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By *exyhornycpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Why do I feel so low and pissed off by yet another no show....I am not stupid enough to know that I can't out all the fakers, nor am I gullible enough to fall for all the excuses, but why do I feel so pissed off when at the end of the day it is not a life or death situation,grrrrrrrrrrrr

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Drop from the excitement, adrenaline and anticipation.

It's natural to be disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they're part of life here, nearly as bad as the meet that arrives 45 mins late when you've lost the feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something you've been looking forward to, if you were not disappointed then it would be time to give up, it's a natural response x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do I feel so low and pissed off by yet another no show....I am not stupid enough to know that I can't out all the fakers, nor am I gullible enough to fall for all the excuses, but why do I feel so pissed off when at the end of the day it is not a life or death situation,grrrrrrrrrrrr"

Did they have the courtesy to let you know or didn't they even contact you?

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By *exyhornycpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire

good job I had a decent bottle of wine in then, just feel so foolish for falling for all the bullshit ,investing time, effort and money, never learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be strange if you wouldn't be pissed off. NSA doesn't mean that you are totally bereft of feelings; indeed the anticipation and whole build-up from first contact, messages etc to you preparing yourself and then finally it dawning on you that it's not going to happen - it's crap to say the least. Hope you'll feel better tomorrow.

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By *exyhornycpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire

yeah they text but been building up for weeks the planning, the outfit, scenario, sounds so obvious now but to be honest gutted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know. Been there. Felt hopelessly stupid in my outfit. Even if the excuse was plausible, it came hours too late.

If there was a hug-emoticon I'd add it here.

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By *exyhornycpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire

thanks hun sure I will,amazing just chatting here makes you feel better,your right if I didn't feel let down that would be wrong, supposed no one likes to be had over, but cant win them all.

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By *bbwlizWoman
over a year ago

oldham

I know exactly how you feel and I don't blame you for being pissed off.

Once I had 3 single guys not show on the same day. My mood went from feeling horny to extremely pissed off.

I would report him to admin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know exactly how you feel and I don't blame you for being pissed off.

Once I had 3 single guys not show on the same day. My mood went from feeling horny to extremely pissed off.

I would report him to admin. "

Just out of curiosity what can admin do if there's a report for a no show ?

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By *bbwlizWoman
over a year ago

oldham

"I know exactly how you feel and I don't blame you for being pissed off.

Once I had 3 single guys not show on the same day. My mood went from feeling horny to extremely pissed off.

I would report him to admin.

Just out of curiosity what can admin do if there's a report for a no show ?"

I doubt they will do much from just the one report, but if they continue with no shows, and others report them too, I hope they would kick them off the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know exactly how you feel and I don't blame you for being pissed off.

Once I had 3 single guys not show on the same day. My mood went from feeling horny to extremely pissed off.

I would report him to admin.

Just out of curiosity what can admin do if there's a report for a no show ?

I doubt they will do much from just the one report, but if they continue with no shows, and others report them too, I hope they would kick them off the site. "

Probably too subjective as they would have to weigh up all the excuses etc - another site I'm on you can give negative feedback that shows up on the profile - but again I've seen some vindictive people abuse that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a blow when that happens and i feel for you.

Dont let it get to you though, just look at it like this, wow did they miss out on a great fun filled night, their loss not yours.

Block and move on

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I know exactly how you feel and I don't blame you for being pissed off.

Once I had 3 single guys not show on the same day. My mood went from feeling horny to extremely pissed off.

I would report him to admin. "

So hold on a minute: a man changes his mind, let's the op know and he's to be reported?!! If it'd been a single man posting he'd have been told women are allowed to change their mind!

Op: your profile states "send us your ideas". Just a thought, perhaps not invite wankers (literally)! Apologies if I'm wrong but it appears you're engaging in "what will you do to me" scenarios: if so, you're providing wank material, job done, no need to meet.

Whilst I emphasis with you're disappointment you have a partner so don't truly understand your frustration.

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By *bbwlizWoman
over a year ago

oldham

I didn't notice the op had said the guy had text her.

In situations where the person hasn't contacted me to cancel, then I do report them. It is one of the reasons in the check list that you can report a person for.

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By *exyhornycpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire

I was just venting my disappointment that was all, won't report as suggested, like you said changed his mind, we all entitled to that, was just pissed off and felt like sharing isn't that what the forum is for?.Yes I am blessed with a partner but doesn't mean I'm not frustrated in myself for believing this guy.. Today is another.. day so over it now.....NEXT!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Drop from the excitement, adrenaline and anticipation.

It's natural to be disappointed."

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By *obnessMan
over a year ago

york

Having seen the op 's pics i would have crawled over broken glass to get there. But i would for anybody i had arranged to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont accommodate when swinging so we go out. If we had a cancellation then we would just continue to a club.

But I can understand the disappointment. It's getting ready, dressing up to the nines, putting your face on etc, the anticipation of meeting a new person, doing something crazy like having sex with strangers. Whilst you love your partner and cosying up on the sofa together is lovely, the adreneline of an evening that was very different, is still running through your veins.

As I said swinging to me is going out of my day to day life, meeting crazy people, doing crazy things, it's all a bit quirky and surreal isn't it, and I get my kicks from going to clubs mainly, and they are always open so I'm never disappointed.

It's another day, you're ok, you'll have another great meet which will make you laugh, make you feel sexy, have great fun etc. It's perfectly natural to feel disappointed over an event that didn't happen that you had planned and had looked forward to all day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's there loss not yours just think of all the good meets

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By *exyhornycpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Thanks hun fab response, have a lovely day yourself xxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"good job I had a decent bottle of wine in then, just feel so foolish for falling for all the bullshit ,investing time, effort and money, never learn "

I think the last 2 words sum it up best.

If you keep getting messed around then look at what you are doing wrong. It's a cliché but you are the constant factor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not a nice feeling .

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I didn't notice the op had said the guy had text her.

In situations where the person hasn't contacted me to cancel, then I do report them. It is one of the reasons in the check list that you can report a person for. "

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By *exyhornycpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire

"good job I had a decent bottle of wine in then, just feel so foolish for falling for all the bullshit ,investing time, effort and money, never learn

I think the last 2 words sum it up best.

If you keep getting messed around then look at what you are doing wrong. It's a cliché but you are the constant factor."

thanks for the advice, if you read all the threads you would see this was post to vent my disappointment yesterday, I have not said this keeps happening ,in fact we have been lucky that no shows are rare,doesn't mean it isn't disappointing when it does happen. But thanks for sharing

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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

"good job I had a decent bottle of wine in then, just feel so foolish for falling for all the bullshit ,investing time, effort and money, never learn "

I agree its the time and effort you've given this man....just shows both sexes can be timewasters

but as long as you enjoyed the wine

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By *exyhornycpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire

yep wine great, lesson learned, don't get tooo excited. soooo what to do today

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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

shopping and comfy shoes for me today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"good job I had a decent bottle of wine in then, just feel so foolish for falling for all the bullshit ,investing time, effort and money, never learn

I think the last 2 words sum it up best.

If you keep getting messed around then look at what you are doing wrong. It's a cliché but you are the constant factor.

My apologies, might have been the phrase "yet another no show" that led me to think it was a regular occurence.

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Genuine guys never get the meets.. Just the way the cookie crumbles x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

If I arrange to visit someone and they cancel, I go to plan B, which is either dogging, or the pub. After spending an hour or so getting ready and looking almost human, I can't face the prospect of just taking all the make up off.

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