FabSwingers.com forum: I'm more than just a fetish, and so are you.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

First post on the forum:

Now I know this is essentially a sex site. And that's all well and good, and I suppose we are all looking for the same end result at the end of the day, but we all have different preferences and needs in that respect don't we? Some like it anonymous, others, like myself, like it a little more personable. I'm not a wham bam thank you mam, play on the first date kinda gal.

The thing I've noticed is that a) I'm always being classed as this fab BBW. OR I'm just not fat enough. I have no problem with people using the labels for themselves but I kinda think myself as more than a fetish!

I'm still a person, I still want to talk about mundane normal small talk kinda stuff. I don't see why it is I should feel the need to outline my size in my profile for rude men and women who can't just say thanks, but no thanks, they have to make a big show of it and reel back in horror. But I do, so those people can look but not have to worry about touching, which in turn opens the floodgates to BBW loversville. Which again is great, cool, but I don't see myself as a BBW. I don't take kindly to questions about my eating and feeding habits, remarks about my big boobs, chubby belly or big thighs. Yes they are all of the above but I don't want them to be sexualised in that way.

I'm a bloody human woman being. My whole body is sexy. It seems alien to me for someone to want to do bizarre stuff to my tummy or thick thighs and can't that be respected?

I find all this so hard to explain and it's so contradictory... Is there anyone out there who understands what the hell it is I'm trying to say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bravo

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Describe yourself the way that is best for you as in an honest as possible fashion.

Have realistic pictures.

They make an informed choice to contact,then meet socially if you feel an attraction.

If You both connect... Go for it.

Enjoy.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

welcome, firstly.

now, V has been branded a MILF or a GILF and, tbh, she loves the tags, however, its how you refer to yourself that counts.

if you revel in the fact some think you are a BBW then enjoy it, and take it with the admiration or affection with which it is given.

but first and foremost it is how YOU see yourself thats most important, because if you dont like you, for you, then no matter what anyone else says, its not going to make a blind bit of difference.

i think thats what i took from your post anyway

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

And*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bravo "

Thanks lol.

I just wanna be me at the end of the day. I'm no where near as fab as the true BBWs I know and respect utterly and completely! I'm just, well, me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"welcome, firstly.

now, V has been branded a MILF or a GILF and, tbh, she loves the tags, however, its how you refer to yourself that counts.

if you revel in the fact some think you are a BBW then enjoy it, and take it with the admiration or affection with which it is given.

but first and foremost it is how YOU see yourself thats most important, because if you dont like you, for you, then no matter what anyone else says, its not going to make a blind bit of difference.

i think thats what i took from your post anyway"

I think that's what I am aiming to say. I am myself. I'm fat and not proud really. But I accept I am fat, and that's not everyone's cup of tea. However on the same side as that just because I am fat doesn't mean I want to be clamoured over by BBW fetishists. I just wanna have fun with people who wanna have fun with all of me. Not just my gut or butt and whatnot. I don't identify as a BBW mainly because I'm not a "BW" as it were lol!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Hello Sugarsnap,

I know exactly what you mean. I've been here since the dawn of time but i'm still sickened and irritated to a certain degree by many messages and references to women and sex.

I consider myself to be open minded, to find sex as simply a natural human activity, a pleasure that shouldn't be restricted to night time, bedroom, in the dark antics with one person for over forty years.

Unfortunately attitudes take longer to change than technology. Many people confuse porn with reality and the internet with sleaze. Their lack of sexual knowledge and experience of shared sex develops the 'crass' side of their social skill set.

They treat other humans like commodities rather than whole people.

Try to keep being you. Not everyone is dross. Nearly ..... but not quite.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Sorry but to me you just look very attractive, maybe I'm unusual but I'm not struck on skinny women but labels don't especially attract or put me off. I like Tgirls that I find attractive, labels are pointless, just do I find this profile and photos attractive. We then perhaps swap mails then maybe a a call or 2. Take it from there, not really bothered by your label, more by you. I think that's a bit more sensible way of meeting people, might be wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may not use the term bbw on your profile but you still clearly mention your a larger lady.

Bbw is just another way of saying im a fat bird. Nothing more and nothing less

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

A very well written and put together post Sugarsnap! Unfortunately we seem to live in a world full of abbreviations like BBW or BBC! There are so many people on here with different wants, needs an preferences! For ease some people use these abbreviations! I have been referred to as BBW and I dont like it either, like you, I am me, you will also find guys who don't like to be referred to as BBC, they are normal men with personalities and feelings etc! But then you will get both men and women who are not bothered by these abbreviations and will use them to sell themselves! - I have a preference in what I like, but I don't use abbreviations to say it! But that's because I know there is far more to the the men I have met in the past than just sex! We are all different! Which is just as well, or it would be a very boring world! You have a block button, use it for the people that you don't want to talk too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Larger lady yes, but you're also 5'10" so I'd imagine you carry it well, certainly I think from your pics that you carry it VERY well!

I wouldn't go looking exclusively for someone who states they're a BBW. I'd rather look for someone who is comfortable in their own skin and who has a similar outlook to me in that they're here for fun.

Hope that ramble makes sense!

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

Well said xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You may not use the term bbw on your profile but you still clearly mention your a larger lady.

Bbw is just another way of saying im a fat bird. Nothing more and nothing less"

Well, to me and many other women BBW has a very different meaning to being just a larger lady. For starters what if you just see yourself as a big woman, not a big "beautiful" woman. Being a BBW constitutes to far more than just being a larger lady. It really does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You may not use the term bbw on your profile but you still clearly mention your a larger lady.

Bbw is just another way of saying im a fat bird. Nothing more and nothing less

what more is there then? Big beautiful woman means if you like them big then you find then beautiful and they are a woman..

sorry i cant see how it could mean anything else..

you can have any kinda sexual activity with a bbw it doesnt mean only a certain sexual activity that goes with woman. Just that she wobbles..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very well written and put together post Sugarsnap! Unfortunately we seem to live in a world full of abbreviations like BBW or BBC! There are so many people on here with different wants, needs an preferences! For ease some people use these abbreviations! I have been referred to as BBW and I dont like it either, like you, I am me, you will also find guys who don't like to be referred to as BBC, they are normal men with personalities and feelings etc! But then you will get both men and women who are not bothered by these abbreviations and will use them to sell themselves! - I have a preference in what I like, but I don't use abbreviations to say it! But that's because I know there is far more to the the men I have met in the past than just sex! We are all different! Which is just as well, or it would be a very boring world! You have a block button, use it for the people that you don't want to talk too x"

we are all different. Bbw just means u have the common trait of being a plus size.. same as other shared traits such as 2 people aged 35.. they just share the same age and nothing elsr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to share my thoughts if I may, as someone who loves a woman with a fuller figure, it's eisier to say bbw when referencing the type of woman I'm looking for, on the other hand it can grind a bit when I have been messaging someone and all their dirty talk is your black this in my white that, I had to make a choice be offended ( one woman once told me she was going to ride me like a dirty n*gger) or realise that some people are going to objectify me because of the colour of my skin, as its just sex I'm looking for I let things slip to a certain degree, but I can't help thinking that I'm being used some times if I was looking for a relationship then there is now way I would stand for it, so why do I stand for it on here? Cos I suppose I'm just as guilty of objectifying people as everyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would like to share my thoughts if I may, as someone who loves a woman with a fuller figure, it's eisier to say bbw when referencing the type of woman I'm looking for, on the other hand it can grind a bit when I have been messaging someone and all their dirty talk is your black this in my white that, I had to make a choice be offended ( one woman once told me she was going to ride me like a dirty n*gger) or realise that some people are going to objectify me because of the colour of my skin, as its just sex I'm looking for I let things slip to a certain degree, but I can't help thinking that I'm being used some times if I was looking for a relationship then there is now way I would stand for it, so why do I stand for it on here? Cos I suppose I'm just as guilty of objectifying people as everyone else"

You are very pretty though I must say

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