FabSwingers.com forum: so many ignorant people on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I cant believe how many fucking ignornant people there are on this site!

Ive pretty much given up sending any messages cos it winds me up when people just delete them without reply,i know there are millions of guys on this site and the ladies and probably couples get loads of messages a day but if a guy has read your profile correctly and matches what your looking for and sends you a message it takes seconds to reply with a no ,no thanks or even fuck off id prefer that rather than just deleting!

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not seen as rude to not reply. A no reply or deleted message is a thanks but no thanks.

We get it the same when contacting some people. We just block so we don't bother them again and move on.

My singles profile gets a lot. And unless I normally reply but sometimes if there are too many I just clear my inbox.

Cali

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I no exactly what you mean my friend !

Then the next status update from the people you have mailed reads something like " is there any decent guys on here , I want a meet "

And your left thinking what the fuck !!!!!

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and can I just point out that if you matched what they wanted they would reply.

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find when I do reply you end up in a conversation that can last forever with a person you don't even want to meet, clogging up your emails and wasting both your time...and they still try to convince you to meet despite you saying no. Don't take it personally.

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand why messages are deleted. It is nice to receive a thanks but no thanks email, but that then leads to you sending a thanks for your thanks but no thanks email, as after all it's only polite to reply to a message.

And so it goes on with the poor buggers who are inevitably more desirable and popular than I, becoming deluged with thanks for the thanks but no thanks messages.

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just dont let it wind u up, its just one of them things on here,

if ladies answered every mail they would be on here 24/7, and some guys dont take no for an answer then get abusive, do you really want ladies to take abuse on here?? just for daring to say no?? I personally dont,

just keep at it so to speak,and keep calm

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you send a message when you clearly havent read the profile and dont match whats been looked for then just delete it thats fair enough, but otherwise a no thanks is all it takes, to just delete it i find ignorant

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

I absolutely agree with the op 100%

Come on people don't bother reading the site rules. No reply is a reply. Come on the forums having a go, where people do bother with a thanks but no thanks message.

Yes this is why single men can't even pm me. Maybe if every one used filters, the frustrated wouldn't be able to send messages (to be ignored).

*sarcasm warning*

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to ones I think match after viewing their profile.

The rest I delete

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

on many sites, there is a button to click, stating " Thanks for your message, but I don't think we would be compatible" or something similar, it would save the feeling of frustration or not knowing a reason. seems a simple and logical addition to the message facility.

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By *entaur 9Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Its even more frustrating when they have winked or messaged you first.

Unfortunately that is the nature of the site at times.

As others have said dont take it personally. It happens to us all whether single or a couple.

Good luck and keep smiling

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deletions and no replies are par for the course on here but it does wind me up when the profile says something like ' come and say hello' and when you do the fuckers ignore you!

But hey ho thats fab.......!

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant believe how many fucking ignornant people there are on this site who don't read the site rules!!

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I cant believe how many fucking ignornant people there are on this site!

We will reply to any message where they have read our profile and made a bit of an effort. Whether we are interested in taking things further, or not.

Any one liners then we just hit delete!But then it does say we will in our profile. If someone chooses to ignore that, it's their own fault.

Not just single men who sometimes get messages deleted. We have had ours deleted but it's not worth getting stressed or annoyed over. We see a delete as a 'thanks but no thanks'.

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By *entaur 9Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire

"on many sites, there is a button to click, stating " Thanks for your message, but I don't think we would be compatible" or something similar, it would save the feeling of frustration or not knowing a reason. seems a simple and logical addition to the message facility.

Yes . Great feature maybe even link it to block list . Then they cant change their mind when they realise they missed a great catch and also you cant make the embarrassing mistake of contacting them again despite the message warnings. Lol

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately

By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

If you take "no reply" as "not interested, thank you" you'll enjoy the site more

Admin x

(thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately