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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A question for the ladies - have you ever come across a guy who you thought was good looking, yet didn't feel attracted to?

What was missing?

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Yes,

Physical attraction is important but so is the sexual spark and the intellectual connection also.

Stimulate my mind, my eyes and then my body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often. It's the 'x' factor. No describing it. It's either there or it isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes, tall, good-looking, nice body, nice cock. He even seemed like a sweet person. But I wasn't attracted at all, not like I'd hoped to be. I couldn't believe myself! And why...because the conversation was dull. Absolutely no finesse, no ability to seduce, no sensuality to him at all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many times yes - sometimes when you get to know their character and personality you are turned off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes, tall, good-looking, nice body, nice cock. He even seemed like a sweet person. But I wasn't attracted at all, not like I'd hoped to be. I couldn't believe myself! And why...because the conversation was dull. Absolutely no finesse, no ability to seduce, no sensuality to him at all? "

^ exactly

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"What was missing?"

Modesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question for the ladies - have you ever come across a guy who you thought was good looking, yet didn't feel attracted to?

What was missing?"

Sincerity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Absolutely no finesse, no ability to seduce, no sensuality to him at all? "

And what do you define as finesse and seduction?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Several times...have started chatting to some drop dead gorgeous looking guys, but when getting blood from a stone would be much easier than trying to get a conversation the attraction is replaced with frustration! There are also some that assume because they are so body beautiful then I will invite them straight over and should be grateful of their attention...again really off-putting.

On the other hand I have met some stunning guys who really do have the whole package and make me feel attractive too resulting in much fun being had!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you have it!so either, you're a natural with that...or your fishing for a compliment but I'll play along...Charm, might be a good descriptive word. An ability to tantalise me with his wit, good conversation and adept flirtation skills, humour,a compliment that isn't generic but personal, a sense of confidence that's related to the man he is holistically, rather than just his massive cock, 'roid'body, or fat wallet. Something intriguing about him...

And no..it doesn't have to be all of the above, just something to set him apart a little, some special quality?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

THAT simple eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, many a times!

There has to be more to a book than just a pretty cover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, many a times!

There has to be more to a book than just a pretty cover.

"

Yes I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I wish I was a caveman.

Bash on head, drag to cave.

So much simpler!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I met a stunner a while ago, very yummy.....until he opened his mouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I wish I was a caveman.

Bash on head, drag to cave.

So much simpler! "

Hmmmmm, Im liking that idea in a pervy kind of way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes, tall, good-looking, nice body, nice cock. He even seemed like a sweet person. But I wasn't attracted at all, not like I'd hoped to be. I couldn't believe myself! And why...because the conversation was dull. Absolutely no finesse, no ability to seduce, no sensuality to him at all? "

so right ...

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Many years back was with a friend in a club. A man walked in, drop dead, tongues out gawjus!!! However once i had spoken to him it was an instant turn off! No personality, boring and with the persona of Mr Bean!! Taught me a lesson that night... I feel attraction comes from different things these days.. Firstly being fruit loops like us helps!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worst thing in the world is someone with no substance or personality!! That's why I'm still single! Haven't found a girl with the looks and the substance that equal each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question for the ladies - have you ever come across a guy who you thought was good looking, yet didn't feel attracted to?

What was missing?"

usually a brain but one very sexy muscular man I dated turned out to be a racist and full of hate for everyone and he had a masters IT so just a cunt basically. A gorgeous one but still a cunt....am I allowed to say cunt on the forums ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worst thing in the world is someone with no substance or personality!! That's why I'm still single! Haven't found a girl with the looks and the substance that equal each other. "

I'm full of substance. It's creamy white and thick like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes once met a very sexy looking guy, alas no brain..... therefore no meet for fun!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worst thing in the world is someone with no substance or personality!! That's why I'm still single! Haven't found a girl with the looks and the substance that equal each other.

I'm full of substance. It's creamy white and thick like me "

Ha ha like a sexual ice cream now all u need is a black dong for your flake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes, tall, good-looking, nice body, nice cock. He even seemed like a sweet person. But I wasn't attracted at all, not like I'd hoped to be. I couldn't believe myself! And why...because the conversation was dull. Absolutely no finesse, no ability to seduce, no sensuality to him at all?

"

perfectly worded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone in the vanilla world tried to set me up with one of her friends recently.

Pics looked good, intelligent/smart based on what I know about how he earns his living, however, he is a bit of a gym bunny, and I have my reservations about gym bunnies.

It turned out he is very shallow and rather obsessed with looks, in that he would only consider meeting me if he found me physically attractive enough to tempt him, and kept asking my friend for pics of me.

I lost interest as I do not fit his profile of an ideal woman and not pretty enough to be his arm candy!

No wonder he is still single in his early 40s!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I met my ideal "type" rugby player build, well endowed, profile wasn't half bad. Well, when I met him he had zero conversational skills, was crude "so how many men have you fucked so far then" this was his second or third sentence to me once we'd sat down and got a drink and so it went on and on and on.

I mean, obviously it's important to find out one anothers likes and dislikes but within context! I think that's why my meets are so sporadic. I'm not looking for Steven Hawkings but the ability to have some awareness of current affairs and a modicum of intelligence really is essential for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worst thing in the world is someone with no substance or personality!! That's why I'm still single! Haven't found a girl with the looks and the substance that equal each other.

I'm full of substance. It's creamy white and thick like me

Ha ha like a sexual ice cream now all u need is a black dong for your flake? "

If I get one will you lick me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, I met my ideal "type" rugby player build, well endowed, profile wasn't half bad. Well, when I met him he had zero conversational skills, was crude "so how many men have you fucked so far then" this was his second or third sentence to me once we'd sat down and got a drink and so it went on and on and on.

I mean, obviously it's important to find out one anothers likes and dislikes but within context! I think that's why my meets are so sporadic. I'm not looking for Steven Hawkings but the ability to have some awareness of current affairs and a modicum of intelligence really is essential for me. "

not as intelligent as mr hawkins, but i like to think i can hold my own, giggity. still puzzled by the trousers of time though...i mean are they jeans or chinos ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most missed thing is pheromones, people who shave their pubes don't store pheromones in their hair follicles, so can be the most attractive guy in the world, but without the chemical attraction, nothing will happen, so don't shave em!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my fb had a meet a while ago. The guy was gorgeous looking, nice body and good conversation. I went upstairs to change into sexy undies and came downstairs to find him with his pants round his ankles wanking to internet porn. I was turned off in a moment.

Wouldn't have minded us all watching porn together but that killed the mood..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, all the time

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Me and my fb had a meet a while ago. The guy was gorgeous looking, nice body and good conversation. I went upstairs to change into sexy undies and came downstairs to find him with his pants round his ankles wanking to internet porn. I was turned off in a moment.

Wouldn't have minded us all watching porn together but that killed the mood.."

Oh no, that would be a killer for most of us, whatever sex or sexuality

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"A question for the ladies - have you ever come across a guy who you thought was good looking, yet didn't feel attracted to?

What was missing?"

Lol, yes, my ex!!

Sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't need to be stunning looking, I'm not. Just a decent genuine guy with good conversation if they are about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, I met my ideal "type" rugby player build, well endowed, profile wasn't half bad. Well, when I met him he had zero conversational skills, was crude "so how many men have you fucked so far then" this was his second or third sentence to me once we'd sat down and got a drink and so it went on and on and on.

I mean, obviously it's important to find out one anothers likes and dislikes but within context! I think that's why my meets are so sporadic. I'm not looking for Steven Hawkings but the ability to have some awareness of current affairs and a modicum of intelligence really is essential for me. "
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spot on

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Yep many times!! Sadly a lot of good looking blokes think that's all they need... Same as some blokes on here with huge cocks. It's def a whole package thing. Not just one box to tick. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. No chemistry, that certain spark wasn't there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What do you ladies think the 'spark' is though? Is it one of those time when they just seem to tick all of your boxes without even realising it, ie the way they smile, the way the look at you, the answers they give to your questions, even their choice of aftershave?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you ladies think the 'spark' is though? Is it one of those time when they just seem to tick all of your boxes without even realising it, ie the way they smile, the way the look at you, the answers they give to your questions, even their choice of aftershave?"

I think it's an amalgamation of all of those reasons. I always worry a large proportion of men on here are here for "instashag". But I can usually tell if I have social meet if that's their agenda. Sometimes I've forgone that social meet and got straight down to it if that animal instinct/lust is there.

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