FabSwingers.com forum: couple politics

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Met a great couple on here during the summer, met a tew times really hit it off, some long evenings together.

But, am now persona non grata aftet texting her number.

This was deemed over stepping their boundaries. I did but sent a message to all three numbers I had as they travel a lot in the continent so thought id catch them by textig all three numbers same details requesting a meet.

It didn't go down to well and was read incorrectly.

So what do I do now my fellow fabsters, let it go, I haven't been in touch at all since, or email them.

Yours horny in Richmond

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

move on and forget then, you made an error in their eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let it go. No point in trying to get them to understand if they have given you the cold shoulder.

Plenty of other couples in the sea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whats their numbers?, I'm after a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Learn a valuable lesson.... And move onto pastures new

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's tricky sometimes knowing what to do for the best, after all, you were given 3 numbers so that suggests they wanted you to contact them and a bland txt is pretty discreet. But now you've been ignored, it's an obvious answer they don't want to see you again. They were good times whilst they lasted....but move on and find another couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am surprised you had her number if they were offended by you using it .

We have a simple rule ... male to male or female to female for messaging and never veer off it .

As we are on some whatsapp groups it is possible for our numbers to be found . When guys have messaged my wife they get one warning and if it happens agsin they are blocked .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is just so frustrating if you are genuinely misunderstood

I would try to get it across you had honorable intentions and if its not good enough then like everyone says, move on x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Learn a valuable lesson.... And move onto pastures new

Onwards it is, discretion is everything lesson learnt x

Nice photos MTFs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Learn a valuable lesson.... And move onto pastures new

Onwards it is, discretion is everything lesson learnt x

Nice photos MTFs x"

Thankyou... Plenty of nice couples around, who I'm sure would welcome you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

it must be very difficult for single men meeting couples but as a general rule I would say never contact them unless you're adressing both of them and never, ever contact the lady alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe message them on here apologising for any upset and explaining your thinking like on the above post.

But then leave it very much up to them. Grovelling or even worse trying to convince them they were wrong and/or over reacted will almost certainly get you nowhere.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am surprised you had her number if they were offended by you using it .

We have a simple rule ... male to male or female to female for messaging and never veer off it .

As we are on some whatsapp groups it is possible for our numbers to be found . When guys have messaged my wife they get one warning and if it happens agsin they are blocked .

Yup put their numbers in a single contact not really knowing which number was whom's but thinking they'd be together to read it in whatever country theyd be in in whatever device it reached them on.

Man to man messaging rule sounds perfect for that...

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

But, am now persona non grata aftet texting her number.

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wtf i dont get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may worth baring in mind that some couples may have a cut off point after having several meets with the same person. It's nothing personnel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But, am now persona non grata aftet texting her number.

wtf i dont get it

He explained after requesting i delete her number which I did directly, that I should only contact him...transgressed, lesson learnt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It may worth baring in mind that some couples may have a cut off point after having several meets with the same person. It's nothing personnel.

Yup guess so, there is that to it, but felt I factored that into my thinking for the first meet...xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe message them on here apologising for any upset and explaining your thinking like on the above post.

But then leave it very much up to them. Grovelling or even worse trying to convince them they were wrong and/or over reacted will almost certainly get you nowhere. "

Thnx crystalwheels will send them an email with that in it and move on

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Met a great couple on here during the summer, met a tew times really hit it off, some long evenings together.

But, am now persona non grata aftet texting her number.

It didn't go down to well and was read incorrectly.

So what do I do now my fellow fabsters, let it go, I haven't been in touch at all since, or email them.

Yours horny in Richmond

If the message you sent to all 3 numbers that they've given you was identical, I'd say they're being a bit silly to complain if you then contact them with a message on those numbers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yours horny in Richmond

If the message you sent to all 3 numbers that they've given you was identical, I'd say they're being a bit silly to complain if you then contact them with a message on those numbers. "

Yes was identical copying in each number, one of which was a foreign landline and two uk mobiles, so not certain which were goig were...but, I should of made sure.

Discretion is evrything and their dynamics have been unsettled by the percieved slight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe message them on here apologising for any upset and explaining your thinking like on the above post.

But then leave it very much up to them. Grovelling or even worse trying to convince them they were wrong and/or over reacted will almost certainly get you nowhere.

Thnx crystalwheels will send them an email with that in it and move on"

So they've asked you not to contact them again after you overstepped their boundaries however inadvertantly and you're now going to expressly go against their wishes again?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No.

They just said to contact him directly fir when I next wanted to play.

He said he would contact me ad they weren't meeting for a bit.

I took this to mean they were furious and didn't contact them for the past two months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yours horny in Richmond

If the message you sent to all 3 numbers that they've given you was identical, I'd say they're being a bit silly to complain if you then contact them with a message on those numbers.

Yes was identical copying in each number, one of which was a foreign landline and two uk mobiles, so not certain which were goig were...but, I should of made sure.

Discretion is evrything and their dynamics have been unsettled by the percieved slight. "

Why text a foreign landline number. Anyone could have answered it and listened to message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

They just said to contact him directly fir when I next wanted to play.

He said he would contact me ad they weren't meeting for a bit.

I took this to mean they were furious and didn't contact them for the past two months.

He has been very clear, whatever you have inferred from the message. They may be furious, they may genuinely not be meeting. Leave them alone, they've set their boundary for you and you'll be overstepping it delberately and not accidentally this time...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My mistake it would be a foreign mobile number.

So three mobile numbers toi text, dont ge hung up on the landline number lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That is the reverse of what Id be after, so point taken.

Lesson learnt and onwards.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

That is the reverse of what Id be after, so point taken.

Lesson learnt and onwards. "

Probably for the best, just see if they get in touch. One of the problems that come up with couples is the simple fact that you don't know what's going on in there relationship, maybe that's part of the reaction to your contact?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes there was moments of this. He is her Dom and she is sub but there were flashes of instability.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Yes there was moments of this. He is her Dom and she is sub but there were flashes of instability. "

I've come across similar things before, you may just have been lucky

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've come across similar things before, you may just have been lucky

Lol I'll leave them to work it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did the couple give you both numbersand tell you to text either one of those numbers anytime.

If you were just wanting to say hi and see if they were around to meet, then why didn't you just message on here.

But if you messaged her and said 'hi beautiful, would love to get down to some hot n horny sex with you, then I can see why they got annoyed.

The key to remember is that couple means two. I am sure that all the couples on here have had experience of a guy messaging saying, hi gorgeous you have a great body' ... and call me a cynic but I don't think they are addressing the men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Crikey nothing like that, thanks.

Was much more condensed absolutely no floweryness.

Sometimes id get a text off one of them telling me to be at a hotel within an hour.

Or a bit furthet a long a flat.

There was no flirty messaging textig ir darlings thrown.

Hr arranged for her to meet and wad either there or watching from skype.

There were specific boundaries which were respected and some unsaid which were respected like no kissing

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Crikey nothing like that, thanks.

Was much more condensed absolutely no floweryness.

Sometimes id get a text off one of them telling me to be at a hotel within an hour.

Or a bit furthet a long a flat.

There was no flirty messaging textig ir darlings thrown.

Hr arranged for her to meet and wad either there or watching from skype.

There were specific boundaries which were respected and some unsaid which were respected like no kissing

Well if he organised the meets why give you her number?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She did when she texted me her address whilst he was in another country, ive since worked out who's numbers were who's., and foolishly I shouldn't have group texted the request for another meet. Ive also realised he cant have known she contacted me on her mobile...

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"She did when she texted me her address whilst he was in another country, ive since worked out who's numbers were who's., and foolishly I shouldn't have group texted the request for another meet. Ive also realised he cant have known she contacted me on her mobile..."

He probably thinks you've been meeting her unknown to him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ah really? ? Id not considered that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ah that's me done then don't want to get back into that can of worms, shame she was hot and they were filth lol

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Let it go....

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I'd be surprised if they blocked you for a generic catch up message: it must have read like it was addressed to the wife only. We know couples are contacted separately by meets at times.

Lesson learned: move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let it go...."

but its a stinker...PAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrP!

oops...I was right, choking here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am assuming they said do no not text if they did then you have only yourself to blame really esp as you text 3 numbers could come across as bit excessive.

If they didnt say no texts then fact they gave you their number makes what you did seem reasonable to me.

Either way move on as they made it clear by sounds of it you overstepped mark on their eyes.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Did the couple give you both numbersand tell you to text either one of those numbers anytime.

If you were just wanting to say hi and see if they were around to meet, then why didn't you just message on here.

But if you messaged her and said 'hi beautiful, would love to get down to some hot n horny sex with you, then I can see why they got annoyed.

^^^^This! My initial thought too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Let it go...."

Yes yes letting go lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Met a great couple on here during the summer, met a tew times really hit it off, some long evenings together.

But, am now persona non grata aftet texting her number.

It didn't go down to well and was read incorrectly.

So what do I do now my fellow fabsters, let it go, I haven't been in touch at all since, or email them.

Yours horny in Richmond

You move on and if they want to contact you they will.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Am assuming they said do no not text if they did then you have only yourself to blame really esp as you text 3 numbers could come across as bit excessive.

If they didnt say no texts then fact they gave you their number makes what you did seem reasonable to me.

Either way move on as they made it clear by sounds of it you overstepped mark on their eyes."

Texts to them were fine as we'd moved on from messaging through fab. But unknown to me was which mobile number was hers. And which mobile number they were using in which countries...

Complicated huh

Anyway hold on tightly let go lightly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Met a great couple on here during the summer, met a tew

Yours horny in Richmond

You move on and if they want to contact you they will."

Cheers beefy, that was what I was just thinking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Let it go....

but its a stinker...PAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrP!

oops...I was right, choking here!

Haaaa yup it is a doozy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But it's nit a crock of shite it is real and just unravelling through asking the fabsters here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

They've resurfaced all is forgiven it seems and hot times resume

xxx

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