FabSwingers.com forum: Relationships

By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Ive decided not to meet anyone else on fab, as i would prefer a realtionship and highly unlikely gona find that with someone on here am i

Just staying on for chat but being honest from the start im not looking to meet, i do get pissed off though when people say its a shame am not meeting as im hot, am i daft for being offended by this lol, but if im that hot (which i personally dont think) then surely i deserve someone to not just want one thing from me????

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Ive decided not to meet anyone else on fab, as i would prefer a realtionship and highly unlikely gona find that with someone on here am i

'no strings attached sex' is at the heart of this site, some want more and that is cool, many just want sex and go.

I think you are being daft at being offended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive decided not to meet anyone else on fab, as i would prefer a realtionship and highly unlikely gona find that with someone on here am i

Just do what you feel right: sometimes you want meaningless sex, sometimes you want more... If you feel like being in a relationship right now, it's entirely up to you (no matter how much of a shame people say it is)

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

It will happen when the time is right and when the right person comes along....you are young so in the mean time just live life and have fun....don't look too hard it will happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive decided not to meet anyone else on fab, as i would prefer a realtionship and highly unlikely gona find that with someone on here am i

Use this site to benefit you and don't worry about others think. Just maintain your honesty and if you haven't already, then state on your profile.

Another idea is to hide your profile.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

There are more than a few peeps who have met through fab.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

The people who are mailing you are not looking for what you are so why be offended that they are after NSA sex on a site where you can find just that.

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

Steph, I do know what you mean! I changed my profile last week to say something similar and get men telling me I can't leave til I have met them, but I don't let it bother me as after all it is a swinging site. I just yawn and hit delete!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Man totally on the wrong site

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Man totally on the wrong site "

Why am i?

Im just chatting not meeting so why is that so wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant see why you would be pissed off that people are saying its a shame, this is a swingers site after all, people are primarily here for no strings sex (not everyone i know but the majority join for that reason) If your looking for a relationship then good luck

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Steph, I do know what you mean! I changed my profile last week to say something similar and get men telling me I can't leave til I have met them, but I don't let it bother me as after all it is a swinging site. I just yawn and hit delete!"

Lol good idea

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Cant see why you would be pissed off that people are saying its a shame, this is a swingers site after all, people are primarily here for no strings sex (not everyone i know but the majority join for that reason) If your looking for a relationship then good luck"

I do get that, and know most on here are on just for that hence why am not trying to meet people for a relationship from the site, its just when i tell them this they try and convince me just to meet them which i find a bit annoying as they arent respecting what i want and there are plenty others on the site who are actually meeting and want nsa fun

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"The people who are mailing you are not looking for what you are so why be offended that they are after NSA sex on a site where you can find just that."

Coz they are messagin someone who clearly states thats what they dont want, to try and change that persons mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be offended, you have to do what feels right for you, it will happen when the time is right

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"It will happen when the time is right and when the right person comes along....you are young so in the mean time just live life and have fun....don't look too hard it will happen.

I feel like am getting old to still be messing around lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There will always be someone who will want to criticize you. Their not worth worrying about. This site is sex based, but at some point we all want a relationship that makes us feel more. There are good genuine people here, diamonds amongst the rough, and to be fair, no matter where you look you will always have to deal with idiots.

Just be honest with yourself and those around you, enjoy your time and the friends you've made here and that person you want will arrive when the time is right. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if they aren't respecting your wishes then block them, you can choose to use the site however you want, but maybe hide your profile to stop those unwanted messages :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will happen when the time is right and when the right person comes along....you are young so in the mean time just live life and have fun....don't look too hard it will happen.

I feel like am getting old to still be messing around lol"

Age is just a number. It doesn't determine connection, or maturity. Your young, pretty and confident. You have nothing to be concerned about. X

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"The people who are mailing you are not looking for what you are so why be offended that they are after NSA sex on a site where you can find just that."

. This!

It's not a dating site so I wouldn't get offended that people said its a shame that I'm not meeting. I get it now and then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive decided not to meet anyone else on fab, as i would prefer a realtionship and highly unlikely gona find that with someone on here am i

I met my ex partner (who was quite possibly my soul mate) on this site and we had 3 amazing years together but had to separate due to other overriding factors. We were both on the site as singles and she and I had no intention to fall for each other but it did. Not only that we were totally head over heels and crazy for each other!

We were both on here as singles but had no intentions looking for a relationship here.

IMO I think this is the wrong website to look for a partner/relationship as I think you will find it hard to come across a single guy with the same outlook.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"It will happen when the time is right and when the right person comes along....you are young so in the mean time just live life and have fun....don't look too hard it will happen.

I feel like am getting old to still be messing around lol

Its not just a number when u want a few babies and the biological clock is ticking hahaha

Age is just a number. It doesn't determine connection, or maturity. Your young, pretty and confident. You have nothing to be concerned about. X"

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Ive decided not to meet anyone else on fab, as i would prefer a realtionship and highly unlikely gona find that with someone on here am i

We were both on here as singles but had no intentions looking for a relationship here.

IMO I think this is the wrong website to look for a partner/relationship as I think you will find it hard to come across a single guy with the same outlook.

Thats lovely

But uv not read what i said i have said i am NOT looking for a partner from this site??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well its a good place to chat, when u change yer mind gives a shag...

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"The people who are mailing you are not looking for what you are so why be offended that they are after NSA sex on a site where you can find just that.

Coz they are messagin someone who clearly states thats what they dont want, to try and change that persons mind "

It is the nature of the game, people try their hand.

Use your filters and only mail the people you want to chat to.

http://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"well its a good place to chat, when u change yer mind gives a shag...

Ok i will when its my next fertile date and u end up with a baby hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well its a good place to chat, when u change yer mind gives a shag...

Ok i will when its my next fertile date and u end up with a baby hahahaha

funny u should say that,, cos with my great looks and personality and ur..

och well, at least we have something hehehe

*serious note, some use the site for no strings sex, and thats all...however some of us can do the other aspects of the scene, as in spending time , doing unsexual things...arranging meets with no expectations other than having some company...of course theres always a sexual aspect going on...so stephanie if u fancy a meet I'm ur man....I might however wank in ur panties drawer when ur in the loo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive decided not to meet anyone else on fab, as i would prefer a realtionship and highly unlikely gona find that with someone on here am i

We were both on here as singles but had no intentions looking for a relationship here.

IMO I think this is the wrong website to look for a partner/relationship as I think you will find it hard to come across a single guy with the same outlook.

Thats lovely

But uv not read what i said i have said i am NOT looking for a partner from this site??"

Uch am on the nightshift! Geeze peace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well its a good place to chat, when u change yer mind gives a shag...

Ok i will when its my next fertile date and u end up with a baby hahahaha

funny u should say that,, cos with my great looks and personality and ur..

och well, at least we have something hehehe

I was waiting for the punch line, and Keen, you didn't disappoint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't have to justify being on here to anyone,no matter what your intentions. If you don't want unwanted attention hiding your profile is ideal.

However blocking all single males will be even more fun,as they can look but not message you. The ultimate cock tease if you like and pisses them off even more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well its a good place to chat, when u change yer mind gives a shag...

Ok i will when its my next fertile date and u end up with a baby hahahaha

funny u should say that,, cos with my great looks and personality and ur..

och well, at least we have something hehehe

I was waiting for the punch line, and Keen, you didn't disappoint

I fail to see the joke...I bet she has tasty wankable knickers in her drawers

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Usually on this site "your hot" means i want to shag you,not i want to get into a relationship with you. That is generally what this site is for nsa but relationships can happen. It is a silly thing to get offended by on a swinging site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My tips- delete everything off your 'looking for' list and you won't show up on the searches. Also delete the text from your profile because it still says you're looking. That way you won't be bothered by people. No need for filters. Have fun. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesnt really say you are no longer meeting on your profile..just a long list of reasons for not messaging.

Maybe this is sending mixed messages?

Delete your profile text and write 'not meeting' put all filters on and hopefully you will get no messages at all

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Usually on this site "your hot" means i want to shag you,not i want to get into a relationship with you. That is generally what this site is for nsa but relationships can happen. It is a silly thing to get offended by on a swinging site"

Sorry i dont see the relevance of any of this lol i never said them saying im hot means i want a relationship?and i juat get offended by people clearly not respectin my wishes thats all

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"It doesnt really say you are no longer meeting on your profile..just a long list of reasons for not messaging.

Maybe this is sending mixed messages?

Delete your profile text and write 'not meeting' put all filters on and hopefully you will get no messages at all

Suppose thats a good idea, but i do have written on my status im not meeting so maybe thats not enough lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only people reading this thread would know what you are really looking for. As others have said time for a profile rewrite or hide for a while.

As for being offended I can't see why your on a swingers site people will want to swing with you.

Wayne

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesnt really say you are no longer meeting on your profile..just a long list of reasons for not messaging.

Maybe this is sending mixed messages?

Delete your profile text and write 'not meeting' put all filters on and hopefully you will get no messages at all

Suppose thats a good idea, but i do have written on my status im not meeting so maybe thats not enough lol"

but am a channnnnnnnnnncaa

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

" but i do have written on my status im not meeting so maybe thats not enough lol"

it should be, it will never be

you know that as it has been mentioned on many threads that a good few people don't read profiles.

that is why filters minimise it.

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By *exystargirlWoman
over a year ago

Warrington

At least with fabs you know what you'll get. the likes of plenty of fish and match are even worse and they are dating websites.

But do understand your mindset as after a while, as the emotional side isn't there. Some can handle that side, got to be head strong.

I know someone who came into work stating she was seeing someone, how great he was, out of meals, has a villa in Spain and he skydives... oh he's 15th in the world. But the Villa and his skydiving didn't impress her it was a nice bonus

So finding out after he disappeared and a girly team name search online to find his bebo account, then learn he was a bin-man from Crewe and his skydiving was a 30th birthday present.

These sites make out that they can find you a perfect match, but instead you are nothing more than selling yourself, everything is bare. What you want, looking for, how much they earn, if they have a house, eduction level, boxer size and if they fart in bed.

Dating should be keep to the real world, not online in my _iew.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Only people reading this thread would know what you are really looking for. As others have said time for a profile rewrite or hide for a while.

As for being offended I can't see why your on a swingers site people will want to swing with you.

Wayne

Or if they read the status on my profile they will also know

i have taken the advice and re written just to clear up

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"At least with fabs you know what you'll get. the likes of plenty of fish and match are even worse and they are dating websites.

But do understand your mindset as after a while, as the emotional side isn't there. Some can handle that side, got to be head strong.

So finding out after he disappeared and a girly team name search online to find his bebo account, then learn he was a bin-man from Crewe and his skydiving was a 30th birthday present.

Dating should be keep to the real world, not online in my _iew.

I see your point but many meet online these days and are happy including my sister and a few friends so it is possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as others have mentioned, your 'complaint' can be easily dealt with. not by posting here about it but by closing your profile to contact from others by using the appropriate filters, removing your criteria on your profile or as suggested also, hiding it and basically taking control of any contacts in the future then you will not get the messages that clearly offend you ...its not rocket science ...all the best in your quest for a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

View is right..many dont read profiles.

you are on a swingers site and we are looking for sex. You have a profile with 'looking for men and women. What the heck do you expect

Yes its your profile to do what you want with but if you really dont want the attention then do something about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd also hide the verifies to be honest..saves me missing out on knowing how much a great cock sucker u are...and that squirtastically wet pussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahh so as long as they write 'alfie' in the message then guys are allowed to message you? How odd

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Ahh so as long as they write 'alfie' in the message then guys are allowed to message you? How odd

I have said from the start am happy to speak to people.... So if they read my profile and still wana speak then yes why not?????

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I'd also hide the verifies to be honest..saves me missing out on knowing how much a great cock sucker u are...and that squirtastically wet pussy

Nah al keep my veris..

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"View is right..many dont read profiles.

you are on a swingers site and we are looking for sex. You have a profile with 'looking for men and women. What the heck do you expect

Yes its your profile to do what you want with but if you really dont want the attention then do something about it

Where does it say that??? And i cant help gettin attention since im hot LOLOL

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"At least with fabs you know what you'll get. the likes of plenty of fish and match are even worse and they are dating websites.

But do understand your mindset as after a while, as the emotional side isn't there. Some can handle that side, got to be head strong.

So finding out after he disappeared and a girly team name search online to find his bebo account, then learn he was a bin-man from Crewe and his skydiving was a 30th birthday present.

Dating should be keep to the real world, not online in my _iew.

They say that more new couples are meeting online then in the "real world". So online dating does work...many have hectic lives to be trawling through pub,bars or wherever hoping to meet someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The people who are mailing you are not looking for what you are so why be offended that they are after NSA sex on a site where you can find just that."

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"View is right..many dont read profiles.

you are on a swingers site and we are looking for sex. You have a profile with 'looking for men and women. What the heck do you expect

Yes its your profile to do what you want with but if you really dont want the attention then do something about it

Where does it say that??? And i cant help gettin attention since im hot LOLOL

well exactly. Good luck in finding what you want

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"The people who are mailing you are not looking for what you are so why be offended that they are after NSA sex on a site where you can find just that.

Exactly this

Ive already responded to this, and no offence but if someone has made a point i dont see why people feel the need to keep on makin the same point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure you deserve it girl! Chat away if that's what you like. You're being honest about your intentions. Don't be offended by people saying it's a shame, though. It's a way to compliment you. Take it graciously

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"View is right..many dont read profiles.

you are on a swingers site and we are looking for sex. You have a profile with 'looking for men and women. What the heck do you expect

Yes its your profile to do what you want with but if you really dont want the attention then do something about it

Where does it say that??? And i cant help gettin attention since im hot LOLOL

well exactly. Good luck in finding what you want

Im just fussy when it comes to men, sex and relationships

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Sure you deserve it girl! Chat away if that's what you like. You're being honest about your intentions. Don't be offended by people saying it's a shame, though. It's a way to compliment you. Take it graciously

Lol i would see it as a compliment if they didnt say it to every other female on here

and thanks someone that sees my point i have stated now clearly, maybe it wasnt as clear before, but i am still allowed to chat without leading people on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The people who are mailing you are not looking for what you are so why be offended that they are after NSA sex on a site where you can find just that.

Exactly this

Ive already responded to this, and no offence but if someone has made a point i dont see why people feel the need to keep on makin the same point

Yeah imagine more than one person having the same opinion and expressing it. How dare I really.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

People are entitled to the same opinion ...just because you responded does not mean someone can't agree....

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

" but i do have written on my status im not meeting so maybe thats not enough lol

it should be, it will never be

you know that as it has been mentioned on many threads that a good few people don't read profiles.

that is why filters minimise it."

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"The people who are mailing you are not looking for what you are so why be offended that they are after NSA sex on a site where you can find just that.

Exactly this

Ive already responded to this, and no offence but if someone has made a point i dont see why people feel the need to keep on makin the same point

Yeah imagine more than one person having the same opinion and expressing it. How dare I really.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"People are entitled to the same opinion ...just because you responded does not mean someone can't agree....

Fair enough lol just saying it doesnt help

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By *orny69pussyCouple
over a year ago

Tonbridge

If you still want to swing while in a relationship, you could defo find the right partner on here!

If not, then you're still part of the fab community until you're ready not to be.

Good luck and best wishes, hope you find what you are looking for

The guys that say you aint allowed on here unless you want NSA shags are probably the same ones that would get the hump when you say no to them either way lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least with fabs you know what you'll get. the likes of plenty of fish and match are even worse and they are dating websites.

But do understand your mindset as after a while, as the emotional side isn't there. Some can handle that side, got to be head strong.

So finding out after he disappeared and a girly team name search online to find his bebo account, then learn he was a bin-man from Crewe and his skydiving was a 30th birthday present.

Dating should be keep to the real world, not online in my _iew.

Isn't plenty of fish actually known by some who use it. As plenty of fucks!? I've been where you are now. Believe me it doesn't happen just because you want it to. The harder you look for that special someone. The more people will run from you. I gave up on the dating site's. Mainly because it became evident. That the men were only interested in the sex. As someone said earlier at least you know where you are on fabs. It will happen when you least expect it. So relax and enjoy.....

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"At least with fabs you know what you'll get. the likes of plenty of fish and match are even worse and they are dating websites.

But do understand your mindset as after a while, as the emotional side isn't there. Some can handle that side, got to be head strong.

So finding out after he disappeared and a girly team name search online to find his bebo account, then learn he was a bin-man from Crewe and his skydiving was a 30th birthday present.

Dating should be keep to the real world, not online in my _iew.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"View is right..many dont read profiles.

you are on a swingers site and we are looking for sex. You have a profile with 'looking for men and women. What the heck do you expect

Yes its your profile to do what you want with but if you really dont want the attention then do something about it

Where does it say that??? And i cant help gettin attention since im hot LOLOL

well exactly. Good luck in finding what you want

Im just fussy when it comes to men, sex and relationships

Arent we all..fussy that is..well I am. Its good to have standards and to know what you're looking for and dont lower them for the sake of saying 'No'

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

Sigh... the Holy Grail... to find a man who wants a relationship and to still swing... you couples are a lucky bunch... soz going off the thread with a spot of daydreaming

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Sigh... the Holy Grail... to find a man who wants a relationship and to still swing... you couples are a lucky bunch... soz going off the thread with a spot of daydreaming

Lol i wouldnt mind this tbh.. The best of both worlds

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By *orny69pussyCouple
over a year ago

Tonbridge

"Sigh... the Holy Grail... to find a man who wants a relationship and to still swing... you couples are a lucky bunch... soz going off the thread with a spot of daydreaming

Lol i wouldnt mind this tbh.. The best of both worlds

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