looks will want to be your best friends.

More extreme still will be those couples who know you as a single guy, who will see you with a lady and think of it as their "duty" to "save" the lady who you are with from the "evil" of the single guy.

Seen it happen in the past and it's what you have to contend with out there.

Stay strong and don't let them defeat you.

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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

"Plus you appear to have an expectation that attending with a couple gets you added benefits

Like I said I dont expect anything

And I did try to talk with them but was shut down as if my head was spinning around

Maybe " shy " was the wrong word to use but I felt as if I wasnt welcome so who is going to stay in that situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well if you are too shy to go alone, then maybe you are too shy for conversing with strangers before hopefully engaging in a bit of fun??"

hard to converse with people who don't even acknowledge you are there

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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

"Well if you are too shy to go alone, then maybe you are too shy for conversing with strangers before hopefully engaging in a bit of fun??

hard to converse with people who don't even acknowledge you are there "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No Im not really getting it. But then we've been over friendly in the past and had guys assume it's okay to come follow me round the club. A simple hello to some guys means all holes open apparently. To the point where I've left my seat next to my partner in a social area to go to the toilet and been followed instantly, which is not nice.

No I have to say that with the experience I have, I'd sooner blank guys that I wasn't interested in than get hassled later on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I mean hassled to the point of not waiting to be asked "in play" and trying to stick their cock in one part of me or another.

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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

"No Im not really getting it. But then we've been over friendly in the past and had guys assume it's okay to come follow me round the club. A simple hello to some guys means all holes open apparently. To the point where I've left my seat next to my partner in a social area to go to the toilet and been followed instantly, which is not nice.

No I have to say that with the experience I have, I'd sooner blank guys that I wasn't interested in than get hassled later on. "

Well im sorry to hear that all I can say is not all guys are like that if it was me "hello" is an invite to chat nothing more the lady desides what happens and if nothing then at least I have had a nice convocation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes this is true. Equally there are some bloody great guys who never assume play is okay unless asked.

My favourites are the guys that you never see before play, who never ask , just enter the room and would happily stick their cock in my mouth without even saying hello. These are the guys that tend to push in front of the more sociable guys.

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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

Well if tjats what you like thats ok but I am a gentleman until told to be other wise but I aint going to just randomly shove my cock im your mouth, if I did that to every girl I met id be talk to you from jail lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well in our experience if your sociable and not pushy that's a good start.

Maybe the people you were talking to were after meeting couples only, which seems quite common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know why people go to clubs if it's that bad. Put me right off going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude I'd go there periodically and sit in a corner, a drink or something, and just watch intently. By doing this your face will be recognisable within the venue and people won't seem so hostile against you. I can guarantee eventually someone will come up and engage you with conversation. But be patient. I could take time.

Also make sure your body language is right and that your smiling otherwise people will think your creepy...

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

It's not just a single man thing. It has happened to me as a single lady and part of a couple.

Some people are just rude. Nothing more.

Most aren't though fortunately x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know why people go to clubs if it's that bad. Put me right off going "

Life's what you make it. I've also been to the same club alone. In fact I got less hassle that night to be honest.

I have fun 99.9% of the time but you learn as you go along.

Sorry if I've said anything to put anyone off. Clubs can be great, but you can't gO there expecting people to talk / play with you just because you've crossed the door and paid your fee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jealousy & snobbery on ( FAB ) my friend. "

i really dont understand this comment...

how is a couple not speaking to a single guy in a club either showing jealousy or snobbery?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reality is that the huge number of time wasting non genuine let down wasters Of the single male variety ruin in for the rest of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dunno about jealousy and snobbery

they just sound like knobheads from here

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