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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I've been on and off the virtual dating scene for a while and I'm kinda starting to realise that unless I enter a relationship with someone who's equally sexually open, dirty and free spirited as I am it just it doesn't really float my boat.

So looking for potential dates on fab would be a natural thing to do but all people seem to look for on their profiles is NSA (if you read mine, that doesn't says elsehow either...). I think I'd be weary stating it on my profile though as to avoid people in general getting the wrong impression (eg, think I'm only looking for a rship ultimately and not just fun occasionally)

So, my question is, do you think there are actually people on here who are looking for something more than sex but are scared to bring this topic up altogether or really it is just the wrong tree to bark up to and I should leave it at that..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if your into this lifestyle that best bet is to just be patient and just see what comes about.

If your going to mention it on your profile make it light hearted.

I always think it's best not to look for something. But then I am someone that would run a mile at the first hint of settling down lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes plenty of people on here looking for relationships but will never admit it openly.

Something for everyone on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think if your into this lifestyle that best bet is to just be patient and just see what comes about.

If your going to mention it on your profile make it light hearted.

I always think it's best not to look for something. But then I am someone that would run a mile at the first hint of settling down lol"

Oh I absolutely agree with you, there is no way to rush and push these things and that's not my style anyway, I was just thinking more like having meets with people who are also single and not completely against the possibility of things leading to maybe hangout times as opposed to sleeping with people who are completely certain in not wanting a relationship.

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

I keep the options open and never rule anything out as you just dont know who you might meet.

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By *issmekate xxxWoman
over a year ago

Non Vanilla Land

Absolutely there are people looking for that something else ... and I for one make no bones about it ... that said, I know the chances of finding it are pretty slim ... being a picky arse, sometimes I struggle to find someone to spend a few hours with let along anything more permanent !!!

It's all written in the stars anyway at the end of the day !!! Just enjoy it for what is it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Absolutely there are people looking for that something else ... and I for one make no bones about it ... that said, I know the chances of finding it are pretty slim ... being a picky arse, sometimes I struggle to find someone to spend a few hours with let along anything more permanent !!!

It's all written in the stars anyway at the end of the day !!! Just enjoy it for what is it "

Haha, kate you sound like a sister from another mother I guess you're right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been on and off the virtual dating scene for a while and I'm kinda starting to realise that unless I enter a relationship with someone who's equally sexually open, dirty and free spirited as I am it just it doesn't really float my boat.

So looking for potential dates on fab would be a natural thing to do but all people seem to look for on their profiles is NSA (if you read mine, that doesn't says elsehow either...). I think I'd be weary stating it on my profile though as to avoid people in general getting the wrong impression (eg, think I'm only looking for a rship ultimately and not just fun occasionally)

So, my question is, do you think there are actually people on here who are looking for something more than sex but are scared to bring this topic up altogether or really it is just the wrong tree to bark up to and I should leave it at that..? "

Yes, I think so, some people on fab are also active on regular dating sites as well, thats how I discovered fab, through chatting/meeting women on regular dating sites but there is that contradiction between meets on Fab and Dating on other sites, are they compatible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes they do and some put it on there profile.. eg open to more if the right man comes along but happy swinging.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of people of both sex's are but it seems to be a huge taboo to be open about it due to swinging supposedly be no strings. Never really understood why, on the kink scene people can be open about looking for a relationship and no one bats an eyelid.

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By *ingjayMan
over a year ago

exeter

Best thing..... try 'plenty of fish' its just like fab, but with a wider choice and everyone admits they want a relationship rather than just sex, but you can still have fun on there whilst looking for the one

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

just have fun and see what comes up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best thing..... try 'plenty of fish' its just like fab, but with a wider choice and everyone admits they want a relationship rather than just sex, but you can still have fun on there whilst looking for the one"

The men are drips on there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best thing..... try 'plenty of fish' its just like fab, but with a wider choice and everyone admits they want a relationship rather than just sex, but you can still have fun on there whilst looking for the one

The men are drips on there x"

even the ones that are on here as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Plenty of people of both sex's are but it seems to be a huge taboo to be open about it due to swinging supposedly be no strings. Never really understood why, on the kink scene people can be open about looking for a relationship and no one bats an eyelid."

I couldn't agree more! I was having a convo with a friend and I said virtually the same thing you just did now (we're both heavily involved in London's fetish scene).

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

surely you can have fun .. become friends if you like.. its not necessary to become a full blown couple . unless you want to

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"So I've been on and off the virtual dating scene for a while and I'm kinda starting to realise that unless I enter a relationship with someone who's equally sexually open, dirty and free spirited as I am it just it doesn't really float my boat.

So looking for potential dates on fab would be a natural thing to do but all people seem to look for on their profiles is NSA (if you read mine, that doesn't says elsehow either...). I think I'd be weary stating it on my profile though as to avoid people in general getting the wrong impression (eg, think I'm only looking for a rship ultimately and not just fun occasionally)

So, my question is, do you think there are actually people on here who are looking for something more than sex but are scared to bring this topic up altogether or really it is just the wrong tree to bark up to and I should leave it at that..? "

nothing ruled out...... nothing ruled in

if I meet someone and they rock my world then cool.... if not then cool....

each situation as it comes... besides I dont think "actively" looking really helps... these things tend to just strike you.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I've been on and off the virtual dating scene for a while and I'm kinda starting to realise that unless I enter a relationship with someone who's equally sexually open, dirty and free spirited as I am it just it doesn't really float my boat.

So looking for potential dates on fab would be a natural thing to do but all people seem to look for on their profiles is NSA (if you read mine, that doesn't says elsehow either...). I think I'd be weary stating it on my profile though as to avoid people in general getting the wrong impression (eg, think I'm only looking for a rship ultimately and not just fun occasionally)

So, my question is, do you think there are actually people on here who are looking for something more than sex but are scared to bring this topic up altogether or really it is just the wrong tree to bark up to and I should leave it at that..?

nothing ruled out...... nothing ruled in

if I meet someone and they rock my world then cool.... if not then cool....

each situation as it comes... besides I dont think "actively" looking really helps... these things tend to just strike you....."

I must admit that actively may have came across a tad more desperate than I realised at first.... it really was just meant to say "I'm registered but don't go on dates with em all, pinky promise..!" Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a theory about sex and the way in which its procured. A considerable amount assignations on FAB are of the mechanical kind that is just pure physical pleasure and with little or no emotional attachment; mechanical sex?

On the other hand there is sensual sex which may have a stronger emotional link and could even involve love. Sensual sex, in my _iew can be sub divided into romance such as dinner, candles and soft love making. Alternatively the other side of sensual is perhaps a little boundary pushing. I know of one couple on this site that visit a club and have sex in public, with each other and get a massive buzz from that particular activity.

So in a roundabout way my answer would be yes!!

Are you still awake? Its gone quiet!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a theory about sex and the way in which its procured. A considerable amount assignations on FAB are of the mechanical kind that is just pure physical pleasure and with little or no emotional attachment; mechanical sex?

On the other hand there is sensual sex which may have a stronger emotional link and could even involve love. Sensual sex, in my _iew can be sub divided into romance such as dinner, candles and soft love making. Alternatively the other side of sensual is perhaps a little boundary pushing. I know of one couple on this site that visit a club and have sex in public, with each other and get a massive buzz from that particular activity.

So in a roundabout way my answer would be yes!!

Are you still awake? Its gone quiet!!"

Ha!! I hear you. I guess I just want the loveliness and the filth moulded together. But then again I'd be surprised if most of us wouldn't..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been on and off the virtual dating scene for a while and I'm kinda starting to realise that unless I enter a relationship with someone who's equally sexually open, dirty and free spirited as I am it just it doesn't really float my boat.

So looking for potential dates on fab would be a natural thing to do but all people seem to look for on their profiles is NSA (if you read mine, that doesn't says elsehow either...). I think I'd be weary stating it on my profile though as to avoid people in general getting the wrong impression (eg, think I'm only looking for a rship ultimately and not just fun occasionally)

So, my question is, do you think there are actually people on here who are looking for something more than sex but are scared to bring this topic up altogether or really it is just the wrong tree to bark up to and I should leave it at that..? "

Swit swoo!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Yes there are"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been on and off the virtual dating scene for a while and I'm kinda starting to realise that unless I enter a relationship with someone who's equally sexually open, dirty and free spirited as I am it just it doesn't really float my boat.

So looking for potential dates on fab would be a natural thing to do but all people seem to look for on their profiles is NSA (if you read mine, that doesn't says elsehow either...). I think I'd be weary stating it on my profile though as to avoid people in general getting the wrong impression (eg, think I'm only looking for a rship ultimately and not just fun occasionally)

So, my question is, do you think there are actually people on here who are looking for something more than sex but are scared to bring this topic up altogether or really it is just the wrong tree to bark up to and I should leave it at that..? "

yea i think sum ppl on here wud like a realionship but wont admit it!i wudnt mind having a bf,if i met sumone on here and we both felt the same tht wud be amazing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're right I've been vanilla dating but half heartedly and using fab for the filthy side of my personality. I don't think I'm going to find what I want in one person unfortunately anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be patient and keep looking. Surely there must be someone there who wants a long term commitment..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have something similar on my profile. I'm not really after a relationshipship, but I do enjoy 'dates'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep trying huni... Xxxxx love to go out with you...

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I do think I am not looking but at the same time, never, say never, as you just never know what is round the corner!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a curry with someone as a second meet recently.

There must some who come on here and eventually leave (or fade away from) the site and live happily ever after with two or three fuck buddies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a theory about sex and the way in which its procured. A considerable amount assignations on FAB are of the mechanical kind that is just pure physical pleasure and with little or no emotional attachment; mechanical sex?

On the other hand there is sensual sex which may have a stronger emotional link and could even involve love. Sensual sex, in my _iew can be sub divided into romance such as dinner, candles and soft love making. Alternatively the other side of sensual is perhaps a little boundary pushing. I know of one couple on this site that visit a club and have sex in public, with each other and get a massive buzz from that particular activity.

So in a roundabout way my answer would be yes!!

Are you still awake? Its gone quiet!!

Ha!! I hear you. I guess I just want the loveliness and the filth moulded together. But then again I'd be surprised if most of us wouldn't.."
No reason why loveliness and filth cannot be moulded together. I envy those who have got it either on FAB or other "vanilla" sites.

One day your prince will cum; not too soon one hopes!

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By *ust a TeaseMan
over a year ago

Earth

I like going on dates with ladies I meet off of fab. They all seem so much more open and honest. It is also nice to talk about fab with another fabber.

A few have ended just in bed, but some haven't and they have just been as good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty of people of both sex's are but it seems to be a huge taboo to be open about it due to swinging supposedly be no strings. Never really understood why, on the kink scene people can be open about looking for a relationship and no one bats an eyelid.

I couldn't agree more! I was having a convo with a friend and I said virtually the same thing you just did now (we're both heavily involved in London's fetish scene).

"

We met at the Crunch and went to Decadance on our second date. Far more fun than conventional dating!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh you ALL are brilliant!! Count your karma points as you definitely restored my faith in fab for now, I expected to be slated for such topic. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would just like to advertise Myself lol wink wink.... Lovely person quite Virginal and Angelic Looking for a very bad boy.. to Love and to Cherish and shower with sex juice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would just like to advertise Myself lol wink wink.... Lovely person quite Virginal and Angelic Looking for a very bad boy.. to Love and to Cherish and shower with sex juice"
and they say romance is dead!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly came on the site thinking absolutely no way would anyone start a relationship with somebody from here my thoughts have changed so dramatically... I am not looking to get into a relationship but I enjoyed one guys company so much we went on holiday together to Majorca for a week after only knowing him for a month. We got very quickly involved and it was a very nice time together. Something I though I would never do. I've met plenty of guys on here who have all started relationships from being on here. One guy I know they met stopped all activity and were happy together for nine years until she died in a car accident he said they were soul mates and needed nobody else to fulfil kinks and fantasies when after they met!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would just like to advertise Myself lol wink wink.... Lovely person quite Virginal and Angelic Looking for a very bad boy.. to Love and to Cherish and shower with sex juiceand they say romance is dead!!!"

And Romantic i forgot that bit. I will let you buy me Flowers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would just like to advertise Myself lol wink wink.... Lovely person quite Virginal and Angelic Looking for a very bad boy.. to Love and to Cherish and shower with sex juiceand they say romance is dead!!!

And Romantic i forgot that bit. I will let you buy me Flowers"
But of course what areyour favourite flowers..............no let me guess bright sun flowers as they constantly turn to the sun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest never thought dating was possible on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't see why it would be impossible I just don't understand why it is such a taboo to say you're not closed off to the idea in case things would click!

Just because I'm looking that doesn't mean that a) I'm looking to pursue a relationship with anyone, or even with most I decide to have sex with

or b) I'll turn into a clingy bunny boiler.

Just ain't fair!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't see why it would be impossible I just don't understand why it is such a taboo to say you're not closed off to the idea in case things would click!

Just because I'm looking that doesn't mean that a) I'm looking to pursue a relationship with anyone, or even with most I decide to have sex with

or b) I'll turn into a clingy bunny boiler.

Just ain't fair! "
Attractive, intelligent and articulate young lady.............you will be fine!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would just like to advertise Myself lol wink wink.... Lovely person quite Virginal and Angelic Looking for a very bad boy.. to Love and to Cherish and shower with sex juiceand they say romance is dead!!!

And Romantic i forgot that bit. I will let you buy me FlowersBut of course what areyour favourite flowers..............no let me guess bright sun flowers as they constantly turn to the sun?"

Actually

Gerbera

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I guess we don't like to admit to after more then just sex but I am if I find the right guy.freinds is a good start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I've done it once, wasnt looking and wham it hit me... ok it didn't work out but we had a pretty awesome year together and are still friends...I'd certainly do it all again with the right guy and im not ashamed to admit it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's good you are still freinds.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I've done it once, wasnt looking and wham it hit me... ok it didn't work out but we had a pretty awesome year together and are still friends...I'd certainly do it all again with the right guy and im not ashamed to admit it x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt mind a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt mind a relationship

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Good luck to all who do.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Sometimes you can meet even more than once but it's still just sexual fun, sometimes there's a spark. If there is and it happens, great, I don't think you can go into your first meet thinking it will happen though, although something may strike you about someone else's profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would just like to advertise Myself lol wink wink.... Lovely person quite Virginal and Angelic Looking for a very bad boy.. to Love and to Cherish and shower with sex juiceand they say romance is dead!!!

And Romantic i forgot that bit. I will let you buy me Flowers"

You forgot needs a sat nav too

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By *urvesAllOverWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Interesting timing.

I was contacted by a (i hope) nice guy last week after I'd been let down for a date off a "vanilla" site. Within a day of chatting there was something about him that intrigued me more than usual with FAB guys.

We are going on a date tomorrow (not a social or a meet) so lets see if it goes well. I wasn't looking for it, in fact I actively avoid situations that can get complicated usually, but who knows!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Interesting timing.

I was contacted by a (i hope) nice guy last week after I'd been let down for a date off a "vanilla" site. Within a day of chatting there was something about him that intrigued me more than usual with FAB guys.

We are going on a date tomorrow (not a social or a meet) so lets see if it goes well. I wasn't looking for it, in fact I actively avoid situations that can get complicated usually, but who knows! "

WHOOP!! Curves, keep us posted on how it goes! I hope e turns out to be a good egg!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of peeps looking for more than NSA fun on FAB, and they are not exactly quiet about it either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know of a poor guy on here where emotions crept in with one of his regular meets. Unfortunately he does not feel the same. This is hardly the place to fall in love but strange things happen I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm shocked!! call yourselves swingers!

Seriously though, I am surprised. Many guys that msg me, and ask me what I mean by Friends with benefits (filthy sex all the time and sometimes having conversations/ Friendship n hanging out ) freaks them out totally, like I won't be able to help myself in falling for them if we have conversations!!!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Plenty of peeps looking for more than NSA fun on FAB, and they are not exactly quiet about it either! "

Indeed.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I'm shocked!! call yourselves swingers!

Seriously though, I am surprised. Many guys that msg me, and ask me what I mean by Friends with benefits (filthy sex all the time and sometimes having conversations/ Friendship n hanging out ) freaks them out totally, like I won't be able to help myself in falling for them if we have conversations!!! "

I like to be able to have a conversation with someone, often had a bite to eat before a GB. Sometimes meeting someone a few days later for a drink, lunch, conversation and then fuck fun. It doesn't have to mean love and marriage, sometimes it can, but don't go into swinging expecting that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been on and off the virtual dating scene for a while and I'm kinda starting to realise that unless I enter a relationship with someone who's equally sexually open, dirty and free spirited as I am it just it doesn't really float my boat.

So looking for potential dates on fab would be a natural thing to do but all people seem to look for on their profiles is NSA (if you read mine, that doesn't says elsehow either...). I think I'd be weary stating it on my profile though as to avoid people in general getting the wrong impression (eg, think I'm only looking for a rship ultimately and not just fun occasionally)

So, my question is, do you think there are actually people on here who are looking for something more than sex but are scared to bring this topic up altogether or really it is just the wrong tree to bark up to and I should leave it at that..? "

There are a lot who are looking for more than just sex but I wouldn't say its wrong. I just think its something people should be more clear about on their profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been on and off the virtual dating scene for a while and I'm kinda starting to realise that unless I enter a relationship with someone who's equally sexually open, dirty and free spirited as I am it just it doesn't really float my boat.

So looking for potential dates on fab would be a natural thing to do but all people seem to look for on their profiles is NSA (if you read mine, that doesn't says elsehow either...). I think I'd be weary stating it on my profile though as to avoid people in general getting the wrong impression (eg, think I'm only looking for a rship ultimately and not just fun occasionally)

So, my question is, do you think there are actually people on here who are looking for something more than sex but are scared to bring this topic up altogether or really it is just the wrong tree to bark up to and I should leave it at that..?

nothing ruled out...... nothing ruled in

if I meet someone and they rock my world then cool.... if not then cool....

each situation as it comes... besides I dont think "actively" looking really helps... these things tend to just strike you....."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know why some people get all uppity about people looking for a partner on here. Surely if you want a partner into swinging, look on a swinging site. No point looking on a knitting forum.

If you're a fuck and go type just avoid the ones looking for fb's. Simple.

There's nothing wrong with either type of person.

Good luck to everyone looking. Hope you find someone lovely.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I am surprised that this thread hasn't turned into a forum for all the "white knights" to appear... lol oh but i am different ect ect ect......

as I said, I think it is the way that people approach this.....

people in clubs always say to me "you are lovely, why on earth are you single??"

I have always been of the opinion that if she comes along, then she comes along... if not, then I am happy with doing what I am doing...

rule nothing in... rule nothing out!

not so much actively looking as being more actively aware so to speak!

I think, actually scrub that, I know there are people who do take advantage of others in the respect they say they are after more when all they want is a leg over (yes, a lot of men on dating sites!!!)

I don't think it happens as much here as it does there, because I dont think people have to lie as much about what they are after (except for the marrieds playing without consent that will be everythere regardless)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'd just like to say how pleased I am how this thread turned out, especially after being so hesitant about posting in in the first place.

Each comment is understanding and constructive and they've definitely helped me to see swinging-dating in a new light.

Thank you and I hope you're all having a lovely day

Amy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd just like to say how pleased I am how this thread turned out, especially after being so hesitant about posting in in the first place.

Each comment is understanding and constructive and they've definitely helped me to see swinging-dating in a new light.

Thank you and I hope you're all having a lovely day

Amy x"

Oooo Nice!

Wait...hello? Anyone here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if your sexually adventurous then a site like this is probably a better place to find a relationship than a dating site, its going to cut out all the BS in the long run.

I count myself lucky that I met Kim but its pure luck that we both march to the beat of the same drum, majority of women I met and dated before her just wernt "out there" enough for me and i got bored in no time. Kim had never swung before we met, she just had a head full of fantasies she'd never put into practice.

So, yeh, its possible and if you just carry on meeting guys and click with one enough to embark on something more, what a huge bonus, im sure if the majority of single guys on here were honest, theyd love to meet a like minded single woman who would become their partner in crime and love them to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a single guy this is an appalling place to meet someone for a relationship. In 7 years I have only had two relationships off this site, both were serious yes, but the vast majority of women you send out messages to, most don't even get read. I shall never find anyone on here, so I'm actively looking elsewhere. In starting a vanilla relationship, if it doesn't show signs of being able to develop into a swinging relationship, then it'll be time to move on. That is the sad reality for single guys on here. I blame all the insincere time-wasters for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For a single guy this is an appalling place to meet someone for a relationship. In 7 years I have only had two relationships off this site, both were serious yes, but the vast majority of women you send out messages to, most don't even get read. I shall never find anyone on here, so I'm actively looking elsewhere. In starting a vanilla relationship, if it doesn't show signs of being able to develop into a swinging relationship, then it'll be time to move on. That is the sad reality for single guys on here. I blame all the insincere time-wasters for that."

This is the reality for everyone who enjoys Kinky sex, regarding the dating/vanilla site issues, if they are looking to date.

Not sure who or what you mean by time wasters though?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not looking for a relationship on here or any where else to be honest, I cant see me wanting a full on relationship till all the kids leave home but I don't see why if thats what your looking for that you cant find it on here....as long as they want it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send out 20 messages & only get one reply, even though you've read their profile & put something in your message that acknowledges that.

The timewasters are the married & attached men who send lots of messages & lead women on that they will meet & they have no other intention than to "crack one off" over there keyboard. This site is full of them unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send out 20 messages & only get one reply, even though you've read their profile & put something in your message that acknowledges that.

The timewasters are the married & attached men who send lots of messages & lead women on that they will meet & they have no other intention than to "crack one off" over there keyboard. This site is full of them unfortunately. "

Fair point, it is much harder here for single guys to get meets.

Ah yes, timewasters make everything harder for all, and you describe some of them perfectly.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Send out 20 messages & only get one reply, even though you've read their profile & put something in your message that acknowledges that.

The timewasters are the married & attached men who send lots of messages & lead women on that they will meet & they have no other intention than to "crack one off" over there keyboard. This site is full of them unfortunately. "

see... and it that "timewaster" word again...

all on others.... none on you....

Completely blameless....

oh woe is me.......

so you sent out 20 messages and got back 1.... be thankful for that one!!

it almost sounds like "well I am owed for sending out a message!".... some sort of entitlement and blue peter badge recognition....

you may think you are for them... they didn't think you were... life!! I have been on dates where I have thought that, its no different....

if you didn't get one with someone on a first date, should you be owed a date 2.... because if you read what you put thats how it sounds...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not at all. I'm just saying it how it is. I've had girlfriends that show me their fab accounts & the amount of messages girls get is overwhelming. So I have to be realistic. I am very grateful for the one out 20 that does reply, but it hardly inspires me that this site is great for finding a relationship. It's not & so it's better to face facts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also about 5 years ago I met a girl who'd never been a swinger. After I took her to a couple of clubs she was hooked & set up her own swinging club in Vancouver & was subjected to a lot of cock on a regular basis. She still thanks me for introducing her to the lifestyle.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"No not at all. I'm just saying it how it is. I've had girlfriends that show me their fab accounts & the amount of messages girls get is overwhelming. So I have to be realistic. I am very grateful for the one out 20 that does reply, but it hardly inspires me that this site is great for finding a relationship. It's not & so it's better to face facts. "

the perception of swinging versus the realities....

see if you are looking for a relationship first then I think you have to, and should be, honest from the get go... and that for me would also mean mentioning that in any profile I would personally have...

IMO, the mindset of looking for NSA sex, and looking for a relationship are two completly different things,

I am not here to mislead anyone... If anything were to happen after I met someone then cool.... but it isn't my main focus for being here

I have met single guys who get together with someone on here and then they turn into "superknob" (copyrighted me since I wasn't quick enough with instashag!) as soon as it happens... as if they are better for nabbing someone and being in a relationship...

I just laugh... all those people they stepped on, they meet them all on the way back down.....

so many people are fixated about finding that pot at the rainbow that they completly forget about the journey that got them there......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree. As much as I'd like a relationship, it isn't going to happen on here. I'm not desperate anyway & I'm happy with my life, it's just a shame there's no-one on here. When it does happen I'd be amazed if it was someone from this site. But fab is what it is, so there's no use complaining really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been on and off the virtual dating scene for a while and I'm kinda starting to realise that unless I enter a relationship with someone who's equally sexually open, dirty and free spirited as I am it just it doesn't really float my boat.

So looking for potential dates on fab would be a natural thing to do but all people seem to look for on their profiles is NSA (if you read mine, that doesn't says elsehow either...). I think I'd be weary stating it on my profile though as to avoid people in general getting the wrong impression (eg, think I'm only looking for a rship ultimately and not just fun occasionally)

So, my question is, do you think there are actually people on here who are looking for something more than sex but are scared to bring this topic up altogether or really it is just the wrong tree to bark up to and I should leave it at that..? "

If the right person comes along on fab, you would just know. And things would develop from there.

..a lot of people i know have met on fab through chat and are now kinky turtle doves lol. So, it does work...just, when you least expect it.

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By *GR2014Man
over a year ago

England

Done loads of dating on Zoosk and POF ect and to get a relationship for me is very simple to find a woman that will have a relationship and do swinging is Rocket Sciance so taboo in the vanila world... For me to find a Bi open minded woman would be bliss I'm loyal and faithfull but there as to be a swinging side too. So I've a problem too similar to yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No not at all. I'm just saying it how it is. I've had girlfriends that show me their fab accounts & the amount of messages girls get is overwhelming. So I have to be realistic. I am very grateful for the one out 20 that does reply, but it hardly inspires me that this site is great for finding a relationship. It's not & so it's better to face facts.

the perception of swinging versus the realities....

see if you are looking for a relationship first then I think you have to, and should be, honest from the get go... and that for me would also mean mentioning that in any profile I would personally have...

IMO, the mindset of looking for NSA sex, and looking for a relationship are two completly different things,

I am not here to mislead anyone... If anything were to happen after I met someone then cool.... but it isn't my main focus for being here

I have met single guys who get together with someone on here and then they turn into "superknob" (copyrighted me since I wasn't quick enough with instashag!) as soon as it happens... as if they are better for nabbing someone and being in a relationship...

I just laugh... all those people they stepped on, they meet them all on the way back down.....

so many people are fixated about finding that pot at the rainbow that they completly forget about the journey that got them there......"

Superknob!

Women do it too though. The amount of nauseating cocky posts from people that get together and suddenly start berating the singles, and rubbing their noses in it that some can't get meets....

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"

I have met single guys who get together with someone on here and then they turn into "superknob" (copyrighted me since I wasn't quick enough with instashag!) as soon as it happens... as if they are better for nabbing someone and being in a relationship...

I just laugh... all those people they stepped on, they meet them all on the way back down.....

so many people are fixated about finding that pot at the rainbow that they completly forget about the journey that got them there......"

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

This is a great place to find love! I have had a 2 year and a 3 year relationship with men off here. There was a little swinging in both relationships, and they ended on good terms. I have recently met someone new off here and been on a couple normal dates and it was great,

Don't bother with the fish site it is complete bollox!

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

I would definitely consider dating, but the issue lies if you can find someone local enough where its actually a possibility

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have come across 3 couples who have met through this site or other similar sites.

So it can happen and it can work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met on here, fucked, fucked some more and started dating. So it worked for us. We also know another couple who met on here and they are getting married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been on and off the virtual dating scene for a while and I'm kinda starting to realise that unless I enter a relationship with someone who's equally sexually open, dirty and free spirited as I am it just it doesn't really float my boat.

So looking for potential dates on fab would be a natural thing to do but all people seem to look for on their profiles is NSA (if you read mine, that doesn't says elsehow either...). I think I'd be weary stating it on my profile though as to avoid people in general getting the wrong impression (eg, think I'm only looking for a rship ultimately and not just fun occasionally)

So, my question is, do you think there are actually people on here who are looking for something more than sex but are scared to bring this topic up altogether or really it is just the wrong tree to bark up to and I should leave it at that..? "

Feel exactly as you do. Been tempted to put it in my profile so many times. I'd like to know up front that a guy has a decent-sized cock, that's strong, a high sex-drive and that kink is on the table. There is nothing worse than getting to like someone based on personality and then having to end it 'cause if I'm not satisfied I can't stay, and I won't cheat. but think most guys on here wouldn't contemplate it. bit like finding a needle in a haystack!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best thing..... try 'plenty of fish' its just like fab, but with a wider choice and everyone admits they want a relationship rather than just sex, but you can still have fun on there whilst looking for the one"

I'm on it, looking for a real realtionship.... weirdly, everyone describes it as an "easier way to shag" than fab! Struggle even more...

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"

Feel exactly as you do. Been tempted to put it in my profile so many times. I'd like to know up front that a guy has a decent-sized cock, that's strong, a high sex-drive and that kink is on the table. There is nothing worse than getting to like someone based on personality and then having to end it 'cause if I'm not satisfied I can't stay, and I won't cheat. but think most guys on here wouldn't contemplate it. bit like finding a needle in a haystack! "

Been there done that bought the t shirt. Was gutted when a guy I was dating was none of the above. I had to end it as I was never going to be satisfied.

I have found so far that you can only get one or the other.

Enjoy the ride I say. If you find a partner, great. If not just enjoy yourself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pardon my french but sometimes it seems like the nice guys can't fuck for shit! And the arseholes are all amazing in bed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pardon my french but sometimes it seems like the nice guys can't fuck for shit! And the arseholes are all amazing in bed!"

Pardon my frenchness but I'm a real nice guy and I can bring a few testimonies stating that I'm not that bad in a bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and you're in....Manchester!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and you're in....Manchester!! "

*Checking the next train to London*

We can find some sort of compromise

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Ask me in about a month or so

How old is too old to have a crush on someone?

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By *urvesAllOverWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Interesting timing.

I was contacted by a (i hope) nice guy last week after I'd been let down for a date off a "vanilla" site. Within a day of chatting there was something about him that intrigued me more than usual with FAB guys.

We are going on a date tomorrow (not a social or a meet) so lets see if it goes well. I wasn't looking for it, in fact I actively avoid situations that can get complicated usually, but who knows!

WHOOP!! Curves, keep us posted on how it goes! I hope e turns out to be a good egg!!! "

Egg seems good so far!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I live in hope but I'm having fun along the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think alot of people on here aren't necessarily looking but open to the idea xx

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By *utecontradictionMan
over a year ago

Malvern

I dream of being able to find someone that I could have a perfectly filthy, naughty relationship with. I have had the pleasure of coming close to it in the last and adore sharing the girl I am with. On here I find the problem is finding anyone local, though I am soon moving so perhaps I shall have more luck in my new area.

I am also on vanilla dating sites and of course its not that easy to say on there what I am looking for, though once I start chatting to someone on there I do steer the conversation round to it to see if its a possibility. After all I know what I want and need and would never want to waste their time if they dont want the same thing. ...I too live in hope, but I dont think compromise is the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dream of being able to find someone that I could have a perfectly filthy, naughty relationship with. I have had the pleasure of coming close to it in the last and adore sharing the girl I am with. On here I find the problem is finding anyone local, though I am soon moving so perhaps I shall have more luck in my new area.

I am also on vanilla dating sites and of course its not that easy to say on there what I am looking for, though once I start chatting to someone on there I do steer the conversation round to it to see if its a possibility. After all I know what I want and need and would never want to waste their time if they dont want the same thing. ...I too live in hope, but I dont think compromise is the answer. "
Move down south, very south. Yum yum. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you meet someone and you both 'click' then that is fantastic.

Lots of people are frightened of getting hurt again, but if you never take a risk you'll never know.

Just choosing when to show your feelings to someone can be complex!

We all have hearts and we all have scars, but taking a chance on someone is the only way you ever find out.

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By *utecontradictionMan
over a year ago

Malvern


"I dream of being able to find someone that I could have a perfectly filthy, naughty relationship with. I have had the pleasure of coming close to it in the last and adore sharing the girl I am with. On here I find the problem is finding anyone local, though I am soon moving so perhaps I shall have more luck in my new area.

I am also on vanilla dating sites and of course its not that easy to say on there what I am looking for, though once I start chatting to someone on there I do steer the conversation round to it to see if its a possibility. After all I know what I want and need and would never want to waste their time if they dont want the same thing. ...I too live in hope, but I dont think compromise is the answer. Move down south, very south. Yum yum. xx "

I am. Hopefully Brighton area. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dream of being able to find someone that I could have a perfectly filthy, naughty relationship with. I have had the pleasure of coming close to it in the last and adore sharing the girl I am with. On here I find the problem is finding anyone local, though I am soon moving so perhaps I shall have more luck in my new area.

I am also on vanilla dating sites and of course its not that easy to say on there what I am looking for, though once I start chatting to someone on there I do steer the conversation round to it to see if its a possibility. After all I know what I want and need and would never want to waste their time if they dont want the same thing. ...I too live in hope, but I dont think compromise is the answer. Move down south, very south. Yum yum. xx

I am. Hopefully Brighton area. X"
Left a bit, down a bit, a bit more, stop!

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"I think alot of people on here aren't necessarily looking but open to the idea xx"

This

You never know who you might meet. But I think if you actively go looking for that person they tend to be harder to find. I haven't met anyone yet, but you never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have recently changed my profile to say no longer meeting off here as I now would like to now start dating with a _iew to a long term relationship , whilst obviously the messages I receive are fewer I do get a lot of men saying they would like the same, and if they met someone would be off here like a shot. This is just a stop gap for some of us.

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By *urvesAllOverWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I have recently changed my profile to say no longer meeting off here as I now would like to now start dating with a _iew to a long term relationship , whilst obviously the messages I receive are fewer I do get a lot of men saying they would like the same, and if they met someone would be off here like a shot. This is just a stop gap for some of us."

very much agree and my date said the same. Nice to know we both enjoy having fun but fab is just somewhere to find fun for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have recently changed my profile to say no longer meeting off here as I now would like to now start dating with a _iew to a long term relationship , whilst obviously the messages I receive are fewer I do get a lot of men saying they would like the same, and if they met someone would be off here like a shot. This is just a stop gap for some of us.

very much agree and my date said the same. Nice to know we both enjoy having fun but fab is just somewhere to find fun for a while "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't normally post on the forums but felt I had to on this one...

ive been on fabs for about 3 years as a single female and met some lovely people, always tried to keep this and "dating" websites completely separate, but always wondered how I would bring up my "other hobbies" when and if I met the right person,and also always said that I wouldn't want a relationship with anyody I met off fabs as I thought it would bring up problems along the way but ended up chatting to somebody in chatrooms for a while and knew that we would get on before we even met...and so 4 months later we now live together and are very much in love,and although we don't meet we still go into chat to see old friends and I don't have to worry about bringing up my kinky side and scaring someone off

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

love its an easy word to say without meaning it but can destroy someones faith in human beings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i don't normally post on the forums but felt I had to on this one...

ive been on fabs for about 3 years as a single female and met some lovely people, always tried to keep this and "dating" websites completely separate, but always wondered how I would bring up my "other hobbies" when and if I met the right person,and also always said that I wouldn't want a relationship with anyody I met off fabs as I thought it would bring up problems along the way but ended up chatting to somebody in chatrooms for a while and knew that we would get on before we even met...and so 4 months later we now live together and are very much in love,and although we don't meet we still go into chat to see old friends and I don't have to worry about bringing up my kinky side and scaring someone off "

That's lovely to hear , I always said I don't think I could date someone off here but have to say I would consider it seeing as so many men would date if it was the right person.

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

Decided to re word my profile and be honest about what i'm looking for, as I feel I have reached a point where I need more than just sex in my life...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Decided to re word my profile and be honest about what i'm looking for, as I feel I have reached a point where I need more than just sex in my life..."
Indeed...........well said that woman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would be great to find someone to settle down with on here at least you would know your potential partners fantasies and sexual "likes and dislikes" I always find those things hard to talk about with new partners lol. And I don't think people should be scared to put it in their profile what they are looking for.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"I'm not looking for a relationship on here or any where else to be honest, I cant see me wanting a full on relationship till all the kids leave home but I don't see why if thats what your looking for that you cant find it on here....as long as they want it too "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are single and meeting with other singles, then there's a good chance that you may meet someone who you show more of an interest in and you want to see again. Swinging is a hobby and it seems perfectly natural to meet someone who shares the same hobby as you.

However I do think it can be problematic. All too often we see people getting together, starting up couple profiles, constantly updating the forum on the details of a blossoming relationship and they can become an

object of ridicule. It's embarrassing to see the fall out if it comes.

I am sure it can happen, and in my opinion if two people do meet on a site such as this, give themselves time away from this hobby to develop a more personal relationship and keep it discreet from others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Too many people to address with individual replies but MAN I'm glad I chose to be honest and post this thread! All of you, who opened up and now in relationships, dating or having epic crushes, my fingers are crossed for them happy endings (pun may have been intended...!)

And to those of us who are looking, whoop de whoop, there's hope for the pervy singleton! I'm half tempted to organize some kind of a swingers/singles night!!

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

I firmly believe when it comes to relationships. the harder you look the harder it is to grasp.

I say go with the flow and trust your instincts so you know when the right one comes along

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