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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all

I've been with my gf over 3 years, very much in love, but her sex drive is very low. Not had sex in about 4 weeks, when I try and initiate I get the cold shoulder or some excuse.

What should I do? Don't want to lose her but I'm 27 should be shagging everyday!

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

maybe log out of fab and ask her about it ?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

4 weeks? Try 4 years and stay sane.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her and try to find out what the problem is, relationships are all about honest, open communication and compromise.

At 27 doesn't mean you should be shagging everyday - it is about mutual fun,

And does she know you are on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"4 weeks? Try 4 years and stay sane. "

try 7 years and 27 without being kissed by him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 weeks is not a sexless relationship. It might not be as often as you like but it certainly isn't sexless.

Maybe she knows you've had an account on here for at least a quarter of your relationship and that is effecting her libido?

To be honest at your age, if you are cheating I'd say do both of you a favour and end it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Talk to her and try to find out what the problem is, relationships are all about honest, open communication and compromise.

At 27 doesn't mean you should be shagging everyday - it is about mutual fun,

And does she know you are on here? "

No she doesn't know I'm on here. Don't come on here often only to have a perv. Never had a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talk to her and try to find out what the problem is, relationships are all about honest, open communication and compromise.

At 27 doesn't mean you should be shagging everyday - it is about mutual fun,

And does she know you are on here?

No she doesn't know I'm on here. Don't come on here often only to have a perv. Never had a meet"

But surely that should tell you enough about your relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"4 weeks? Try 4 years and stay sane. "

beat you 10 years

honestly 2001 till 2011

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

I've been with my gf over 3 years, very much in love, but her sex drive is very low. Not had sex in about 4 weeks, when I try and initiate I get the cold shoulder or some excuse.

What should I do? Don't want to lose her but I'm 27 should be shagging everyday!"

I went 4 years without sex in my marriage, something for you to look forwards too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

I've been with my gf over 3 years, very much in love, but her sex drive is very low. Not had sex in about 4 weeks, when I try and initiate I get the cold shoulder or some excuse.

What should I do? Don't want to lose her but I'm 27 should be shagging everyday!"

Maybe she found out you are on here 4 wks ago, joined up herself and now getting all she can handle elsewhere?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as post above - get out of the relationship - gives both of you enough time to find someone new

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps she's getting a good time elsewhere?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were you ever having regular nookie? If so when did it stop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her hun .... Or you will end up living a lie !!!! (If you have not already got kids) it will get much worse if you have kids !!!! Sometimes love is not enough !!! Good luck hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talk to her hun .... Or you will end up living a lie !!!! (If you have not already got kids) it will get much worse if you have kids !!!! Sometimes love is not enough !!! Good luck hun x "

Sometimes it is. Love and trust is all that is needed in a long term relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the longer you drag it out the worse the breakup will be. Trust me, i've been there twice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talk to her hun .... Or you will end up living a lie !!!! (If you have not already got kids) it will get much worse if you have kids !!!! Sometimes love is not enough !!! Good luck hun x

Sometimes it is. Love and trust is all that is needed in a long term relationship. "

I don't agree !!! It just eats at the relationship ! Being best friends is top .. But if one is not happy because of lack of affection that will become huge over the years !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spent 2 n half years In a sexless marriage (and it wasn't through lack of trying) and he eventually left me for the woman he was shagging on the side and as done have said 4 weeks in a long term relationship isn't a sexless one it's a dry patch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

I've been with my gf over 3 years, very much in love, but her sex drive is very low. Not had sex in about 4 weeks, when I try and initiate I get the cold shoulder or some excuse.

What should I do? Don't want to lose her but I'm 27 should be shagging everyday!"

You don't want to lose her but you are on a sex site? Have you tried talking to her rather than bunch internet strangers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talk to her hun .... Or you will end up living a lie !!!! (If you have not already got kids) it will get much worse if you have kids !!!! Sometimes love is not enough !!! Good luck hun x

Sometimes it is. Love and trust is all that is needed in a long term relationship.

I don't agree !!! It just eats at the relationship ! Being best friends is top .. But if one is not happy because of lack of affection that will become huge over the years !!! "

Just have to agree to disagree then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talk to her hun .... Or you will end up living a lie !!!! (If you have not already got kids) it will get much worse if you have kids !!!! Sometimes love is not enough !!! Good luck hun x

Sometimes it is. Love and trust is all that is needed in a long term relationship.

I don't agree !!! It just eats at the relationship ! Being best friends is top .. But if one is not happy because of lack of affection that will become huge over the years !!!

Just have to agree to disagree then. "

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth


"maybe log out of fab and ask her about it ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talk to her hun .... Or you will end up living a lie !!!! (If you have not already got kids) it will get much worse if you have kids !!!! Sometimes love is not enough !!! Good luck hun x

Sometimes it is. Love and trust is all that is needed in a long term relationship.

I don't agree !!! It just eats at the relationship ! Being best friends is top .. But if one is not happy because of lack of affection that will become huge over the years !!!

Just have to agree to disagree then.

"

If I was with someone 20 years and it died off or my partner got injured so she couldn't have it anymore. Then I could easily go with out as I live that person. On the other hand. If it does off really early in the relationship. Love wouldn't be as strong and I would probably end things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talk to her hun .... Or you will end up living a lie !!!! (If you have not already got kids) it will get much worse if you have kids !!!! Sometimes love is not enough !!! Good luck hun x

Sometimes it is. Love and trust is all that is needed in a long term relationship.

I don't agree !!! It just eats at the relationship ! Being best friends is top .. But if one is not happy because of lack of affection that will become huge over the years !!!

Just have to agree to disagree then.

If I was with someone 20 years and it died off or my partner got injured so she couldn't have it anymore. Then I could easily go with out as I live that person. On the other hand. If it does off really early in the relationship. Love wouldn't be as strong and I would probably end things. "

Until you have lived it you will never really understand ! Nothing is ever that simple !! ... Everyone's different though .. No 2 relationships are exactly the same ! ... But in my opinion if its a problem at 27 then at say 37 and a few kids is it will be huge !

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs


"Hi all

I've been with my gf over 3 years, very much in love, but her sex drive is very low. Not had sex in about 4 weeks, when I try and initiate I get the cold shoulder or some excuse.

What should I do? Don't want to lose her but I'm 27 should be shagging everyday!"

@ Will

If your GF is on the pill it may be the hormones switching her off. Talk to her about it and try a different method of contraception ( eg: Billings method ) and give it a good 6 months for the pill to wash out and her libido to recover.

If not, get out of there.

Jane x

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Hi all

I've been with my gf over 3 years, very much in love, but her sex drive is very low. Not had sex in about 4 weeks, when I try and initiate I get the cold shoulder or some excuse.

What should I do? Don't want to lose her but I'm 27 should be shagging everyday!"

Been there done that. You need to face it head on and talk about it until you find a solution. If you cannot resolve it the relationship cannot survive IMO, it just becomes a slow death.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you care about your girlfriend, delete your account. What makes you think she doesnt know you're doing shit like this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time I read a post from yourselves you love getting on the moral ground and never even looking from op point of view!!! Maybe you should do that and actually respect other peoples opinions and also questions for a change!

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By *ason 3Couple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

People are to quick to jump in with an opinion relationships are like our seasons they change unfortunately no matter how good your relationship is other male or females will a excite you more than your partner because its stolen it will change and there is nothing wrong being on this site as long as you are both on the site to share the photos its exciting what other people do we wish that we can do it to but don't know how to xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talk to her and try to find out what the problem is, relationships are all about honest, open communication and compromise.

At 27 doesn't mean you should be shagging everyday - it is about mutual fun,

And does she know you are on here?

No she doesn't know I'm on here. Don't come on here often only to have a perv. Never had a meet"

But will that change if you don't get sex after another week? Maybe you've taken your eye off the ball by putting time into this site instead if your relationship. I think if your gf found out you had a profile on here that says you've been on here over a year as well, she'd be very hurt and I wouldn't fancy your chances of convincing her you'd never met anyone.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

A swinging site is not the place for you .talk to her try gadget some advice from trained people .swingers sights are for couples with healthy sex lives who trust each other talk to each other .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unfortunately, you arent in a relationship with a blow up doll, you are with another human being, and as such, her emotions and feelings may well be different from your at certain times of your lives.

the very last thing i would be doing is asking internet strangers their opinion as none of us know either of you.

best thing is to talk to her.

if she denies there being a problem (and that part of your relationship has changed and she just doesnt have as high a sex drive as you, and never has) then you have a few options.

seek professional help (real professional, not the ones that say they are on their profiles). with help you can possibly get your relationship back to where it was.

go back to where you were 4 years ago when you started going out. have date nights. kiss and cuddle, with no pressure to fuck, make her feel like she is the only woman in the world for you (if she is)

you can live a lie, like so many others, deny yourself intimacy with her, allow it to eat you up inside, whilst looking for no strings sex with random strangers, and risking destroying her by showing her you arent the man she thought you were and wanted to spend the rest of her life with

you can leave and allow each other to grow with another person.

both are for you, and you only, to discuss and decide

hope you choose whats right for you both.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Maybe she's pregnant, having missed her period but doesn't want to say anything till her 6 week check.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe she's pregnant, having missed her period but doesn't want to say anything till her 6 week check. "

That's a perfectly plausible explanation. I bet the OP will be mightily relieved after reading your post

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By *obroyman17Man
over a year ago

The lady talks sense and non judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your partner refuses point blank to sleep with you, you have some serious choices to make.

You could choose to have sex on the side, taking the chance you might get caught and lose your primary partner; leave the relationship you're in to search for someone who does enjoy sex (remembering they might be lacking in other areas your existing partner isn't); or make one last, desperate bid to get your partner to take your needs seriously. Not surprisingly, I'm advocating the last one. Even if you've tried before, give it one final go.

Make sure they know how serious the problem is and how unhappy you will be if nothing changes. Suggest counselling. If they refuse at this point, you're completely happy in every other way and you think having no-strings sex on the side would satisfy you, then getting it elsewhere is an understandable decision to make. I'm not justifying it - if it got to that point and sex is important to you, I'd strongly suggest leaving to try to find someone more sexually compatible. But I have seen it work.

The person who doesn't want sex knows, though doesn't want confirmation, that their partner is getting it elsewhere. The sexually deprived person is satisfied and the primary relationship survives (though doesn't thrive).

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2348809/If-partner-isnt-putting-sex-Tracey-Cox-sex-decisions-FOR-you.html#ixzz2hIrKph6y

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hi all

I've been with my gf over 3 years, very much in love, but her sex drive is very low. Not had sex in about 4 weeks, when I try and initiate I get the cold shoulder or some excuse.

What should I do? Don't want to lose her but I'm 27 should be shagging everyday!"

read your post, can you see anything in there that would imply that you have your very much loved girlfriends best interests at heart, anything expressing concern for her and what she might want or be thinking, anything to imply that you do actually love her as much as you say you do? Did you know that the biggest aphrodisiac for many women is attention and genuine interest?

My advice to you, should you actually be interested in what anyone has to say about your situation is to concentrate on her and your relationship (by that I mean entire relationship)not ask a bunch of random strangers about the most intimate aspect of your joint life. Show the woman some respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forget everyones advice on here and call Jeremy Kyle, he will get to the bottom of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"4 weeks? Try 4 years and stay sane.

try 7 years and 27 without being kissed by him "

I volunteer to help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we see on here about people in relationships that have had no sex/kisses etc for years, we thank our lucky stars it is not us.

We met when Suz was 14 and I was 15. We have been together ever since. Although we swing, we are still very much in love and kiss many times a day. We actually miss each other whilst we are at work and say to each other many times a day that we love the other.

Never had any jelousy and have no secrets from each other.

We are lucky. I wish everyone else was.

We met a lady the other week and she had never had an orgasm (Suz often cums many times a session). When we both played with her and tok our time, she came for the first time in her life and actually cried with pleasure!

To the OP, why be on here behind your gf back? if everything else is fine, then be honest with her.

xxx

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

I was with my ex partner a total of 8 years and for the last 5 years there was no sex at all, no kissing. I kept thinking it would sort itself out, we talked about it, but things never changed. I eventually ended the relationship for other reasons, but swore blind that I would never go through that again!

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By *uy4couplesMan
over a year ago

south kent

just a suggestion, everyone has missed. if you thought anything of your g/friend you would not be on here,

secondly tell her your taking her out on Saturday night and wine and dine her hold her hand when walking along telling her how much you love her and the things you would love to do when you get home, pamper her to the best of your ability im sure her legs will start to be uncrossed at some point if you showed a lot more interest in her,

rather than ask a stranger what your doing wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never get ( sex ) full stop ( weep:weep ).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You been on here over a year so you cant be bothered about her anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

I've been with my gf over 3 years, very much in love, but her sex drive is very low. Not had sex in about 4 weeks, when I try and initiate I get the cold shoulder or some excuse.

What should I do? Don't want to lose her but I'm 27 should be shagging everyday!"

You have to ask ourself what's important to you and what you are comfortable being with out and what is a must in a relationship or in your life. It would be better if you could talk to her tell her your issues and discuss where your relationship is going or not. She may be happy to let you play she may open up and tell you what she wants she may tell you she wants to part but the only answer is for the 2 of you to talk as clearly things are not right as you see them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was with my ex partner a total of 8 years and for the last 5 years there was no sex at all, no kissing. I kept thinking it would sort itself out, we talked about it, but things never changed. I eventually ended the relationship for other reasons, but swore blind that I would never go through that again!"

5 years is a long time.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"I was with my ex partner a total of 8 years and for the last 5 years there was no sex at all, no kissing. I kept thinking it would sort itself out, we talked about it, but things never changed. I eventually ended the relationship for other reasons, but swore blind that I would never go through that again!

5 years is a long time. "

A friend of mine later said he couldn't believe I was celibate for 5 years, given I was such a sexual woman! lol. But we do strange things when we care about someone. What really pissed me off was he blamed me, when in fact, it transpired he was secretly drinking, hence COULDN'T have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't waste another day, dump her, you are not compatible, and in a need based relationship.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"just a suggestion, everyone has missed. if you thought anything of your g/friend you would not be on here,

secondly tell her your taking her out on Saturday night and wine and dine her hold her hand when walking along telling her how much you love her and the things you would love to do when you get home, pamper her to the best of your ability im sure her legs will start to be uncrossed at some point if you showed a lot more interest in her,

rather than ask a stranger what your doing wrong

"

and I agree with the above. Romance and making her feel like the most gorgeously, sexy woman on the planet, is a great prelude to re-igniting that flagging sex drive.

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !"

yep, staying with her and lying to her is definitely the way to help her lol

really makes me laugh some peoples twisted logic. lol

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !

yep, staying with her and lying to her is definitely the way to help her lol

really makes me laugh some peoples twisted logic. lol"

I am guessing that you have never lived with a depressive then.

Life must be perfect and I am pleased for you !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !

yep, staying with her and lying to her is definitely the way to help her lol

really makes me laugh some peoples twisted logic. lol

I am guessing that you have never lived with a depressive then.

Life must be perfect and I am pleased for you !!"

your right, i never have.

but my ex wife did, and she left me.

so seeings as it seems she was part of the problem and i am much happier now than i was when we were together, separating was the right thing to do.

as said, lying and deceit do nothing to help someone dealing with clinical depression, especially someone you say you love.

justify it how you like, its not my place to say you are right or wrong, im just lucky (if thats the right word) to be able to look at it from the other side of the fence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !

yep, staying with her and lying to her is definitely the way to help her lol

really makes me laugh some peoples twisted logic. lol

I am guessing that you have never lived with a depressive then.

Life must be perfect and I am pleased for you !!"

I have. If I'd have cheated on her and she'd found out it would almost have destroyed her to the extent I know she'd have attempted suicide.

My love for her outweighed any need to empty my balls

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !

yep, staying with her and lying to her is definitely the way to help her lol

really makes me laugh some peoples twisted logic. lol

I am guessing that you have never lived with a depressive then.

Life must be perfect and I am pleased for you !!

I have. If I'd have cheated on her and she'd found out it would almost have destroyed her to the extent I know she'd have attempted suicide.

My love for her outweighed any need to empty my balls"

And are you still together ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"unfortunately, you arent in a relationship with a blow up doll, you are with another human being, and as such, her emotions and feelings may well be different from your at certain times of your lives.

the very last thing i would be doing is asking internet strangers their opinion as none of us know either of you.

best thing is to talk to her.

if she denies there being a problem (and that part of your relationship has changed and she just doesnt have as high a sex drive as you, and never has) then you have a few options.

seek professional help (real professional, not the ones that say they are on their profiles). with help you can possibly get your relationship back to where it was.

go back to where you were 4 years ago when you started going out. have date nights. kiss and cuddle, with no pressure to fuck, make her feel like she is the only woman in the world for you (if she is)

you can live a lie, like so many others, deny yourself intimacy with her, allow it to eat you up inside, whilst looking for no strings sex with random strangers, and risking destroying her by showing her you arent the man she thought you were and wanted to spend the rest of her life with

you can leave and allow each other to grow with another person.

both are for you, and you only, to discuss and decide

hope you choose whats right for you both."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !

yep, staying with her and lying to her is definitely the way to help her lol

really makes me laugh some peoples twisted logic. lol

I am guessing that you have never lived with a depressive then.

Life must be perfect and I am pleased for you !!

I have. If I'd have cheated on her and she'd found out it would almost have destroyed her to the extent I know she'd have attempted suicide.

My love for her outweighed any need to empty my balls

And are you still together ??"

No. But she is stilll a very close and trusted friend.

I'm not totally sure why you asked but if it is to try and prove a point, the reason for the break up was nothing to do with her health she is now very much in recovery and openly admits my support was key to that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"4 weeks? Try 4 years and stay sane.

try 7 years and 27 without being kissed by him "

come here giza snog

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !

yep, staying with her and lying to her is definitely the way to help her lol

really makes me laugh some peoples twisted logic. lol

I am guessing that you have never lived with a depressive then.

Life must be perfect and I am pleased for you !!

I have. If I'd have cheated on her and she'd found out it would almost have destroyed her to the extent I know she'd have attempted suicide.

My love for her outweighed any need to empty my balls

And are you still together ??

No. But she is stilll a very close and trusted friend.

I'm not totally sure why you asked but if it is to try and prove a point, the reason for the break up was nothing to do with her health she is now very much in recovery and openly admits my support was key to that."

No friend I was not just trying to make a point or score points, I was interested to know if this lady was your swinging partner.

You supported your ex and she healed. I have been supporting my wife for over 30 years, I think it was reaching 50 that I decided that I actually like sex and want more of it.

What would you do?

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Talk to her hun .... Or you will end up living a lie !!!! (If you have not already got kids) it will get much worse if you have kids !!!! Sometimes love is not enough !!! Good luck hun x

Sometimes it is. Love and trust is all that is needed in a long term relationship.

I don't agree !!! It just eats at the relationship ! Being best friends is top .. But if one is not happy because of lack of affection that will become huge over the years !!!

Just have to agree to disagree then.

If I was with someone 20 years and it died off or my partner got injured so she couldn't have it anymore. Then I could easily go with out as I live that person. On the other hand. If it does off really early in the relationship. Love wouldn't be as strong and I would probably end things.

Until you have lived it you will never really understand ! Nothing is ever that simple !! ... Everyone's different though .. No 2 relationships are exactly the same ! ... But in my opinion if its a problem at 27 then at say 37 and a few kids is it will be huge !"

I'd be seriously concerned if I wasn't have sex with my partner and she started popping babies out

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By *awkeye and HotlipsCouple
over a year ago

Takeley


"If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !"

For what it's worth I (fem) have sympathy for someone in your situation ..I'm sure being on here wasn't how you envisaged your life would turn out , but you love your wife , have supported her and have no desire to leave and disrupt your family with all the upset that would cause , that said , you're a red blooded man with needs and wants of your own , I should imagine sorting yourself out is not enough, it's not just about 'emptying your balls' , why should you not have passion and excitement and the pleasure that comes from pleasuring someone who wants you ... We are only here once . Good luck to you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

I've been with my gf over 3 years, very much in love, but her sex drive is very low. Not had sex in about 4 weeks, when I try and initiate I get the cold shoulder or some excuse.

Have yous kids?? Since i had my second child my sex drive went dead!

What should I do? Don't want to lose her but I'm 27 should be shagging everyday!"

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !"

not been in your position but do know someone who is going through similar and that its not easy..

but have you sat down and looked at the possible consequences if she does find out your cheating on her..

you might have convinced yourself it wont happen, but is the risk however small worth her reaction..

it certainly will not assist her possible recovery will it..?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Hi all

I've been with my gf over 3 years, very much in love, but her sex drive is very low. Not had sex in about 4 weeks, when I try and initiate I get the cold shoulder or some excuse.

What should I do? Don't want to lose her but I'm 27 should be shagging everyday!"

If your serious about the relationship ditch the profile and talk to her, put the time and effort in that she and you as a Cpl may need..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this is the thirteenth year I have been in a sexless marriage I have slept alone in all that time but we are friends and mates. She is not bothered about sex and will not contemplate it. So I joined here after 11 years but jusT chat. She said go elsewhere but doesn't want to know so four weeks get a grip

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By *echadMan
over a year ago

Ely

Had to cancel the second moresome meeting because could not find enough guys.

Where are you Single guys. Are you concerned about meetings with many guys around. I assure you it becomes second nature after the first two or three.

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By *amie0151Man
over a year ago

Wallasey


"Hi all

I've been with my gf over 3 years, very much in love, but her sex drive is very low. Not had sex in about 4 weeks, when I try and initiate I get the cold shoulder or some excuse.

What should I do? Don't want to lose her but I'm 27 should be shagging everyday!

Maybe she found out you are on here 4 wks ago, joined up herself and now getting all she can handle elsewhere?"

What's her profile name...? lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for the input, some useful..... some not so. Cheers forum people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a manic depressive and couldn't bring myself to have sex for months on end with my ex. It's a form of self harm-depriving yourself of the things that bring you pleasure because you don't deserve it as you're ugly, horrible, stupid, fat and all those other things we think we are when we're at our lowest.

My ex said he understood and wanted to support me.

When I found out he was on an adult meet up site with a profile of him 'full salute', I made my own profile, arranged a meet and told all my friends to get there about half hour before he was due.

He has now emigrated.

It's the best thing he ever did-I am now at my most confident, happiest and emotionally most stable I have ever been throughout my entire life and it's because I caught him.

Maybe the best thing you could do for her is show her your profile? I'm so glad I found my ex's.

crystal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Uuggghhhh, not another "my wife/gf doesn't understand me, will any lady on here give me pity sex?" threads....jeeez, really??

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By *entgardenerMan
over a year ago

Tunbridge wells


"Hi all

I've been with my gf over 3 years, very much in love, but her sex drive is very low. Not had sex in about 4 weeks, when I try and initiate I get the cold shoulder or some excuse.

What should I do? Don't want to lose her but I'm 27 should be shagging everyday!"

Try sexless for 6.5 years moving from manchester to kent only sex was 4 affairs an we tryed open rship but I got green eyed monster want to see if swinger would help being with another couple but shes old fashioned 1 man 1 women but ihave her go ahead to meet ppl off here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !

For what it's worth I (fem) have sympathy for someone in your situation ..I'm sure being on here wasn't how you envisaged your life would turn out , but you love your wife , have supported her and have no desire to leave and disrupt your family with all the upset that would cause , that said , you're a red blooded man with needs and wants of your own , I should imagine sorting yourself out is not enough, it's not just about 'emptying your balls' , why should you not have passion and excitement and the pleasure that comes from pleasuring someone who wants you ... We are only here once . Good luck to you ."

im a red blooded man, and went the final 6 months of my marriage without sex.

never once did i contemplate doing anything other than being with her

she didnt feel the same, obviously.

sex is NOT a must have for life, unlike food and water, its a want, a desire, that we can really do without.

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !

For what it's worth I (fem) have sympathy for someone in your situation ..I'm sure being on here wasn't how you envisaged your life would turn out , but you love your wife , have supported her and have no desire to leave and disrupt your family with all the upset that would cause , that said , you're a red blooded man with needs and wants of your own , I should imagine sorting yourself out is not enough, it's not just about 'emptying your balls' , why should you not have passion and excitement and the pleasure that comes from pleasuring someone who wants you ... We are only here once . Good luck to you ."

Thank you x

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !

not been in your position but do know someone who is going through similar and that its not easy..

but have you sat down and looked at the possible consequences if she does find out your cheating on her..

you might have convinced yourself it wont happen, but is the risk however small worth her reaction..

it certainly will not assist her possible recovery will it..?

"

It's not ever a question of recovery - you just have to learn to manage it.

I support her every way I can - but I like sex - so shoot me!

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !

For what it's worth I (fem) have sympathy for someone in your situation ..I'm sure being on here wasn't how you envisaged your life would turn out , but you love your wife , have supported her and have no desire to leave and disrupt your family with all the upset that would cause , that said , you're a red blooded man with needs and wants of your own , I should imagine sorting yourself out is not enough, it's not just about 'emptying your balls' , why should you not have passion and excitement and the pleasure that comes from pleasuring someone who wants you ... We are only here once . Good luck to you .

im a red blooded man, and went the final 6 months of my marriage without sex.

never once did i contemplate doing anything other than being with her

she didnt feel the same, obviously.

sex is NOT a must have for life, unlike food and water, its a want, a desire, that we can really do without."

Have to say that if you were in the final 6 months of your marriage - it's not surprising there was no sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a couple are not having a happy sex life it's always the mans fault - that's the opinion on Fab anyway.

I am married for 27 years and have a happy life with all the trimmings - but wifey looses interest in sex - less then once a month. But the reason is that she is clinically depressed and has been on and off all her life.

I love her very much and if I was a coward I would just walk out of the door and go and chase everything in a skirt - but I don't want that, I will look after her. Only in the past tywo years - due to the power of the internet have I been on sites like this.

But no amount of flowers, chocolates, cards, nice meals, Chanel handbags, doing the ironing etc, will make her change. She is who she is and deals with her condition in her own way.

That's why I have to lie and cheat to my wife try and have sex with a willing partner in a similar sexless marriage.

If you love your girlfriend and can see a future then stay with her but seriously Dude if you are at all worried that something is wrong then run away very fast and very far - before you get joint mortgages and kids !

For what it's worth I (fem) have sympathy for someone in your situation ..I'm sure being on here wasn't how you envisaged your life would turn out , but you love your wife , have supported her and have no desire to leave and disrupt your family with all the upset that would cause , that said , you're a red blooded man with needs and wants of your own , I should imagine sorting yourself out is not enough, it's not just about 'emptying your balls' , why should you not have passion and excitement and the pleasure that comes from pleasuring someone who wants you ... We are only here once . Good luck to you .

im a red blooded man, and went the final 6 months of my marriage without sex.

never once did i contemplate doing anything other than being with her

she didnt feel the same, obviously.

sex is NOT a must have for life, unlike food and water, its a want, a desire, that we can really do without.

Have to say that if you were in the final 6 months of your marriage - it's not surprising there was no sex!"

why?

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By *lassy pairCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich London

Well we been married for over 31 years now we had our ups and down and we always sort things out at the end, maybe talk to her take her out for a romantic meal and nice wine in a relax atmosfear ir buy her roses and then see what concern she has and take it from there

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

I've been with my gf over 3 years, very much in love, but her sex drive is very low. Not had sex in about 4 weeks, when I try and initiate I get the cold shoulder or some excuse.

What should I do? Don't want to lose her but I'm 27 should be shagging everyday!"

don't waste you're time trying to work out what's going on in her head cause you will get nowhere lol

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