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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Views? Obviously you want to some extent some discretion, there's a couple from very near, similar age that are messaging me. Unverified which makes be slightly conscious of their genuineness, and their discretion. Do I trust them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no harm in exchanging a few messages you'll soon find out if they are genuine or not.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I don't play too local

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We kept getting messages from local people. We recognised several and it made us very uncomfortable so we have changed our location to the Midlands.

Makes sense to us as we tend to play in Chams in the midlands. Now most winks and messages are from people in our playzone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no harm in exchanging a few messages you'll soon find out if they are genuine or not."

totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We ask for face shots just in case we know them- we don't mind people knowing we're on the site but rather not play with them- we know we wouldn't say anything but we don't know about them.

And definitely not play with someone whose second message was "so have you seen x (mutual friend) recently then?"

Ffs discretion people please! !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't play too local"

Play anywhere

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By *orny69pussyCouple
over a year ago

Tonbridge


"Views? Obviously you want to some extent some discretion, there's a couple from very near, similar age that are messaging me. Unverified which makes be slightly conscious of their genuineness, and their discretion. Do I trust them? "

Don't give them a face pic till you're sure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As stupid as it sounds, I know how naive young people can be. I see myself as pretty mature and discretion would be completely assured from me. But when there's someone from down the road, who have ignored me since I asked for face pics and discretion. If i knew them I'd still play, aslong as i knew they could be discrete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't mind meeting locals, but one meet went pretty badly, I just couldn't keep my cum in long enough, I'm talking one or two thrusts ... so embarrassing, but its even more embarrassing when you see them in town.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I didn't mind meeting locals, but one meet went pretty badly, I just couldn't keep my cum in long enough, I'm talking one or two thrusts ... so embarrassing, but its even more embarrassing when you see them in town.

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I'm single and consider what I do in my own space my own business. Exchanged messages with someone a few minutes walk away recently, looking forward to meeting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big mistake for me. He buzzed my flat this morning. I live with my daughter at her place so I gave him a bollocking and told him to never contact me again. I'm lucky my daughter was at work or I would have had some splaining to do

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Big mistake for me. He buzzed my flat this morning. I live with my daughter at her place so I gave him a bollocking and told him to never contact me again. I'm lucky my daughter was at work or I would have had some splaining to do "

What a dickhead, no wonder single guys get a bad reputation on here

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Ive had notes pushed through the door, though it is not just locals who will do such stuff. If someone is gonna write, at least seal your sex needs in an envelope ffs! I generally prefer to see shags at clubs, not out on the streets doing shopping etc, but we are all different.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Another tip is to keep your landline away from where theyll be - they can miscall their phones and get your home no. Had that one once and got plagued.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get face pics first. And be carful who you send face pics to aswell I was chatting to a couple a year or so ago (the male half) I asked for face pics and the pic he sent me of his female partner was of her licking his cock. This woman happened to work with me every day! Obviously I ended the messaging there and then and have kept it to myself as all in that situation should but you will always have a few dickheads.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Never had a problem with the FEW locals that i've played with. Partly my vetting process, and partly luck i guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was out shopping and when I popped on here, there was a message saying I'm at Cheshire Oaks too fancy a coffee? I said no thanks and then he asked what shops I was going to so that he could look out for me. I told him in no uncertain terms that that would freak me out

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Views? Obviously you want to some extent some discretion, there's a couple from very near, similar age that are messaging me. Unverified which makes be slightly conscious of their genuineness, and their discretion. Do I trust them? "

You're an adult on an adult site looking for playmates for YOU!!! Strangers can't decide your selection criteria for you. How do you decide who to talk to outwith this site?

Besides, if 100 people answer this with 100 varying opinions how does that help you?

*I* meet locally as it suits ME, *I* don't need verifications from total strangers to decide whether to meet another stranger.

In summary: use your own judgement to decide what will work best for you!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I didn't mind meeting locals, but one meet went pretty badly, I just couldn't keep my cum in long enough, I'm talking one or two thrusts ... so embarrassing, but its even more embarrassing when you see them in town.

I'm single and consider what I do in my own space my own business. Exchanged messages with someone a few minutes walk away recently, looking forward to meeting them."

I was beginning to think I was in the minority: an adult doing what they wanted in their own space!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Ive had notes pushed through the door, though it is not just locals who will do such stuff. If someone is gonna write, at least seal your sex needs in an envelope ffs! I generally prefer to see shags at clubs, not out on the streets doing shopping etc, but we are all different. "

I've bumped into playmates in Sainsbury's, I only meet locals, I've even met playmates in my office: in the eight years of meeting single men off the internet for sexual encounters not once has anyone been indiscreet, abused my trust etc.

During that time I can count on one hand men I've met socially I've not played with because I felt uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't mind meeting locals, but one meet went pretty badly, I just couldn't keep my cum in long enough, I'm talking one or two thrusts ... so embarrassing, but its even more embarrassing when you see them in town.

I'm single and consider what I do in my own space my own business. Exchanged messages with someone a few minutes walk away recently, looking forward to meeting them.

I was beginning to think I was in the minority: an adult doing what they wanted in their own space! "

The Minority is growing

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

we don't meet people who live nearby so set our location a way from home but always mention it early on.

obviously we're still very selective who we play with.....and wouldn't want to meet anyone who wasn't

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Never had a problem with the FEW locals that i've played with. Partly my vetting process, and partly luck i guess."

I believe those that encounter problems, regardless of the proximity of playmates often don't vet potential playmates...or magnets to tossers if it's a frequent occurrence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met a few guys in our local area most have been fantastic and work brilliant for the short notice meets... Only one was a complete nightmare and left us in a very awkward position when we found out he was married!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem with local have a feeling I met a few fab people in the pub and never new. just have that felling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have played with 2 local cpls and spoke to another.The fem half I saw in town yesterday.

The way I look at it,in town every friday and saturday single ppl are fucking each other.when it boils down to it.you aint that important,people are more concerned in other things.or at least should be.

As for o.p ask to see on webcm if not verified.be wary of unverified people on here

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

A lot of the issues people have mentioned are to do with individuals, not BECAUSE they were local individuals. You think someone on the other side of the country can't harass if they were so inclined to?

Some people place too much stock in horror stories concerning local meets. Just my take on it all.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Most of my meets are from the Brighton area anyway and Brighton is not a big place really. If I saw someone I had had sex with, I'd just ignore them. Unless they smiled first, then I'd smile back.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"A lot of the issues people have mentioned are to do with individuals, not BECAUSE they were local individuals. You think someone on the other side of the country can't harass if they were so inclined to?

Some people place too much stock in horror stories concerning local meets. Just my take on it all."

Mine too!

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