FabSwingers.com forum: what do you look for in choosing a couple

By *lassy pair OP Couple
over a year ago

Greenwich London

do you look for how pretty they are, how fit they are,how the female present her self, how well endowed the male is if he has a pic or how they make you laugh during messaging what is your preference

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Ideally there should be two people in a couple.

All too often that's not the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. How pretty she is .

2. How fit and hung he is .

3. How close they are .

4. Their preferences .

5. How ' real ' they are !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How chilled and friendly they are, lots of couples (brace yourself for a sweeping statement) seem very angry

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By *lassy pair OP Couple
over a year ago

Greenwich London

"How chilled and friendly they are, lots of couples (brace yourself for a sweeping statement) seem very angry"

Very angry ?

a lot of couples here need to defend them self now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How chilled and friendly they are, lots of couples (brace yourself for a sweeping statement) seem very angry

Very angry ?

a lot of couples here need to defend them self now

I'm basing this off of my home page bit, where you see the status updates of people in your area.

Most of the couples are shouty at not getting their way. It puts me off.

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

A pulse is a starter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. How pretty she is .

2. How fit and hung he is .

3. How close they are .

4. Their preferences .

5. How ' real ' they are !

We go off all of the above aswell and if they have a sense of humour. But the first things we go off is what we think of there looks and there preferences then the rest come after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their preference to married men is my first look out

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

What I look for... (OMG! A guy who is picky lol)

1. The guy is fully bi

2. Average body, not really into 'cuddly'

3. Distance

Funny enough, I haven't meet a couple on here yet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to look for a couple who are similar to us in build and outlook in life .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless as a couple your'e prepared to go with anyone and everyone It's incredibly difficult because there's two in every couple and just because the husband thinks the other husbands wife is really fit, she might not think the same and vise versa.

Think the important thing is to respect and read the profile properly, assume nothing and then ask, remember nothing ventured nothing gained. Having said all that I cowardly leave it up to the wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since the op asked the question , could we ask for their criteria ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm seeking chilled, easy going couples who enjoy sex in no hassle way, no heavy stuff. So in that sense it's not so much about 'looks' with me, I need to feel an attraction to them as they have to with me of course, but I'd rather have mellow pleasure sharers that look like a nice couple shopping in ASDA to a couple of super models who are into head games and bad vibe!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

vibeS sorry!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"do you look for how pretty they are, how fit they are,how the female present her self, how well endowed the male is if he has a pic or how they make you laugh during messaging what is your preference "

Combination of things.....But looks & attitude are at the top of our list.

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By *angerpointCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

We just look for someone with a similar outlook to swinging as ourselves. It helps if they can string a sentence together and there has to be an element of physical attraction too. We also like to make sure that both partners play as we have found in the past that it can get very frustrating when someone is left out. Face pics of both together is crucial too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How chilled and friendly they are, lots of couples (brace yourself for a sweeping statement) seem very angry"

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By *andy_SamMan
over a year ago

City Centre

My top 3 are

If they are in deed a couple

How long they been swinging for

How chilled out and relaxed they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honest and friendly our big thing and clean. Looks not as important as someone we can relate to and jave a good night with not just the sex but good conversation and a laugh!. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have that was x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks and likes for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First thing would be their body language and how they interact with each other,

Then personality and attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We just look for someone with a similar outlook to swinging as ourselves. It helps if they can string a sentence together and there has to be an element of physical attraction too. We also like to make sure that both partners play as we have found in the past that it can get very frustrating when someone is left out. Face pics of both together is crucial too. "

pretty much this for us...we really want to meet couples where they are both into it...nothing more off putting than it being patently obvious one or other of them is only doing it to please their partner

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By *lassy pair OP Couple
over a year ago

Greenwich London

"We try to look for a couple who are similar to us in build and outlook in life .

that is exactly what we look for but also with a hint of class

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope everyone's way works well fir them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We try to look for a couple who are similar to us in build and outlook in life .

that is exactly what we look for but also with a hint of class

Oh dear , and we were doing so well up to the end .

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"Honest and friendly our big thing and clean. Looks not as important as someone we can relate to and jave a good night with not just the sex but good conversation and a laugh!. x

Yes that's about right for us as well.

As for the "angry couples" we do get a bit pissed off when we get messages from people (especially single guys) who obviously have not read our profile and expect us to drop everything to meet them TODAY.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What I look for... (OMG! A guy who is picky lol)

1. The guy is fully bi

2. Average body, not really into 'cuddly'

3. Distance

Funny enough, I haven't meet a couple on here yet lol"

Dam got bi guy here but Im over cuddly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attitude and how comfortable/relaxed they are in each others company.

We message very few people off the site but those we do tend to either be off the forums or have a profile that shows that they are fairly alt/rock and pr interested in kink.

Physical attraction is of course important but if a couple don't have the right dynamic it doesn't matter how hot they are, we aren't interested.

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By *lassy pair OP Couple
over a year ago

Greenwich London

"We try to look for a couple who are similar to us in build and outlook in life .

that is exactly what we look for but also with a hint of class

Oh dear , and we were doing so well up to the end .

You still doing well thou don't worry

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By *hatguyJoeMan
over a year ago

Preston

For most single guys the only requirement appears to be a pulse

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Simple.....

A couple we are BOTH attracted to....

And thats getting harder...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initially ....... a photo of both of them together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to be attracted to them both as I want to play with both...attraction for me covers the personality and sense of humour as well as looks...and I need to know that they both want to play and one isn't being pushed by the other. The decider though is how they interact with each other...if I'm meeting a couple I want them to be secure in their relationship. Had one bad experience with a jealous wife and that isn't something I want to repeat so now I am a bit more focused on the way they are with each other on a social as I think I was so concerned with making sure both wanted to play before that I missed the insecurity from her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is actually a really good question !! how do you define what you look for ??

For us its about a lot of things which are really hard to define in one sentence ! I think its about that initial click and the ability to meet on an equal level.

Forget looks etc if you all get on and have a mutual " click " then everything else just flows naturally. Each to their own but there is a natural flow between people that naturally get on and have an understanding, for us that makes the best kind of meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that they arent idiots

that the male half isnt pushing the female half

that the male half doesnt go all fucking Spielberg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How chilled and friendly they are, lots of couples (brace yourself for a sweeping statement) seem very angry"

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By *infulDesiresCouple
over a year ago

"This is actually a really good question !! how do you define what you look for ??

For us its about a lot of things which are really hard to define in one sentence ! I think its about that initial click and the ability to meet on an equal level.

We couldn't agree more with this. Its about the connection, feeling comfortable, communicating, everyone feeling at ease.

If all of the above is there, and the couple we are meeting are both equally as keen, then its the best of meets for us.

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By *n need of helpCouple
over a year ago

hull

as long as everyone involved is ok with what you all look like and whats going to happen next ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how they present themselves, in both pics and profile, and then how witty or interesting messages are.

looks are very much down the list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from the ones already mentioned I can't believe no one has mentioned the house. Not to sound stuck up or anything because that's far from me but I always seem to look at what the home is like in the pics and how clean it is lol.....call me weird maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just looking for someone to make me an offer lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That they are looking for a single guy to start with, then its just a coin toss for the two that are left. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like if they can't even message me properly why should I waste my time...so many on here say they want to play with us as a couple but ask if I will play solo...which is a valid question whatever.

I really get annoyed when they can't hold conversation, I know it's probably me, but If you can't talk through a message how could we possible get along well.

So I guess figuring out if their really a couple, then the chemistry, then looks and how big he is ... Lately we can't get passes the hellos lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get winks from couples so I message them......then nothing what's that all about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get winks from couples so I message them......then nothing what's that all about"

Maybe they weren't impressed by your message? We often wink people that on the basis of their profile we like the look of but lose interest quickly after an initial message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get winks from couples so I message them......then nothing what's that all about

Maybe they weren't impressed by your message? We often wink people that on the basis of their profile we like the look of but lose interest quickly after an initial message"

in response to your post yesterday in the forums about meeting me, I have now considered the options and I accept, sooooo do u fancy a fck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get winks from couples so I message them......then nothing what's that all about

Maybe they weren't impressed by your message? We often wink people that on the basis of their profile we like the look of but lose interest quickly after an initial message

in response to your post yesterday in the forums about meeting me, I have now considered the options and I accept, sooooo do u fancy a fck?

But I thought you said you were fake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get winks from couples so I message them......then nothing what's that all about

Maybe they weren't impressed by your message? We often wink people that on the basis of their profile we like the look of but lose interest quickly after an initial message

in response to your post yesterday in the forums about meeting me, I have now considered the options and I accept, sooooo do u fancy a fck?

But I thought you said you were fake?

I faked my own fakeness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

own teeth, guy can get an errection and woman makes good coffee

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

After the initial criteria of both being attracted, all liking the same things and location we move on to are both partners in the other couple as keen on swinging as each other, are they both truthful to themselves and each other about wanting to do it?

Its a funny old game this swinging lark you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apart from the ones already mentioned I can't believe no one has mentioned the house. Not to sound stuck up or anything because that's far from me but I always seem to look at what the home is like in the pics and how clean it is lol.....call me weird maybe?"

At the moment we don't invite play mates into the house- we have a seperate play room... although when it gets too cold that will have to change!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly for us it's about the attraction being there for the both of us

We don't take "hits" for the team lol

And a very close second is personality / sense of humour.....we don't do serious , it's all about fun for B&D x

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By *lassy pair OP Couple
over a year ago

Greenwich London

"Firstly for us it's about the attraction being there for the both of us

We don't take "hits" for the team lol

And a very close second is personality / sense of humour.....we don't do serious , it's all about fun for B&D x

for sure it is, all about fun and that is a good way of thinking about it

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

This is why we will no longer entertain anyone that we haven't previously met at ours. Like to know that those we invite to ours are not going to judge us on the decor and condition of our home. After some comments from one person it has made us slightly paranoid.

Brought our house from an elderly couple that had owned it since it was first built and needs totally updating and doing up. It is clean and tidy but a bit like stepping into a time warp at present. Like anything it takes time and money...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here- and our house is taken up with family stuff too.... so not always the cleanest to be honest....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the guy is bi then his cock must be pretty an not to much hair the woman the same really as long as they both lookin ok its happy daze

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here- and our house is taken up with family stuff too.... so not always the cleanest to be honest...."

Totally understandable guys, you can always tell when it's a situation like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here- and our house is taken up with family stuff too.... so not always the cleanest to be honest....

Totally understandable guys, you can always tell when it's a situation like that. "

Nice backtracking

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

A couple not looking for a bi female. we've not had a lot of luck. which has been good for some single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a couple who we can tell have bothered to read our profile...... a lot don't !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a couple who we can tell have bothered to read our profile...... a lot don't !!!

Blah blah blah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here- and our house is taken up with family stuff too.... so not always the cleanest to be honest....

Totally understandable guys, you can always tell when it's a situation like that.

Nice backtracking"

PMSL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a couple who we can tell have bothered to read our profile...... a lot don't !!!

Blah blah blah

"
lol was asked for an opinion and gave it............... lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male must be bi, female with big boobs and both must be easy to get along with...that's about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a couple who we can tell have bothered to read our profile...... a lot don't !!!

Blah blah blah

lol was asked for an opinion and gave it............... lol

It's a quote from the end of your profile .

It's to prove that, oh , never mind .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here- and our house is taken up with family stuff too.... so not always the cleanest to be honest....

Totally understandable guys, you can always tell when it's a situation like that.

Nice backtracking

PMSL"
lol no you honestly can but you see in some people's pics that there's clearly no interest at all in keeping a clean or nice house lol

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

"Male must be bi, female with big boobs and both must be easy to get along with...that's about it.

Sounds like a description of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couple not looking for a bi female. we've not had a lot of luck. which has been good for some single guys."

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By *ureBadnessCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Much easier to find couples we both like at clubs or parties, you can feel the attraction, see how relaxed and playful they are. Whereas looking on Fab, and basing the search on profiles alone is fraught with difficulties...profiles with no picture of the guy, most looking for bi-fem fun, and willing to meet for a social at first with the option to play if all agree....

All in all the couples game is hard work!

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