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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There is a lot of competition on here for single blokes. We're even in competition with other woman ha that's a first! My point is, how do you make yourself stand out from the crowd?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i be myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sky remote

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i be myself "

simple. be urself. u`ll either stand out or you wont

its not really something you can manufacture unless ur talking pics/visually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if you are your self single guys well out number the ladies and couples on here.

Think us guys have a really hard time on here. You take the time to write a lovely message and no one replies.

So please tell me as well how do you stand out because that's the million dollar question on here

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By *ittlemisspinkWoman
over a year ago

manchester

By not thinking ya gods gift an actin like a cock

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I try to be consistent and treat people of both genders and couples the same with any response on the forums.

I am also seeking nothing from anyone on the site apart from the banter on here or at socials, I am not disappointed.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"i be myself "

Yes and say something more than I'd like to meet, women /couples and show photos of your cock. Sorry I haven't even looked at your profile, just assumed it'd be standard for a single bloke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a lot of competition on here for single blokes. We're even in competition with other woman ha that's a first! My point is, how do you make yourself stand out from the crowd?"

You have a good physique and come across as intelligent, now you just have to be patient, persevere, and never sell yourself short.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"i be myself

Yes and say something more than I'd like to meet, women /couples and show photos of your cock. Sorry I haven't even looked at your profile, just assumed it'd be standard for a single bloke. "

Should have read your profile first, you seem to be going about it the right way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if all else fails. try POF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself. Accept that many people won't be attracted/interested in you and don't beat yourself up about it and trust that being true to yourself will gets results. Be honest in what you are looking for and what you want rather than cover all options. And don;t limit yourself to this site, meeting people in the real world at clubs asocials will get you noticed. And will get verifications and despite what some say that will open more doors for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I be myself, use manmers and am honest.

I tailor each message to the profile, I know I'm not for everyone so don't get upset when I don't get replies

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"if all else fails. try POF "

you have to pretend you want t relationship on there these days lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea, do whatever you want, if it works great, if it doesn't who cares

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Make sure all your photos are of your cock. Vary the angle of the camera if you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if all else fails. try POF "

It used to be an AMAZING site for swinging, until they clamped right down. I haven't been a member in years, but once had a steady string of great meets from there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is a lot of competition on here for single blokes. We're even in competition with other woman ha that's a first! My point is, how do you make yourself stand out from the crowd?

You have a good physique and come across as intelligent, now you just have to be patient, persevere, and never sell yourself short."

I appreciate the compliment sir, it was more a _iew of how people feel and act about this? I am finding patience is a residing factor in success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if all else fails. try POF

you have to pretend you want t relationship on there these days lol"

i knowww theyve really cracked down on the casuals

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"There is a lot of competition on here for single blokes. We're even in competition with other woman ha that's a first! My point is, how do you make yourself stand out from the crowd?"

A bod like yours helps...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I be myself, use manmers and am honest.

I tailor each message to the profile, I know I'm not for everyone so don't get upset when I don't get replies "

A good _iew mate like it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (fem) would say your profile is pretty good to be fair. You've got enough about you without an essay, varied pics, your profile shows you have a bit of a sense of humour, & you're a good looking bloke with a nice body.

So basically although I haven't been any help at all....keep at it, you're a step ahead of a lot of the blokes on here!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a lot of competition on here for single blokes. We're even in competition with other woman ha that's a first! My point is, how do you make yourself stand out from the crowd?"

Don't _iew life on here as a competition!

If you concentrate on your own activities and pay no attention to anyone else - you soon learn that nobody else can affect what you do in either a positive or negative way but yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself an afro.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry guys this wasn't meant to be a praise me post! Just a look at other people's _iews and actions on here apart from my own! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I (fem) would say your profile is pretty good to be fair. You've got enough about you without an essay, varied pics, your profile shows you have a bit of a sense of humour, & you're a good looking bloke with a nice body.

So basically although I haven't been any help at all....keep at it, you're a step ahead of a lot of the blokes on here!! Xx"

Coming from a very sexy lady that is a massive compliment thank you.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get yourself an afro. "

Very sound advice!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send a decent message and make it so your speaking to both parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (fem) would say your profile is pretty good to be fair. You've got enough about you without an essay, varied pics, your profile shows you have a bit of a sense of humour, & you're a good looking bloke with a nice body.

So basically although I haven't been any help at all....keep at it, you're a step ahead of a lot of the blokes on here!! Xx

Coming from a very sexy lady that is a massive compliment thank you.x"

She looks like a real knockout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you try too hard that can put added pressure on yourself. Remember this is all about fun and never forget that.

Swinging isn't about a popularity contest,it's about selling yourself but not in an overstated way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (fem) would say your profile is pretty good to be fair. You've got enough about you without an essay, varied pics, your profile shows you have a bit of a sense of humour, & you're a good looking bloke with a nice body.

So basically although I haven't been any help at all....keep at it, you're a step ahead of a lot of the blokes on here!! Xx

Coming from a very sexy lady that is a massive compliment thank you.x"

thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" she looks like a real knockout "

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't. I'm too short lol

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Be chatty. Polite In pm's. Have a smokin hot body that isn't coupled with a face for radio and in future offer to come help me with my flat pack nightmare!!

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By *igellahestonCouple
over a year ago

Darleston

We bribe people with cake...and boobs

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Don't say anything boneheaded on the forums.

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Be chatty. Polite In pm's. Have a smokin hot body that isn't coupled with a face for radio and in future offer to come help me with my flat pack nightmare!! "

Should I bring my toolkit? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't say anything boneheaded on the forums.

Have fun "

I just can't promise anything mate!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Be chatty. Polite In pm's. Have a smokin hot body that isn't coupled with a face for radio and in future offer to come help me with my flat pack nightmare!!

Should I bring my toolkit? X"

'Toolkit' eh? What's in it? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am at a point where I no longer care if I have 100 more meets on Fab or none at all.

This probably makes me unique.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"I am at a point where I no longer care if I have 100 more meets on Fab or none at all.

This probably makes me unique. "

It really doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am at a point where I no longer care if I have 100 more meets on Fab or none at all.

This probably makes me unique.

It really doesn't. "

I'm as entitled to my own deluded world _iew as anyone else here!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am at a point where I no longer care if I have 100 more meets on Fab or none at all.

This probably makes me unique.

It really doesn't.

I'm as entitled to my own deluded world _iew as anyone else here! "

You can come to therapy with me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am at a point where I no longer care if I have 100 more meets on Fab or none at all.

This probably makes me unique.

It really doesn't.

I'm as entitled to my own deluded world _iew as anyone else here!

You can come to therapy with me!!! "

Do you think they'll give us a discount if there's two of us?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

red hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My 15" long deodorant can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I be myself, use manmers and am honest.

I tailor each message to the profile, I know I'm not for everyone so don't get upset when I don't get replies

A good _iew mate like it! "

And it works! lol

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

I find a username can make a big difference....Its a start at least

"Dirty Talker" would put me off...

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I find a username can make a big difference....Its a start at least

"Dirty Talker" would put me off... "

Does put an idea in mind doesn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am at a point where I no longer care if I have 100 more meets on Fab or none at all.

This probably makes me unique.

It really doesn't.

I'm as entitled to my own deluded world _iew as anyone else here!

You can come to therapy with me!!!

Do you think they'll give us a discount if there's two of us? "

Yeah like a BOGOF deal? Ill be the fruit you can be the nut!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find a username can make a big difference....Its a start at least

"Dirty Talker" would put me off... "

Oh dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find a username can make a big difference....Its a start at least

"Dirty Talker" would put me off... "

I think it makes a nice change to "cockmatchesaskyremote" or similar.

best one i saw so far is "crapshag"!! I'm not a fan of people being called "sexy"this or "fit"that, its unoriginal and quite often untrue! haha xx

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

good banter helps .. like femmefatale minxie lickety cheeky moody floro .. they sound like the spice girls lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send a decent message and make it so your speaking to both parties. "

There nothing more off putting then hi how are you chick , I just come across your profile and thought ill message you, fancy getting to know each other do you play alone love, or hubby with you

Sent cock pic

Grrr they do my nuts in them messages

Specily when I open them

Chris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ur pics are really good op,there teasing and show good sense of humour and not full of cock pics at diff angles,most gals wanna c a fit body teasing them

Good luck

P.s I didn't read was pic peeking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only way to stand out online is to have a life outside of it , be it socials or attending clubs etc - word will spread if you are a decent guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont send this msg

"im looking for a get in get out fuck katie"

just got that. my name is not fucking katie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send the most dullest messages. It is surreal. Too much time spent reading their profile or status update.

...i should just copy and paste. At.least i would get some sort of reply lol maybe even a flirtual slap..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be sociable

Be nice

Be respectful

Be polite

Funny, witty, down to earth all work well

Go to social meets

Go to clubs or parties in your area

Above all be patient.

You will get lots of your messages deleted with no reply. Dont fret, just accept and move on.

You will get a few of your messages replied to but rejected. Accept and move on.

But with perseverance, you will get a positive reply and then your off and running.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can red bull

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Be sociable

Be nice

Be respectful

Be polite

Funny, witty, down to earth all work well

Go to social meets

Go to clubs or parties in your area

Above all be patient.

You will get lots of your messages deleted with no reply. Dont fret, just accept and move on.

You will get a few of your messages replied to but rejected. Accept and move on.

But with perseverance, you will get a positive reply and then your off and running. "

That is a good point of _iew I like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a lot of competition on here for single blokes. We're even in competition with other woman ha that's a first! My point is, how do you make yourself stand out from the crowd?"

single guys need patience, stamina and dogged resistance with a sense of humour and although it may seem counter productive for a swingers site, tone down on over explicit sexual content/banter

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I manage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

meeting in person like someone else mentioned is always gonna be the best approach. clubs n socials is where all noobies should start

onhere you gotta play ping pong messages for a week to get a pic out of someone to then find you arent attracted to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a lot of competition on here for single blokes. We're even in competition with other woman ha that's a first! My point is, how do you make yourself stand out from the crowd?"

Helps to be tall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You might stand out for all the wrong reasons you know. But I'll just be myself and do what I'm comfortable with. Not every woman here is gonna like me or my profile, no matter how hard i try so i say just do what you want. Some women like a cocky and arrogant approach, some like a respectful one etc

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